January 2014 babies - The Teething Twilight Zone

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Well I've had an utterly rubbish morning. Got up early to get to work early to try and make a dent in the massive to-do-list only to realise that I had the stupid car seat in the back of my car when I was half way there! Meant MIL had to walk down to ours with the pram to pick her up and she won't be able to take her out in the car today either. I didn't get to work early either as I had turned around to come home before Dh sorted it all out and am now wasting time on mn. So annoyed with myself. I also managed to leave my ebm in the fridge at work last night! Think I am loosing my mind

MrsG don't beat yourself up about the sleeping. You need to do whatever works! O goes to bed quite happily in her cot but from about 4am (sometimes 2!) ends up in ours clamped onto my boob! It means Dh and I get some sleep to try and function at work the next day. If another person asks me if O is sleeping through yet and then gives me sympathy because she isn't I think I will scream!

Anyone else feel like they are failing at things. I don't feel like I am performing well enough at work or at home feeling quite stressed about everything Definitely think there will be wine consumed tonight

Nature, I am failing at all the things and I don't even have the excellent excuse of having a job.

MrsG, I agree that we have to do whatever works. I can't remember if you said, but is your anxiety being treated/managed?

Lucky, getting!

People keep saying to me 'She must be sleeping through now?' which drives me mad. I'm ecstatic if she sleeps for 3 hours in her cot!

Nature I'm failing at really basic things, last week the same dish sat 'soaking' for so long that it got a little mouldy... and I've done half a weeks OU over the last fortnight!

Toby no its not bring treated, the dr offered meds but mostly I cope so I'd rather just bumble along. I've got better since having L as I'm determined not to let it effect her, so I force myself to do things.

Well, don't forget that the option of meds is there if you need it.

And M has never slept longer than 4 hours at a time, and that was only once that I can remember. The other night she was up 9 times.

Lots of sympathy mrsg P has never ever slept in her cot, and still wakes roughly every hour even though we co-sleep. People that haven't been in this situation seem to think that I'm being a bit pathetic, but even my DM has now admitted there's nothing much I can do, since witnessing bed time meltdown on Wednesday. Keep doing whatever works best for you.

Would you consider counselling for the anxiety? I've been referred for mine, although it has taken five months to get an appointment because they forgot about me! I know how it affects everything you do, and it won't help your sleep either. I feel a tiny bit better just knowing that I'll be doing something to help it soon too, like it is a a small but positive step. I hope you feel better soon, things sound really tough for you at the moment.

My mum still insists that M's waking is 'learned behaviour' and that I should leave her to scream.

There's a chance she might be right but I just smile and ignore.

I'm sick of people asking if S is sleeping through too. At baby group every week they all discuss it saying 'oh my baby slept through from 4 weeks' with a smug face and it's like WOOP DE FUCKING DO FOR YOU! I don't think S will ever sleep through. After the 4 months of hourly wake ups, she went down to 2-3 times a night for a week and now she's back to waking up around 5/6 times, often more I've just accepted it now, and the fact I'll be a walking zombie forever. It's amazing how you learn to (barely) function on so little sleep.

I just don't understand why people ask that question. It's as if babies reach a certain age then sleep through 7-7 for the rest of their lives. My toddler has slept through the night, but at least 50% of the time wakes for one reason or another. I think it only makes sense for very small babies (pre 4 months) where a lot of sleep is determined by the size of their stomachs. So in that sense there is a threshold after which they are physically capable of sttn. After that, "how did they sleep last night" seems like the only reasonable question.

It is even more annoying than the "Is he/she a good baby?" (mainly asked about a sub 3 month bundle of tinyness)
Can't remember who it was on this thread but their stock response was along the lines of "No they've been joyriding and dipping my wallet" which I have nicked as my own.
Another disaster sleeper here -2 all night sleeps ever, one after 8 week jabs. Sleeps on my knee or my bed, usually attached. Hourly wake ups for teeth this week without the lovely latch on and back to sleep- no its the latch on and off chewy hurty teeth maneouvre in the dark

When anyone says "is she good?" I always say "do you mean 'does she sleep?'?"

I made M a treasure basket today because I was bored and she's getting a bit bored of the same toys. She loves it, even though it's a very half-hearted attempt.

Sorry everyone's having a rubbish time but you all make me feel much better. I was very chuffed about our good night last night and told my team when I got in... The response I got 'does he not usually?' Or 'mines slept through since 6 weeks just leave him to cry'. Great for you. 3rd time he's ever slept through and I'm very chuffed so go be smug somewhere else

A treasure basket sounds lovely, although DD seems to be entertaining herself unalphabetising DHs DVDs recently.

Book I have thought about counseling, but we're only going to be here for another year, it'll probably take that long to get an appointment! Plus I kind of feel I should leave them to people who need them more.

DD slept for 6 hours once a few months back, but woke up with a temp of 40 degrees. She's taken to screaming for 30 minutes but then falling asleep as she's so exhausted, forcing herself awake after a minute or two, screaming till she falls asleep, and repeat. This is despite being rocked and sung to, which used to help her sleep. It's definitely getting worse, things that used to work don't any more!

So glad it isn't just me then. So happy it's the weekend. Dh is doing bedtime so I think I might crack open the

Just booked an appointment to have a coil fitted finally. Endocrinologist advised to have it done but don't know how I feel about. But Dh and I aren't dtd at the moment as I'm not happy about no protection Got a few weeks to decide though.

What are people's evening/weekend plans?

Worse here too, MrsG. M at least used to go to bed no trouble -- wide awake, barely a whimper, self settled in a few minutes. Now it takes at least 20 minutes of rocking, cuddling, PUPD etc.

Enjoy your , nature. I'm currently watching M fall asleep, then I'll go downstairs to the tea dh will have made me and the Krispy Kreme I bought earlier. We know how to live on a Friday night!

Tomorrow we're clearing out all of our clothes drawers, putting away anything too small (in M's case) or too summery in ours. Then we're going to MIL's for StepFIL's birthday.
On Sunday we're going to IKEA to buy a chairbed.

The fun just never stops in our house!

L's never really self settled, and rocking and feeding are becoming less effective. I have no idea what we'll do if they stop working!

I love IKEA. It's a bit sad, but I love wandering round looking at everything.

DH has just landed in London, he's only been away for 2 weeks but I'm very excited. He should be home in a few hours. We'll probably spend the weekend relaxing :)

I am ridiculously excited about IKEA. I love it too. We can be saddos together :o

I love IKEA! We always buy too much stuff though and end up trying to cram it in the car. The best trip we did was when we hired a van

O's sleep is getting worse as well. Hoping it is just this tooth popping through but she used to be easy to put back in to her cot after a feed but has become really tricky

Those that are still bf how are you coping with the teeth? I've been fine with the bottom ones but the top one is a bit sore at the moment

Ooh ikea meatballs...

We have a massive car so fitting stuff in isn't usually a problem. I wouldn't dare go there with a van!

Re teeth and BFing, I was wondering the same. I have never BFed a baby with teeth! Had to give up with DS when he was 3mo, and I fed DD1 for 8 months but she didn't have teeth.
M is just getting her 1st tooth now, so I'm hoping it doesn't cause any issues with BFing.

I love Ikea!

Henry is pulling himself up to standing and keeps looking like he's trying to move. I'm not in any rush and he can wait.

He's still only has two teeth right at the bottom

Ah bugger was hoping someone would tell me the teeth will be fine. I'm sure she will adjust it's just popping through so I just need to give her some time.

We were buying the extra tall wardrobes and shelves when we had a van. But it was so much fun not having to worry about fitting everything in

Yay for Henry million

Bfing with teeth is allegedly fine, but P obviously missed that meeting! So far I'm the only person I know that has this problem (so don't panic!) but she's been nipping me since she got her bottom two teeth. Now the top two have just broken through it is really painful and I've been considering switching to ff. Kellymom has lots of suggestions for how to deal with biting, which might help if it does happen they've been bob all use here It probably won't happen though

P had an appointment with her reflux doctor today. They weighed her (a mighty 17lb at 9 months) and said she is probably fine. I mentioned that her reflux has got worse in the last few weeks and they've upped her omeprazole dosage slightly, but then told me to take her off it completely in a month and see how she goes. I'm not sure I understand the thinking behind this, it is bad enough to increase her medication but simultaneously good enough to take her off it altogether?! They did suggest clearing the diary before stopping it (cold turkey), so I'm not really looking forward to this!

We're off to Ikea this weekend too (hopefully tomorrow but if the weather is nice dh might lobby to visit a castle or something)! Need a bedside table for dd (and another six million things that we don't even know we want yet ).

A has had a dreadful weeks sleep thanks to a virus but seems slightly more settled tonight. It's the first night in ages that DH hasn't had to catch up on work so we're having a relaxed one so it's good timing.

book seems a bit confusing about the medication but hopefully they know what they are doing.

O has bitten me once, deliberately because I turned off the nursery rhymes on the TV! I think she just needs to adjust her latch a bit.

Mmmm the wine is going down a treat. I might be in the spare room tonight, Dh has offered to have O so I can get some sleep.