October 2014 // thread 2 // keeping each other company through the night feeds!

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Hi all, welcome to thread 2!

I found days long first time round but not this time. Probably as so many jobs to do still! But I do remember feeling bad for finding it a bit boring - so I did get myself out a lot.
On bath time duty on my own again tonight as dH got to work late. Hoping eldest just wants bed again and no stories!!

Tatty, Kirsti everyone just wings it!

And yes newborn care is physically hard but mentally dull! Now toddlers really put you through your paces mentally trying to outsmart the wee shites darlings! But they do make you laugh your ass off. Just you wait til first giggles, first word, first time they reach for you, first time they kiss you, crawl to you or say "Mummy" or "I love you". Hell I'm looking forward to first sleep through.

I'm waiting at the walk in centre with ds. He's ripped the corner off one of his toenails somehow, and today his toe has looked increasingly infected. The gp couldn't fit him in, so insisted I take him to the walk in centre. I didn't think it seemed that urgent, but I guess you need to be careful while they're so young. There's a 2 hour wait, in a room full of ill people coughing all over us/clutching sick bowls, yuck. To top it all off, I scratched the car badly on the way here. I'm so mad at myself, but thankfully it was on our gatepost, so I've only damaged my own property!

hefner Urgh, nightmare. Hope you get seen quickly!

I'm finding the days are going really quickly, myself. It's all go all day; I'm always shocked when DP arrives back home and I still haven't managed to eat breakfast...

Stigz, I know what you mean esp in the morning when I can't seem to relax but rush around. I think adapting to a diff pace of life takes a while and it's not like we can go and lie in the park on a blanket with them due to the crap weather.
I try and be out of the house from 11-3 or 12-4 otherwise I go nuts. Fortunately there is a lot on in the area. If I get in at 4 I feel a huge sense of relief as only two hrs to go till DH gets in. Saying that I had a lovely four hrs with the baby at home this afternoon basically sat on my arse with him in the cushion/watched crap tv.

I think not being able to have a nap during the day is making it seem longer, my day is basically starting about 6 am, the morning seems to go really fast when dd is at nursery as im so busy doing housework and getting organised to go out!! but after 12 it drags in! Think once im driving it will give me a bit more freedom, unfortunatly i live in glasgow where the weather is very wet mostly, im struggling on wet days to find something to do other than soft play or the shops? Dd1 hates the shops, cant blame her it must be dull for a four year old! All my friends/family are at work, so dont have anyone to visit till the weekend. Im sort of thinking that having a big age gap is going to be hard at times trying to find age appropriate activities that will keep them both entertained at the same time? I agree staying in does drive you crazy but sometimes the weather is so miserable here, i cant face going out with two children and getting drenched, dont mind if its freezing, just hate the really wet days.

stigz I started driving again at 4 weeks! It was half term and I couldn't bear the thought of being virtually housebound and no pre school! I rang my insurance company and they basically said they had no policy on it so didn't really care as long as I felt ok. I'm at 6 weeks now, and last weekend did a 3 hour drive with both kids, just me....was somehow fine!

I'm still getting heart burn - anyone else? I never usually get it except when preg.

V tired today. Somewhat wondering when I may have an evening again as can't get R to sleep before 8.30 / 9. But at same time I'm feeling upset the newborn days are passing by. He won't be so small and snuggly for long and I dont think DH will let us have three / whether I can mentally deal with being pregnant again

tory im going to phone insurace tomorrow, hopefully i'll be driving for the weekend

I only finished half of my driving course that I started while preggo, really need to get on with finishing it and sitting my test..

I can see the days getting boring too. But so far I haven't got the confidence to leave the flat yet. DD is almost 3 weeks but we've only been home for 2 days. Silly things are worrying me. Like will she scream and scream on public transport (can't drive yet either), how will I manage cluster feeding should she demand it, will she be too hot/cold etc etc. Think I'll suggest a short trip out somewhere with DP this weekend. He's already back at work so we got none of his paternity leave to practice :(

pebble I find leaving the house almost impossible at first for exactly the reasons you say. I made myself do it, and was miserable the first few times even though I stayed within five minutes of the house, but it got easier really quickly. Helped to remember that no one was going to tell me off for doing the wrong thing (but that was maybe just me).

pebble you really see the best of humanity when out with a newborn don't worry, whilst folk on buses give the stink eye to crying toddlers folk coo over newborns. I try to get out of the house every day with my two and have done since 4 days post section, and genuinely feel much more chilled for it. Most babies love being out. Have a dry run this weekend, take enough stuff to cope with a poonami, and try to enjoy showing her off.

Wow quiet on here tonight/this morning! Hopefully this is a sign of some good quality kipping happening !

Unfortunately not in my house- I was just too tired/ fed up/ bleary eyed to post! Had about an hour of sleep in two chunks last night because I think someone has swapped my baby for a warthog, and a dolphin or sheep keep visiting his Moses basket judging by the noises!

How was everyone else's night?

Morning all, so last night Lewis slept from 10 till 5, some kind of miracle which of course I am happy for the sleep however when I woke up boobs were soft, I remember with dd if she went more than a fee hours without a feed they would be like boulders. Should I be concerned about supply? He is nearly 8 weeks and has gone from 5 lb to 9 lb 4 so I know he is getting milk x

Horsey I think second time our boobs don't get the crazy extremes you get first time?

Don't know helen but as you say he's gaining weight so all ok! What a sleep not at all
R still wakes every 2 - 3 hours but started to feed less so don't think he's even hungry, just habit or wants comforting! Great!

Wow really loving my video baby monitor, my mil bought it for us as a gift. Finding it really useful to leave dd1 in the living room with baby alone while i do lunch etc i was getting paranoid incase she fell on top her or something when she was in the bouncer or tried to have a cheeky wee cuddle when i wasnt looking, think it will be great peace of mind when i have both of them in the same room eventually.

It's pouring with rain here. Trying to work out what to do about going for a walk. I could take the buggy with a rain cover, but it really annoys me and limits where we can walk. If I put the baby in the sling and zipped my coat up so it covered her body then carried a umbrella she should be dry, but I can't figure out if that's irresponsible in some way I haven't thought of.

Sore - same here, utterly knackered

We have one of those stigz yet still to turn it on!!

tatty I've done carrier and umbrella, it's a great option and not irresponsible! Go for it.

If I put the baby in the sling and zipped my coat up so it covered her body then carried a umbrella she should be dry

I've been walking 3 miles a day for the last two weeks doing exactly that. Don't dress the baby up too much, they get really hot - just a normal vest/babygro combo is fine.

Here's a good link on it: sheffieldslingsurgery.wordpress.com/2014/11/10/snowsuits-scarves-slings-and-safety/

Welcome back goats, hope you and Pippa are well

I don't think that's irresponsible tatty. I'm Impressed you're so determined to be on out In this weather. I'm going to relish watching by on the sofa!