February '15 babies - appearing thick and fast!

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Our first thread on the 'other side'. And may all our soon to be mummies join us in this adventure through the early days of parenthood as we continue to share exciting times.

Dance - I'm so sorry you had to go through that, how terrifying :( I hope things are better today and you are nudging closer to bringing your little lady home x

I apparently gave birth to an anomaly. He doesn't sleep for longer than an hour at a time and can stay awake for over three. He's going to kill me by the time he's school age.

Dances I really hope she gets to come home soon what a scary weekend for you, she sounds like a fighter though!

Frenetic he is still tiny to get a decent pattern hang in there.....although my ds didn't sleep through until 3 and woke at 5am for the day until xmas and now sleeps until 6.30 which i see as a lie in.

It is dh's bday today we have had pancakes for brekkie before sending ds on a school trip, going into town today then pizza hut and birthday cake tonight feels odd not having ds1 here we always spend our birthdays as a team

Dances - sounds scary but glad she's on the mend.

Frenetic I know it sounds easy but it really will get better! Hang in there.

Have a nice day Memphis! It can be nice to have a day just you guys and the newest baby - think of the time your ds1 had with just the two of you!

Sandu - the other sounds your lo is making is good! Testing out the voice box and trying different sounds - my lo makes a range of lovely squawks...

Had a good weekend here, went to stay with my mum who got up with dd1 so we could both have a bit of a lie in - until 8.30. Amazing. Then we went to a 3yo birthday party which was carnage but fun, and involved wine for me and cake for dd1 so everyone was happy!

Hope everyone is having a good Monday.

What is sleep?

Dances your little Madam will be home before you know it.

Frenetic I think your boy has been channeling his thoughts on sleep to my LO. She's finally gone to sleep after being a right pain all night. How can they say babies need 18-22 hours sleep?

Memphis that soundsnice though. A bit of you and DH time even if you have a baby with you!

loopsy I am jealous.

Hurray! I've found you again!

Loving all the FB pics! Is anyone one else's DP totally paranoid about sleep deprivation? I've given up getting him to do nappies at night as I can't bare the swearing!

Just off to bf-ing clinic as have painful boob. Hope everyone is having a good day x

oh dances, I hope that you get to enjoy your LO at home very soon. . At least you didn't get to do a blood transfusion and lo is a fighter. :)

We went to the hospital today for a 2-week check after discharge and Jason's levels for anaemia have dropped even more, so he's definitely anaemic now and they'll test him again in 10 days. Breakdown at the hospital, had a good cry with the paediatrician and I don't want to google anaemia as I'm a hypochondriac and chances are that the first link I get is a horrible story...At least he's feeding well... :( :(

Thanks everyone. She is a fighter, and the nurses keep telling me it's all quite normal and that it's just a little blip. It bloody terrified me though! Praying for a break through in the next day or two.

Hv visit went well. The new hv was lovely and we laughed a lot. Shame she is leaving on Friday...

DS is measuring on the 50th percentile for everything so nice Mr average then. Fine with me as then they won't get upset if he goes a bit up or down. When we discussed feeding and how I've changed to formula she said she didn't care how he was fed as long as he was healthy, happy and growing. What a great attitude.

Tweety hope there is an improvment soon

Grinning that is a great attitude from your hv, my hv seems fab this time round

So our birthday meal out was a nightmare, LO had bellyache and didn't like the glaring lights of pizza hutso he cried and cried, we had to eat in shifts a slice each at a time while the other soothed baby,

Went to Bravissimo as when I measure mystlf im back to a 32e but as boobs are a bit jellyish still my existing bras hurt I have never bought decent bras or been fitted and I am a 32f....my pain in my back went instantly!

Today is a day I want to forget....one of those days you just want to walk out the door - definitely the hardest one since LO has arrived. Feel like a terrible mummy to both my girls and just want to hide and cry

Oh bang no why? I had that day a few days ago, totally rock bottom....tomorrow is a new day though remember that

So...Finally back after being MIA for ages (combination of baby blues followed by broken Internet and flu!) Has taken forever to read through the thread and try to catch up a bit. Has felt weird not posting as had been here with some of you right from the beginning...

memphis sorry to hear donnie has been so poorly. Must have been really scary. Hope he has turned a corner and is getting better now.

Little guy is seven weeks now and have had lots of ups and downs. definitely more ups as time goes on and feeding and sleeping get better.

Wishing everyone as good a night as you can get with a new baby!

bang sending you a big hug. I have had a few 'I feel like a terrible mummy' days. and I just have the one LO so I admire all of you mummies who have 2 or more.

I just feel so awful about not being able to do much with DD1. All morning she was asking to do this and that and all I kept saying was "yes but when the baby had stopped crying" which didn't happen until this afternoon. I really got cross over something small which resulted in all 3 of us crying I decided to take LO up with me for DD1's bedtime and she just screamed the whole time so she didn't get a very relaxed bed time story or lullaby. Feeling so guilty, especially when I looked down at 4pm and realised we were all still in our pjs.

Tiredness has got to the point where it's making me feel cold and sick.

But you're right memphis, tomorrow is a new day and I've cancelled my plans for the morning so when DD1 is at nursery I can try and rest. I hope I can get my head down soon - and all of you too!

Bang my my bad day was like thst ds1 asking to help with his homework and mectrying from sofa him ending up crying as well as us, I felt awful but don't worry he remembers and holds on to everything and even he wasn't bothered the next say, these early months are when we are forgiven for bribary, I have even bought ds a car that he longed for from ds2 for being sorry for taking up mummies time, and we eat more treats than ever before please dont sweat it, as parents its our job to feel guilty and fret about our children .....this is a new thing to feel guilt over, its just a phase and it will get easier......I also wish I could stay in my pjs all day (bloody school run)

My advice for them shit days is the wonder of 'the carpet picnic' ds loves this and sees it as a treat, buy bits that are low prep time breadsticks, mini sausages, cherry toms, crackers (insert easy snacks here) put blanket on the floor, put little bowls of snacks (thatyou can prep night before if needed) seriously kids come to my house begging for a carpet picnic as ds raves about it and its no mess....you shake blanket off in garden.
Will dd1 do sticker books or watch a film yet? These are also things I can do from sofa while stuck with baby

Thanks memphis, so glad I'm not the only one! Co-slept with Bethany last night which meant I got some sleep, already feeling a little bit brighter. I always beat myself up over everything that's gone wrong, I suppose I need to stop it. DD1 enjoys sticker books and will watch most of a film but she much prefers being active and doing things. Normally asks for 'jobs to do'

I know I need to give us all more time to adjust but that's hard when you're a control freak

Welcome back jen.
bang you are doing a great job, and what I can't believe is how unselfish you are cos am I not right in thinking that it was your birthday this weekend?! You haven't mentioned the inevitable encroachment on celebrations that having 2 young children causes! I hope you get some rest this morning and do try to be kind to yourself.

In the meantime we have made it up north. Packing was fun, we couldn't decide if the kitchen sink was required or not! However, the last 2 nights a demon has taken up residence in LO from 10pm ish until midnight. He screams and cries and nothing placates him He'll feed a little but then kick off and definitely won't go down in his basket. OH actually went down to the sofa to sleep (ta for the help love!!) The rest of the night he's fine, feeds 2/3 ish then 6/7 ish but 2 hours of 'creating' - why?! Any ideas or suggestions gladly accepted.

Bang she may enjoy doing jobs but things like a film, saticker books etc may be a good thing for the times you are stuck on the sofa or what about some big wooden beads and string from elc she could sit next to you with then in a bowl on a tray? You won't be stuck un able to do stuff very often but may make you feel less guilty when it does happen if you have a back up plan.

I made cakes with ds last week for first time when dh had baby proper quality time and something new he really loved it

Hope everyone had a good night. bang sounds weird but could you give DD1 a little job that you don't need to supervise much. My DSD spent a happy half hour wiping skirting boards - she couldn't do much harm with a damp cloth!

So last night when we visited Tiger we finally got some answers. Her sputum sample has grown two infections, so they have put her in her own room to prevent the other babies catching anything and started her on a different (but thankfully, oral) antibiotic. She has been so much better though. Better, even, than she was before she got poorly! NO desats at all yesterday and waking for her feeds again. When we went over she was very alert and using her dummy again. She will be in the private room probably until she is discharged as the infection control people said three weeks, and the nurse said she didn't think she would be there for another three weeks so I am feeling much better now.

They want to do another sputum sample at the weekend, but her nurse said she thinks they may struggle to get one as her snottiness has cleared up so well!

Bang I had a meltdown the other day about trying to tear myself into two so that I am at home for the others and at the hospital with Tiger. It's natural. My kids have been fabulous, but they have all had at least one moment where they have wanted/ needed me and I haven't been there. It's natural.

I'm now planning a carpet picnic and a film as a treat after getting the idea here!

Sorry to hear that some of you are having difficult times but it's only normal...I would be a nervous wreck if this was my DC2!

geeky I had a demon possessed lo last night, exactly the same description as you. She was screaming, crying, fidgeting and not wanting to be put down. After she somehow settled at 1am (no idea how as I was half asleep ) she woke up at 5 & 8.

geeky and sand I had exactly the same from 1.30 to 4. Currently asleep on me and I'm sure he's trying to do a massive poo just to round the experience off.

Dances glad Tiger is improving so well!.....and on mention of carpet picnic....I have been known to use paper plates, to save on washing up also in a four year olds mind this makes it even more special as they think its a party

That's great that Tiger is doing so much better, Dances. Fingers crossed she's home very soon.

Geeky, maybe it's wind? We normally have an hour or two a day where he's very upset, will start feeding then come off with his face screwed up & crying & fidgeting. Have started on infacol and it seems to be helping.

I totally get the guilt we're feeling about neglecting older kids. Really wanted to read my toddler a story last night but baby chose that time to insisting feeding :-( . I think I'm gonna try introducing a bottle or 2 so dh can feed him and I can get some quality time with toddler...