All-new posifrikentivity grads

[CorporeSarnie]

Hello to post-ttc-after-mc and/or pg-after-mc grads out there.
It has been weeks since I promised I would put a new grads thread up, but finally am in front of a pc (with a snoozing 4 week old DS on my lap), so here I am. Never quite felt up to joining the regular antenatal threads, so am a bit nervous about joining a postnatal one so late in the game.
Am hoping to hear more good news from the pregnant after MC thread very soon (am still lurking a bit there) - gwlondon being the most recent grad (well done you brave lady if you're reading this). Hope that alb and fedup are also doing well, as well as previous grads.
Am slowly settling into life with 2 DC here, is very tough trying to balance the needs of a toddler and a new baby but so so fantastic to see the pair of them together, even if DD does try to beat her baby brother up most days.
CSxx

cuppa great to see you here and welcome to the world Percy!

alb no indication really. I think the lactose free milk helped because it has less cow's milk protein in it, but didn't solve the problem. we are only on two formula feeds a day because I didn't want to increase them while we were experimenting, but I could really do with reducing the breastfeeding further after 6 months and now 4 teeth!
it is so frustrating that every HCP you see gives you different advice and such a drain on resources that that means you have to keep going back to get the right answer.

alb that slip sounded really scary. pgchimp I found GPs not really that informed with baby related issues at all. Is your LO 6mknths already? The feeding should drop quite fast by that point especially if the weaning goes well. alb hopefully switching the teat or milk works for you.

Another advantage of weaning after 6 months is that you don't have to avoid a lot of food, like gluten and dairy. You can buy standard adult cereal like ready brek and weetabix, and use yoghurt for example. I also went straight to normal food without purees for DD1. Since we don't have a history of food intolerances, I didn't wait to introduce one allergen at a time. I just gave whatever we eat, and even things like peanut butter on toast. The NHS pages are really good on weaning.

cuppa welcome on board*

copore hope you are ok.

DD2 isn't gaining as much weight as i have hoped either. She has dropped from the 25th to 9th centile. And looking at pictures, she's visibility skinnier than DD1. But she's looking alert, not sickly, and have plenty of wet nappies. Nothing much I could do could i?

alb that slip sounded really scary. pgchimp I found GPs not really that informed with baby related issues at all. Is your LO 6mknths already? The feeding should drop quite fast by that point especially if the weaning goes well. alb hopefully switching the teat or milk works for you.

Another advantage of weaning after 6 months is that you don't have to avoid a lot of food, like gluten and dairy. You can buy standard adult cereal like ready brek and weetabix, and use yoghurt for example. I also went straight to normal food without purees for DD1. Since we don't have a history of food intolerances, I didn't wait to introduce one allergen at a time. I just gave whatever we eat, and even things like peanut butter on toast. The NHS pages are really good on weaning.

cuppa welcome on board*

copore hope you are ok.

DD2 isn't gaining as much weight as i have hoped either. She has dropped from the 25th to 9th centile. And looking at pictures, she's visibility skinnier than DD1. But she's looking alert, not sickly, and have plenty of wet nappies. Nothing much I could do could i?

tlt interesting you say that about milk feeds reducing. he is on three meals a day now but still seems to take as much milk, 2 full 7oz bottles of formula plus three bfs. I can't tell if the food portions are too small and there isn't much guidance on it.

should have said he is mai my on puree stuff. we are trying to give him food to hold at each meal but bizarrely he never puts it in his mouth, despite everything else going in there!

Ah I've just found this - hello!!!!!
I've got a 3 month old now - yes really! Gone so quickly. Great to see some familiar names on here and I will catch up on the theead when not half asleep!

Merry nearly Christmas all .
Hi to fedup and cuppa, thrilled to hear baby Percy is here and doing well, if he is anything like his mum he will be a feisty young man .
Sorry for overuse of Xmas emoticons!
pg, I recall a saying that I heard with DD, "food is for fun until they are one". Try not to worry about volumes of milk or food that are going in, rely on the (increasingly gross iirc) nappies, bright eyes and bushy tail to illustrate that they're getting enough. I remember going away for the night when DD was just one, and pumping over a litre to keep myself comfortable!
Am feeling a lot brighter, am just accepting the chaos and talking to dh as much as I can, he is a bit down too, so taking each day as it comes.
Hope everyone is doing ok, and a Merry Christmas to all (again) .

Hi all,
Catching up again.
Too much newborn snuggling been going on here, so not checked anything for a few days
Great to see some familiar faces and hear positive tales

Percy has topped his birthweight, weighing in today at 5lb 4oz.
His TSH thyroid blood test needs re-checking, other than that he's passed every hurdle with flying colours

alb your fall sounded scary hopefully no repeats as the weather turns. Get ye some grippy soles xx

Percy and I were home after 72h, the absolute minimum for a preemie here, and I was post c-section too.
Felt so good after all the anxiety that went before. Feeling fab now. Obviously a baby-ectomy was called for, and now we are BOTH feeling so much better for it

congrats cuppa and great news for passing birth weight, particularly for a preemie.
my little man has developed bronchiolitis just in time for Christmas, so sounds like Darth Vader! we have mil coming for next 2 days, which I am rather dreading as she criticises everything I do!

congrats cuppa and great news for passing birth weight, particularly for a preemie.
my little man has developed bronchiolitis just in time for Christmas, so sounds like Darth Vader! we have mil coming for next 2 days, which I am rather dreading as she criticises everything I do!

pg I don't envy you with judgemental MIL. I hope you've made it through Xmas without too much drama xx

Percy's bloods still high, so back again next week. I'm so glad that he's so chilled out.
Loved our family crimbo, and mr p was the best pressie ever.
Happy Xmas to one and all xxx

fedup nice to see you here!

Sorry been AWOL over Christmas, visiting family and DS doesn't allow much spare time! He's so incredibly alert and active and nosy he has to be help upright the whole time looking around, tryna roll when lay down and doesn't really nap during the day, fights sleep constantly unless were in the car (which isn't that often as we have Nowere to go) I love it, I just wish he'd nap a little more so he wasn't so grumpy but in good news the sickness has calmed down a lot so looks like he doesn't have any medical problems or allergies which is a relief.

The slip was quite scary! I'd stopped using my sling as strangers kept telling me it was dangerous using a sling incase I fell with him, and as people actually stopped me in the street to tell me this is made me too self conscious to use it, but realistically if DS had been in a sling I'd have been walking more carefully and I'd have landed on my bum or put my knees out like you do when you fall and DS would have most likely been surprised but fine, but in his buggy I barly managed to keep hold of him and if a car had have been going past or we'd have slid an extra few inches it could have been a horrifying story. So might sound silly but it's encouraged me to use the sling again and buy better shoes accidents can happen anywere but the closer my baby is to me the better I can protect him surly?

pg hope your DS is getting better, such unfortunate timing him getting ill just in time for his first Christmas!

cuppa glad to see he's doing well, hope the bloods are back to normal next time too, but like you say it's lovely that he's atleast not getting too stressed by the blood tests

Hope everyone else is well!

Hi everyone! Alb thanks for letting me know about this thread! :)

...better up date you all!
DD is 3 1/2 months, on 9th percentile but feeds well and developing well.
After being less anxious when pregnant I seem to have caught it bad post natally! Phobias of all sorts happening... SIDS, falling over with baby, car accidents, rare fever illnesses ... you name it I've had a panic!
Babe is fine and oblivious! Lol!

Hello squizita sorry hadn't been on to link the thread to you but glad you found us glad baby is doing well, the anxiety must be frustrating feeling like you still can't relax, hope your hv is a decent support. Like we were saying on the other thread tho some of the guidelines like the safe sleeping one seem extreme and can't help.

O my post is getting cut short due to DS starting to wake up, will try n get back later

Iv entered into teething hell, DS is 15 weeks now, teeth have been bothering him for a few weeks but tonight is aweful, literally done nothing but scream an cry all night, nothing is soothing him apart from about 30 seconds after applying teething gel, he falls asleep after food but then wakes up 20mins later screaming n then that's it till the next feed. I'm alone as DP is at work too, not quite the New Year's Eve I had planned! Poor DS suffering so much all the other teething remedies I can find online arnt suitable either as he's too young so can't coordinate a teething ring, can't chew on food etc, and calpol isn't denting it, gona be a looooooong night!

Hope everyone else is enjoying their New Year's Eve, that's if any of you are even awake for it, I no I wouldn't be on a normal night!

Happy New Year to you all!
alb, hope DS has improved, teething is a nightmare. Is he old enough for baby Nurofen yet? With DD we found it helped more than Calpol, as it takes the inflammation down as well as being a painkiller.
Lovely to hear squiz has found us too, you probably don't remember me from the AN threads but I always loved your sage dietary advice on the pregnancy boards. Sorry to hear that you're feeling anxious. It is hard to know how much is rational, as worrying about SIDS is normal to some extent, and using a sling makes me nervous about falls (I have literally no idea what I will do should it snow properly, as I know I am not up to driving DD in snow on our semi-rural roads). But it is worth talking to your hv, not least to allay your fears, if you're finding the fear is getting in the way of living and enjoying your DD. I saw the evening sleep thread, and have to confess that I merrily put DS in his crib and go downstairs, with regular checks but no motion sensor; but I don't think I was as relaxed with DD (however her bedtime was less strict at a similar stage as there wasn't another child to consider).
Things here have improved, am back to feeling normal about DD now, not sure if it was very mild PND, hormonal postnatal stuff or what, but that fog has lifted. DS is a little trooper, very sicky (regularly projectile vomits over the pair of us), but starting to smile and show likes and dislikes, and so smiley with it all.
Not looking forward to DH going back to work on Monday... will be a shock to the system to have to get my own tea!

happy new year all.
we have found the Ashton and Parsons teething powders have worked much better than the gels. DS has 4 teeth already at 6mo, so I feel your (and his) pain!
DS is getting better thanks all, nearly normal breathing now and cough much reduced.

Happy new year everyone.
Hi squiz, also remember lots of rational words of wisdom and ,icy much support from you. Hoping you feel less anxious soon. Echoing, I know, but can you talk to someone? Wishing you some calm, so you can enjoy your gorgeous girl as much as pos xx
alb feeling your teething pain. Another vote for powders being better with DS. I remember wrestling him off of my mother when she was trying to put whiskey on his gums
Percy gaining weight very slowly, and dropping curves, but I think this is normal with downs. Passed his due date now

cuppa I think the extra stress caused by curves and centiles is amazing. weight gain is good and every child is different. my lo was enormous when he came out and immediately dropped from 91st to 75th, where he has largely stayed for 6 months. Because of the gentiles. my dh is always focussing on where he is rather than looking at him and seeing he is healthy and happy!

Hi all
Yay I've finally found you, it's only taken 19 weeks. Can't actually believe Olivia is 19 weeks today!!
She's now 14 lbs bless her.

How's everyone doing? x

welcome mrsg. time flies so fast, whilst at other times feeling that things will never change!

I hope all are feeling well. I have an interview at work following a restructure. I don't think I have ever felt less interested in a job interview (I won't lose my job, just being rearranged). of course my ds was very restless last night so I am also exhausted, which doesn't help the little grey cells!

Oh the centiles . DS started out close to 50th and currently between 25th & 9th, this has provoked a saga of hair tearing with hvs sending me back to bf clinic. They are totally unconcerned, he is alert, latch good etc., he's just devoting energy to getting taller, attempting to roll, and finding his curve I think, but am dreading going back to weighing clinic next month.
DS now 11 weeks and a joy, does the sweetest grins as though he is overwhelmed by how happy he is. Little chap showing his likes (bath time, cot mobile, Lamaze foot rattles) and dislikes (cold, getting in his car seat).
pg, hope the interview was ok, I need to speak to my mgr about my return to work soon, as I plan to do a phased return at 6 months, but am putting it off as I am sad knowing this is my last baby and last lot of ML. Hate thinking about it so soon .
Lovely to see you here, mrsg, hope Olivia doing well.

Wow, what a morning. Went to DD's swimming lesson with DS, was having some tea in the cafe, when a mum I vaguely know from baby groups came in. Only another mum had told me just this week that she'd had a late MC and isn't coping well.
She saw me feeding DS, looked devastated and sat down with her back to me. I sat until DS needed his bum doing, feeling dreadful too, on my way back decided to go over and say hello.
Long story short, I ended up in tears, not sure I did the right thing, but I do think that sharing our experiences can help. Just wish I could help more. Gah! Somehow feel very lumpen iykwim.