December 2012 - 2nd birthday party chat? Already?!

[PurplePidjin]

Here we are

Well done little pidj
hales I've had a rotten cold so haven't been for a run for a week - that's usually my time out.

wl I hope your mum is ok. And a nice strong for you. I'm wishing away the newborn phase and looking forward to some days that feel somehow smoother

If anyone has any tips about how you relax and give yourself up to the newborn phase and stop wishing you can do something else, please let me know

and is in place for later, will share!

Nutella repeat after me: This Too Shall Pass and make dh do all the cleaning

Poor you WL. The clinginess and the your body not being your own is hard enough with one never mind with three at you all the time. I hope your mum is okay too.

DS got up stupidly early today, I've already endured soft play this morning. We went early and left when the older feral kids came in for parties.

I had to get McDonalds on the way home and DS went to sleep.

We have more teeth! DS has only had 6 for ages, then last week he got a 7th tooth bottom front. This morning DH notic he's got the start of two upper molars too. He's so excited, DH can't wait for DS to have more teeth. He thinks this will mean DS will start eating steak with him :)
Hoping the teeth are the reason for the stroppy boy and difficult nap and bed times. He's taking ages to settle and wants us to keep sitting and talking to him. He's so demanding just now, finding the amount of attention he needs very difficult. He wants me all the time, even while playing happily with daddy.
As for shouting, I'm guilty of that too occasionally. DS now seems to sense me getting frustrated and shouts "Mummy said no" at me. It's awful seeing my behaviour mirrored back at me.
He was very cute last night though, chasing a ping pong ball around the living room, playing a form of golf with my feather duster as a club, saying "come here ping pong ball... oh, where ping pong ball go..." Over and over :)

stacks that sounds so cute! Great vocab too.
nutella I think the key is acceptance. You have to accept certain things about each stage that you can't change, but know that they won't last forever. I'm normally quite good at that but recently lost the flow. I need to get back to a more 'mindful' way of thinking. DH is out this aft/eve so I'm going to eat with the dds and then do a quiet spot of sewing as an antidote to the crazy. Dm seems better this am but does finally seem to be taking things a bit more seriously (after a YEAR) of pain. She says she will even discuss the option of a private assessment (paid for by my wealthy db).

Hope things settle down soon WL and that your mum is ok.

Non talking ds has come along in the past few days including 'one more' really clearly

WL everything crossed for your Mum.
And you're right about being mindful and accepting. I think knowing it will pass, like Pidj says (repeat the mantra, repeat the mantra) and how fast it goes does help.
My therapist lady is awesome and helps me sort through why I think the way I do. But it doesn't really stop me thinking the way I do, but then if I had cracked that I wouldn't still be going to see her

I'm not sure that makes much sense but anyway, I am much happier now than I have been for a long time.

Oh and pidj if you don't put your child into any kind of daycare (from age 1-3) then you get a little extra money from the government. I have finally talked DH into spending that money on a cleaner. She comes and vacuumes, mops and cleans the bathroom once a week it is fabulous!!

I love the random things the Germans do to support parents!

I have always found the time I get when DH takes the DC to church invaluable. Only an hour or 2, but guaranteed and makes such a difference!

A hasn't had the inhaler at all yesterday or today.

We had a lovely walk in the woods this afternoon. A was mostly in the sling, but we got him down near the end. We thought he'd hurt his foot, because he seemed to be going down on it. Actually he had been watching DD collecting pine cones and wanted to pick up every single one he saw!

That all sounds pretty positive to me nutella. If it works, don't knock it.
I've had a lovely with the dds today. I let them watch the first hour if strictly for the first time ever - they loved it and got all hyper active and we all did some dodgy dancing.

nut

Stacks i hope his teeth come through quickly for you.

Nutella I think your doing amazing, it cannot be easy raising 2 children.

Beasty i was laughing away at the story of A climbing out of his high chair.

Pidj i hope your heads ok.

I've stopped drinking really since i've had H, apart from the rare night out i've had none. The other night DP who rarely drinks at home brought some strongbow, i had 2 drinks and was sooo drunk. I am now apparently a lighweight.

3 halves of strongbow hasn't done too much damage, the band are one I took away with me in the summer so no letting down of hair

I never have been much of a drinker, 3 pub glasses of wine over the course of several hours used to have me nicely tiddly but still able to get myself home (walk or train) these days I can't be arsed with it - when I say I'm having a glass of wine I mean one glass and a small one of that we regularly have a week-old half-drunk bottle in the fridge, when we even have some in there!

Cider is ace for me, it's self-limiting - by the time I've had 2 pints I'm spending so much time weeing I can't drink fast enough to get any drunker

I rarely drink either. I've never been one for drinking at home and never go out. When I do though....!

:o

A screamed all through his swimming lesson, and clung to my costume. He's good though and perfectly capable of each exercise- just doesn't want to do them. He's definitely going through a phase of wanting to be in control.

Nursery say his favourite words are no and mine! I think we need to work on him....

Oh Beasty you have no idea how happy your post has made me. I have really been struggling this week, many planned days out have been refused by a certain little girl refusing to get dressed. We have tried all sorts, i know i shouldn't but this thread really makes me realise i'm not alone. And i'm chuft that you've wrote its about A trying to get control as that hadn't entered my head but is the perfect description of what H has been doing.

I use to be able to drink quite well now is a completely different story.

Hales he's like his sister, so we've been through it before!! (and actually the way you describe H sounds like DD used to be).

The swimming is stuff he can do. And if he initiates it, fine. If I make him do it...... block your ears!

Ah yes, we have a lot of control stuff going on here too.
Conscious decision to skip a nap altogether today. Was absolutely fine and still happy and lively at bedtime. I guess we'll see how it goes but I expect a bit of back and forth over the next few weeks.

It is absolutely not funny apparently to laugh at a 1 year old who is crying and has the biggest bottom lip sticking out. I have just been told off by H for doing it. 'not funny mummy, i crying'. Followed by me laughing anymore to be told 'no laughing i crying mummy' I had to hide my face. Luckily she went back off to sleep.

random 20 minute screamathon. no idea where it came from and not solved by multiple nappy changes, drink, calpol or indeed cuddles

We had an awful bedtime again despite the fact that the monkey was exhausted. Truely on his knees. He'd had a 1 hour nap after swimming but he'd had a long fun-filled day and needed it.

The thread about whether or not mumsnetters' 1 year olds stopped their bottles immediately really made me feel better! J is still having one at bedtime (if not 2) and 1 at 3 or 4 or 5am to get him back to sleep. This seemed to be completely normal.

Frazzled i havn't seen that thread but i also still give H bottles. She drinks loads.

I had to take H to get some blood taken this morning. Wow i do not want to do that ever again, she sobbed and sobbed in my arms.

Pidj could it have been a nightmare that unsettled him?