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December 2012 - 2nd birthday party chat? Already?!

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PurplePidjin · 20/09/2014 20:45

Here we are Brew

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Stacks · 07/10/2014 19:49

I seem to have missed quite a few posts yesterday when I was posting. Sorry.
Glad you got the guy spotty. How are DS and DD now? Hope the crying has stopped snd your evening started.
So glad I don't have to worry about public transport and commutes. I'm a SAHM (who today really wished I ) and DH cycles to/from work. I've no idea who that guy is, but sounds like a pleasant way to pass the time.
DH has decided just one present for Christmas and one for birthday for DS. So he's got a duplo digger set and will be getting a wooden train set from ikea. I'd love to get him a kitchen, but he doesn't actually play with them much at playgroup. I think I just like the idea of them.
No idea what to get DD. With DS having Christmas and birthday together I didn't need to think of a present for a baby. They don't really want anything, or need much, so what do you do?

Stacks · 07/10/2014 19:55

Lack of sleep has made that post almost unreadable.

I wished I wasnt a SAHM today. DS had too short a nap and was miserable.

Should have said I was talking to beasty about commutes. Though tbh it's all just a bunch of drivel isn't it? Would be nice to have something intelligent or interesting to say, ever.

Feeling depressed and fed up today. Not had more than 90 mins sleep in one go for over a week now, DS has been teething and grumpy, and DH is too busy tidying and doing the washing up to talk to me. He just wants to do his chores then play computer games with friends online. I'll be going to bed with DD in a minute. Same as I have every night for months. No evening time off for me, just a different sort of childcare.

Barbeasty · 07/10/2014 20:42

Stacks Thanks the sleep sounds a nightmare. He's a chidren's author who was children's laureate a while ago and is on the radio a lot. He wrote We're All Going on a Bear Hunt.

And don't underestimate yourself because you're tired! It's a difficult time with 2. It does get easier..... I think!!

I've forgotten how old your DD is. Are there any baby toys you think you didn't get for DS that might be good for DD? Or something she can grow into? Or even practical stuff like fancy weaning bits?

Personally I think once the older siblings are old enough to notice Christmas it's worth getting the younger sibling something just to keep the magic going. But i might be slightly or according to DH very overenthusiastic about Christmas...

WLmum · 07/10/2014 20:43

beasty I fear I might have gushed all over him!

stacks that sounds super tough. Can DH give a bottle or anything? Have you told him that you're at the end. I remember having it taking a real meltdown for DH to realise I was absolutely on my knees when T was little. Treat yourself to a glass of wine in the bath? Remember it will pass and you must just do whatever you need to to get through this tough bit. Thanks

halestone · 07/10/2014 21:03

Stacks, i think your doing an amazing job, i have absolutely no idea how you all cope with more than 1 DC. I struggle with H. Is it an option that when your DH gets home you can leave the DC with him for a while and go for a walk or read a book on a bench somewhere.

Also for H's 1st christmas we got practical presents for her, like clothing and cutlery etc. The only thing we did get that was a toy was the red/yellow cars i have no idea what there called though. Her favourite present was a huge teddy off my nan though.

This christmas H is getting a doll/accesories and for her birthday the desk and nightlight. I will probably buy clothing as well. We have asked my close family to buy a toy for either her birthday or christmas. And then clothes for whichever one she isn't getting a toy for.

Spotty, hope your all feeling better.

Beasty that sounds like a lovely journey home.

Me and DP have had a new bed delivered today, its kingsize Grin So no fighting for room when H ends up in our bed anymore. I cannot wait to go to bed later.

MrsNutella · 07/10/2014 21:41

Stacks can you get a half an hour break and go for a walk? I went out a couple of weeks back for a break after a long hard day, it was fantastic. I told my therapist about it and she said it sounded like a really good thing and can I go out every night.
I try to. Sometimes the timing doesn't work. But DH also tells me to go for a walkSmile as long as DD is fed I know there isn't much more I can do for her and it doesn't matter if she spends an hour screaming at me or DH. (She is still a bit screamy most evenings).

DH knows he can ring me if he needs me and I'll come back. But that time on my own, outside the house to just walk, think or do whatever is fantastic. I usually don't think about home stuff at all. I think about what bothers me or what makes me happy, take a few deep breaths, try and get my shoulders to relax and just walk.

spotty I hope your day improved and you're having a bit of a rest this evening.

MrsNutella · 07/10/2014 21:43

beasty I met Michael Rosen and saw him perform when I was a kid. I love his stuff and he is such a lovely man. I remember him doing some of his silly poems with my dad too. I would have been thrilled to have met him on a train Smile

SpottyTeacakes · 08/10/2014 05:54

Stacks that sounds really difficult, hope things improve soon.

Ds and dd aren't getting loads for Christmas and nothing big just some puzzles, new place mat each etc

I still feel rubbish. Ds was up at 5:15 and I think my glands are up as my jaw really hurts!

SpottyTeacakes · 08/10/2014 05:54

Hope you enjoyed your new bed hales!

utopian99 · 08/10/2014 06:59

Just typed a huge post and phone ate it. Angry

FrazzledFandango · 08/10/2014 07:42

Stacks I second everyone else. You're doing great, but maybe you need to make DP step up for a while.

I'm proper knackered and DS is doing the milkshake Thomas the tank engine dancing jumping up and down on the bed next to me. He's doing that annoying shriek they do just to hear the sound of their own voice.

halestone · 08/10/2014 10:57

Frazzled i know the exact screach your on aboutSad

Spotty get better soon.

My new bed was lovely unfortunately i didn't get to sleep in it alone as H was very unsettled last night so only slept when she was with me. Luckily i could push her towards the other side so i had plenty of room to spread outGrin

WLmum · 08/10/2014 19:08

Great that it's big enough to push her far away enough to give you a bit of space though!
Classic example of mil killing me through kindness - me: I know the nappy bucket is full, just leave it I'll sort it later.
Mil: (text to work) what temp for nappy wash?
Me: don't worry, I'll sort it later (purposely not answering q)
(Get home) mil: I've washed the nappies but don't know if I've done it right!

Me: sigh! (Puts nappies back in machine on correct wash!)

WLmum · 08/10/2014 19:12

T had just spilt chocolate milk in my work shoes!

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PurplePidjin · 08/10/2014 19:32

wl what wash did she use? can't you just run a couple of extra rinses? i do 60 with prewash but if dp does a different one it's no big deal (although he uses the right amount of powder so no wrecking of nappies or conditioner issues!)

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SpottyTeacakes · 08/10/2014 19:50

Oh no WL bad day!

I feel really rubbish! Why are colds always worse at night?

I tried giving ds some nappy free time earlier but he just wanted a nappy on Confused I wonder if it's because he still had his top on and didn't feel right.

MrsNutella · 08/10/2014 21:06

Spotty I know what you mean about feeling worse in the evenings! It's almost as if you feel worse because you have a chance to think about it.

Wl arghhhh my mum has done that. But this week she has visited and been an absolute star and filled the freezer! Smile Sorry but the milk in your work shoes did make me smile. DS is terrible for wiping dirty hands/face on things. DH has found various toys and things in his shoes in the mornings.

WLmum · 08/10/2014 21:09

I've just had my hair cut really short!

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PurplePidjin · 08/10/2014 21:16

pics or it didn't happen! Wink

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SpottyTeacakes · 08/10/2014 21:23

Ds has a bad cough and cold and has just vommed everywhere. He got into a right state, so what does dp do? Gives him a biscuit?! Luckily ds had the sense, after one bite, to not eat it. Anyway I feel crap and just want to go to bed but ds is still up!

WLmum · 08/10/2014 21:41

Ok pidj they're on fb. What d'ya think?
It's not the re washing of the nappies that bothers me it's the ignoring of my wishes (albeit through kindness).
spotty poor you and poor ds. He must have mucus in his belly - hope he feels a but better now some of it is out. You must take 2 night nurse tablets and retreat to bed - leave dp to tidy up etc. being ill but still having to look after dc is the pits. Hope you feel better soon.

SpottyTeacakes · 08/10/2014 21:45

Thanks I'm in bed now as is ds. He has such a sensitive gag reflex too, it seems. I feel a bit queasy now hoping it's all in my head. Your hair looks amazing I really like it Smile

WLmum · 08/10/2014 21:57

Thank you Smile
I feel his pain - I used to vom everytime I brushed my teeth - had to swap to a non foaming paste. I think dd2 is the same, and she gets quite panicky when she coughs.
Sleep tight.

halestone · 09/10/2014 00:39

WL i love your hair cut.

Spotty hope your all better soon amd that you sleep well. Have a hot toddy the way my nan makes them she puts whisky and honey in a cup then adds hot water and a lemsip. It knocks me out for the night.

SpottyTeacakes · 09/10/2014 06:06

Well ds woke just after four but settled quickly. I haven't been back to sleep and he was up again at 5. Luckily I have nothing planned this morning so once dd is on the bus I'm going to put ds to bed and go back to bed myself.