November 2012 - Roll call!

[StuntNun]

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[Wandathewindfairy]

He didn't see it as making a big deal he just thought he was going to get him but I viewed it differently.

[Passmethecrisps]

Sorry wanda. I am not making accusations. He sounds like a superstar and we are all prone to moments. Please know that you are a wonderful mum.

[BigPigLittlePig]

I have an aibu for you (I'm not, btw).

Mil rang. She has lost 2 50p pieces. She asked dh if he had them. He doesn't. She then got cross and hung up the phone. So dh says to me, oh I'd better go over there (20min drive) and sort things. Wtf?! I told him she is loopy and it is ONE POUND! One measly pound! Ffs.

So. Aibu to say to dh "please don't go"?

[Wandathewindfairy]

pass I didn't take it that way and am am really appreciating being able to share these feelings.

bp sorry but wtf is all that about? Surely it can wait? Why is it such a big deal?

[Wandathewindfairy]

You are definitely nbu.

[Passmethecrisps]

2 50 p pieces? What does she think has happened to her pieces?

YANBU. Ffs.

Weird recollection. I remember back in the days of 50p meter getting two in my change from my pocket money and grabbing my mum's hand delightedly exclaiming "I have TWO 50 pencies for the meter, mummy!". 'Mummy' said "that's lovely darlin but yer mammy's up there'

I was very

[GTbaby]

Thanks for the reassurance. However I do think even with a combination of languages his vocabulary is small. Need to put my hands up and admit. I'm quite a quiet person in RL and people have several times commented that I must talk to h all the time do he speaks... I always thought just because I don't speak to them doesn't mean I don't speak to H... But I guess I don't. So will try harder also nursery will help.

((Wanda)) hope your snuggled up for a good night sleep.

[PetiteRaleuse]

wanda I think I would have felt the same tbh. There are certain things I feel are criticism from DH when I know they aren't really but treatment by exes in past relationships can leave a really big scar that just needs a tiny scratch to become all raw again. Sometimes when we get upset about it we feel that people think we are being oversensitive (hate that word), or overreacting. I'm sure if you explain your feelings to DH he will understand and tomorrow will be another day.

No-one should ever make you think that you are anything less than a wonderful mum however.

My DH is massively overcautious about the DDs' safety. Drives me mad. And he does see me as pretty lapse about it. Drives him mad. But honestly in your specific case today I think a chat and a snuggle will go a long way to healing.

I would tell MrPig to get a grip however. Unless these two 50p pieces are for an electric meter box thingy (do they still exist?) it can wait until whenever another day.

[Passmethecrisps]

gt nursery will help I am sure. Also try just talking as though he is an adult. Frame questions in full sentences - he will still hang on to the word he knows so you will still meet his needs.

[Passmethecrisps]

Electricity is too expensive for 50p metres nowadays. But do you know that the very poorest people have no choice but to go on card metres which have the highest tariff? Disgraceful (and off the point)

[ChasingDaisy]

Wanda, what PR said. It can take very little to reopen old wounds x

[Pikz]

Pig yanbu. Muppet of a DH

Wanda big hugs. It does rear it's head sometimes. Perfectly normal x

[TheDetective]

Just catching up on the Fred :)

I hate working FT. Life is always so busy. But really enjoying work at the moment. So it's a catch 22!

VQ I admire your juice diet! My will power isn't great :( good on you!

Wanda I can be like that with DP. It's not him. It's me. So don't take it to heart. I guess I just panic about something happening and take it out on someone else.

PR we've taken O to gullivers world and Alton towers. He loved it! He prefers the more thrilling rides. Which is no surprise!

GT prior to O I wasn't especially chatty unless in company that was also chatty if you know what I mean. I had to make an effort to go against my nature and chat/sing to O. It doesn't seem to have helped though as he's nowhere near where the other LO's are in speech and language. I'm trying not to worry and just do what we can.

Funnily enough though I've been told to speak in short simple sentences when giving instructions or describing things.

[BigPigLittlePig]

Nope just normal 50p pieces with no actual predetermined use. Weird.

Pass it is odd re: electric meters, we had one temporarily when we moved into our last house. What a blimmin' pain. So many 10pm trips to the corner shop to top up.

[BigPigLittlePig]

Detectiiiiiiiive!

[Passmethecrisps]

Sadly it's not odd bp it is a poverty tax. Theoretically card meters mean that people can top up when they have he money. However, the meter tariff that you are charged on a card system is very much higher than those of us who can afford direct debits or monthly bills. It is a way on keeping tabs on the poor.

[Passmethecrisps]

If you move into a property with one but don't have the standard forms of ID like a passport or a driving license it is very difficult to get it replaced. Therefore you have to prove by the back door that you have 'disposable' income before it can be replaced.

[TheDetective]

Piiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig!!!

[TheDetective]

I had meters in my first (council) house. I fought to get rid of the bloody things. It took 14 months as I couldn't have it done until I was 18. Apparently.

The cunts.

[Passmethecrisps]

Oh and to detective

Good to see your sexy ass back in here!!

[horseylady]

detective

We've both come back lol

[Elizadoesdolittle]

Don't get me started on meters. When we moved into this house the previous owners were on a gas and an electricity meter. The amount we have had to shed out is extortionate. We eventually got the electricity changed over about a month a go and they were supposed to do the gas on the same day but fucked up and now have to wait at least another to get that changed. Grrrrrr.

wanda Hope a good nights sleep helps you feel like your usual self tomorrow.

bplp That is bloody weird. She must have mental health issues surely? Not banding that about easily as my Dad did and a lot of the stuff he got up to people just didn't understand. I always felt an obligation to go that little bit further for him iyswim.

Det Lovely to see you. How are things with you and DP now? Can you do a fb update if not comfortable posting on here. I have been thinking of you.

[BigPigLittlePig]

Det I have had to scour fb to tell dh (who is being a right prick all round today) Os updates. He often asks what O has been up to recently.

[BigPigLittlePig]

Eliza my gut feeling is that it was some weird test on her part - expecting dh to drop everything and come running, at the expense of the rest of his family. They have the oddest dynamic I have ever seen, really unhealthy. He is majorly stressing because he hasn't gone over.

[horseylady]

I've got no idea who's who on here and fb. Some I know. Lots of name changes though! Confusing