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December 2012 tantrums galore and they're not even two yet!

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SpottyTeacakes · 01/07/2014 15:00

Hope everyone finds this and I haven't doubled up!

I've got really bad back pain and ds is spinning on his zebra crying. No idea why!

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WLmum · 10/09/2014 22:04

Oh spotty poor her and you. It used to tear me up when dd1 used to cry about going to ore-school. There was a mum engaged in a physical battle to get her dd through the door today - mum picked her up, dd clung to the doorframe etc. all I can say is she will settle down sooner or later, and no doubt will love it when she does. Park dates sound like a good idea. Hope tomorrow is a good day.

halestone · 11/09/2014 09:48

Spotty, how did your school run go today? I hope Dd is ok.

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SpottyTeacakes · 11/09/2014 10:33

Apparently she was fine after five minutes yesterday. No tears this morning but her lip was going. Think she will be ok Smile

I'm just getting my hair some for free after babysitting for my friend who owns a hair salon

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halestone · 11/09/2014 10:52

very nice, mines due to be done on monday but not for free.

H is driving me nuts this morning i have just sat her and my neice down and told them they can watch Peppa pig if they are quiet for 10 minutes. I can't believe they fell for that but thankfully they've stopped destroying everything in sight. We have to wait in for my nieces grandparents. I officially hate waiting in for people.

Barbeasty · 12/09/2014 10:23

Spotty how's it gone with school since?

DD is talking about a couple of girls in her class. Shame she won't see them next week because they are in another group so we'll be back to square one.

A took DD's plate after breakfast yesterday, and walked to the kitchen saying "bin, bin, bin". He put her crusts in the bin. Only downside is that then he put the dirty plate back in the cupboard! But he's so tidy.

PurplePidjin · 12/09/2014 11:33

How are all the schoolies getting on? Hope dd's settling ok Spotty Brew

That's cute, beasty. We went to a very patronising under-2s group at surestart yesterday and i took great delight in gettting R to hand his plate to the organiser and say thank you after snack time

Barbeasty · 12/09/2014 11:42

Go little Pidj!

PurplePidjin · 12/09/2014 11:54

I'm afraid I also took great delight in flashing the fluff and slinging him for the walk home (the other parents all know us and my pro-choice bolshy attitude from other groups so we'd exchanged eyerolls at the woman's worst comments) Blush I'm going straight to hell or just training to be That Parent at the school gate :o

MrsNutella · 12/09/2014 13:03

Pidj go you! And go little pidj! I find DS responds really well when I give him a job to do. I need to try and implement that when he is doing something he shouldn't. Per go it would help me avoid some shoutyness.... If he would help tidy up his toys I would jump for joy!

Actually pidj, I think I would have made you proud today. I wore DD in the sling at playgroup all morning - so I have hands free for lifting DS down from things he has climbed on - and I even managed to feed her in the sling - so I had my hands free for above reason.

There is a really patronising mum at the international group now. She is nice but always always always knows best/everything. Even worse, she will ask a question and then talk over you when you try and answer Angry why bother asking!
Argh really annoying, definitely one of my biggest bug bears! She keeps doing this to me and I just end up annoyed and interrupted.

Anyway. We did have a lovely morning and both DCs are asleep whoop whoopGrin

PurplePidjin · 12/09/2014 16:17

wow feeding in the sling is seriously advanced skills! patroniser-general at my group is the paid leader Hmm

PurplePidjin · 12/09/2014 17:25

Right, proper answer now I'm on the laptop!

R likes to do a task and be praised for it, so that's how I get him tidying. "Put the book on the shelf" "yay clever boy" "put the car in the box" "yay well done" It takes a stupidly long time but avoids tantrums - if he grabs something he shouldn't when we're out, I can say "Give the X to Aunty Y" and he'll happily do it, whereas if I grab the forbidden object a meltdown ensues (obviously sharp knives etc would be grabbed immediately!)

According to my twin-mum friend, getting them to nap at the same time is the Holy Grail Of Parenting Two Wink

MrsNutella · 12/09/2014 17:52

pidj We do that too. Usually at home when he has something he shouldn't I ask him to give it to Papa or baby girl. Except he has realised my glasses are precious and he wouldn't give them to anyone. The other day I had a bad moment and really screamed "NOOOO" when he was trying to snap the arms off my glasses Hmm

Doesn't seem to work with tidying. Thought I had it almost cracked the other day; he put all the pieces back in the puzzles and then, tipped them all over the floor again Confused

Barbeasty · 12/09/2014 21:08

DD doesn't get tidying. Except at nursery and school. DS is a totally different creature!

I get crying as though the world is ending, or I've just told A I hate him, if I say "no". You know, for things like not colouring in story books or turning the knobs on the gas hob.

Stacks · 12/09/2014 21:39

Last night, in an attempt to get T to put his nappy on without a fight, we first put a nappy on his toy dinosaur. He then insisted on brushing its teeth and taking it to bed with him. This morning it needed its nappy changed, was fed breakfast, then watched Peppa pig. Tonight daddy had to say goodnight to dinosaur, and give it a kiss.

So cute!

WLmum · 13/09/2014 00:55

Just got in from a night out with the new reception class mummies! Who knew?

WLmum · 13/09/2014 08:16

And Tabs decided 5.50 was an appropriate wake up time. DH left at 7.15 to take part in some gladiator games BrewBrewBrew for me today.

Barbeasty · 13/09/2014 09:12

Oh no WL.

The mother who lives behind us must have been away last night. Her idiot teenage son was getting drunk in their garden until 4 this morning. DH was up for work at 6.30... I think he was hammering on their door at 7, before he left, to let them know.

halestone · 13/09/2014 15:02

Sounds like coffee is needed for Beasty and WLBrew Brew

We took H shopping today she sat on my shoulders walking round. Wow she gets heavy fast.

WLmum · 13/09/2014 18:28

Oh no beasty that would have made me mad.
I remembered this morning that apparently I am now class rep - I purposely avoided the pfa meeting as I didn't want to commit to anything so they got me when I was under the influence. That and I'm to sort out a fb group for us all. Oh whisky you are an enemy!

WLmum · 13/09/2014 18:29

I tried to sneak off for a bath while DH fed the dds but over tired dd2 went into meltdown and I had to give it up. T and dd2 are now in my lovely honey bubbles

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SpottyTeacakes · 13/09/2014 19:21

Had a nice day out at Leeds Castle today already dreading school next week although apparently dd sang let it go to the whole playground Hmm I've got such a busy week though argh.

WL sounds like you had a good night Grin

Hales ds is a tiddler and I wouldn't be able to carry him on my shoulders for long!

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Barbeasty · 13/09/2014 20:21

Hales you need a sling!

WL oh dear.

Spotty DD's up and down. I think if she gets homework she'll be happy! And the horse ride is booked for Wednesday. Can be dangled as both a stick and a carrot.

Turns out the mum was there, but she seems to be struggling a little with the teen son and the younger daughter. We've got her mobile number in case it happens again, and she said he's out tonight!

WLmum · 13/09/2014 20:57

My stupid (broken) phone keeps losing this link.
hales T is a big un and I can't carry her for long on my shoulders. She loves it but I find it puts a lot of pressure on my neck. Last weekend I had her on my front in the ergo and could carry her for ages, weirdly was more comfy with her on my front than on my back.
beasty how awful for her (and you). Total disrespect and no control over a teenage son must be terrifying.
spotty maybe if they have singing assemblies she might find something to love! Dd2 had a pretty good week on balance last week and enjoyed school more as the week went on but she was super tired this eve and cried about going to school 'next time'. I think next week will be tricky as she will be full days and so likely to be progressively more tired.

Barbeasty · 13/09/2014 21:22

Just heard that my 8yr old niece hid in the passenger footwell of her grandmother's car. Got from Oxford to Cirencester before she was noticed!!

The older sisters who had hidden in the back, and we're found before they left, had said she was in the loo.

halestone · 13/09/2014 23:43

Oh WL i hope you've managed to get your bath. Whiskey does sound like it got you agreeing to alot last night. I shouldn't laugh but i'm giggling away as it sounds like something i would do.

Beasty is Oxford to Circenchester (sp? i'm on my phone so can't check) far? Also i agree that does sound awful for your neighbour, having no control over H would be my worst nightmare.

Spotty i'm glad you've had a nice day. I have everything crossed that next week is better for your Dd.

I forgot to say yesterday well done to T, he sounds so clever. Its cute when they want to get their toys involved in their routine.

WL, Beasty and Spotty can you get Slings for this age? H weighs around 34lb now. I havn't had her weighed properly but she stood on my sisters scales tonight ans was bouncing around that weight.