I haven't been posting recently because I have had nothing useful to say, but I am so sorry to hear what a rough time you are having toby.
I hope DS's girlfriend is getting plenty of support, what a horrible horrible shock. I can't imagine what it must be like for her DM having to hold everything together.
I hope your grandad is better soon. DMIL is also on ridiculous amounts of warfarin for an undiagnosed clotting disorder and it is really scary. She wants to have a knee replacement operation soon but I am struggling to see how she could have it safely. 
Felix that is really sad about the cyclist. When we lived in the US 20 years ago my dad bought us all bikes from the local bike store and the guy who sold them to him was knocked off his bike and killed on his way home that evening near our house. I know my Dad still thinks about it now.
Anyway, sorry about my funfest of a post, will catch up and post something more cheery. 