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August 2014 Babies,half way to one and staring at you while you eat.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 23/01/2015 12:29

I've been told via Whatsapp by a MN'er this morning who used to be a member of the ante-natal group that there's a Facebook group, but that they won't accept anyone or her back Hmm (a bit weird if you ask me, but each to their own, and have really left a PND suffering mum feeling like shit, but I doubt they care in their "clique")

So are there any August Mums left on here willing to chat, without connecting to Faceache?

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GingerCuddleMonster · 03/04/2015 19:21

evening all hope your all well Smile.

I'm so busy this week it's madness, I've realised too Joshua just get a in the way Angry.

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BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 04/04/2015 20:12

Get well soon felkov

Happy Easter you fellow August mums, enjoy your babies!

mrsmilkymoo · 05/04/2015 08:31

Happy easter everyone! is anyone doing anything fun? We are off to a special easter baby sensory class.

felkov hope you're feeling better now and can enjoy the chocolate.

beans don't worry about crawling, dd isn't crawling yet and neither are her friends of 8, 9 and one of ten months.

felkov · 05/04/2015 17:38

Happy Easter Grin we are in holiday in Austria for a week. can't believe we made it here as i was feeling dreadful on Friday but somehow we survived the journey and now starting to enjoy it.

DD stopped being sick on Thursday so i decided if she had 2 ok nights we would still travel but if she was still puking everywhere we would just cancel and hope the travel insurance would cover the costs. luckily she's been much better although i have been coughing and sneezing nonstop and generally feeling awful! But i had a massive apple strudel for lunch today which cheered me right up haha

hope everyone enjoying the long weekend. how is it with OHs at home for some extra help?

mrsmilkymoo · 06/04/2015 08:39

Ooh that sounds yummy felkov! Glad you managed to get away. I don't know if it's just a coincidence but since having DD I've come down with more coughs and colds than ever before. I wondered if it was linked to breastfeeding but think it's probably because we go out to baby groups which are more than likely germ infested.

Enjoy Austria! How was the journey with babyfelkov? We have yet to make a substantial journey with DD - we're away in a couple of weeks time to Deeside but it's not too long a drive from here.

felkov · 06/04/2015 16:11

Thanks Mrsmilk the journey was an adventure to say the least! we had 2 flights as had to change in Gatwick so we had allowed loads of time between which meant i could feed/nappy change in the airport. the only minor panic was when i suddenly realised DH had left one of our hand luggage bags at security but thank goodness it was there when he went back for it.

DD was amazingly well behaved. she seemed to really enjoy all the new sights and sounds and the take off/landing didn't bother her too much. i wouldn't want to do a much longer flight though, 2 hours with her on my lap was long enough!! in future i would buy her a seat so we get more space.

my inlaws live in Deeside, its beautiful round there!

BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 08/04/2015 20:29

Ta mrs, we had a brief bums-up moment earlier before he cottoned that it was all too much effort, if I had to guess I would say the offspring will do nothing and then just walk.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 08/04/2015 21:26

just popping in to drop a bomb shell, sorry I've been quiet but...I'm pregnant Sad but hardly overjoyed about it. I'm absolutely gutted.

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BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 08/04/2015 22:16

ginger well! My words have deserted me, hopefully wiser heads will be along shortly. I'm sorry you're feeling like that though.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 09/04/2015 07:57

Realistically there's really only one option Sad and I'm dreading it

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felkov · 09/04/2015 08:18

Ginger I'm so sorry you feel like that. Thanks Thanks

i can't imagine being pregnant again just now but a couple of the girls from my antenatal class are really desperate to have their second already so its different for everyone. the first trimester i was just exhausted though.

who can you talk this through with? and have you told your OH? how does he feel?

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GingerCuddleMonster · 09/04/2015 10:21

morning, I've talked it through with DP who has put a cross his opinion and choice and said he would favour a termination but has ultimately said its my body so my choice. we talked about the options the ability to care for another baby and its just not possible we have no room and no significant spare income to happily support maternity leave and then a new baby. We would be pushed under the bread line and in to a really tough financial situation as it would mean moving.

I know I can't keep, and I know the only option is a termination, also for DS sake I don't feel it would be fair on him.

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felkov · 09/04/2015 12:04

Ginger i have no experience of the situation but i think the most important thing now is that you and DP can support each other and it sounds like you are both coming from the same place and understand each others point of view Smile

you have to do what's best for you even if that means something scary or that is going to be hard to talk about Thanks

there is probably a board on mumsnet if you want to chat to people who've been through something similar and are wiser than me!

cookielove · 10/04/2015 09:29

ginger I am so sorry you are going through such a tough situation! Thinking of you!

jessplussomeonenew · 10/04/2015 09:59

That's a really tough situation, Ginger, no advice to offer but thinking of you.

RedToothBrush · 10/04/2015 12:52

Ginger, what ever you decide it WILL be the right choice for you. You are between a rock and a hard place and you will find both paths hard I'm sure.

I hope you are ok. Be kind to yourself.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 10/04/2015 14:21

hello all, so my appointment with the advisory servise is next week, my problem is I'm getting attached Sad. And I keep thinking can I do it. I've o my ever wanted 2 children and if I do it that's it I'm done. arghhh confusionConfused

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Nazly · 10/04/2015 21:44

Ginger I agree with Red, it is a though situation but whatever decision you make will be the right decision given overall situation; it is brilliant that you are considering all options and seek advice and your dh is supportive xx

mrsmilkymoo · 11/04/2015 08:23

Goodness ginger what a shock! I don't have any advice but wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you. Can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. hopefully talking about it with professionals will help you make the decision that's right for you.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 11/04/2015 19:17

thanks ladies, me and DP still talking about it daily to make sure we are making the right choice or if there is anything we can change or do to change or circumstances.

in other news....DS keeps eating the toothpaste Angry.

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jessplussomeonenew · 11/04/2015 19:37

Thinking of you, Ginger. Definitely keep talking and take the time you need to be sure you're making the best possible decision for you right now.

felkov · 14/04/2015 19:30

Ginger how are you feeling? hope things getting clearer for you

Ladies I need a morale boost, am feeling really down today. DD is still hardly eating anything and now her sleep has gone totally haywire as well. it was never great but now she's waking every hour and seems to only settle if I'm holding her or cosleeping. i was up all last night and my back is wrecked from holding her.

My dh is going away for work on Sat for 10days and i don't know how I'm going to manage Sad i feel like a zombie. I'm sure my negative emotions are impacting DD as she's so unsettled at the moment.

any tips you can share to cheer me up?

BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 14/04/2015 23:40

felkov i threw myself on he mercy of mumsnet a few weeks ago saying that I'd broken my baby sleep wise. The collective wisdom was shovel more food in and set a bedtime routine (napping in the living room until we wrnt to bed doesn't count apparently). I ditched the dummy and over a couple of weeks saw an improvement.

I don't know if any ot that helps, at one point i was told to feed him less, feed him more, give him water and let him feed when he wants but also to keep to regular feeds - all by different people I should say, it wasn't the same person. So I do understand a bit how you feel, it's all so vague.

Er, is it teething? The other vague catch all reason for any thing odd.

Another friend had a baby who slept better when they changed to the super dry overnight nappies.

And ginger hope your ok.

felkov · 15/04/2015 09:16

thanks Beans i don't think its teething, she's had 6 come through already and they made her ultra drooly but i can't see any more just now. could be yet another cold as she's sneezing and snotty Sad or I've actually just broken her this time.

will persevere with the food. I'd love to get her to eat more but she still won't swallow and gags on pretty much everything so it hardly seems worth doing it more than once a day.

BeansMrSeanAndHeinz · 15/04/2015 09:38

Oh felkov, its all so vague isn't it? Hay fever, can babies get this? I was wondering yesteday if DS had it as well as me

The only other thing I could think of is the room itself- is it dark enough now the nights are lighter, or too warm? Too noisy? Barking dog? Security light going on and off?