October 2014 // thread 2 // keeping each other company through the night feeds!

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Hi all, welcome to thread 2!

Thanks Mrs - will have a look.

I know the house feeling too. I go on crazy missions when R sleeps just for 10 mins later it's a tip again!

Happy we also thought it was wind the first time. But it's happened a couple times since then. Same sort of time 11pm - 2am ish.
Fedup could also be right - he just needs some cuddling. He responds well when I walk around with him in my arms, falls asleep then wakes himself up and starts crying.

Thanks Fedup for the tips! I've been practicing my pelvic floors since discovering it. It feels a bit like an uncomfortable tampon.
Oh, the glamour of having a baby :)

Xx

I do the same but then at the end of the day I'm shattered because I haven't tested enough and after a couple of days I end up in this foul mood . Grr!

My friend Luce was always very proud that phones corrected her to Lube.

MrsB I too have a mountain of washing up waiting for me, there's one every morning. DH does most other things around the house but has a blind spot where the sink's concerned

It happens most nights with us (and he is clean, fed, winded etc) I agree with the cuddling suggestion but think wind kicks it all off, can't think what else would cause red faced straining and pushing (def not constipated!)

missus see your gp about prolapse unless it is hanging out or causing pain it can wait until 6 week check, just make sure you keep up with pelvic floors. Gp will probably refer you to physio, depending on severity it may just be that pelvic floor exercises will be enough to improve it.

The trouble is dh runs his own business so he rarely gets home before 6:30 /7 and he's a landscape gardener so he's usually tired, especially after doing the office after the normal 8-5. I feel bad because I know he's tired too. We agreed when I came home from hospital after my c section that he would keep up with certain jobs but he just hasn't

mrsb i think sometimes our dp's dont appreciate how hard & time consuming looking after a baby/children actually is sometimes, my dp gets stressed out very quickly after returning from work, when dd1&dd2 are demanding attention, needing fed, at the same time you are trying to get your own dinner and tidy up the mess that dd1 leaves in whatever room she is in! I sometimes say " i have had this all day and managed to keep calm" but i honestly think they think they are more tired because they have been working all day ??? I am working mum and can say sometimes its less draining being at your work, where you can sit and eat your lunch peacfully and go to the loo without having two sets of eyes watching you and one questioning why " i need a lady nappy all the time" not mention your trained to do your job... Your not trained in being a mum and every day is a learning day, somedays its a lovely learning experience and sometimes its a bloody stressful learning experience, its honestly the most exhausting job i have ever done, i love it and wouldnt change it for the world, but it is mentally challenging and time consuming... I would bloody love a cleaner to take the stress off but at the rate its gets messy/untidy very quickly i think i would be throwing my money away

A cleaner would be wonderful!! Thanks stigz for levelling my head. I did send him a snotty text message this morning and he sad he would do it later....errr no I'm not looking at that all day!

We have a cleaner fortnightly to deep clean the bathrooms and kitchen and hoover thru, occasionally I'll get them to do the windows and oven. For £48 a month it keeps me sane!

That's exactly what I'd want,I hate cleaning the bathroom and toilet most of all!

Is anybody driving before 6 weeks recovery after c/s?

Im just about to phone insurance company as i feel fit enough to drive now at 5 weeks after c/s

yellow £50 a month is pretty reasonable, i thought it would be a fortune?

Happy - I'm in agreement with you. I think ours is also kicked off by wind (will double check re straining, red face etc but also defo not constipated) he gets himself into a state though poor little thing.

Mrs & Fedup - I'm waiting for GP to ring for phone consultation. I also have the number of a private female doc local to me. If need be I'll pay for peace of mind. My husband will be gutted there will be an extended sex ban until this is sorted bahahahaha

Bump - I don't know where you live but I wouldn't pay anymore than £10 per hour (London prices)

I have a weekly cleaning when I went back to work after Ds1 I just didn't want to spend half my Saturday cleaning the house. I've kept it on now with Rs arrival. as much as I complain about what they do and how, I prefer them coming than not! Pricey at £12 an hour but am thinking of moving to another soon but where I live it's all around that price.
Mil is round to play with ds1 this pm so I've gone upstairs for a rest. I've just bought a coat online instead of sleeping

Good luck missus re phone consultation

Dr thinks it is a prolapse and I'm 'unfortunate' (not a big baby, no probs, straight forward labour).
Emergency appointment tomorrow at 10am for referral.

Ho hum.

Thanks for the support ladies xx

Get a cleaner!! Life is tough enough without having to clean as well

Sorry to everyone else who's still on two hourly wake ups, but in glad it's not just us. Sometimes I feel like I'm failing at adulthood really badly while everyone else just seems to know what to do. I don't know what to do. I'm making it up as I go along.

On the plus side, I put a well feed but awake baby in her rocking chair thing this afternoon and she put herself to sleep without my intervention, so I feel like that's a win.

That's impressive tatty!
Ugh I wish we could afford a cleaner, would be bloody lovely. I have cried do a fair but if floor cleaning because we have 3 dogs, I dread to think what it would be like if I only did it once a week.
Little bean has been really handsy today, he keeps weeding out of his swaddle and waking himself up! It's almost like his hands are trying to sabotage his happy sleep. I understand it's about 5 weeks they find their hands isn't it?

*I have to do.
Sorry my sausage fingers are not cut out for these phones lol

Is anybody else finding the days really long ? I dunno if its because my first thought in the morning usually is "i cant wait to go to bed tonight"

I'm finding the days long. I'm also finding chunks of them really boring. Unsure if that makes me a bad person, but I can't wait until the infant has become a bit more responsive.

I'm a bit Groundhog Day-ish here too, I haven't been out on my own with H yet which is a wee bit daunting! Not really for lack of trying though, my sore back has put me off using the sling and I don't particularly like using the pram where I am, and the weather has been pretty grim anyway! Once the clusterfest is over and there are bigger gaps between feeds I'll feel more confident as well I think.
Tatty I'll join you in the "I dunno what I'm doing" club