March '13 - The One With The Babax

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread , and I can assure you all, it'll be a corker.

Plonk I really wouldn't worry too much, DS is only just turned two! It'll probably be handy if he knows the alphabet when he starts school, but that's ages away. Plenty of time for him to get that particular skill under his belt. Good luck with the potty training! Hope it's relatively easy.

First day at nursery today. We have to leave in twenty minutes. I cannot remember the last time I was wearing trousers this early in the morning.

plonk. Not sure they would have shared!! They are my parents age which is the thing that surprised me- not sure why.
Yummy how are you feeling about stopping work? What are your plans?
Worse how are you?

Plonk we've done nothing letter wise either.!! Nor am I brave enough for potty training yet!!! God luck....

Good luck even..

plonky ds has only been familiar with the alphabet/numbers/colours because he watches too many videos on youtube. Ds gets stuff better from nursery and videos. However, he has learnt things by observing me rather than listening to me. Good luck with the potty training.

I finish on 18th May and every day I am there makes me realise I have made the right decision. I am not going to start looking for work until I finish from there completely. I don't have the head space to job hunt at the moment.

Overall, I feel pretty good. I have lost over a stone with SW. I do zero exercise so looking at what I eat has really helped.

shattered how are you doing? Are you looking forward to finishing work? Duh that's a stupid question I bet you would finish today if you could.

stormy enjoy your toddlefree time today. I am sure dd will love it. Come back home for a nap.

Morning all. Thanks for asking after me - I'm up and down to be honest. I'll feel great for a while so I'll do something outrageous like go downstairs and make my own food can't face another microwave meal, but other times I'm laid up with a fever and the shakes. I'm getting the doctor out today as the antibiotics finish Saturday and that leaves me exposed over the weekend. This infection is obviously still live.

Plonky Babax took to the bottle like a pro (whoever said boys are easier knew what they were talking about). I don't like what it's doing to him though. It's been less than a week and already he looks bloated and Spotty. He's also getting constipated. I hate not feeding him myself. The worst part of this illness is the way it is taking me away from my dcs. I'm missing so much.
DM arrives today thank goodness. Difficult though she might be she has her heart in the right place and will cook me nice food . She will also get the toddle's bedtime back on track. Since DH took over again she's gone from settling between 7.30-8pm to 9.30-10pm

Will catch up with all your news later. Bit tired! So feeble!

Shattered no need to apologise for a typo. I actually don't notice them, being more interested in the content of what you have to say than your SPG .
I'm always surprised to find an older smoker. Was very shocked once when my then-flatmate's dad got the bus up from London and spent two days smoking on our settee. He had just retired from teaching at Oxford, and was doing a tour of Britain using his brand new bus pass. All my preconceptions, shattered!

yummy well done on the weight loss! I hear it's 80% what you eat, and 20% exercise. You must be feeling well on it.

Stormy trousers at dawn? and a toddle free morning for cuppa and some R&R?

Worse I guess the transition to bottles has been pretty abrupt. His tummy will sort itself out with time, and AFAIK all little babies get spots. Don't worry about it, it's all completely minor and the most important thing is that you get that rest. So pleased your mum's coming to help today.

Good to know it's not just that my child is a slow poke when it comes to book learnin'. I think I worry unduly because, although I started school at 3, I couldn't actually write until I was 7. My sister has always been a complete genius and all the teachers were horrible about it. SEN provision was dire in the early nineties, so I was just class dunce. The lightbulb moment happened and I caught up very quickly, but it was horrible. Maybe that's why I haven't done any of this stuff with DS, I don't want to apply any pressure whatsoever.

How is it only half past nine?

You can teach him letters or anything else you want without pressure, Plonk. Just make a game of it. There's certainly no pressure on Fartypants with her alphabet. And in some countries they don't learn to read until six or seven anyway. Only benefit I can see to early alphabet mastery is you can play I-Spy on long car journeys a bit sooner.

Sorry Stormy, I'm going to have to disagree with you. I can't tell you how many number/word "games" I sat through fighting back tears. Although I do think formal schooling before 6/7 years old is pointless and a bit stifling anyway.

We used to play I-Spy with colours so I could join in.

Can I shake a metaphorical fist at whoever put you through that? I-Spy with colours is a good idea though. By no pressure though, I mostly just mean expose him to letters, with no requirement for him to do anything with them. If they're just around he'll learn the names of the letters same as he learns the names of everything else.

Feel free Stormy. Ending up with better qualifications than the battle axes who "taught" me was revenge enough. Comparing siblings is properly evil.

I'll have to take your word for it - I was youngest but smartest, don't recall any comparison but it would have been in my favour. Daft though - you're not your sister so why on earth would you have identical abilities? I think we all need to remember our kids won't have identical abilities to us either. I don't want FP to go through the crap I did at school either. But she's not me, so why should she?

Gosh, time is dragging. Still over two hours until pick up! I'm pottering through the Spires of Arak with my hunter and seriously enjoying the peace. Are any of us set to be SAHMs when they start school?

Plonky I'm appalled on your behalf. I thought the world a more enlightened place. The toddle's alphabet skills come entirely from a utube cartoon. It starts with wheels on the bus, goes on to one two buckle my shoe, then alphabet and spelling songs. She joins in as much as she can and has learnt loads.

I think being a SAHM would drive me insane. Not sure what that says about me though. Plus financially we couldn't afford it!
thanks plonk. Just didn't want you thinking I was going all religious on you..!
Well done yummy. Some headspace will be good. I may have just finished work now....
Worse take care of yourself!! Sure DM will be worth her weight in gold. Hope you get good news from the doc. Thinking of you.

Being SAHM with baby then toddler has driven me slightly crazy, but once she's at school? It would be bliss! Forty five minutes until I have to go and pick her up... And then I get another five hours to myself tomorrow! This nursery thing is brilliant.

Me I think I'd like to work because now DH has gone all entrepreneurial he does nothing but spend to invest. We can't live like that for long. Any income is better than none.

Haven't seen Babax all day. I can't bear this. He doesn't know I'm his mum.

Worse I think/hope the world is a more enlightened place now than it was 20 odd years ago. Lesson to be learned : private schools in backwater towns with Victorian attitudes are best avoided.

Does Babax get brought to you for cuddles etc? I think you have a right to insist on this. Of course he knows you're his mum! Oh you poor love, being poorly and missing the babies is miserable. But you know you need the rest and he'll be there waiting for all your attention when you're better.

I'm in two minds about the SAHM thing. I'd like to do it for a bit, and think with two young ones I might not be ready to go off back to work as soon as possible after Mat Leave (and yes I may come to regret saying that!). But I know that I do want a better career. I've more or less given up on photography for the time being. I don't have the will power or energy to be a good mum, look after the house, feed us all, go to work and have a start up. So while I'd love to make my fortune from photography I don't think it's ever going to happen. That means trying to find a proper job with a future and all those wotsits in a few years time.

worse we used to give ds some cooled boiled water to help him with constipation.

Thanks Yummy we've been trying that with some success. Bm nappies are so much more acceptable.

Dr has been, and although the infection is very much alive I am on the mend. I just need another week of antibiotics. He also said being up and about would help my lungs. Yay! DH has had me banished to bed and I've been so bored.

Off to find Babax now

Am late to the party but woah there worse! You take best care of yourself. I am shocked that you could be so ill and it could be missed. That's pretty scary. Are you totally rock hard? Did you just battle on? Please take care! Sorry it's all so shitty with missing out on the children. I can assure you little babax knows who his mummy is. You have been there feeding him for weeks and weeks....he's been training his little baby eyes by staring up at you! He knows

Betty I was pleased to hear that things with dh are feeling more on an even keel. And I want a bit of your jet set lifestyle! Enjoy your weekend away.

Wotta! Wotta? How are you doing?

Oh bum it. My phone is on four per cent. I'd best bugger off.

Love to the rest of you! And plonky please don't worry about lack of letters. There's a lifetime of letters ahead of him. No hurry.

Babax is snoring away in his crib next to me. This is true happiness

Eco I cope because I have to. DH is not sympathetic for the large part. I was pretty unwell the night before the big crisis, but he didn't want to cancel the guests he'd invited..... so hours before being carted off in an ambulance I had prepared and cooked lunch for 8. I hope he feels a tiny bit sh*t about that now.

I'm back up to seventy per cent and able to chip this in: I hope he feels super shit about his bad husbanding AND that he attempts to make amends by changing his approach on all other future occasions. I think a stern talking to is in order. You do loads. You cope with loads. You support his ideas and ambitions. You both share parenting responsibility. He's very lucky mostly not to have me as a wife because I'm not anywhere near as tolerant and mild mannered as you worse

And! The babax image is beautiful and I'm sure it's making shattered and plonky weak with anticipation. Lovely! Glad you're reunited.

Oh my god Worse you had eight guests the day before being hospitalised? And none of them said owt? Oh dear! Have to say I completely agree with eco.
Enjoy the baby snores, they sound completely delicious. You are indeed making me weak in anticipation

eco you know our Worse is totally ard now. Best not mess.

Ds is in PANTS. I just had to shout that here so I can look back and remember my early enthusiasm in the inevitable case of accidents.

What what what? No. No, Mr Worse has definitely got the wrong idea there. If he invites guests, he can cook for them. If you're the chef then you have the right to cancel. Please give him a flick round the earhole from us all.

Also I am surprisingly not jealous of babyness, but this is because I'm currently remembering the horrible torture of sleep deprivation. Woke up for a pee at half three, hadn't dropped off agai when FP started crying at five, had just fallen asleep when the alarm went off at seven. I can cope today cos nursery and peaceful morning, but to do that every day again? Really doesn't appeal right now.

Plonky it's worse than that, it wasn't the day before it was hours before. I literally cooked lunch, fed Babax, then told DH he had to get a doctor. Hard, me? As nails I can laugh about it now

Pants? I'm in denial. I'm not even going to think about pants for ages yet.