July 2006 (2)...Wobbly heads!

[koshkaaaaarrrrrgggghhhhhhhh]

New thread girlys!

Hope everyone is ok.

Have put Jake to bed now, instead of at midnight, so i guess i'll be up early!!
Might go to bed now...

Was convinced that I was starving Emma today as her fussing while bf does seem to be related to poor milk supply. As an experiment I followed up one difficult bf with 2oz of formula which she happily guzzled with no fussing or back arching which confirmed my suspicions. However she has subsequently chucked the whole lot back up (and more) several times, resulting in three changes of clothes - grrrrrrrrr!

re halloween - lol Kayzed, pretending I wasn't in is what I did for years (Scrooge had nothing on me). Though what with trying to muffle the dog's barks and clearing up the eggs through the door it would have been less effort to buy a few bags of sweets to distribute to the little bleeders

Since we moved house I have tried to remember to get sweets as we know the neighbours' kids - so even my conscience was pricked - and they know we're in as the cars are in the drive !!

Up here (Scotland) it isn't Trick or treating, but is "Guising". The children have to say a poem or tell a joke to get something. We take ours round to all the neighbours, but usually forget to get something for the kids that come round

hi gals,
Re halloween- Am seriously not expecting any this year. Last year we gave all the trick or treaters a lolly and a christian leaflet. So they prob have us pinned as the mad bible bashers who live here. (am gonna stock up tho, just in case)

Great news about jamisam- I remember when i was pg, i didn't find this site until after the 12 weeks. And looking back on the thread on the people who had m'c made me feel so sad. I'm kinda glad i didn't join that early (does that make me selfish). I just get really upset with things like that.

Well, it's 5 days since Jasmine started here hydracortisone(sp) treatment for her excema. Which means I have to stop today (didnt like using it anyway). It has cleared it up a lot but not altogether, so am slightly concerned that it may reappear. Will have to investigate a new treatment (hopefully natural I think).

HC- You must be soo proud of your dd's, they are beautiful.

Kz- Congrats on the new tooth, re Roshi's weight. Honestly you should have seen dd2 when she was little. She was almost completly round, we used to call her the butter ball. I got her weighed last month (she was 3 in august). And she is actually now below average her weight, she is small and compact. Although strangely enough, still looks a little chubby. I think it,s because she is quite short (more short than she is underweight). Does that make sense, anyway she is not quite in proportion.

What I am trying to get at, is that (IMO) her weight will sort itself out, not to worry about it.

Right now after another mammoth post I am gonna get me some brekki. Bye!

pinkdolly - that's an interesting take on dealing with Trick or Treaters My mum would never let us do anything for Halloween as she doesn't like the pagan associations, also the American/commercialness of it all. We always did something on Bonfire Night, huge bonfire in the back garden with a guy, my dad nearly setting himself alight setting off rockets, us kids leaping around like mad things with sparklers (I still love sparklers!). The past couple of years DH and I have had a little fireworks party for friends and usually almost burn the shed down with a catherine wheel. And last year Bonfire Night was the night that our babe was made, makes me feel all broody again!

Morning ladies

Just back from my childminding toddler group and girls both asleep so taking 10 mins to gulp my lunch down in peace before they want theirs lol.

Eilidh found her thumb over the weekend(hurrah)so can settle herself now and again instead of me having to do it.

Dd1 has been awful recently with demands and tantrums but over the last few days has calmed down and behaving much better thankfully.

Re Halloween,up in Scotland it's called guising.I live in a street where adults put out a decoration or light a pumpkin if they want guisers so mine have always gone guising.
Dd1 has an outfit and will answer the door and give out goody bags to all the local kids.They don't get anything unless they do a party peice tho and i don't entertain teenagers.I give nuts,fruit and sweets but not money.

Better go and get organised for girls waking up.

Got someone coming about cleaning today so better tidy up a little,dp decided we should have one as he has spent most of his days off cleaning recently.The shame lol

take care xx

Oh and meant to say HC your little girls are absolutely beautiful.

I love looking at everyones pics of their lo's.We have fabby kids don't we?

hey everone hope your ok.

dont really have anything to say. just wanted to say hi. jake is ok i think hes not dead so i guess he is. he used to be an angel baby now hes a little shit.

neber mind its the least i deserve. bye

bad mummy alert- DD drinks a cup of tea about once a day! she wants tea and toast while watching tv. I make sure its always mostly milk and water certaintly no sugar actually it looks pretty gross as its just milky water. But I guess its better than fizzy drinks or juice which rots the teeth.

im thinking that maybe ds is teething. He is chewing his hands and mine constantly and really biting down, he is also biting my nipple which is pleasant [not]

I made the decision yesterday that I will feed from the not sore side only and start to reduce bf and replace with formula a feed a week, however this morning i just cant do it and ive changed my mind again. Why is it so difficult to decide?

Anyone else lo waking at 5am and not settling back to sleep? the only way I can get ds to sleep after his 5am feed is to bring him into bed so I can cuddle him.

Koshka big hugs for you. I hope things settle down soon for you and you start to feel better with everything.
were all here for you.

Kosh - sweetheart - seriously concerned by the tone of your last post. You sound about as low as it's possible to get. Have you got your mum/friends/anyone else around to talk to and help you?? I presume you were offered counselling after recent events, and I strongly urge you to take up any offers of support.

We are all hear if you want to talk, and express how you are feeling, keep your chin up honey, big hugs and kisses.

Bloss

xx

Hi all,

We are going to a Halloween party at my friends house. In previous years we have just gone to the houses in our close as there are children in most of the houses here and they are all friends so we just get in some little goodies for them.

kbaby- I feel exactly the same as you do. I keep on saying the same thing, then when it comes to it I change my mind. What doesn't help is that I am the only person I know that has BF and everyone around me keeps telling me that I should put Abbey on a bottle. My MIL especially keeps trying to convince me that I need to give her water and formula "to help fill her up"!

Sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant then.

Koshka doll, you sound soo unhappy. I hope you are able to talk to somebody, or maybe just come on here and tell us what's pissing you off. I'm sending you massive {{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}.

Love

Jeanie

xxx

hi all

Yes, Wallace, I am indeed Nixnoo

Koshka, agree with previous post, accept any help offered... remember those lovelies that offered to visit you on the other post? Take them up on it! Look after yourself.

Pinkdolly, DS also has baby excema (doctor sais 1 in 5 babies have it!) and we have used the hydracortisone too. Aveeno cream (as recommended by MN) is brilliantn for keeping skin moisturised and preventing excema. I have got it on the NHS.

Just got back from a meeting - and now have some contract work for 2 days a week for a few weeks...need the money so am glad, but it will be a challenge juggling that and baby etc... still mostly bf.

My firend gave me a box of chocolates and I have just systematically eaten the whole thing - feel sick now

x

re: halloween: we give sweets but not money...
the little ones dressed up are so cute!
We went to a baby halloween party yesterday!
Will have to post a pic of Sefton in his bear costume!

x

koshka - hope you know we're here if you want to talk, and please make sure you get RL help if you need it too {{hugs}}.

kbaby - think the thing with bf is it's so emotionally charged. When I was stuggling to get feeding established and Dom ended up going into hosp because he'd lost too much weight I felt so guilty, that I'd been starving my baby etc. It's going so much better now, but sometimes (usually at 3am) when I can't get him to latch properly because both of us are tired it can make me doubt myself. I'm lucky in that my mum is really supportive, she fed me and my brothers until 6-9mths so knows how it goes sometimes.

Hello all

I'm not sure about Halloween around here because we only moved here in the Spring, but have got some sweets in just in case.

Kosh- you really need to ask someone for some help, there is plenty out there you just have to give yourself a push and ask for it. Not easy I know when you are feeling so low. {{{hugs}}}

We have been having great fun experimenting with a doidy cup- very messy!! But at least Zack doesn't shout the place down like he does with a bottle. Doesn't quite take enough for me to be able to leave him but it's looking hopeful.

I'm possibly going back to work in January, not sure yet, my boss is great I don't have to give her any notice either way. If Zack is still sleeping terribly I really don't think I could manage it even if I wanted to.

Zack is now 15 weeks and goes to bed around 9pm and wakes at 11.30pm, 1.30 am, 3.30am, 5.30am sometimes goes back to bed for an hour after this feed sometimes not
The monkey tends to feed 3 hourly during the day but won't shift from 2 hourly at night. Have tried upping his feeds during the day but he isn't interested.

I have the HV coming tomorrow because I hit an all time low at the weekend I was just sooooo tired I completely broke down into a sobbing mess.
So for the first time in my life I've actually admitted I can't do it alone and have asked for help. I hate admitting defeat but I really need to get more sleep, not sure she will be able to help at all but at least I will have stopped pretending everything is ok! DP has been fantastic, I don't know what I'd do without him.

Its a very gloomy afternoon here, I'm glad we went for a walk this morning!

Evening all

kosh-please, for yours and Jake's well being, ask your HV for some help. Please phone her up. ((xx))

My sympathy and hugs to those of you struggling. Being tired is so hard. DD1 woke every 2 hours for a feed so changed to hungrier baby food (SMA) then weaned her at 17 weeks all against the advice of my HV. Worked a treat.

Am going to start weaning on Sunday so will see what happens.

Have been Christmas shopping today-was quite busy so kept running everyone over with the pram

Sophie full of cold again so am dosing her up with Calpol.

DH wants me to work for him by helping his sister with the invoices. Don't know what to do-don't intend to work until May but he won't be able to pay me what the Bank pays but will the Bank agree to 8 hours a week?????????? Will worry about it later, problem is later will soon be here.

Sophie laid asleep attached to my boob-bless.

Will catch up tomorrow-off to try and download Lost series 3 episodes 1-4.

Night all

xxx

Hi KZ, I'm not sure what Zack weighs at the moment, 3 weeks ago at 12 wks he was 11lb 11ozs. He will be weighed tomorrow and I'm really hoping he has put quite a bit on. The last few times he has been weighed it has been a very slow gain. I think if he could get to a decent weight it would help alot as it is he's a dot!

We have tried numerous bottles 3-4 times a week since he was 3 weeks old apart from a 2 week gap and he has taken 2-4 ozs on 3 occasions.
It doesn't matter if it is EBM or formula, it seems to be the actual experience of the teat in the mouth, he reacts the same to a dummy. He has been taking formula from the doidy so the milk isn't the problem.

Thank you for the offer of the haberman it's very kind of you, I'm very tempted to take you up on it if you are absolutely sure you won't be needing it? If so let me know how much and postage etc..
We have just bought some nipple shields, I tried them last night and he did feed for 5 mins then wouldn't go back on until I took it off. Although he was tired so perhaps it was too much effort for the first attempt?
I don't really want to stop b/f completely I would just like to be able to share the night feeding and be able to go shopping alone.

Will post tomorrow and let you know what the HV has said, you never know she may be able to suggest something to help you too kbaby.

Ooh HC- have been meaning to mention Lost, DP got those episodes form work (SShhhhhh!) I won't give anything away but they are gooooood!
I might be able to get copies and send them to anyone who can't wait! Let me know.

evening all,

well i seem to be getting somewhere with junior during the night!! he has for the last 3 night s gone down at around 8-8.30 and wakes once around 3 and sleeps throught till 7.30! yipee!!

well this morning i woke up to him making noise, what do i see, his sister sitting on top!!! but the thing is he loves it!! he laughs so much and i dont know whether to stop her or let her continue because its such a funny sight!!

my dd is such a funny girl, she throws a tantrum if i dont put her to bed at night!! her bedtime is 8 and today she had 10 mins before bed so i thought she could spend time with daddy. but she wants her bed and was on the floor crying to go bed!!

koshka hun, please speak to someone in rl, if you are struggling, dont be afraid to ask for support!! especially with everything you've had to go through in such a small space of time, you can do with as many friendly shoulders to cry on!
we're all here for you! {{{{hugs}}}

Morning all - seen your other thread usandbump, you must be knackered, hope the hv is helpful and that you get some sleep soon.

Dom had his second lot of jabs yesterday, he was grinning at the nurse before she did them (not afterward tho!) and she started talking to him in that irritating babytalk voice e.g. 'dis is de meninigitus jab' etc. I'm allowed to talk gibberish to my little boogaloo but no one else .