October 2014 // thread 4 // a lot of night feed chatting!

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Welcome everyone. You're doing a good job by the way. Remember that.

Hi wondermoose, H had her immunisations last week and they did make her a bit sleepy if anything but she was otherwise fine, I think putting her immediately in her sling helped her to pass out quickly afterwards and she stayed that way for a good 2-3 hours!

I think she has finally come around to the notion of a dummy, which will hopefully stop her rubbing her drool all over her face when she's sleepy and making her all spotty! She had 3 naps today (unheard of) and I'm sure it's down to the dummy as well, fingers crossed she sleeps OK tonight too.
Pregnant that sounds like a tough drive tomorrow, take it slow if you can :)
After saying I wasn't going to buy much for H's Christmas I've ordered a Sophie Giraffe, Sean the Sheep, a sheepskin pram liner, a wall print for her bedroom (OK that's more for my benefit cos it's purdy) and some books ....

Ooh i might try him in the sling after, had it for a while but not braved using it as hes such a wriggler
My dh is snoring beside me, ds asleep on boob, and before dh dropped off hes decided in his wisdom that because we're still struggling with bf we should change to formula because if its not worked by now then ive given it a good go etc, i know hes saying this out of concern for my sanity but im now feeling very angry and emotional and annoyed at my soundly sleeping dh! No bf shouldnt be hard but that doesnt mean i should give up! I think giving up would make me very depressed and like i was taking the easy way out, besides i want to bf til 6 months at least, but then am i starving my child after a weekend of poor feeds? Arghhh :(
Sorry rant over!

Wondermoose BF can be hard in the beginning but that doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong, I think its a shock to many of us the effort it can take to establish. It does get tonnes easier and I certainly, love it. The choice is yours and there's no right or wrong choice. To be fair I don't think there is a right thing for blokes to say when BF is tough, when my DH used to say first time round "let's get formula" or "do you want to stick out the BF" I'd have a hormonal go at him either way .

Still can't get R to go mich longer that 3 hours at night - any tips for those bf who have done it? Or is this just him? He tends to do - 7 to 8, 11, 2 or 3 and 6. Pretty sure ds1 did 7 to 3 and this point. Oh well, they are all different!

Haha i know what you mean, i know hes worried about me being in pain and the constant worry i have about ds not feeding and being hungry but hes just winding me up at the moment, especially when he moans about being tired when hes snoring away most of the night while i (attempt to ) feed! Ah well hopefully ds will get the hang of it soon :s

Oh God I have insomnia. This is fucking ridiculous. The last few nights I've just not been able to go back to sleep after her firstfeed. I went to bed with her at nine thirty tonight and slept till midnight when something or other woke me up and I've been awake ever since. The baby is fast asleep. Everyone is asleep except me. I don't know what to do. Despair.

tatty Oh god, yes, the insomnia. Many a frustrating hour spent lying wide awake between snuffling DS and snoring DH. What I need is someone to rock / shush / pat me...

Cant beleive it... Baby not woke up for her 4am feed yet and im up being sick i must have a bug, always seem to get it in december for some reason, i hope dd1 gets it soon as the past two years she had it on xmas day not nice for the wee soul

Sorry to hear of some having tough times, dont be to hard on yourself, anybody that says being a parent is easy is lying! Its the hardest job in the world sometimes, but as they get older it does get more fun & rewarding! This time next year most of our little darlings will probably be walking and pulling down our xmas trees

Well, the baby slept for ten hours. I slept for four. I want to die a little bit. All of my normal insomnia strategies are based around the idea that once I am eventually asleep I can stay that way, and that I can always catch up. These things don't apply at the moment. I'm so sad.

On the plus side, though, I've discovered that the baby can soothe herself to sleep. I had just assumed she couldn't so I've not even tried but two nights ago we were watching a film in bed and I tried to put herdown but she woke up when she reached the Moses basket, but since she wasn't unhappy I thought it'd have . But if a break and leave her there, and after five minutes of wriggling she went to sleep. I assumed it was a fluke but last night I did it after every feed and she named it each time- feed, basket, wriggle, grunt, sleep. I feel like I've hit the baby jackpot. If only I had the same skill.

Omg, im totally ill, must be norovirus ? Im so paranoid i will pass it to baby, i cant keep anything down and have the runs really bad! If she gets this she will be really ill

Managed, not named. I'm very fried.

Oh god stigz you poor thing :(

Can anyone take the baby for you for a while?

stigz that's awful. Has the baby had rotavirus vaccine yet? Just be really fussy about hand washing and anti BAC all bathrooms and handles. Keep loo lid closed when flushing. Am sure you know all this stuff but hopefully stop it spreading. Can you get anyone to help with the baby??

No she gets first vaccines on wednesday dd1 just vomitted aswell and so has the dog dp has had to stay home, i text my mum but she said she has not slept all night so had to go back to bed, im so stressed, dd1 is the worst patient, baby is screaming, dp is stressed and im trying to keep everyone calm in between bathroom trips, i so hope this passes dd2 !!

I've always thought of DS as a 'happy chucker'. Confirmation came at 7.30 this morning, when he contrived to vomit into his own eye - and had a massive giggling fit .
Hope you feel better soon, Stigz. Get as much help as you can, and keep washing those hands!

STIGZ my DD had it last week & DS was fine, just kept everything sterile & her away from him. Good luck.

splendide - so pleased things looking up. My heart Broke for you, reading through some of your posts.

tatty was it you talkng about the possibility of wanting a number two that hasnt previously been considered? I am the same. Am a late thirties first time mum, and i only just came round to the idea of having a child approx one month before we got preggo.

I love my DD so much, and I'm worried for her being an only child and not having a sibling to play with. More worried for when we are very old and she has no-one to moan about the burden of her elderly parents . I am an only child.

I dont want to have another, dont think my sanity or marriage could take it...We swore we'd just have the one...

Argh hes such a hell child! Has been sick on me this morning, wont feed properly 5 mins on then falls asleep and wakes 20 mins later. He was weight today and has dropped off his usual line so it proves hes not feeding well at all but ive no idea how to help him, got jabs this aft then 8 week check in the morning, what do they do at the check? Will they let me moan on about all his issues? So worried about my little dude, i could sort of cope with the rest of it when i knew he was feedinh and putting on weight :s

It wasn't me. I can't remember who it was but I remember it being someone. I'm an only child, too. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but I had a bit of a miserable time as a kid and being one and one alone definitely made it more miserable. That could easily have been avoided, though, bynot having emotional cretins for parents, a mistake that obviously none of our children would be foolish enough to make...

We've just half a green poo! Cannot for the life of me remember what it means

Same here with the emotional cretins for parents.. Well one of them was anywAy

bettyjudy it wasn't me talking about it before, but i could have written your post. I don't want to be pregnant again, I don't want to do childbirth again, we've been lucky with the baby in terms of her health and 'behaviour' so far, I'm 40, partner is 37,..... lots of reasons not to (boyfriend is an only one), and I'll be fine with just one, but I love the relationship I have with my brother, and can't help thinking it's doing a child a disservice to not give them siblings.

So hard isnt it. I keep looking at friends with two, and thinking how stressful We would both find it. Dh and i are both intraverts who crave peace and order. It would mean moving out of our lovely house. Being older and rolling the dice again would be risky.... and yet...

Think am gonna buy a book on being a parent to an only child, and do some thinking. Dont have to decide anything this minute.

wonder has baby been checked for tongue tie? Feeding little & often can be a sign...as well as clicking when feeding, dribbling etc? Prob worth asking tomorrow at check up? The weight gain issues can be symptomatic of it too.. All 3 of mine had a tongue tie...I eventually got them all snipped (last 2 done privately on days 4 & day 3) to avoid feeding problems I encountered with no 1. Some of what you describe, I went through with no 1. Hope the jabs went well? x

Should probably add that GP's & HV's can easily miss TT 's...so don't be surprised if they say no. But it sounds like your gut feeling is telling you something isnt right so I would try to see a breastfeedung group with an infant feeding specialist or qualified lactation consultant to get it thoroughly checked out.