October 2014 // thread 4 // a lot of night feed chatting!

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Welcome everyone. You're doing a good job by the way. Remember that.

I had my first proper bored moment today - entertained a crabby baby for 2 hours, hoping she might eventually go to bloody sleep. She alternated giggling and screeching from one second to the next for most of that time. Exhausting... couldn't waited for boyfriend to get home. He gets home about 1 second after she finally dropped off. Grr.

I expect there'll be a whole load of that happening over the next few years. Luckily he made me a really strong and delicious cocktail, so all fine now. Child is zonked.

Whoever it was asking about daytime sleeping, I tried to start one but then realised it involved a level of organised consistency that I just can't be arsed with right now. She vaguely has her own routine, which I'm beginning to fit around, but I'm putting off anything real until after xmas, at which point she'll be 12 weeks.

Regards the sleep routine thing - mine is a reasonable night time sleeper, so long as she keeps that up, I mind less about what she does during the day.

Stigz go to out of hours tonight, they'll give you omeprazole or ranitidine. For your mental health you need this sorted honey xxx

Mad day that stupidly involved me trying a day out without the buggy. Ended with me carrying a shattered 13kg toddler, Lilla and the change bag home. I'm dead!!!! Not ideal 10 weeks post CS. Still I'm off to a baby friendly pub tonight. A night out. With Lil admittedly!

Goats my views exactly on sleep!

Okaaay so dp is on his Xmas do. Everyone is bathed,fed and asleep. House is vaguely tidy, bottles done, dishwasher on, washing machine washing, dogs lay quietly in front of the fire.

This is far too good to be true

I'm going to have a horrendous night aren't I ?!!

Haha Pregnant!! Well DH is at band practice and is due back at 10.15, where I will then cook up a couple of fancy ribeye steaks medium rare which I have been dreaming of since being preggo. H has been a happy little soul all day and even deigned to have 3 half hour-ish naps so I'm dreaming of peace to both cook and eat our late dinner.

I'm a fool....

stigz go to out of hours like we did. It's the only way of getting good the right result it seems. It was the only way we were going to get what he needed.
Our day sounds similar to yours goats. Zero routine in the day, not even a hint. He naps well when he does go down. The evenings tend to be a bit of a trial. He sleeps well over night though.
Just expressing and got 150ml from one boob that wasn't even that full!

I'm having boob issues - not painful, just weird. Today they are getting really engorged, complete with those really hard bits - and the hard bits aren't shifting when I'm feeding unless i massage them and she feeds off it for ages (45 minutes +). Any idea what that might be about?

Im not counting my chickens but she seems a lot better tonight now i have stopped putting the colic drops in her bottle

I remember you saying yellow about how they bring the acid up from the stomach into the throat

Wishing you all a lovely few hours kip & a nice weekend

Thanks for all the replies will deffo go to out of hours if she gets any worse

Goats no idea but hope it settles.

We are having a funny old day here. B has been pretty much on the boob ALL day! Not ideal as I am away for the weekend with my family & my BIL's family. So far today I have BF in a very traditional Irish pub, a old world hotel & at the beach! This is in addition to every waking minute at the cottage. I ended up just sitting with my nipple out most of the evening! The wee toad now will not go to sleep even though he is exhausted.

Oh... To add to the excitement my husband has twice exclaimed very loudly to my DD in 2 different establishments "Mummy is just get her balubas out to feed B before we go!"
STIGZ please look after yourself & demand a referral if your GP will not treat effectively.
Kirsti hope you got to enjoy your steak sandwich.
Pregnant I am in awe of you.

For those of you BFing are you drinking alcohol & if so how much? I feel so guilty.

Tonight I BF in the pub (I had one glass of white with two pints of tap water). Then in the freezing cold at the station waiting for the 10.40pm Dundee train which meant I had to get on the train with the pissed folk coming home from Edinburgh with a baby on my boob! Walking down a train aisle to find a seat whilst BF puts your boobs right at eye level. But no one said a word!

My bf support worker and gv both said drinking is fine. 1 unit of alcohol is out of your system in an hour andvs half, so you can work out what's safe to drink.

Woken up with rock hard boobs again, even though it's only 4 hours since the last feed. It's like day 4 all over again. What??

I hope someone offered you their seat Yellow.

I passed out on the couch before 10pm tonight. Hubbie did the next feed and I vaguely remember him saying something like 'wake me at 3am for next feed'...I let him sleep...
I think I've just done my first dream feed - baby asleep but gave him half a bottle? He would take anymore and would burp :(
Hoping he will sleep until 7am now.

Hope others are getting some rest tonight and all the bubbas are being good xx

Re drinking. Bf workers have always told me its ok too. I drink a glass of wine most evenings after I've put him down at night. Because DH does 11 dream feed I don't feed til 3 am so it's out my system anyway. But such minuscule amounts go through to milk anyway that I wouldn't worry if I did feed him sooner after that wine.
Someone told me that their HV said even an alcoholic's BM was better than formula for the baby - don't know how much truth there is in that as it's very extreme but hopefully it helps you not to feel guilty for having a drink or two!
I personally love wine and of course I do give up drinking when pregnant, just not when bf.

What a night! Wouldn't go to sleep until midnight & then up 3 hrs later for a feed! 3 hrs after feeding ALL day! I'm sure he may burst!

Thanks for BF & alcohol chat, really would like to enjoy a glass of wine. Have had a few glasses but felt awful drinking them & mostly because I never know when boob will be required again!

CJ its perfectly safe to have a wee drink whilst BF. As Fedup says my best friend is a social worker and she's told me that yes they encourage alcoholics to continue BF.

Morning all, slept from 11.30 to 4.30, just finished a feed so will try for more sleep after a cuddle.

I always said DS would be my only child - me and DP are older parents, and I found childbirth horrendous. BUT now I am having to chuck clothes I find myself thinking I should keep them for the next one. I think this is mainly down to not wanting DS to be lonely if he is an only child. He has half siblings but there is a huge age gap. I've not mentioned this to DP yet...

I have a glass of wine in the evening. It's nice, and as I understand it almost nothing good through to your milk.

She slept for 4 1/2 hours imagine! But then she was awake for an hour which is annoying because she's got good at going straight back to sleep after night feeds, so I don't feel as happy as I might.

yellow transport feeding seems to be my specialty. I flashed the whole bus last week when my stop came sooner than expected and it was a case of either missing it or sticking my tit back in my top,and yesterday I fed her on the tube. I felt a bit weird about the tube for some reason, but I sort of figure that given the choice between a small flash of boob and listening to a baby cry all the way home, most people would opt for the first one.

I feel like I'm going to die or at least vomit. I've been up basically all night. He went into his crib at 6 and is awake now. He's not even hungry, just had 5 mins on breast and now asleep on me again.

I'm going to start shrieking or something if he won't just get off me for a minute soon. Seriously I can't take this I can't I'm feeling so claustrophobic.

splendide is there someone with you that you can give the baby to, even for ten minutes? I totally understand this feeling- sometimes when she's been feeding for hours I feel like I'm disintegrating. Sometimes I put the baby in her basket and then stand on the other side of the door till I feel better- I'm not a fan of letting her cry but if it's that our lose my marbles I figure a few minutes won't hurt her.

Have courage. He will stop eventually and you'll get some peace. Just get through the moments till then.

bump and baby - mine will only sleep in the sleepyhead too, it's worked too well! I have a solution for the bed space though (not while you're away, but at home) - get a Hyde crib from mothercare - 40 quid new, 10 - 20 quid on ebay, cut a side off with a hacksaw and put next to your bed with the sleepyhead in it. Baby is close enough for you to touch, but in their own space, The crib will last until they're sitting up, is really narrow so fits where a bedside table is.

Thanks tatty quite right. I feel a bit calmer now, DH took him for 10 mins and I could calm down. I've also just expressed some milk for the first time in the hope of getting a break at some point.

Genuinely frightened myself earlier though. I was really wishing I'd never had him I feel horrible now.