October 2014 // thread 4 // a lot of night feed chatting!

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Welcome everyone. You're doing a good job by the way. Remember that.

A lady made three grand selling her breast milk, just seen her on this morning! A few ladies on here could make some extra cash for crimbo

Watching this morning too (reaches for breast pump)

How much did she say per can (330ml)? Was it £25?

I'm sorely tempted to flog some! I think when I go back to work and have to pump - I will!

So very tempted! Could do with some extra pennies.!
For those of you who have had thrush in the nipple did you have symptoms on the exterior too? My left nipple is all tingly and sometimes a bit itchy. I really hope it isn't thrush!

We have a milk bank here, and our nct group have shared milk - we've had 2 women who wanted to bf but couldn't.

Question re milk lady: how do you know the milk is not contaminated? Thinking Hepatitis or HIV

My baba's toddlepod arrived and they have sent the blue version of the cover i ordered

Missus - I know that the milk bank here won't take milk from you unless you've had an HIV test specific to the process of donating milk. It's not enough to have given birth in that hospital and had an HIV test there! Ridiculous, but I suppose it's better safe than sorry. My friend had to throw away 2 litres that she expressed while her baby was having surgery/recovering because she hadn't had that HIV test. Silly.

Oh god, that poor partner of charlotte and her baby girl. Thats just awful news. I don't have a history of depression but surely hospitals should be more careful of those that do? Particilarly when you get no sleep during labour and post natally - I felt like I was going crazy a couple of times from Sleep deprivation.

I am getting VERY jealous of all you ladies having lots of sleep George is still waking every 2 hours! I am trying to switch from breast to formula for the last feed but he won't take a bottle.

bravo ladies your all doing brill

Goats it's the right thing to do - test. Regardless. Could you imagine if they didn't and people got sick. Awful.

I am very sad about Charlotte Bevan and her baby. I suspect she had depression but do we know if that's true? The news earlier said she'd stopped taking medication to BF and I find that shocking!! Surely her health was worth more than BF?
This is a very sad case of someone slipping through the cracks ??

jemima My DD is breastfed and I struggle to get her to accept a bottle of expressed milk.

The best way I found was to give her the bottle when still asleep, lift her into your arms and put the bottle in her mouth so that she sucks instinctively.

She won't have the bottle if she is very hungry or awake.

Also experiment with temperature.

She had schizophrenia and depression and had stopped taking her meds to feed . Utterly tragic and made sadder by it just being so avoidable.

My sister expressed a freezer full of breast milk whilst her DD was in the NICU and too small to yet BF, she tried to donate it (having had various blood tests) and the Scottish BM bank at Glasgow Sick Kids didn't have room, but Belfast were desperate not desperate enough to pay the £80 it cost her to courier it all. Its definitely worth doing if you've a surplus and a bottle avoider, if you give up BF or when you wean.

Oh my God it's like I've got a whole different baby today. One who will be put down and who has distinct feeds. It's actually been... nice.

Jemima what bottles have you tried? H takes expressed milk in Tommy Tippee Closer to Nature bottles now but she took some persuasion, it wasn't until the third or fourth night that she took it without some bewilderment. I stayed out of the room while DH gave her with them. We just looked for her earliest cue that she was starting to feel peckish and gave her it at room temperature.

It's such a sad thing to happen to that whole family. Made me thankful for what I have.

Nice relaxing bath time with E, DH did baby massage with my instruction and she loved it.
She also loved pooing in the bath, all over us both. There was loads!!

kirsti I've spent so much on bottles he refuses tommy tippie we tried the medela ones that came with my pump there a big no and tonight we have made a tiny break through with nuk as soon as the bottle is tipped milk slowly comes out so he seems to just automatically suck but after 2 hours dh only managed 1/2 ounce.

fate I usually go for a walk while DH tries what temps do you find best I always try at night so always warm it up to help him sleep. have you had better results with cold?

I'm sorry ladies I just need 2 rant a second.

at the moment I don't love with my partner we are at my parents week days and his parents weekends. This means every Friday I have 2 pack 2 suitcases 1 for me 1 for ds fold away his travel cot, pack the breast pump + equipment get him bathed ready and head up the motorway 40 mins to meet my partner there.
This is a lot for 1 person and a baby to do IMO
now I wouldn't normally mind but he has a sister who is 21 she goes out Friday and Saturday nights and is hung over Sundays his dad has a new gf and spends all day Saturday with her so we see him for an hour or 2 on Sunday morning. Sunday lunch my bf and his dad go watching footy so I am sat there alone until they come home. We then pack all the stuff up and head back to mine for Sunday tea.

am I being hormonal or does this seem like way too much effort on my part?

Jemima, my DD likes her expressed milk warmer than I would expect. Closer to hot than just warm, definitely hotter then room temp.

Breastfed babies 'should' like their milk body temp - but that's too cold for DD from a bottle. I tend to dreamfeed her at 11pm ish.

All that moving houses every week is definitely too much! Do you not have your own place yet?

Jemima i think it is too much on your part especially if the reason you make the trip is for your inlaws to spend time with your ds? Doesnt sound like you all spend that much time together? Could you maybe just do it two weekends out of the month? Would your dh be understanding do you think ?

We are currently hunting for our own place which will be in the middle of both family homes. dh feels that if we spend all the time here ds won't get to know his side of the family so we have to make an effort my opinion is they don't seem to bother next weekend it's my birthday and I have said out right I'm not going down there. Then there is Christmas to discuss which I'm not looking forward to ha

Jemima we love near my mum but 2 hours away from my dad and 3 hours away from the in laws. GPs can be as involved as they like in your DS's life, doesn't matter where you live. It must be so hard shifting location all the time. I'd put my foot down if I were you!

Feeling a bit said tonight. DH wants R to be our last baby. I don't. We disagree. I can't bring myself to get rid of the baby stuff as R grows out of jt, I just can't. I already feel broody but I don't knkw of that's just because DH doesnt want any more. He told me he 'hates' this stage - the newborn days - and doesn't want to do it again. makes me sad. How do I get over it and accept two is where we stop?

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that's awful I know the newborn days can be tuff but that's when you get all your firsts and it's so exciting and lovely to watch. He may just be feeling over whelmed with it all at the minute give it time he may come round