March '13 - The One With The Babax

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread , and I can assure you all, it'll be a corker.

Oh Plonky you poor old thing. Of course it is happy news, if hard for some, but that doesn't mean they aren't happy for you, or that you should apologise. You can't put your life on hold for fear of upsetting others. One of my SILs had a mmc when I was pregnant with the toddle, and even now finds it too upsetting to see me, or the toddle, and will probably never meet either her or Babax. She's hurting to much. But, every xmas she sends a lovely present with a very sweet card, so we know she cares. I'm very touched by that.

Go and enjoy the early days, and rejoice in the fact you can still reach your feet

Any good luck with the new bed. Hope you've toddler proofed the room!!! The toddle it seems has finally got used to hers. So much so that this morning having not heard a squeak I went into her room to wake her up, to find her sitting on her bed with her toys piled round her happily playing. Crying for attention is so one year old...

Speaking of which, yes the 4th is someone's birthday. DD's!!! Although given DH is away we'll celebrate it at the weekend. I have yet to buy her 'proper' present as getting into town on my own with both in tow is a step too far for now, so the football and remote control car she has requested will have to wait until the weekend. At least I assume that is what she has requested, based on the fact those are the items she attempts to steal from other dcs when we are in the park. She got lots of cards today though, and a little musical box from me, which she loves. It has a dancing owl and cat on the top, and she is fascinated. If anyone is wondering what to buy I can recommend
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Another easy bedtime.... 30 mins to do teeth, nappy, story, lights out, and sleep. I'm stunned. And grateful. Mainly grateful!

Happy Birthday Toddleworse! If it's any consolation, DD has barely noticed she's had a birthday. Much like me since I hit my thirties...

Happy birthday worselet!

any hope the bed arrives soon. I don't think your nerves will manage it if it's a long delivery wait.

What seemed to be a quiet cutting cake session at home with me dh and parents is turning into a slightly bigger do. People are remembering its ds birthday and want to pop by to see him. Bit gutted but I will suck it up as it is nice of them they want to see ds on his birthday.

Anyone's dc just love milk? Ds is a right guzzler. Since 5pm he has drank 4 9ozs of milk. He has never had this many in one evening before. This is why we get through so many nappies.

I can't sleep because of heartburn. If only pregnancy symptoms were virtually catching.

You can't beat a good bit of early pregnancy insomnia eh?

Rainbow I know what you meant. seeing it written down like that though....it's a hell of a guilt trip. Thankfully my sister loves ds to bits and is very enthusiastic about being a presence in his life. Hopefully she'll be the same with the new baby. What more can I say?! I am so sorry for your loss but please remember that I mourned a baby too. He was not my son but that doesn't mean I don't love him.

Right.

Yummy when is ds' birthday? We have something similar. I'm coming lunch for 16 People on Sunday, though to be fair I did invite them all. We don't have enough bowls (we're having chilli) or cups, or house really. It'll be fine and not at all stressful...

Any a bed! I'm dreading this. Let us now how you get on.

worse amazing sleep there! I heard ds singing to himself tonight after going down. So cute. we always have boring time then bath milk bed and it works amazingly well. Consistency is key we find. Hope it continues through dh's return.

to plonky and rainbow.
Belated happy birthday to the worselet!! Did she have fun? I had a remote control car when I was little and loved it. If she gets one I'm sure she'll be thrilled.
yummy and plonk our birthday celebrations have also expanded I have no idea how many adults and toddles are coming but I think it's a lot!!!
If DS wakes in the night and won't settle we do end up co sleeping for a bit. Which means I get no sleep! Fortunately it's not that often and having re read plonk and yummy's sleep stories I'll stop moaning!! worse is DD now sleeping through as well as going down well?
yummy no we've not had milk overnight for a while. That is a lot of milk!! When DS wakes he just cries he doesn't ask for anything specific. Does your DS eat much?
Right. Looks like DH has woken DS with the shower. Hope everyone well.

Is it just me who can't be doing with toddler parties? Fartypants can have one when she's old enough to nag for one. MIL brought a cake at the weekend though. It's horrifically pink, but it has a tiara on top, which should go down well as FP is obsessed with crowns.

Yummy 8th for you, right? And Plonk, 7th or 9th? Rainbow are you this weekend too? And why is my brain convinced someone's on the 6th too? Couldn't find my list so going from memory.

Also, it's looking like it'll be a good weekend for me: my favourite band's playing at City Hall on Friday.

Yes we have birthday on the 7th. Just having family round for a birthday tea. DD understands exactly what a party is and that it's her birthday. She keeps telling everyone she she is going to be two while trying really hard to show two fingers on her hand with extreme concentration. She has been talking for weeks about her birthday cake (which will be a dragon!), about dinosaur balloons and about wrapping presents (she prefers wrapping to receiving). It will be a lot of fun as she has so much awareness about what it means I think.

plonky I'm sorry again if writing honestly about feelings involved in this situation was hard for you to read - its just that my own DSIL didn't understand properly and I wish someone had been there to explain to her that while I was over the moon for her, the joy also came with great pain for us. I'm afraid no one can understand the impact of the death of your own child, even family as much as they also mourn the loss so like I said already I was just hoping to explain your sister's bittersweet tears. I have been exactly where your sister is now (and had my SIL pregnant with exactly the same due date as my DD1 and as much as I adore and love my niece and would do anything for her I can't help thinking how my DD1 would have been at the same stage this time two years ago every time I look at her). It didn't matter how much she loved and mourned my DD1 because these things are not rational. If you ever need advice or to chat about this tough aspect of your pregnancy I am here for you.

Rainbow it must be so hard, and you've had to be so brave x

Shattered yes, dd has been sleeping through this week.... If DH messes with my system I will kill him! To be fair I think a lot of her recent sleep issues have been down to lack of routine and insecurity. I went from being virtually her sole carer, with DH very busy at work, to him taking over when I was very pregnant hence tired, and unable to lift or play with her much. I didn't appreciate how much she was missing mummy time. This week she has been my best pal again, and seems much more settled.

Everyone bar one of my NCT group have just last minute cancelled on me for coffee and cakes.... understandable given we all have two littlies, and going anywhere with two is a major headache. Does leave me with a lot of cake though. Shame I can't virtually share it!

Sorry Rainbow, I'm being overly sensitive. Feels like you took the opportunity to lay a massive guilt trip on me for daring to have another baby. It was hard enough telling my own sister sensitively, trying not to keep her on the phone because I knew she didn't really want to hear it, whilst also taking the time to explain why I was telling her so early, and before we tell anyone else. Coming here and reading what you wrote was like when you swallow something that's too hot, and you can't stop it hurting.

I've been very sensitive with my sister actually. Having read your experience and advice, which I take very seriously, I always tried to make sure she knew we can talk about what happened, the mention of him does not make me wince, and I'll always be there for her, no matter what's going on in my life. I knew it was going to be difficult for her to hear my news, and I actually don't expect anything from her.

I think I need to leave MN alone for a few days now.

Morning all.

Yep we are on the 8th. Last year I did a party and ds was completely overwhelmed. My fantasy of having beautiful photos with ds in his smart clothes next to his cake was ruined. That is why I opted for a small cake cutting do but his birthday falls on a Sunday and now word has spread. I have taken the easy route of ordering some Turkish goodies from a catering company so no cooking for me. Ds loves unwrapping things but is not bothered about what is inside the parcel. He tries to sing happy birthday and knows the candle has to be blown out. That's about it. I have told people to come late afternoon so he can have a good nap and be full of beans.

shattered All that milk drinking meant ds slept through. He eats well at nursery but a picky eater at home. We were surprised to read he ate chicken curry for lunch and hummous for tea. He never eats that at home.

plonky how are you this morning?

worse you have done well with worselets bedtime routine. I couldn't believe my eyes when I read she went to bed herself. Hope dh follows your routine when he gets back.

We need to develop technology to send cake virtually. I am sure dd will enjoy the extra cake.

rainbow You have had such a difficult time and had to go through such sadness. Hope dd will have a wonderful birthday.

something have you finished watching lost? I have just started watched game of thrones and I am shocked at the level of violence.

Cross post plonky. If you want to take a break that is fine but we are all here for you when you are ready to come back.

plonky please don't stay away - we love the hear and share your joy here at this early stage. I have loved the excitement with babax and now all the others coming. DD will be my last so I am going to live and enjoy vicariously through you all!

Come back Plonky... you're not allowed to leave, even for 5 minutes, because I need you here so that I can say THANK YOU to you wonderful lot for your lovely messages, and to Eco for her crafting skills in making them into a simply beautiful banner. I will try and FB a photo over the weekend. It's given me the warm fuzzies. This group has been such a source of warmth and support over the past two years. I luffs you all xxx (over familiar Friday brought forward)

Two years! We're all practically related
So pleased that you like babax's card. It's made with a load of love from 12 (or is it 13?) diverse, supportive, toddle mamas! We thought it'd be something pretty to hang up in the pantry We considered adding our phone numbers

plonk you must not leave. I suppose focusing on how your sister takes your news is the sympathetic and sensitive thing to focus on, but it's also not easy for you. You know this story, but for the rest of you lovely lot - I sort of understand how difficult telling someone such a lovely thing is. My Dsis found out after quite a number of years that her and her DH couldn't conceive naturally. Many rounds of IVF proved fruitless and so they had to come to terms with the fact that they couldn't have a baby. Luckily, they were able to go through the incredibly tough, arduous process of adoption, and after having their lives picked apart by many adoption panels, they were finally matched with my gorgeous nephew at the age of 5 months. Although their story ended up being so positive, I don't think being told that her little sister fell pregnant on the first time of not really even trying was particularly easy for her to hear. And I dreaded telling her. I was with her, like plonk was, through the whole process and I saw how hard it was, and how at times she wanted to give up, and it affected us as a family as well. So, the guilt I felt when telling her was huge. Of course she was happy for me, of course she loves DS to pieces, but it crossed my mind on occasion how unfair it is and how bad I felt, and whether I should involve her in everything knowing that she couldn't ever have it. Which is daft. So, while it is difficult for your sister and we all offer our sympathies and love to her, I know it's difficult for you too. Of course, my story and experiences are completely different, but telling someone good news which can affect them is tough for the teller. But we want to be told every detail please, so you are not allowed to leave!!

I'm very sorry that I ranted for a rather long time.

yummy I'm furious. I hadn't finished Lost so I went to watch an episode today to find it's no longer on nowtv. Waaaaa. Are you enjoying Game of Thrones, despite the gory violence and death? DP and I watch it and love it!

worse yeyyy you got it! Isn't Eco wonderfully creative? So glad you like it. And happy birthday to the worselet! I hope she has a lovely, funfilled day! And a peaceful, sleepfilled night.

The dishwasher that we plumbed in last night flooded on my way out the door today, and I pretty much had to leave it or I'd have been late for work. Poor DP has had to go home to it. But I did make him a pie so he can lump it.

Right, I'm at work...so I should get back to wedding planning

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Plonk
worse glad you got it. Do post a pic would love to see eco's handiwork!! What a shame re your NCT group. Is this the one from when you had the worselet? And they all have 2 babies already??!
any will be interested to see how the toddler bed goes....no bed guard either? I am not looking forward to the day we have to make that change!!
I'm really looking forward to DS's party. I get to see family and friends who I don't get to see that often- we don't live near any of my family sadly. Plus I get to make cake (which I like) and eat cake (which I like more). I also hope DS will have fun, and we get to celebrate the hard work and achievements of the last two years. What's not to like?
rainbow are you making a dragon cake? We are also going for an animal I think. Your DD sounds cute.! Sounds like there are lots of birthdays this weekend so happy birthday to all the toddles!
Night all

Oh and ps wotta 5.6k for your DH's engine? It must be a good car!! We haven't had much car luck the past few years- I can empathise!!

I know I know. It's a jeep. The engine had something happen which made all the oil solidify throughout the whole engine. Turned it into a big block of messy metal with no useful function. We had to have the whole thing out and refurbished and then put back together. The engine was about 3.5 then labor on top plus a few other issues. And the bloody vat! And we didn't have the car for about 2.5 months!

Oh god, I am living the hell that Eig went through with MiniEig, when she kept catching colds from her older sibling. Poor little Babax can't breathe. He's had a cold for over a week now, so is pretty bunged up. We're using a saline nasal spray, and one of those delightful snot suckers, but he's suffering. It's been a stressful night, and right now I just want DH to come home .

Wotta . That makes DH's stupid cars look cost effective. Ouch.

Shattered I didn't do NCT with Worselet, as I couldn't in my mind justify 300 odd quid. This time I did a short refresher course for second time mums, which was just 4 sessions, and covered useful things like sibling rivalry, and how to feed a new born and manage of toddler on a table climbing suicide mission. It was useful actually, I'd recommend it. That's why we all have two, or in some cases more!

Something that's so sad for your dsis. Life can be very unfair, and very hard at times.

Time to get the toddle up, and out to nursery, and pray that Babax doesn't need another feed before we go or before I get back. Nursery days are a bit of a logistical nightmare.

The Eiglet ended up with bronchiolitis or something, didn't she? Please tell Babax not to bother with that one, it didn't sound like fun. I'd almost forgotten how utterly vulnerable to the snots they are when they're tiny.

Making breakfast this morning, Fartypants entertaining herself in the living room. "Yay Zoë, yay!" comes from the living room. I go to investigate. "Look Mummy! Yay Zoë!" she repeats, indicating the phone charger she's just plugged in and applauding herself. I'm torn between being impressed by the physical dexterity, and bollocking her because she knows full well that plugs are verboten.

Ah poor babax.

stormy it is quite hard to get cross when they are just so funny.

something I can't imagine the rollercoaster of emotions you all went through especially your dsis.

Last night there was a battle with food, dm and ds. Dm was adamant he was going to eat his dinner and ds was adamant he weren't going to. He kept shouting "no eat" and I was sniggering in the kitchen out of sight.

I have to go food shopping today and then cinema with a friend tonight. Silly me thought it would be a good idea to invite friends over for dinner tomorrow nigh as well as do last minute prep for ds birthday. I finally managed to get my blood tests done for iron levels. Apparently, my ferritin levels are 5.1 which after a google seems terribly low and GP wants me to do another thyroid test in a months time. I don't understand why so I need to arrange an appointment with GP.

Overheard on the monitor: "Lemon, twelve, sevteen, TWENTY! Peekaboo! Tickly Zebra!" I do not know what Fartypants thinks she's doing, but it is not napping.

yummy do DM and DS often battle over food? Life becomes less stressful when you realise you can't make them eat.

"Mish, mush, mish, mush, mish, mush, Mr Tumble!" Still not napping...

Random whinge for the day. 'Helpful' people! I have just emptied the kitchen bin. Nanny offered to do the bathroom ones. Lovely of her, really kind.... only she has just put all the stuff from the bathrooms into the kitchen bin? Why? Why would anyone do that? Either leave it in the bathroom, or take it outside... So now, I've got to empty the kitchen bin again. Sighhhh. You can tell I'm stuck in the house with a sick baby can't you when stuff like this gets to me !!!

worse ask her if she could empty the kitchen bin as well. Sorry I am being unhelpful. Karvol is great for babies with a cold but they seem to have stopped selling it around our way.

stormy my mother is from a different era. She believes all dinner should be eaten. As a child my nan used to make sure everyone ate their meal even if they didn't like it. Mum thinks I am a soft touch on ds when I don't put pressure on him to eat.