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August 2014 Babies,half way to one and staring at you while you eat.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 23/01/2015 12:29

I've been told via Whatsapp by a MN'er this morning who used to be a member of the ante-natal group that there's a Facebook group, but that they won't accept anyone or her back Hmm (a bit weird if you ask me, but each to their own, and have really left a PND suffering mum feeling like shit, but I doubt they care in their "clique")

So are there any August Mums left on here willing to chat, without connecting to Faceache?

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BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 15/04/2015 09:39

Thirsty? ds seems to drink a lot more water than I expected.

polkadotdelight · 15/04/2015 10:51

Hi there, I have a September baby but lurk across Aug/Sept/Oct boards. My DS started waking frequently and Ive found he doesnt if we co-sleep too. Im going with it for now. We have taken the dropside off the cot and butted it up against the bed but he often ends up in with us. Another thing that has helped recently is being strict with daytime naps. I have a baby who likes routine and I take him upstairs to nap. I sit with him and either mumsnet or nap too. Its very restrictive but once he is in the habit of long naps I will start retreating. These babies are all so different!

RedToothBrush · 15/04/2015 11:45

felkov, we've had a couple of weeks with waking every hour. We've given in and co-sleep just to get some rest. DS has had a couple of better nights but its relative.

Babies naturally have much shorter sleep cycles (They are about 40mins and gradually get longer as they get older. Adults undisturbed will sleep 4hrs).

I'm not sure whether its been teething, his skin allergy to washing powder keeping him awake or him waking up and panicking because he can't see me when he wakes up.

Pizza is proving the way forward for food... at the moment at least.

jessplussomeonenew · 15/04/2015 12:48

Felkov that sounds really tough, we're in a similar stage of 45-60 min sleeps, it just seems to happen every so often and then he's back to his normal slightly better pattern. Bedsharing doesn't work for us though he's in a cosleeper crib (just fits, dreading when he grows out of it) but definitely do it if it helps and you can get set up to do it safely. Can you get some help from a relative/friend to catch up on sleep during the day? Going to bed with the baby helps as they tend to sleep best in the first half of the night. Agree about checking naps, daytime milk and light in the room.

mrsmilkymoo · 16/04/2015 08:07

Sorry to hear that Felkov! We had a really bad spell with sleep (coincided with some of the time DH was away and also when he was back with jetlag!) but luckily it's a lot better now. We didn't change the way we did anything so it was just one of those things... I did wonder a bit if it was trapped wind as DD seemed very squirmy. Some of the time it seemed she just wanted to be near me as I'd put her next to me, she'd fall asleep, and then sometimes stay asleep when I transferred her back to her own cot. Sometimes not though.

Red, we had homemade pizza last night and DD loved it! At lunch I was getting ready to give up on BLW as she got food everywhere, all in her hair too, but dinner was a totally different story. We have good days and bad days with food and it does worry me but she's still bf-ing and getting her vitamin drops so I am looking on solids just as a bonus. And her nappies have changed since we started so she's clearly taking more in than I realise on some days. Fruit, veg, pasta, cheese and bread products go down the best. She's less keen on cereals and oats which makes breakfast a real pain. (Actually we don't do breakfast a lot of the time - she often wakes up too late to make it worthwhile).

felkov · 16/04/2015 10:18

Thanks everyone! i feel much less alone hearing you all having gone through similar phases. keep telling myself "its just a phase" and hoping that we get through it. i think I'm getting a bit paranoid about sleep and creating bad habits for the future. DD seems to know if I'm thete so I've been going to bed as soon as she's settled. have hardly spoken to DH this week as he's working late so maybe next week won't be so different even though he'll be away. Its hard work sometimes this parenting lark

BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 17/04/2015 11:48

felkov I checked with my mum, I used to be rocked to sleep, had a night light and ubtil I was 4 yo a bottle of formula. I don't do any of tHose things so I'm trying to relax about bad sleeping habits!

RedToothBrush · 17/04/2015 15:36

felkov, babies and adults naturally have different sleep cycles. At some point that has to change and that's very unlikely to be done to doing or not doing certain things or you'd have older children or even adults who only sleep for an hour at a time! Logic dictates that at some point babies have to grow out of certain behaviours because parents don't all do the same things and some parents don't look after their children as well as they should.

DS definitely is aware of where I am when he's asleep. He won't sleep unless I'm right next to him and wakes if I leave. On the couple of occasions I have managed to creep away he's screamed blue murder and been quite distressed when he's woken and found I'm not there. He's not coping terribly well with me leaving the room in the daytime though, so it stands to reason that separation anxiety will affect a baby 24/7 at this age. And since separation anxiety is something they grow out of when they learn permanence then its something that should just improve with time.

In terms of bad habits I still think its probably a little early to worry too much for that reason. We've taken the approach that anything which he needs to learn like that we'll do as and when he can understand a little better what's going on.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 19/04/2015 10:53

Morning all, thanks for your well wishes, spending today relaxing and packing my hospital bag for tomorrow Sad.

DS is still not sleeping but we did manage a 7hour stretch last night with the thanks to hipp organic good night milk Shock going to do the same routine again tonight and hope we get another long sleep.

Sorry I haven't been around much xx

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RedToothBrush · 19/04/2015 11:39

Ginger, don't be apologising.

Just look after yourself and check in when you feel up to it.

jessplussomeonenew · 19/04/2015 19:48

All the best Ginger, hope you have a peaceful night and that all goes smoothly tomorrow.

felkov · 19/04/2015 19:52

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Ginger Thanks

I'm on my own this week as DH is in Asia for work. He left on Sat night and i was worried how DD would react but she slept pretty well last night compared to her usual multiple wake ups. fingers crossed for more of the same as it won't be fun doing all the nights without any help in the day!

cookielove · 19/04/2015 21:13

Thinking of you ginger

I can not wait for ds to sleep through, any time soon would be great!

jessplussomeonenew · 22/04/2015 11:33

Hope you're doing OK, Ginger and that your nights have been peaceful, Felkov.

And Cookie I hear you. We've just moved DS into his cot (at the foot of our bed to smooth the transition) and he has an increased tendency to wake up protesting shortly after we put him down, which added to the increased difficulty of getting him in and out of the cot is making nights a bit hellish at the moment :(

felkov · 22/04/2015 19:53

Thanks Jess. the last couple of nights she's only woken 3 times at about 10pm, 1am and 4am, which is really good for her. But today she has pretty much refused to nap so I am dreading tonight.

how is everyone else? its been really sunny here so i took DD for a picnic this afternoon. i had an ice cream and she had some satsuma and rice cakes haha

mrsmilkymoo · 22/04/2015 21:54

dd's sleep has gone to pot again. We're on holiday right now so maybe she's just feeling unsettled. And I think there's teething in the mix too. On the positive side, we've been having lunches and coffees etc out and she's been eating her food really well and enjoying it. She's so nosy that taking her somewhere she can watch people coming and going always makes her happy. She's far more sociable than dh and I!

felkov hope all is going well with your dh away and ginger hope you are feeling ok too. Been thinking about you and hope your dp is there with you.

felkov · 23/04/2015 20:05

mrsmilk hope the sleeping improves.

i had the same thing when we were on hol. waking every hour or sometimes every 20 min. was awful!!

i think it was the travel cot plus strange room/different light/noises from other hotel rooms etc. although we had some great days the nights were really bad so I'm not going to stay in a hotel again until DD is much older!!

BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 29/04/2015 18:32

How are we all doing?

felkov I bought a blackout blind which seemed to help strange new beds. Thrifty folk have suggested twping up bin bags as a temporary, portable measure and see if it makes a difference.

DS got a bit shown up by a younger baby sitting and standing, whilst he just lolled about on his back. I keep flipping him yo his front and saying come on, crawl!

RedToothBrush · 29/04/2015 20:25

DS is being a total nightmare at the moment. DH has been evicted from the bedroom as DS is waking hourly overnight. 1 and a half hours sleep is the longest I've had in several weeks.

I don't think there is a lot I can do at the moment about it apart ride it out.

Beans don't wish the time away. Your son will be crawling soon enough. Its over rated. Trust me!

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GingerCuddleMonster · 29/04/2015 21:31

hey all glad everyone is still here Smile

red I'm really sort about the sleep Sad I've now resorted to co-sleeping to survive.

Beans don't worry about crawling, it will come, and when it does you'll wish it never did Grin you'll be surprised little one will just get it one day.

Hope everyone else is ok Thanks

for me, I'm doing better, been weepy for a few days but all the hormones are settling down and I'm starting to have more energy so on a mission now to get my nutrition and exercise back on track.

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mrsmilkymoo · 29/04/2015 21:31

Thankfully dd's sleep improved towards the end of the holiday and has been fine since we've been back home. I hope writing that won't jinx things!

She's moving around a lot more now too but not proper hands and knees crawling. I guess it is commando crawling. She makes a beeline for everything she shouldn't, of course, and is weirdly fascinated with handbags.

mrsmilkymoo · 29/04/2015 21:33

Glad to see you back and feeling a bit better ginger Thanks

RedToothBrush · 29/04/2015 21:54

We are cosleeping but it doesn't seem to be helping much

Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses · 29/04/2015 22:26

Hello!
My dd was born end of July but we'll just sneak in here!
Also have a 2.6 year old and DH is working away and has been for the last month so I'm absolutely knackered.
DD has not been sleeping well but she's been asleep tonight since 7ish with only one wake up so far.

I've given up dream feeds as I just can't be arsed so I go to bed just hoping she'll sleep through. Doesn't happen though Grin but hey, tonight could be the night!

jessplussomeonenew · 30/04/2015 09:26

Hugs and sympathy for the sleep deprived - we have teething on top of normal bad sleep so it's been tough going these last few weeks. Come on teeth, put up or shut up!

Glad you're doing better, Ginger - sounds like a good plan to take care of yourself.

DS is still only going backwards but at increasing speed! Am dreading him becoming properly mobile but would like him to crack going forward if only to reduce the frustration for him!