October 2014 // thread 2 // keeping each other company through the night feeds!

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Hi all, welcome to thread 2!

rudy regarding if you have a bottle just put some in the teat and let him suck on it (iyswim?)

My antibiotics have not been working for urine infection, got up to blood in my urine, so was rather freaked out and back at doctors asap, still in a lot of pain & dread going to toilet! Hoping this new anti biotic actually works ? Fingers crossed

regarding gripe water rudy i meant in last post

Ah good idea stigz. Fingers crossed that the new antibiotics do the trick asap

Rudy we've started using a dummy when she just won't settle and us obviously using my boob for comfort. Don't feel guilty, of it works then go with it IMO.
We're on outfit number 3- 1 got covered in vomit, 2 covered in poo down the leg. Have cracked out the next size nappies in case they were too small

And I think the bundlers are a great idea, might look into them.

Hey all I've been a bit of a lurker on this thread but thought I'd pop on and say hi :)

R is now three weeks and I think I may have broken him! he was doing really well and we were managing just one wake and straight back down I his Moses basket the last two nights he has fed three times and the only way I can get him back down is by putting him in with me. Although this is dc4 I'm not great with knowing when growth spurts are and things please someone tell me there is one at three weeks!

I've just done soft play with the three youngest it was interesting to say the least but we survived and the two youngest are asleep now.

We took the kids out for a pizza on Sunday our first meal out as a family of six, there was a lady on the next table watching us for most of the meal I just thought it was because r was so little but as she was leaving she came over and congratulated me on r and said I just wanted to say what a beautiful family you have and you are doing an amazing job well done.
I wanted to cry, she was so lovely could feel myself filling up I don't think anyone has ever said anything like that too me before!!

Hope everyone else is surviving :)

That's lovely pregnant . I would have cried in her face!

mumtobe , mine is doing the same most nights now. At first I panicked and set alarms to wake her but her pediatrician said to leave it. We're just lucky! We make up for it in the day by her hsving rarely let go of the milk machine for more than 20 mins!

I gave in yesterday and bought some new clothes terrible shame . Aside from the belly, my whole shape has changed and I don't want to spend the next few months in my maternity clothes or spend the next year looking sadly at old jeans. The kids at school already asked if I was pregnant again cheeky f**rs

and downstairs for homes under the hammer ha ha!! Love it.

Really tired today but can't be bothered to try and sleep as just knpw R will wake just as I get settled. So guess what I did? I ironed 10 shirts for my husband. What was I thinking?!

About to go pick up the sleepyhead from waitrose. I hope it's the miracle worker I want it to be!!

Today I feel like I've hit the wall. Had to get both DC to the hospital for 9am (what cruel soul gives a newborn a 9am appointment!!!) for Lil's hipscan, so as to get us all up, dressed and fed that meant setting an alarm for 7am. Between the 2 of them there were 3 poos just as we were about to leave so we were 5 minutes late.

Concentrating on Lil's appointment was tricky as the toddler wanted to play with the kids ward toys / do a runner / shove a Thomas tank engine book in my face with "read it peeeease Mummy"!

Then it was a walk across town to toddlers so Jonas could run off some steam with his pals. Then home to cook lunch and both kids wanted cuddled as I'm trying to knock the tops of boiled eggs. Word to the wise its impossible to eat boiled eggs whilst BF one kid and spoon feeding the other. I've just pushed the buggy and dragged the dog two minutes round the block to send him to sleep and I'm crashed on the couch.

There will be cbeebies for j when he wakes as otherwise tea won't happen. I really need some sleep for his sake as tired Mummy is so crabbit and he must be so bored. I've snapped at him too much today - must curb that. He's my first baby and means the world to me and is too young to understand why Mummy's so short with him.

Hipscan fine but docs concerned about Lil's jaundice so back on Thursday for a blood test. Wish the HV had done that yesterday!

Crikey yellow you must be running on empty by now!
Poor Dylan has had a fractious afternoon, I couldn't even settle him in his sling it gets into a vicious cycle. He has a brief comfort feed, falls asleep, I put him down, he wakes up after 20 minutes I'm with painful wind and I comfort him, and wind him. He then asks for another comfort feed and we start again.
That sounds pitiful compared to your day yellow!

yellow that sounds like my day yesterday. Tomorrow will be better

I have to get the four of them ready in the morning on my own and out the door for 8.15 it is killing me!! Dp does do breakfast while I quickly get ready but a morning showere is now a thing of the past for me I do it the night before in fact if I could get dressed and do make up the night before I would!

My life is now shit. Literally. Between the two youngest I've changed nine pooey nappies and I've also wiped two pooey bums. God the glamour!

Good Lord I take my hat off to those of you with other children. I'm struggling with one baby and getting self inflicted guilt trips from not having enough time for the cat! Although I bet your children don't attack your feet in their jealous rages x

yellow I've snapped at my ds1 a fair bit too. Mostly when I'm trying to get to somewhere on time and he's jumping about, flinging his pants and socks everywhere except putting them on, won't clean his teeth or wear the right shoes and the baby is howling! Worst is when he goes for a poo and takes AGES on the potty!
So it was pissing it with rain but had to go out to get the sleepyhead. Absolutely drenched!!!

Rudy
I feel your pain I have two very active kitties who hate being separated from us cue door scratching and knocking over things - mostly drinks !
However I feel nothing would be like all those mums with other children to look after! Seriously I think you are all super heroes!!

So yesterday O slept really well in his basket during the day. I had no plans and felt ok so didn't try to sleep. Today I have visitors at 7:30 and have a headache and typically he won't settle. It's as if they know....

me not to good a lot of the worse symptoms have gone but I now have panic attacks I almost caved yesterday and thought about taking medication but had a call from the Therapy people today and have a phone assessment tomorrow so I will see what they can do for me first.

I found looking after my first baby a million times harder than looking after four if that makes sense?

First time mums you have my total admiration the first time for me was definitely the hardest. Dp had taken the older ones to the park the other day and my mum was over, r was asleep in his basket and she said Oooh just think how easy it would be if you just had one I reminded her of the state I was in after having dc1 I was constantly worried and had no confidence in myself as a mum at first I felt crap because I couldn't breast feed and she said oh yes I remember I thought you were having a breakdown but didn't want to say at the time. Err cheers for that mum

Sorehead I swear they DO know somehow

Am feeling a bit less crap - have got David Attenborough on iPlayer for J so he can watch tigers and polar bears. Less guilty than sticking cartoons on.

And my half price rocket dog boots arrived! Good tip whilst transitioning from maternity to fat bastard to normal clothes - get some nice shoes!

And my sister rang to tell me her solicitor has just told her that her horrible ex husband has to pay her £15k for her lost pension rights, so she'll be able to buy a wee house! Am v chuffed.

Am tired but the day got much better

Pregnant I agree. J was so much harder than lil. First time is all new and terrifying.

I've found it really hard today, mainly because of the killer night last night which makes me tired and overwhelmed today but coming on here and reading the sympathetic messages from you all this morning and seeing that other people are finding it tough too is really reassuring. I'm so grateful for this group.

badger a killer night will turn even the most rational of us into wrecks I have just filled up at Ben and holly because no one wanted to ride the slug and he was left in the stable while all the snails got taken out for a ride. What the actual fuck is happening to me?!

Evening everyone, sorry to read so many are struggling today. This was my first day on my own and it's mostly gone ok (we didn't leave the house though and in honestly haven't achieved much compared to all of you).

It's almost 3weeks post birth and I am still experiencing quite a lot of pelvic girdle pain. I am seeing my HV tomorrow but just wondering if this is normal?

yellow- glad your day got better and glad all is ok with lil's hips. Hope your appointment tomorrow goes well.

The last hour has been a disaster- gone through three sleepsuits; first one because I hadn't put the lid on a bottle properly () and second because there was a fountain of wee when I changed his nappy. This has been accompanied by pretty much non- stop crying! Typically, it looks like next door has been off this week as her car is there which makes me feel under pressure to stop him crying

badger and everyone else who's had bad days/ nights- I'm so glad I started posting in here because when your baby is crying/ constantly feeding/ not settling it feels so lonely and like you're the only person experiencing it, and it's easy to start thinking everyone else's baby is textbook but having you ladies (and gentleman) makes it feel like we're all in it together! Hearing about people with two or more children gives me hope that it gets better

pregnant poor slug

I'm worried my £99 will not be well spent. Crying baby is sleepyhead is not what I paid for