December 2012 tantrums galore and they're not even two yet!

[SpottyTeacakes]

Hope everyone finds this and I haven't doubled up!

I've got really bad back pain and ds is spinning on his zebra crying. No idea why!

[MrsNutella]

stacks congratulations!!! Best wishes to your little family and you. Hope you are enjoying lots of lovely snuggles and resting.

utopian you poor love, I'm sure DH understands. You've not got much entail space left at the moment, toddler, work, moving home, clearing a backlog of work, being pregnant and generally exhausted is pretty reasonable I think! Hope you get to celebrate with your DH over the weekend. X

[ddas]

Congrats stacks!!! That seems like a very fast labour given you posted yesterday :)

Did you know you were having a little girl or surprise? Lovely newborn snuggles :)

[utopian99]

Hurrah stacks! Lovely name and she looks very sweet. Jealous - we have 20 weeks to wait...

[halestone]

Congratulations Stacks i am so happy for you.

Maryland the little girl had Neuroblastoma as well.

Pidj i am so glad i'm not the only one today. DP is just trying to coax her to go to sleep. I was looking forward to spending some time alone with him. That will just have to wait until tomorrow now.

[WLmum]

Yay stacks!! Brilliant news, hope all went well. Ah those newborn snuggles. Name? What name? Did I miss it?
utopian you'll look back and laugh...!
hales that's so awful. As everyone has said, I just can't imagine and remind myself constantly of how lucky I am. Life can be so cruel.
Well it looks like our bf days are over. Haven't fed since early hours of tues and early hours of this morning she settled with a cuddle. I think we both feel sad but are benefitting in our own ways from stopping. My boob just swelled up a bit when I did my nightly rounds.

[WLmum]

Poor you hales. If it's getting to you that much can you find a way to give yourself a 2 minute break - ensure she's somewhere she can't hurt herself and go outside for a few mins. I always used to just walk away from dd1 and it helped. Give yourself a reward jar - put a quid in every time you remain calm and then buy yourself a treat at the end of the month? Ear plugs actually work surprisingly well too!

[halestone]

oooo WL i really like that idea. I was with my mum today and she agreed that shes never seen a baby react in such strong ways. She says its because shes clever so gets bored easily. I am going back to putting her in her cot and walking away from her. Its a shame as i feel i'm letting her down and not being a good enough mum.

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

Argh Stacks you little tease, we need more details! Congratulations

Can everyone stop sharing gorgeous videos of their babies? Mine's at his dad's and I'm off to London for the day tomorrow so won't see him til teatime

Sorry you've had a bad day Hales. Sims says they just push every button don't they?

[Stacks]

Baby is Eleanor (Ella) May, born at 23:40 on 02/07. Painful contractions started at 8pm, examined at hospital for first time at 11pm as 4-5cm dilated, and baby 40 mins later with just gas and air. We knew we were hab

[Stacks]

Having a girl, but I was worried the scan was wrong and we'd have a little boy dressed in pink for a while :) I'll put a pic on fb.

[MaMaPo]

Such great news Stacks! And what a fast labour - I hope it was manageable. And such a gorgeous little girl. I love the name. Oh, joy!

Off to see my friend and her 3 day old today. I am officially broody!

Maryland, yes my timing was perfect - get better in time to spend yesterday doing all the housework and looking after my husband!

Hales, I've found C will really prolong a tantrum if I try to actively console her or get her out of it. The best method for me is to ignore the tantrum itself and then talk aloud. 'Oh, what shall I do now! I know, here's a lovely book. I'm going to read it.' and then inevitably, as I start to read aloud, she comes over to sit on my lap. If she doesn;t, I just read loads of books.

She is IN LOVE with the book 'Where is the Green Sheep?' at the moment. Is this one known in the UK? It's by an Australian author and illustrator and it's perfect for bedtime.

WL, congrats on the end of feeding! That's a job well done. How are you feeling?

[utopian99]

wl good news on resolution of feeding, although I understand feeling sad. There are upsides though...

hales I agree with mama if O strops I put him down gently on the floor so he can't hurt himself, don't touch him but sit closeish and explain in a very flat emotionless voice that I see he's cross but behaviour like this won't change anything. If he carries on i do 'busy' things in the same room. He gets bored and pullshhimself together relatively quickly. (So far!!)

[WLmum]

hales you're not letting her down at all. You're teaching her that a tantrum doesn't get positive results which is a very important life skill. Remember the girl who was still crying at not getting her own way at school?! Like mama I always found with dd1 especially that trying to console her just made her worse so actually being nice was worse for her.

[PurplePidjin]

Having worked a lot with teenagers (I know it's not the same as parenting one!) I would say that it's a damn sight easier to impose some clear, safe boundaries now than it is to get to secondary school and realise that they're still expecting the world to revolve around them. Older ones will still kick against the rules - sometimes drastically despite their upbringing - but it's a lot less likely to go seriously wrong, or turn around again after a while, if they learn it at an early age iyswim

[WLmum]

Beautiful stacks. Well done you!

[WLmum]

Absolutely pidj

[WillYouDoTheFandango]

She's gorgeous Stacks, you lucky woman

I'm sunbathing outside Euston, just waiting for a train home. My suit was so hot that I went to fat face and asked to wear my purchases home!

[SpottyTeacakes]

Congratulations stacks was it a vbac?

WL I hated stopping but it was easier for me as ds refused to feed anymore.

Hales that sounds really tricky. My mum always says even if they don't listen to you when you tell them not to bite etc they still hear you so it still does some good!

I keep losing ds in the garden because I'm trying to sunbathe it's really hot.

I spoke to the HV about ds' speech as she phoned me about something else and she gave me the name of a good website and said if he's not improved much by two then they'll refer. She said we're not typical of a family they'd worry about though

[halestone]

All this talk of sun is making me its been raining and cold all day here.

Thank you everyone, i would just hate her to be the type of child whom shows no respect to their elders.

Stacks, what a beautiful girl you have. I hope your enjoying your newborn snuggles and also that you got a big cuddle off T when you got home.

[MrsNutella]

hales a friend of mine managed amazing communication with her girls and when I asked her about it she said it was bloody hard work and always always sticking to what you've said. You're doing the right thing and being a great mum! It's not easy.

My mum is visiting. It has been stressing me out, because DH is also away I feel like I'm looking after DS & my mum. But this afternoon I had a nap while DS was sleeping and mum got DS when he woke. Even though I was also awake by then I rested a bit longer in bed. It was exactly what I needed.

[SpottyTeacakes]

Dd's nursery send out weekly emails (they thunk it's a waste of time doing daily sheets for each child when they could spend their time interacting with them etc) and this is a snippet. I thought it was really nice and wanted to share.

[SpottyTeacakes]

Oh for those on the app I've put a photo up!

[Barbeasty]

Spotty how we need that advice! DD had her last pre-september settling session yesterday. She has decided nobody likes her and school is "pooey". Because everyone else she was with for an hour has been at one of 2 nurseries, the only person to speak to her was the teacher.

And now we hear that our niece is on "holiday" with her dad. They are in Mallorca with nowhere to stay, no tent, just a moscito net. She sent a text to SIL saying "get me out of here". She has another 2 weeks to go, hasn't washed etc. Not good!

[SpottyTeacakes]

Oh goodness beasty how old is she?

It's so easy to forget these things. Dd's being a bit of a pain atm but everything is changing for her so I must remember that.

[WLmum]

nutella glad you got a bit of rest. Could you tell your mum that's what you really need and ask if she'd take ds out for an hour or so each day - then you get to rest and not entertain her!
mama and spotty I do feel sad about stopping bfing but it seems with T it was all or nothing -despite my attempts to restrict bf she would always hold out knowing it would be there in the end. Now it's not she's eating like a different child, settling with a cuddle (hopefully soon I'll be able to gradually withdraw this and I might even get a full nights sleep). DH did her bed tonight which was great - he enjoyed it and it takes the pressure off me. I did sneak a bf in at 5 this morning as my boobs were really painful. She went back down til 7 - result!