October 2014 // thread 3 // Maybe we'll get some sleep soon.

[MundayCakes85]

Last thread is full so here's a shiny new one

Smooshie I'm the same. I've been wanting to go to my local nct bumps and babies group but I've had the hospital or doctor to go too each time it's on! Today I have a friend coming over, I don't really feel like it but I need talk to someone who isn't Dylan or my dogs! Lol

So we had both our checks yesterday. All ok apart from im worried about Rs lack of smiling. Perhaps he's just moody?

A 4 hour and a 3 hour stretch last night. I actually feel okish. Had less success with expressing this morning though. Yesterday and the day before I managed 5oz first thing in the morning, today I only got 2.5oz. I still think I'll be OK to go out Saturday night, but I really want to get into having nights off to drink spend time with friends and do. It was 7 months rather than 7 weeks before I left ds1!

Sorry to hear that some are having bad sleep and envious of those getting 5 hours. I know 4 isn't that different but it I reckon 5 would have me dancing down the street.

Well done ladies, we're getting there!

pebble I am also amazed at how the mind coped in a stressful situation. We spent a week in scbu too for Neds suspected brain injury when he was born. I've almost wiped the whole thing from my brain. When people bump into me now 6 weeks on and say "wow rough entry, or bad start to things hey" I have to stop and think what an earth are they talking about. At the moment it's almost like it never happened and I feel ok about it all but expecting our first hospital visit/check up in a few weeks time might bring it all back to me....

We too had a great 5 hour stretch from 10pm to 3ish last night which was amazing. Just a shame the other ds woke up shouting about something oh well! Getting there. Now I just need to be better about putting N back into his crib and not letting him sleep in bed with me!

His reflux is so much better. We get much less sick now and he doesn't seem uncomfortable the whole time. I swear it's because of the no dairy and catching it so early thanks to the advice on here. I'm so grateful ladies...particularly you yellow thanks so much! bi stopped at 3 weeks and have been dairy free for 3 and a half weeks now!

Ahh pebble i cant blame you for not watching, i was struggling myself i cant imagine the worry & stress you went through, it must have been the longest two weeks of your life, so so glad everything is going well now

goats your dp's "clicking" had me giggling at 3 o'clock this morning

We're getting three hour stretches of sleep now hallelujah. So much better. And she usually goes back down very easily (we're lucky) except last night she started up the dreadful straining/grunting thing again after her 3.30 am feed. Think it might be related to the fact that the last two evenings she's done solid cluster feeding 5-10. It's so depressing, though- like one thing improves only for another to bugger up again.

I need to try and meet some people but I'm so bad at it. I really dread having to go to social events where I don't know anyone. We got some bumpf from the local children's centre through the post yesterday and I know I should join but I'll keep putting it off.

7 hours sleep last night in two chunks. Amazing compared to the previous two nights. She was like a dream baby! I'm not stupid enough to think it will last.

sazzle I had to go back to the hospital yesterday to take the breast pump I borrowed back. That made me a bit sad. They wouldn't let me into the ward properly. Probably an infection risk and maybe because it would upset other mums still there seeing me with my now healthy baby.

I feel like I've been hit by a train today. Still can't drive post c section so walked 3 miles round trip to the hospital with the pram. In hindsight it was too much too soon. So frustrating as got shopping to do today. Christmas doesn't organise itself!

Tatty its a cliche but true, its much easier to make friends when you've both got small kids. Babies are great ice breakers. I've made a circle of wonderful friends from our local toddler group.

We had a 5 hour stretch too! I can't believe it she slept from 9-2 was awake from 2-4 then slep till 6:30.

Sleepyhead arrived yesterday haven't yet used it. It does look very snug, I'm worried now how we will transfer her to it in bedroom? Without waking her.
Do those with sleepyhead use it in living room then carry them to bedroom on it? We have been using carrycot in living room the. Bringing it to bedroom and she stays in it.

Me Lil cluster feeds and snoozes on us downstairs in the evening and I transfer her into the Sleepyhead in the bednest when I go to bed. I swaddle her whilst she's asleep and pop her in. During the day she mostly sleeps in the sling so I can get on with stuff - I don't tend to move the Sleepyhead around basically because I'm lazy.

sorehead I had an oops feeling because he's already a bit sensitive about me knowing her better than he does. He's looking forward to when she's not breastfed so he can be more involved. Fact is though that he needs to be leftalone with her more so he works out ways of ddealing with her. He also misses the fun stuff like when she chats and laughs.

3.5 tog sleeping bag worked miracles last night. Slept from half 10 - 3, then 3.20 - 7, then I fed her again expecting her (and me) to be awake from then on, but no - went to sleep at 7.30 and neither of us woke up til half 9.

I think that works out as me having over 10 hours sleep last night!!!

It is hard to force yourself to these groups when you don't know each other but it's nice when you begin to bump into the same people and learn their baby's name and so on. I've swapped phone numbers with a few now. I do baby massage, a couple of church mums and baby groups and a Nct coffee morning once week. Tend to leave Fridays free but might start a buggy fit class which is local. Next week I'm doing a sewing class where you can bring the baby. Can't quite believe I've got into all this stuff!

We moved m's bedtime back by 30 mins last night because he was getting so ratty and like clockwork he woke 30 mins earlier for his nighttime feeds. So down 10pm, awake 0150 and and 0550. Hmmm.... Was hoping he would keep the same waking times of 0230 etc

Goats, amazing! Looks like she was just chilly then without the sleeping bag?

me - I've sometimes brought it downstairs and done the precipitous walk up the stairs with her in it, but now she's awake by the time I take her to bed with me, so she goes into the sleephead direct from a feed. It's the best thing I've bought. During the day though she sleeps on me or in a sling.

Thanks goats and yellow think I will keep carrycot in living room and bring crib into our room with sleepyhead in it, though after our good sleep last night I'm now reluctant to change things. Typical!

Wow goats I thought my 5 hour stretch was good you must feel amazing.

fatpony do you put baby down awake? How old is baby? Bf or ff? I don't know how you can decide baby's bedtime? Though it's probably slightly easier if older and formula/bottle fed.
V just sleeps when she sleeps though is starting to have more of a pattern emerging but I have to follow her lead rather than other way round.

me he is 5 weeks old. We follow his lead - he is without fail awake and happy from 5pm for a good four hrs (but will cluster feed during that time). We notice around 9pm he gets overtired (arms thrashing, quick to resort to a tired cry). Previously we were upstairs for 9.30 and he takes 150ml of formula - by the time we'd given it slowly, changed nappy and swaddled he'd be conked out by 10.30pm. He goes down semi awake but snoozy. So last night we brought it all back by 30 mins so upstairs 9pm, asleep by 10pm. He is breastfeed apart from the bedtime formula.

Me, I think your V, fatpony's boy and my girl are all the same age (6 weeks on Friday). Tbh I don't want a bedtime routine for dd2 yet. She is my last and it will come (and she will slot in with bedtime with the older two). Me and DH are both enjoying the fall asleep on us whenever she wants newborn phase! Playing with her when the older two are asleep is such lovely time for us (though I usually head off to bed early!). Especially now that she's all smiley...

Fedup about smiles (on my phone so can't remember if you posted here or facebook and can't check!), here in the US they only ask about smiles at the two month check (you go at one month and two months, three months etc). Which is far better than six weeks IMO. All three of mine were early smilers (by 5 weeks), but they were full term (actually DS was 42 weeks, the girls were just past EDD but closer to 41 weeks by my dates). I would assume that social smiles would be appropriately adjusted for a prem baby. So sounds like nothing to worry about for you (and presumably gp wasn't worried).

We're also so knackered by 10 that we cannot stay awake much later too! He does get incredibly ratty past nine so we tend to just all head up to bed then.

Lil was smiling (at my voice and when I kiss her cheeks or stroke her head) from 3 weeks (38 weeks adjusted) but Jonas was 8 weeks actual, 3 adjusted. She's much more touchy feely than he was. He's very independent but a total softy now but was much less bothered about cosleeping etc than Lil is.

Afternoon all, had a quick dash to the shop this afternoon as ran out of body suits due to poonami, 4am wee all over us both and mid day sick incident. We we're awake from 4-7.30!! and DH had to take over at 6ish and go into work late as I was shattered.
He gets so ratty when tired and tried to suggest he was getting less sleep than me
We also have no bed time routine yet- just sneak her into bed when she's asleep post feed.

Well the idea of going out for a walk to stop Dylan crying and send him to sleep half worked. We got home and normally he transfers from caboo to pod easily! Not today, now he's been on one boob for over an hour. He looks asleep but keeps nomming occasionally. Oh well its better than the constant crying of yesterday afternoon.

DD was lovely, wide awake, looking around and cooing on the way to school. New it was too good to be true to last. She can only settle to sleep on the boob so on the way back when she wanted to sleep, she just screamed until we got home.

New I meant knew of course.