March 06 - At last! Thread no2 - Halfway Through

[Frizombie]

Ok girls here it is!

great photo Uni!

Oh me again, can you tell dh is away again....

Ok girls, must kill my birthing partner next time I see her, got some photos back from the shop today so glad I didn't know what was on the film, as it was another one I found lurking on dh's desk... she's taken a full frontal of me and dd2 in the pool, sisscors hanging off the placenta cord and everything on full view I'd never have picked them up if I'd have known, now wondering how many people in our town have seen them.......
So whilst it was nice to have some more great reminder of the birth photos, there were a couple that needed censoring!!

at the photo Friz! I had a similar experience watching the post birth video with a glimpse of the MW cleaning me up! Was watching it with my cousin at the time who had luckily just given birth.
Will check out that link Sarah but must move downstairs from attic and feed the laptop some lecky juice - it's beeping at me impatiently!

Sarah, you have my upmost respect!
BTW no-one wants our house and the barn vendors have turned down our 210k offer - this has not helped my shittiest day of the month campaign today.

LL sure someone must want your house! just not right at this second....I've not checked the link yet, so will do so now!
I think I may be off to look around a property in the next few days, as its been on the market for ages, and I keep seeing it, so will finally get around to seeing why its not sold (I think the lack of central heating may be playing a part, along with the hideous tiles and diamond lino in the kitchen!!) but all that can be fixed right!
So did we all get up early this am then???
dd1's only just woken 9am, as I dragged the kids to Matlock for the fireworks last night, it made not a jot of difference to dd2 tho, who was up at 6, ahhhhhhh
dh has just called me to say he's done his back in, this is bad, we are self employed....... he must be bad, as can't drive himself home (in Wales) if he can't get a lift off someone I may be off to get him.......he's even said he'll go quacks in am (unheard of) I've said I'll take him to osteopath tho, as think that he may help quicker.

LL according to Rightmove there are no houses available between 150 and 160k in mosley!!

house!
This is the one I'm thinking of looking at, as you can see kitchen is not wonderful but liveable with.....only disadvantage I can see is it only has one bathroom, but two garages is a big wooo hooo for us!

Wow Friz, that place looks huge! Am v of you girls, we are feeling very hateful towards our awful little (rented) semi at the mo. It only about 10 years old, creaks in a stiff breeze and looks the same as every other one in the street. We have no moved DS into the spare room and have realised it wont work, as we will have to disassemble the cot to move it back into our room evey time people come to stay, which is quite often (November and Jan already booked in), and DDs room is so tiny they wont both fit in there. Grrrrrrr. Think we will have to move -what a PITA. It really pissing me off. Why do they build these pathetic, teeny, crappy, monotonous little houses?

SORRY!!!!! Rant over. Just venting.Feeling a bit tetchy. Parents have all gone, its nice to have the house back, but also v sad as we wont see my folks until next Sept-ish. Wont see DH's for 3 years possibly...but funny, I'm not as sad about that

I'm a bit scared about the coming weeks - have already felt the PND rearing its ugly head (was better with people around - I didn't feel so desperate)again, and with winter coming on and the dark days I'm scared I wont cope and will spiral down. Am really not feeling myself right now...just had a bit of a go at another MNer who said derogatory things about Australians..its the first time I've done it I think, but I feel better for it!

Friz, how are you coping?
LL, and movement on the house? Will you offer again on the barn?

Astro, I didn't say we could afford it tho did I?! I'm going to be silly and go and look round it, just to convince myself we wouldn't like it.....its in a really good little village tho, 3 pubs and one small village shop that mainly does papers, oh a fabric shop and a furniture shop, typical of Britain eh! no facilites really just pubs......but the primary school is fab, and its in the catchment of 3 senior schools, 2 of which are fab and one up and coming!
How long are you tied into your contract for?

What do you get upto on Thursdays Astro? as I tend to meet up with a bunch of girls then and your welcome to join us, they're from my 1st maternity group, there are 3boys and 2 girls roughly same age as your eldest and then there are also 3 new babies, 1 girl - mine! and 2 boys as well, let me know if your free, might help to make life a bit more bearable and at least two of the girls have gone through the same thing you are now, so they can help relate to where your at, we have another expat too! although not aussie. Our age range is 28-40 in case your wondering?!

Hi to everyone else, I have dh booked into the docs for 2.30, so we shall see.....

1 hand for pc while boy is feeding! he just fell over backwards and bumped hos head so thisd is feel better quick feed.
know what you mean about small rooms in new houses. only 1 bedroom of our 3 wil take a king size double, better not have another kid or won't know where to put them.
weigh in today- boy is 19lb 8oz! and 71cm tall.
dh away till friday- boo hiss, hes away for our wedding anniversary.

Just a quick hello as have tons of work to do.

Friz, love that house and hope DH can sort his back out.

www.rightmove.co.uk/viewdetails-13340867.rsp?pa_n=1&tr_t=buy - this is our house - not that bad I thought????

Astro, sorry you are feeling crap again and that your teeny house is getting to you. BTW it was my inlaws who set me back this week going on and on about how tidy the house was for the photos! Made me feel like shite as I didn't think it was normally such a tip. We should meet up, you, me and Friz again before Xmas eh?

Uni, how posh are you with a king size bed. BTW look on the photos to see how small the girls room is - just about fits a bed and cot in!

Offer turned down at 210k so we are holding off until we sell....I feel that I should point out that the only reason we can afford such an expensive house is a combination of equity (our mortgage is only 45k) and some inheritance!!! Just in case you thought we were big earners and not lazy sods.

My mum left today... but nice to have the house sorted and be just 'us' for the last 4 days of 1/2 term.

Astrophe: I feel much the same as you sound... I wish I had some helpful advice. I will certainly be here to listen/read your posts. At least you have acknowledged the possibility that things may be really hard for you this winter. Take Friz up on the offer and join her on Thursdays. I sure would.

Hi Caddy, sorry your Mum left but hope you still feel the benefit from having her visit.
On the subject of how we feel do you reckon it's PND or just exhaustion? I wonder whether to take the plunge and get ADs but then on my good days it seems a crazy idea - I know Astro has said the same.
I really think you do the hardest job with all your brood in a strange country and you have my upmost respect!
I am going power walking with my Mum tomorrow night to try the power of exercise for depression which is well documented...

LL your house looks lovely although I see what you mean about the room sizes, TBH we're lucky in our current house that we have 3 double bedrooms, its just a pity that ss has one, and he's only here every other weekend....(but I'm not going to ask him to change rooms, he is the eldest and would be most put out) What we need is some room downstairs!! ho hum....the house I looked around was lovely, although it was more 2 two double beds a single and a nursery room, the bathroom was rather squashed in too, although I could have coped! still we can't quite afford it.....I've told a friend who can afford it about it!! (it needs central heating as well and a new suite in the downstairs loo which was egg shell blue )

Caddy {{{{{Hugs}}}}} Hon, we're here for you, is dh about? or have they shipped him off??

Uni, happy wedding anniversary boo for dh being away tho....

So it's dd1's 3rd birthday tomorrow she has a disney princess bike, which I'm hoping will have her bouncing with joy So I shall be getting her up extra early to do presents, as I have to leave for the funeral at 7.30 and won't be back until about midnight.....so you won't see me on here for a whole day!!

King size sounds posh? Its jsut a 6ft wide double, I'm a right fidget in bed and dh gets pushed out of any smaller! I have pushed him out of bed in my sleep twice! out of smaller 5ft double both times.

How did you all survive hallowen and the ravages of trick or treaters? boy got rather scared by it all, the door bell kept ringing and he was scared of masked faces if i took him with me, and scared of being left if i didn;t so lots of crying, lots of cuddles. eventully I put a notice on teh door saying " no T or T please, small baby going to bed" and took him down stairs for his bath etc. I took teh door bell batteries out as well.
On our road it's mostly small kids with parents at the gate , one or two slightly sheepish teenagers as well. But soooo far no agro. fingers crossed. Most had put some effert into costumes which is a bonus.

Anti depresants aren;t teh end of teh world. they can help you feel better of a bit while you get back on an even keel and sort life out into a pattern you can manage. I took them for 6 months, didn;t get hooked, didn;t have hideous side effects. they do take a while to work tho, so teh up and down days continues for a bit, tho if they work for you teh down days get gradully less down.

Uni at you pushing DH out of bed - it's a squash in ours as Kiah is usually in there from about 4am. Thanks for the wise words on ADs - i am considering it TBH. Tilly waited up for T and T'ers but none came - typical eh?

Friz, thinking of you tomorrow and Happy Birthday to DD1 - 3 already!!!! What a grown up girl! What is on her present list? Tilly wanted a scooter and a donkey for Xmas but last Friday we went to a donkey sanctuary and got attacked by two donks, quite badly, in fact my friend's DD got her face trod on. Upshot is that the donkey got dropped from the list but is now replaced by a bloody pony.

Think we have hand, foot and mouth in da house! Kiah has been really off colour - lethargic and not eating and now me and her have blisters in our mouths. Feel like we should paint a red cross on the door!

Goodmorning all.

DH is here and actually has the next 2 days off so that should help...

I have also considered ads but the truth is that I have many, many reasons to be this miserable so I doubt that they would help. I think that I would be better off sorting out the things that are upsetting me rather than trying to power through... Does that make sense?

LL: do you think that exhaustion is a factor? Sleep deprivation is a form of torture and it really does affect people very badly. Were you saying that both of your LOs are poor sleepers? Is there any way that your mum could spell you off and let you have a nap? The power walking sounds like a great start. Let us know how you get on. Sorry about the foot and mouth. What a nightmare. I sure know what you mean about the red cross on the door. We need one as well.

DDs and DS2 have horrible colds and DH was up through the night with a very sore throat. ARGH! Lovely way to spend 1/2 term.

DS1 cannot afford to miss any school as he is not managing the work load as it is. More reason for me to lose sleep... Thankfully, I have been forcing myself to stay in bed when the anxiety hits at 5 am and it seems to be working for now. I was not out of bed until 7:50 yesterday. Today saw an earlier start but only because DD2 needed more calpol.

Hope you are all well. Sorry for the novel.

Morning Caddy, enjoy the next few days with DH around eh? Yes, I do think that sleep is a major factor but I am making more positive steps before I go on ADs. I am going to see the doc tomorrow to ask if there are any groups etc that I can access. The walking was great last night - 50 mins in the freezing cold! I am also going to join Slimming World and have just got a few good leads in for work - I've booked onto a training course too for myself. Phew.

Finally, I am going away with my girly friends on Dec 2nd to a spa hotel. We are all most excited about getting a whole night's sleep. Kiah will have to manage with a bottle.

Sooo, like you Caddy, I'm trying to tackle several aspects of my life to try to improve the way I do things and feel about myself/life. For you just juggling the kids must be a nightmare. Do you ever get any time for yourself as this is very important methinks....

Friz, I'll check in later to see how yesterday went for you.

Hi, newbie here with quick question...
My boy just decided to start rolling over (back to front). I know, it's late, but he's lazy, what can I say?!? Problem is, he tends to sick up every time he gets to his tummy. He had reflux issues early on but had got over them a couple months ago (or so I thought). Anyone else able to relate at all?

Nice to meet you all, if a bit belatedly! I've been on the Due June 07 boards mostly (yes that's right, we're going for it again! What are we thinking?!?). LOL

Hi lilKel and welcome to the thread - respect due woman for having the energy to reproduce so soon. Is this number 2 on the way then?
No help re your question as DD2 still can't rollover. She is currently wearing a big dunce hat in the corner.
Why not post the question under 'behaviour' as there are only a few of us regularly on this thread. Do stick around though as we only bite occasionally....

Cheers Laundry will do over & out

wooo, busy day. boy woke up an hour earlier than normal which was good! or we'd not have fitted everything in ! was on friend 1s doorstep at 8.45 to pick her and her ds up to visit friend 2 45 mins away, and we had to get back to town by 12 as f1 was teaching in teh afternoon. f2s 10m/o baby was asleep for most of the visit, never mind us mums got to natter.

It did strike me that f2s child seemed to have a lot of "toys", bright coloured plastic or wooden toys. got me wondering if boy is a bit shortchanged in teh toy dpt, most of teh stuff he plays with is tat, plastic bottle shakers, cds on strips of cloth, bits of fabric, things from teh kitchen. Am the only one like that or do some of you give your babies "interesting things" rather than "toys".

I wouldn't worry about the lack of plastic toys Uni - I can guarantee that many will find their way to your house over the next few years, you'll trip over them, lose the very one that is 'special of the day' and the boy will still prefer the egg whisk.

Busy days are good I think. We went up to Preston to visit a teeny weeny baby boy....surely our little fatties were never so skinny and frail???

Hi lilkel, Munz might be of use for your question, seem to remember she had a refluxy ds

LL, excellent stuff re the walking exercise really helps I find, you can't beat a good stomp and whinge In fact I still really miss being able to go off up a hill on my own for a good walk when I get grumpy, you know those times when you just want peace, quiet and a view.....ah well, the little darlings make up for it most of the time
Thanks for asking about yest, will bore you with it in a mo.

Uni, we only had 2 trick or treaters, I have a huge bowl of sweets left for them which dd1 is attempting to eat her own weight of, obviously Not sure if it was cause a weekday, but hardly anyone round here seems to have had kids out to them, and we all had loads last year?!

Caddy, hope your enjoying dh
Are school trying to help with ds1??
Sorry to hear you all have colds hope your all better soon

So yesterday was cousin and her dp were trying to keep a brave face on things, they both got very drunk afterwards, cousin especially, just want to send her all the hugs in the world really....and hopefully never have to attend a funeral with a coffin that small ever again.

Oh Friz, I cannot even imagine how awful your cousin must be feeling. It sure puts my whingeing in perspective. I am glad that you were able to go and be supportive. She will need you over the coming weeks/years.

Hello everyone else. We are off for some sight seeing today despite having been up most of the night listening to coughing and trying not to worry myself inside-out about $ and children.

LL: Isn't is strange that despite the fact that I know how useless it is to worry about things in the still of the night it still happens? I am glad that you were able to get out for a long walk and bravo on the night away and the Slimming club. It sounds as if you are off and on your way.

We spent 2 hours in the garden yesterday cutting back all of the plants. There were snow flurries that made us realise that time was no longer on our side!!! Let it snow. Let it snow. Let it snow!!!