December 2012 - 2nd birthday party chat? Already?!

[PurplePidjin]

Here we are

Oh hales have you been having problems?

loads of little problems which i thought were just teething problems of moving in together and us learning to deal with H as a couple. Which has obviously changed from me making the majority of decisions to having to share that role.

He came back there was more arguing and then eventually tears from us both. We don't want to split up but i'm not sure how much more of the mini arguments i can take. Monday was amazing but that was a rare one off.

I had hoped we were on our way to sorting things out but hes just annoyed me as he shouted at H. Its bit like a normal shout he sounds like a fog horn and i've lost count of the amount of times i've told him not to shout at either of us like that.

Oh no hales that sounds tough. I hate shouting at the dc but do apologise to them will he accept he's wrong or does he not see a problem?

Ds keeps trying to get me to change his nappy every time he has a wee. I can't afford to though

Sometimes he apologises sometimes he says its just me being bothered as i don't like noise, which could be true but its honestly so loud that i hate him when he does it.

Spotty could he be ready for potty training?

I reckon he knows he's in the wrong but I suppose it's whether he's willing to change or not.

Not sure he doesn't talk and only tells me afterwards

We've just talked again and hes admitted he knows he shouldn't shout like that hopefully he'll try amd stop now.

Could another brand of nappy help DS then spotty?

I don't think so he's never that wet.

Well that's something hopefully he can work on it. Toddlercalm is an excellent book apparently.

no advice but definitely no judgement either just here to listen

spotty when i get on the laptop I'll link you sonera preloved cloth Nappy groups. i've got some we're not using you can have cheap - they're not flash or pretty but they work and Will save you tons even if you only use them when he's awake?

Thanks pidj. Not sure I can go to cloth when we are so close to the end of nappies tbh.

I've got kidney pain hoping I've not got an infection

When I occasionally use nappies, Sainsburys Basics work ok - they work out about 7p per nappy. As even my expensive branded cloth ones work out about 4p per wear (over 2.5 years, and including washing) I find disposables ridiculously expensive - someone recently told me Pampers are 24p each?! Most of my stash was preloved, or passed on by friends who couldn't be bothered to sell on etc so I'm totally out of touch with how other parents do things haven't been down the baby aisle of the supermarket in months

Occasionally use nappies? You can tell I'm tired! Occasionally use disposable nappies i get through about five or six nappies a day on Mr I Need Changing NOOOOOOOOOW

I use pampers simply dry think they're about 14p each.

24p did sound like a lot! I think most people bulk buy, so the price on a pack of 20ish isn't what most people would pay unles they're out and can only get to the corner shop iyswim

My mum's just linked me to this website www.maisonsdumonde.com/UK/en/statictemplate/junior-garcon.htm there's some gorgeous stuff!

Hope you're okay Hales, its really hard when you've both said things in the heat of the moment.

I hope he can reign in the shouting. I know they're frustrating sometimes but they're still so little.

I did have to throw myself off the bed onto the floor yesterday to stop me instinctively lashing out at J. He scratched my eyeball again really badly and it was a fight or flight reaction. Obviously I didn't want to fight!

hales poor you. I hope you can work through this tough patch.
spotty that's exactly what dd1 was like when she was ready to potty train at just this - she would say 'change you'! Bless her, it took her years to master me/you!

As an antidote to the last few posts from me, I wanted to say I had a wonderful day off with Jamie today.

We had some ups and downs but when he's nice he's just so adorable that I could eat him!

Dd got the bus today! They have booster seats for them and she liked it ds was upset he couldn't get on too...

Glad it was sorted Spotty. A tried to sit on the carpet with the other children the other morning. Had to be dragged away.

Hales good luck sorting things out.
Does your DP think that you find his shouting so bad because of your PHD, when you found noise hard? Maybe someone else telling him would make him take a bit more notice.

Awww Spotty and Beasty that sounds so cute.

He probably does think its down to that, he doesn't really do it in front of other people though so they wouldn't be able to say anything. Yesterday was just a really rubbish day. Today has been better.

Hope everyone is fast asleep, H is still refusing sleep. Dp has just tried to take over so FX she goes to sleep for him.

Ouch Hales. Don't underestimate the effect that lack of sleep can have on the way you both react to things too!!

DH left A in his highchair, in the kitchen this morning, while he went to give DD something. A climbed out, climbed over onto the kitchen side (a good half metre away), got himself a banana, climbed back into the highchair, peeled the banana and was munching away when DH got back. He truely is a monkey!!

And DD has been doing rhyming at school, so keeps changing the first letter of words and being silly. She'd dressed as a witch this morning and her hat fell off, so we had a line from room on the Broom with 1 little letter changed. .... " Down cried the bitch"!!!Had to explain it isn't always a good idea to make up words (but I said down flew the bitch mummy) and that one would get her into trouble.

Hales sorry you're having problems. I shout at DS and I hate it. I'm actively trying to say to myself "why am I shouting? Is it really going to help?" and learn to shout less. It is working, I think.
But I'm trying to get DH to think the same. And I totally agree with Beasty a lack of sleep makes everything harder! I hope you and DP can talk and that you feel get the feeling it has helped.

DD seems to be getting over her cold slowly, hurrah! And DS is starting to sneeze out the yellow goo so I'm hoping he is on the way to recovering too.

Hilarious beasty def one for the files!
hales I'm glad today was a better day.
I just shouted before bedtime. I'm so sick of coming home to a utter chaos - I know I'm super lucky that our dps provide free childcare but they don't ever get the dds to tidy up at all and when I get home T always wants boobs and the other 2 are at me so I'm overwhelmed. The mess is even worse on a thurs or fri as mil brings dn over too. It's not really anyone's fault and I just need to wait it out but that combined with T pissing on the carpet before her bath then having a bath/bed meltdown and dd2 having a good cry about who knows what ALL THE TIME right now just pushed me over the edge. It's an awful thing to say but I'm finding home and dds really hard just now and I dread coming home sometimes. (It's fine on the days I'm at home except the frustration of not being able to get anything done). Sorry for the mega whinge. I've poured the wine now so will feel better in a minute!

And I'm actually really worried that my mum might be seriously ill. She's had cancer twice before and I can't help but wonder if it's back. She's really bad at going to the dr and pushing but has agreed to go on Monday.

and all round, I'll do tomorrow as I missed Lidl today sorry!

R did a wee on the toilet this morning then proudly marched off shouting "Daddy I did wee" :o First proper sentence!

WL but more importantly . It sounds like you need a little time to yourself easier said than done i know. Could you go on a girls night whilst your DH looks after the girls. I've found recently that going for a walk on the beach with my whole family helps. It blows the cob webs away. Would that be an option for you? I really hope your mum is ok also.