March '13 - The One With The Babax

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread , and I can assure you all, it'll be a corker.

Hello ladies
Great news plonk! Very excited for you. November sounds like No time at all.
I agree with worse that you are too busy to pay as much attention to the second pregnancy. Having said that mine hasn't been quite as straightforward this time, plus I do get lots of pregnancy symptoms so from that point of view it is dragging!! Plus I am not long back from work having been there at 8am, so perhaps a more difficult day then usual to comment. Hopefully yours will be easier and you'll sail through . How is mr plonk taking it?

Hi to everyone else. Hope worselet and yummy toddle keeping up the good sleeps. worse lovely to hear your happy post!! I'm hoping to be there in the not too distant future!!!

Asleep by 8.30pm again Plonk, and she got into bed herself and settled down after story time and lights out . Just call me super nanny

Shattered having a newborn is actually much easier than being heavily pregnant when you have a toddler. It is just so nice being able to bend, lift and sit of the floor again!

Everyone has said the same to me worse. I'm holding you to it!! .
Late to bed now as the toddle woke and screamed for a while, I seemed to make it worse by going in so DH has taken him. We try and leave him to self settle as he often will but I find it hard to leave him if he carries on. What do you lot do? Luckily it's not a daily occurrence but even so...

I hope I sail through it too Shattered. Last time I took maternity leave at 30 weeks (read: managed out) and went ten days overdue, got snowed in a lot and was generally quite bored, so that bloody dragged. Sorry to hear you've had a few more problems this time, and that you're still working such long hours!

My plan so far is to look after self, have baby, get a good stretchy or woven wrap and have the baby in it pretty much full time. And get a buggy board. And renew the sainsbos delivery pass.

Worse I went to bed at the same time as the worselet! And I slept through (thanks ds for sleeping through).

I'm having a working lunch today with my parents and some senior colleagues. How do I manage to act totally normally?

Stormy are you still alive, love? Please tell us the relatives from Shirebrook have just buried you under a mountain of presents for fp.

Still alive, Plonk, and very happy for you. Just also a bit sad that I don't get to join you, so excuse me if I'm quiet. Try and make this a pink one? I've a crapload of hand me downs and no one to give them to.

Aww Stormy. Hugs.

Can I just say fucking shitbags re cunty cars. That is all.

Is there a tale behind the fucking shitbags cunty car, Wotta? Do tell!

I'm also looking for a new home for the musical UFO, dunno if you already have something similar, Plonk? Big round thing with buttons and lights and whatnot, with a seat in the middle.

stormy you never know what is going to happen in the future. So be hopeful.

wotta is your car playing up? Mine is too. It is very annoying.

plonky enjoy your lunch. I have no idea how you will keep quiet, I think I would burst from excitement.

shattered I tend to wait a bit before going into ds. Ds isn't usually that fussed on Who goes in to see him. I go by ds by what he wants. If he wants milk he will tell me. If he is satisfied with a dummy he will go back to sleep. If he wants a cuddle and to come in bed with us he will hold his arms out. If he still don't settle I know he is in pain and I have him calpol.

Ds sleeping through only lasted 2 nights I am afraid. Better than nothing I supposed.

Yummy we found the sleep improves in fits and starts. So we had four nights of fanatic sleep, 7-6.30 without even a single dummy return. I thought we'd cracked it, but we hadn't. We usually have to go in at least once, usually 3-4 times. Sometimes he comes in with us at 2, and occasionally he goes to 6.30 all on his own. It's all steady progress and as you say, you're able to give him what he needs and that's all that matters.

Shattered we do everything we can. If it becomes apparent that we can't settle him in his room then I either sleep.on his floor or bring him in with us. I am a soft touch though.
Mr Plonk is taking it...what's the word? Objectively. matter-of-factly. He is happy but also finds it difficult to get excited about something so intangible. Once I start showing or there's a scan, whichever happens first, he'll feel we can tell people and get excited.

Oh Stormy I'm sorry love. Wish you were doing this too, but as Wotta says, cunty cars and whatnot. Whatever she means

I had the bad luck of telling my sister yesterday. She cried. I feel terrible but at the same time I couldn't conceal it from her. She'd be very hurt if I didn't tell her, but it was obviously hard for her to hear. They're staying over on Saturday so I didn't want her to be suspicious and feel she was being lied to.

Telling your sister was always going to be difficult, Plonk. At least it's done now.

It's the 4th. Isn't there a birthday today?

I mean a £1200 bill when we could really really do without it .

Hard for your sister Plonk but in sure she will also be happy for you. It was always going to be mixed emotions there though.

I mean a £1200 bill when we could really really do without it .

Hard for your sister Plonk but in sure she will also be happy for you. It was always going to be mixed emotions there though.

Is there ever a time when you could really really do with a twelve hundred quid bill? Sending lottery winning vibes your way, Wotta.

The reason we could really really do without it (aside from the obvious, you're right stormy) is that in December we had to spend £5.6k rebuilding the engine of dh's car and it's since needed £450 of brakes stuff doing. I fucking hate cars right now!

sheeeesh wotta that is some bill! My car just cost us about £250 and I was rocking back and forth about that, never mind that much. What on earth has happened to it?

Congrats to you plonks on the babysaurus, even though I've probably said it a thousand times to you already, but if it's not written to you on mn then it's not official!

I can't remember who asked about the wedding dress but I shall let you know this - there is lace, there are sparkles, there is a princess vibe and there will be faux fur. I went back to see it on Sunday to put the deposit down and I still love it so it's all good.

DS is driving me bonkers at the moment. All day long it's "waaa waaa waaa waaa". We're seriously being tested at the moment. I think one of the reasons today was that I wouldn't let him play with the wine glasses. I felt like crying when I realised it was too early for the wine glasses too, to be fair. But he's surprising me every day. He now walks down the stairs by himself, climbs out of the car by himself, sits on one of the dining room chairs to eat, has to take his set of keys with him when we go out, sits next to me and casually strokes my arm or my head when we watch a film, etc. He's like a proper person. It's so strange!

wotta that is a shocking bill. You are better off buying a new car. We have to pay £370 for a new clutch and I was shocked about that price.

Dh and I have been unfortunate to pay out quite a bit for broken things in the space of a month ie, cooker, TV, car and equipment in the shop. To save both of our sanity I keep reminding him we have good health and we can earn money again.

plonky I am sure your sister had happy tears for you too. It was always going to be hard. It is good you told her rather than her hearing it from someone else when you are 6 months gone.

something your dress sounds beautiful. Your ds sounds amazing. Is he a mummy's boy?

Ds nursery did a birthday card for ds and it made me all emotional. I was worried about him going to nursery but he has learnt so much and has met lovely people. I feel sad that he is growing up too quickly and getting cheekier.

something if ds is being a bit 'waaa waaa' do you think it's another development leap? Even if it isn't I kid myself that it is so I can get through it. The moaning really gets to me.

plonky it's good you told your sister but I understand her reaction. If my DS or DSIL or any close friend had fallen pregnant between my DD1 dying and conceiving DD2 it would have been a hard blow for me and to be honest I would have probably avoided them for a long time. Its extremely difficult. I hated even the sight of pregnant women or newborns until the very day DD2 was born and even now on bad days I can struggle. having said that your DS sound extraordinarily strong.

Damn, pregnant two days and already having to apologise. Yikes.

I didn't ask my sister to be the bigger person, though. That's got nothing to do with it. She knew we were ttc, and she knows that's got nothing to do with her. I'm sorry every day for what happened to Arlo, but that's not my fault, nor hers, nor anybody's. Is it really so unreasonable that other people should get pregnant?

I was feeling happy about this.

plonky gosh I'm sorry - didn't mean to make you feel like you have to apologise. Just wanted to give you insight into her reaction. Everythign you said just now is totally right! Of course it's not unreasonable. Reactions are not logical. :( I'm so so sorry if I made you feel bad. It really wasn't my intention. Feel really horrible now :( I am sorry x

I don't think any of us think you should apologise dear Plonk. Your news is lovely and you have every right to it. I think rainbow was just saying that she understands why you were tender with how you told your sister. Don't be hiding your pregnancy happiness with us.....we love hearing about it and are grateful that between you, Worse and shattered we have a jolly smattering of little ones to coo over.

Awww plonky sorry if my/our posts came across that way but that is not what we meant. I understood that your sister would find it hard but I am sure she is also excited to be an auntie again. It is probably best to be open with her about how you both feel. I am sure both of you are excited about your pregnancy. If your sister is as kind hearted and loving as you, she wouldn't want you to be on edge when talking about babies.

Aw plonk. Rainbow already sent a lovely happy message about your news and stormy is happy for you if sad for her! I think all of us just wanted to sympathise with you about how for your family it is just a little more complicated this time. No need to apologise to anyone, even your sister, as it's lovely happy news that you wanted, but as with so much others' reactions can be touched with their own experiences. That's life.

Go put your feet up, and enjoy not feeling sick while it lasts!

Aw plonk. Rainbow already sent a lovely happy message about your news and stormy is happy for you if sad for her! I think all of us just wanted to sympathise with you about how for your family it is just a little more complicated this time. No need to apologise to anyone, even your sister, as it's lovely happy news that you wanted, but as with so much others' reactions can be touched with their own experiences. That's life.

Go put your feet up, and enjoy not feeling sick while it lasts!

Plonk it's always the best news when new life is created, no matter what has gone before so rejoice and enjoy it and your brave Sis will be so very happy in her own time. It's a very positive thing (especially the stick...)

In other news - DD climbed out of her cot today (so no nap) and we have panic bought a toddler bed (off ebay as our cot doesn't convert), although she has gone down ok tonight in the cot. I watched her fling her leg over the side and laughed until I cried.