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January 2014 -- the birthdays are coming!

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TobyLerone · 18/11/2014 21:31

Just wrote a long message on the old thread only to have it not post because we'd filled it.

We really ought to do less chatting and more sleeping Wink

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AMillionNameChangesLater · 23/01/2015 11:45

Thanks everyone. I'm going ok. Finish in 15 mins and then i'm going to go to bed. Thinking about it, i've been gearing up for this for at least a few days before hand, so i should have seen it happening really.

The time in work has been invaluable and it was good to get in. I think the job is mine, as long as I don't tank on Wednesday.

I didn't say earlier but Happy Birthday O!

MerryPops · 23/01/2015 12:24

Happy Birthday O!

Sorry you've not been well million but sounds really promising about work.

I'm just wasting the last 10 minutes before I finish for the day, and for a week! At Center Parcs with my cousin, her hubby and 6 month old next week, A's first holiday Grin

firethornuk · 23/01/2015 21:16

Hi everyone,
I only came across this thread (and the previous Jan 2014 birth clubs) recently & I've just worked my way through them - which in itself is no mean feat.
I am Beccajoh's DH.
I had no idea that this thread (and loads of the other stuff Becca did online) existed.

Archie & DD (Alexa) are, generally speaking, both doing well. Archie has a terrible cough which has made him vom a few times lately and he had his 1yr jabs earlier in the week, so he is doubly grotty. Aside from this latest illness, He is still not sleeping though, I have started leaving him a few minutes when he starts, but generally cave in and give him a dummy or milk to get him off to sleep and back to sleep myself.
DD also has the same cough but is not as troubled by it. She is sleeping quite well and naps for about an hour after lunch, but she is threatening to drop it :(

I won't lie. I am finding it all really difficult. Aside from losing Becca, being a single parent is a thankless, and frankly exhausting task.

I hope you all don't mind if I hang around this thread for a while, I think I will find the help of this group very helpful over the coming weeks and months, when Archie starts walking etc.....

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TobyLerone · 23/01/2015 21:27

Oh, firethorn, you're welcome to hang around for as long as you like. It's good to have you with us. It sounds like you're doing such an excellent job.
Sorry Archie is suffering a bit at the moment. There's a lot of it about. M has been low-level ill for about 2 months. It's quite wearing.

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Angelesque · 23/01/2015 22:47

Welcome Firethorn, it's lovely to have you. Thank you for letting us know how you and Becca's babies are getting on - we think about them (and Becca) often.

Re: sleeping, I think whatever gets you through is what counts... F woke screaming at 5am this morning and I fed him back to sleep even though all the books will tell you not to... Don't care, it worked and he slept in till 8am Smile

MrsGSR · 23/01/2015 23:09

Gosh Million, that sounds terrible Flowers I hope you recover fully soon.

Hope O had a good birthday!

Welcome, firethornuk. I can't imagine what you're going through, let us know if there is anything we can do, sympathy, advice (I know nothing, but others are very knowledgeable!), whatever.

I second doing whatever gets you through. L is a terrible sleeper, DH is away and I have two essays due in next week. She's napping in her pram and spends the night in bed with me, otherwise I'm too tired to function. I'm not thinking past the end of next week, which I might regret!

alteredimages · 24/01/2015 00:32

You are very welcome here firethorn. Please do stay with us. Becca was very much part of the group and I know I have been wondering a lot lately about how you are all doing, especially around Archie's birthday.

My DS slept like a dream from birth but I have managed to screw it up with lack of routine and too much moving around, so he is now feeding to sleep and cosleeping. I think I should probably have my parenting licence revoked.

AMillionNameChangesLater · 24/01/2015 07:15

Hi firethorn. I echo the others, please stay!

I'm also agreeing with the "whatever gets you through club" Henry keeps waking up in the middle of the night to eat food. Actual food. Or dry cheerios, which as soon as he sees the box makes him coo. (not that he's ever like that with me) it's like his special baby crack. Odd child. I know really he doesn't need to eat at night, but a) it's easier and b) he's still so small. So eating in the middle of the night it is.

He certainly gets enough during the day. It's odd

BookTart · 24/01/2015 08:27

Hi firethorn, please stay :) I spoke to Becca here and on Damsels, don't know if you've found that place yet. I can't imagine how hard things are for you. I also think you should do whatever gets you through with Archie, you can always change things later if they bother you.

million our baby crack is Nurofen. She screams and claws for the bottle when she sees it, so I've had to hide it Blush

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TobyLerone · 24/01/2015 09:20

M has another random temperature today. Le sigh.

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BookTart · 24/01/2015 12:03

Oh god toby, it's just neverending isn't it? I had no idea they would be ill so much. I'm becoming a bit phobic about it I think, I have started to hate taking her places where I know other babies will make her ill. We've got a 1st birthday party in half an hour and I'm worried because at least one of the other babies has a D&V bug and I'm not sure if the others will have seen her recently and pass it on. I know there's nothing I can do about it and I am an idiot though :)

DH is doing my head in today. I shouldn't complain because he's genuinely trying to help by doing her naps at the weekend, but this morning I told him it was half an hour until nap time and he tried to settle her immediately (i.e. half an hour early). Obviously it didn't work and she finally managed about 20 minutes on his chest. He's now decided she needs another nap before the party so is trying to settle her again. Predictably she's going spare. I suggested taking a long drive to the party so she'd nap in the car, but apparently that is 'silly'. She will now spend the whole party furious and all the other mums and nans will judge me Sad

MrsGSR · 24/01/2015 12:45

I'm sure no one will judge you Book, I can't count the number of times I've taken L somewhere only for her to be a misery the whole time as she's overtired. All babies get like it sometimes. What little routine L has goes to pot when DH is home on the weekends or holidays. I wrote it all down and stuck it on the fridge once, but it still didn't happen!

MrsGSR · 24/01/2015 12:49

I also take the long route everywhere in the hope she'll fall asleep! Not silly at all.

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 24/01/2015 16:26

firethorn it's lovely to meet you, and I'm glad to hear you, Archie and Alexa are doing well. I think of Becca and you all often. Welcome to the family!

Def agree re: doing whatever it takes. Alex is a great nighttime sleeper (sorry Blush) but SHIT at naps. Some days we get two, some days one, some days none... Those are not good days.

Always been like it, so now we just go for a nap whenever she seems tired, and give up if she won't go down. Stubborn baby must be my daughter Grin

Haven't booked in for 12 month jabs yet, are they awful? Dreading it.

Random inexperienced question: Alex has had two haircuts already, as she's never lost her mop of hair. It's now getting long again, needs clips to be out of her eyes. I want to start growing it, as she seems to love having it combed, and watching me do my hair. Do I just leave it to grow? Does it still need a trim? Our hairdressers are a bit pants with her, and she howled last time, so I'm dithering over what to do and buying shares in hair clips

FelixFelix · 24/01/2015 16:53

Hi firethorn, it's really good to hear from you. Please do stay with us, this group helps with all the silly and mundane questions we all seem to face constantly!

S is still ill (fourth time since mid December) and so am I now. It always gets passed on to me but DP manages to avoid it every time.

Humpty S has really long thick hair now. I've not had it cut at all. Clips don't hold it any more so she's currently rocking the pineapple look, and yesterday I managed pigtails for the first time. I find those really thin elastic band type bobbles are the best (the ones that look like thin loom bands) as it's difficult for her to pull them out. Although she does manage most of the time. I got a big pack of them from Claire's for about £3.

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 24/01/2015 17:25

felix the non snag ones? I'll try that. Not sure how to keep her still long enough for bunches, but I can manage a pineapple!

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 24/01/2015 17:26

And sorry to hear you're both not well. No fun.

FelixFelix · 24/01/2015 17:45

Yes they are the no snag, just looked them up. Sorry I didn't know what they were called Grin

Here's the bunches. I think she looks hilarious. I have to do it at lightning speed!

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TobyLerone · 24/01/2015 17:47

Cute!

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AMillionNameChangesLater · 24/01/2015 17:54

That's adorable! She's so cute

BookTart · 24/01/2015 18:14

felix she's adorable! I'm always jealous of babies with hair. P is still a massive slap head Smile

Naturegirl82 · 24/01/2015 18:57

Hi firethorn glad you found the thread.

O's party went really well. Didn't have many people but she really enjoyed herself. Only problem was she didn't have a nap this morning so flaked out on Dh after a few hours bless her Smile

I'm feeling a bit sad though. Just bf O for the last time Sad We've been down to just an evening feed for a few weeks and she doesn't get much in that feed anyway. I've known I was going to be stopping at this age for a long time so I'm suprised it's upset me so much.

MrsGSR · 24/01/2015 19:18

I'm panicking a bit as I just gave L some grapes but forgot to wash them first. Should I worry?

BookTart · 24/01/2015 19:30

Oh nature, it must be a bit of a bittersweet feeling Flowers

Mrsg don't worry. I may wash her fruit and veg, but I'd stake all I own that it wouldn't even cross DH's mind to do the same!

Naturegirl82 · 24/01/2015 19:32

mrsg O has eaten dog and cat food and mud and lived to tell the tale. I'm sure she will be fine.