October 2014- thread 8. Growing up fast, 6 months already!!

[MundayCakes85]

Morning all! A shiny new thread for Easter.
Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend, I'm off to eat copious amounts of chocolate whilst hiding in the floor of the nursery with Ewan the sheep

Hi all - I'm new to this thread, I have a little boy born Oct 3rd. He cries when he goes to bed. I think it's sometimes over-tiredness, sometimes being put out that I'm not cradling him in arms, sometimes I think it's just what he does pre-sleep. It doesn't worry me, usually he'll settle himself or start cheerfully talking to Ewan Dream Sheep.

I agree goats these people with perfect babies are very lucky. Mine isn't - she doesn't even settle herself to sleep because I just feed her to sleep for a quiet life rod for my own back plus she no longer takes a bottle arrrghhh!!!!! Desperately want some time to myself after DH has been away so much recently. But no bottle = not much time away. Certainly not overnight got a hen do to go on in June - it's miles away so a night away. Dont know what i'll do then.

Btw my sil has twins. One would go straight to sleep, the other was a crier. No rhyme or reason to it. Just very different characters. They are 3 now and the crier is a very happy mischievous little soul.

There's a Mum of twins on the September thread - they are older now, 12 I think? She sometimes talks about their different abilities and personalities as babies.

I find crying very stressful and upsetting (even other peoples babies crying!) so I am very happy none of my children have been natural criers.

I should point out that DC1 was sleep trained at 12 months old (I was 7 months pregnant at the time, so came from necessity). Cry it Out. It was horrendous and I am not proud of having done it. I am ashamed at having had to do CIO and it was so awful to go through that I made every effort with subsequent children that I would never need to listen to a baby cry again at bedtime.

With a psychologists head on, I guess it is the left-over guilt and distressed left by going through CIO with my baby (albeit older baby) that might shed some light on my aversion of listening to babies cry.

welcome hubnut nice to have new people on the thread.

Hope pip feels better soon goats ?

I gotta do you think she is refusing the bottle because of the teething ?

Goats my baby is like yours and until you actually have a non sleeper it is hard to comment i think... My first was rubbish at sleeping and so is ds2. It's tough. My friend just did total night boob refusal (I think I said before) she too was up every 45 mins and he is 10 months and it was a joke. She let him cry, she said it was the worst. It worked though and now he sleeps through. I'd never judge her or anyone. Sleep deprivation is so tough and you do what you can to get through it all.
We had put N in his own room and he goes in happily at bedtime although fast asleep from boob, no most annoying phrase of all time drowsy but awake here. Don't care about Rod - he may be here to stay but hey ho! He wakes around half 11 when I bring him in with me as at the moment I feel too tired to try any tricks. And then he wakes every 2-3 hours after. It seems like he is going a little longer now naturally so hoping he gets there in the end.
Will try later porridge snack here too. You planning on using actual porridge or baby kind?

Those doing blw these are a good non messy porridge thing www.telegraph.co.uk/foodanddrink/healthy-recipes/11451534/Deliciously-Ellas-banana-and-rasberry-breakfast-bars.html been pretty popular here and toddler enjoys them too and he won't eat porridge.

That looks lovely. Do you have to use almond ilk or can you get away with dairy?

Goats, we have a moaner/protester here. She's a v alert baby and by the end of the day, she is shattered. I think the moaning is her way of releasing rather creating stress. I am pretty darn moany, grumbly when I'm shattered, so I empathise. She seems to calm down afterwards. I just cuddle her until she's wound own.
She'd also prefer to be downstairs playing with mum and dad, so she knows the minute the sleeping bag is zipped up that playtime is over.
There is a major difference between a distressed cry and a moan.
There is a reason that the song goes... 'the babies on the bus go wah wah wah'. It's what they do! I can understand the aversion to CIO, but for many people this is the answer, as heart wrenching as it is. I think it is the last resort in most cases and guilt tripping parents for using it only makes a very stressful and heartbreaking decision even harder.
Your needs (sleep) are as important as babies needs (you). Cos the two go hand in hand.

Over and out.

Thanks for the link Sazzle. We are always looking for new stuff to try.

Polka I don't see why not... It is only a little liquid I guess to soften the oats. We use almond because N is allergic to dairy, I think the same with the almond butter, I reckon peanut would do the job. It's the cinnamon that makes it taste lovely, be generous with it! Same that I reckon blueberries would be nice too.
Sleepy you're welcome, I'm always on the look out for new things too as I get in a rut otherwise.

My little one sounds like a little zombie at bed time with her moaning and groaning. Occasionally get shouts but that's when she wants to carry on the party at nap time!!
Thanks for the receipe Sazzle!

My son never really ever has a nap without a little cry first, I hate it. This is regardless of whether he falls asleep in my arms, my bed, his bed. About 30 seconds of moaning sadly round his dummy. :(

Heat wave apparently from sunday till wednesday but i guess that will miss glasgow as usual

Hope pip get on ok at the doctors yesterday ? I know you have been probably put off posting anything else at the moment as a couple of the comments directed at you the other night on here where a bit insensitive and not really needed to be honest, but thats just my opinion. Hope you got a better sleep last night? My dd has joined the blocked up nose gang and was up about 7 times .

Thanks for that recipe sazzle looks yummy !!

Heat wave?! Yes please to that.

Although I'd say that the up and down weather is causing all the minor ailments with you the bubbas.

On period no.2 since giving birth. Gosh I forgot what a faff they are!

I'm loving the babbling stage which bubba is at. She seems determined to tell me all sorts. It's very cute.

Thanks for the welcome stigz!

The recipe does look tasty sazzle. I def need inspiration. I quickly succumbed to buying pouches of puree and my finger food has been limited to chopped up fruit and veg. I tried a stick of cheddar yesterday but was terrified at the huge chunks that he bit off and had to spit out in a semi choking fashion.

I feel like The Worlds Worst Mum today. DS Aged 9 was mean and aggressive to his friend at a sports club last night. Then DD Aged 10 is allowing her two friends to be cruel and mean to her without sticking up for herself. I bloody hate the nastiness of children sometimes.

The feeling of guilt and that I should be a better parent for my children is never ending, for me at least.

DS (Aged 5) made a series of really sweet "books" at school today that he wrote and illustrated himself. That made me feel happier.

Ho Hum. Hope everyone else is well.

Mmmm that recipe looks lovely, thanks sazzle.

DD has turned into a bit of a wailing banshee the last few days. Ranges from shouting as though she just likes the sound of it to blood curdling screams! Driving me nuts!! Didn't try the bottle today stigz but I think teething is part of it. Plus she just seems to have realised that she doesn't have to go along with everything if she doesn't want to. Tonight I gave her mashed up potato/white fish/soft cheese. Two mouthfuls were fine and then she screamed!!! Gave yoghurt, all quiet again. Snuck in a bit of mash - SCREAMING! The polite way to put it is that her 'character' is beginning to come out

Oh and hello hubnut!

I bought a stack of jars/pouches earlier too

If anyone else has any recipe ideas I'm always after new things.
Welcome hubnut! Hope you enjoy the recipe, I'm ok with the choking thing now, I've seen some amazing stuff come back up. The gag reflex is quite amazing. When I left hospital because I'd been in scbu with N we had to do baby first aid-it was brilliant to do and I definitely feel a bit better around the kids now knowing a bit. I think everyone should do it really if it's available and free?!

Stigz! A heatwave you promise??!! That would be nice!

Sleepy period no2! Wow you poor thing, I've not had one yet but im still bf.

We are doing a little better at night now, he's beginning to go 3-4 hours but in with me after his first wake up about 11pm. He's getting there slowly but surely and it's great to see. I'm even thinking about baby no3 but I don't think we will!!!

I wish N was a bit more into pouches but he's really not keen and determined to feed himself, it's so flipping messy and wasteful. Thank god for the composter as I don't feel so bad. My ds1 was the neatest eater ever and N is the total opposite!!

We are making progress with weaning after a bit of a rocky start Babywing has demolished chicken casserole last night and spaghetti bolognese tonight. It's making me get back into the habit of cooking properly again I've felt a bite demotivated and tired at the moment feel like I need a kick up the bum!
I'm having my first period after having the coil fitted v heavy! Did your settle down stigz?
To be honest I've bled pretty much since I've had it fitted I'm hoping it will settle down soon I'm wondering if maybe that's what's making me feel a bit drained.

Sorry hubnut hello and welcome :)

Yes, hello hubnut. Welcome.

Splendide - it's perfectly normal, don't worry. How are you getting on?

Buttwing - my periods on the coil were heavy at first. They did calm down though and were less painful than my normal period.

Thanks sleepy that's good to know interesting that they're less painful, that's what I've found strange although it's super heavy no pain at all which is very unusual for me usually the first day is really painful and I've been in tears sometimes. Hopefully everything will settle down.

Same here sazzle I did baby first aid and it gave me the confidence to give him finger food - the teacher reassured me about the gag reflex and I'd know what to do if there was actual choking. Even so I'm still a bit on edge when he's shoving massive chunks in his mouth.

Hi hubnut, always nice to hear from new people. WokenDH up off the sofa to do the last feed as I'm knackered. Not sure he's too happy about it.
It's my 30th Monday so tomorrow is a day of surprises, I'll report back if I haven't had too many