sept 2014: babies are here (or coming soon!)

[allisgood1]

Even though dc3 is end of August, thought I'd start a sept thread :-)

How are you all doing?

dS1 is 9 dats old. Feeding well and surely sleeping well but it's hard to know as I keep falling asleep at night feeding him!

Hi everyone, just marking my place here as opposed to on the antenatal thread.

DD is now 13 days old and DH has just gone back to work today. Feeling pretty crappy about it - how the hell do people feed themselves/have showers, etc. - and bf isn't helping. DD is doing really well in terms of weight gain but it's just so much harder than I thought it would be, and I'd mentally prepared myself for it to be awful. Kitkat I'm with you - no idea how people managed in the old days?!

She was really trying to feed, but just couldn't get started, so she was getting hungry and upset and I was getting fuller, making it more difficult to feed. A real vicious circle!

I had this. I found that expressing a little and giving it to DS THEN putting him on the breast worked wonders as it solved the issues of him getting hungry and upset and me getting too full, plus it made milk easier for him to get (he's one lazy baby!). It helped him to learn how to feed, so its all round easier and he doesn't get frustrated.

how the hell do people feed themselves/have showers, etc.

Quickly!!!

Also first day with DH back at work today. Baby has been awake since 8 and still going. I use a bouncy chair so I can get showered, breakfast etc. He's happy to just sit and watch the world go by. HV has just been, he's put on 11oz in 5 days , that'll be the result of getting woken every 90 minutes to feed then. Shattered! And he's not latching properly so my nipples are bloody agony painful

First day with DH at work here to. We are still in bed. DS was awake from 8-10.30 but just grizzles/grunts in his sleep. So much for 'sleep when the baby sleeps'. If one more
person says that to me I will go into meltdown. I managed to get up to grab cereal and juice but that's all I've achieved so far. DH assures me he is not expecting much today. Survival is the main point. Thank god!

Those who are struggling once you've bith settled it does get easier.
Baby is 6weeks on sunday and im now managing 3dc, school run, dh dinner and cleaning.
My routine is: feed baby, feed ds2, hubbt makes ds1 feed for his pump hes tube fed.Then bath bath baby and feed some more. Swaddle and put him down. Feed ds2breakfast. Wash n change ds2. Have quick tidy up then cereal. This is when o get most work done. Main priority is bottle's, kitchen, living room and bedroom. Turnds1 pump off give meds and get him ready for school washed and dressed. Feed baby again then ds2 needs dinner.
take ds1 school (hes afternoons) come home mmake dh dinner and mine. All that up until 2pm.
do you want me to continue lol.
this is why I hardly mn now.

I wonder how donteven is with 4??

Anyone heard from blossom?

The point about how our ancestors survived when BFing is so difficult, sadly it's probably one of the many simple reasons child mortality rates used to be so high, and why we're fortunate nowadays to have BFing support and formula.

Everyone worrying about managing with their DHs at work it does get easier. In the early days with DS DH would make me a sandwich for lunch when he made his packed lunch in the morning and leave it in the fridge for me. the slow cooker was also a lifesaver, one of us would chop up meat and veg in the evening and put in the fridge, then I just had to add a stock cube and water and turn it on, then dinner was ready when DH came home.

ilove I have 4 too, tbh I've found the more you have the easier it gets, it's certainly easier than making the adjustment from none or one because just sitting around in PJs simply isn't an option.

Agree with ilove. Once you have a routine it's so much easier. We are on our second week and this is how it goes: dd1 taken to school with DH, wake up when dd2 does (8:30-9:30), get her bfast, feed on and off all morning, put DS down sometime between 1-2, do laundry, dishwasher, tidying, play with dd2. Stick DS in sling and do school run, park, home. DH does dinner while I feed all evening. DS does one big sleep (4-5hrs) in the afternoon so that's really my only time to get anything done. Feeds all eve then goes down anywhere between 9-11 for 4-6 hours (last night 8 but am sure that's because he didn't have his big nap).
I also ignore my phone unless DS is feeding or down. This means I am focused on him/kids and not glued to my phone all the time.

Whoever asked about poo stains: napisan. Soak in it then add to the wash. Miracle stuff.

I'm feeling a bit better. Still not right but way better than yesterday and things looking less bleak today.

Hello ladies, is it too late to join you all? I tried to join the antinatal thread but I instantly fell off it again as I couldn't keep up! But I'm finding myself with a lot more internet time now I'm on maternity and I don't no any mums so could do with the company! DS was due 30th august but eventually born after inducton and ventouse on the 14th September, DP went back to work the next day and I failed misrably at breast feeding so iv had quite a loanly/guilty feeling week but so lovely at the same time finally having DS here

Welcome Alb1! The antenatal thread did move really quickly - so many of us bored and fed up sitting on MN!

Baby Molly is a week old today - can't believe it! DP went back in to work just for a few hours today and he's working from home for the rest of the week so I get some company for a few more days which is good as still recovering from C section too.

She has slept from 11, after 3 bottles, 2 lots of sick and one complete outfit change (she hates being naked and screams when I change her clothes!). I've managed to pump, do some washing up and put some washing on so quite productive I think! Have only eaten toast, chocolate and crisps though and haven't had a shower, though did get dressed. I reckon showers/baths (cannot wait til i'm mobile enough to have a nice warm bubble bath!) are going to have to be an evening thing when DP is here.

Just marking place again as have fallen off the board.
My 'D'H left us in Friday so need all the support I can get here & in RL. 3 weeks in & finding myself a single mother. Trying not to fall into an abyss.

Oh Dinah that's awful! So sorry to hear this. We are all here to lend an ear when you need it. Sending hugs!

Dinah, so sorry. Are you ok? Do you have support in RL? Or anyone who can help you?

dinah so sorry to hear this. I'm sure there will be plenty of people on here at any time of day if you need a chat. We are all up at all sorts of hours here!

Dinah we are all here x

Oh Dinah I'm so sorry. Please feel free to offload here as much as you need to and we will try to support as much as we can. xxx

Thanks. I'm being looked after by my parents. A child with a child. I hate him so much I really do, cheating scumbag.

Oh dinah I'm so sorry, how awful. Sounds like you'll be well shot of him though

Oh no dinah

I can't believe anyone could leave his tiny baby and his partner shortly after birth.... That's just not good enough Dinah... I hope you are OK and managing well with your parents x come here talk to us whenever you feel like it...sending hugs x

Oh Dinah, how dreadful for you. It's good that you have support in RL, and please do offload on here anytime you need. This must be so painful for you, but be gentle with yourself and let your parents and anyone else who offers take care of you and baby. It is shocking the way he has behaved and you deserve far better.

Dinah I'm so sorry to hear about your H and I'm glad you've the support of your parents. You're doing fab getting through these early days as it's such an adjustment. Really hope you're ok

Thanks Ella, problem is I'm ebf and I'd rather be here to feed than have to get up and pump.
Dh has got dd1 and has been fab but as he's SE can't take too much time off so pressures on there.
Dd2 is still not responding to treatment and the doctors have basically said it's my fault for taking her off the light to feed her.

The good news is there is a bed here and I've managed about 2.5 hours sleep tonight. Also my milks come in completely and dd2 is a very good feeder so that's good too.