December 2012 tantrums galore and they're not even two yet!

[SpottyTeacakes]

Hope everyone finds this and I haven't doubled up!

I've got really bad back pain and ds is spinning on his zebra crying. No idea why!

[halestone]

Coffee i'm glad your morning is going well.

Spotty you won't be the only mother stressing out, hopefully you'll find another mother tonight and you will be able to calm each other.

We also have a singer and dancer but i tend to listen to more music than watching tv so that could be why.

[coffeeandcream]

I'm doing ok thanks, bit sore after a day of chasing round after F.

I have a climber... Found F on the kitchen table earlier and trying to climb the book shelves last night. And oh my God, the tantrums when I intervene and spoil his fun...

[PurplePidjin]

I don't bother with the TV during the day - R is quite capable of switching it on but chooses not to. We like the radio in the car i taught him to point when Night Fever came on and he can clap in time, on the off beats and everything!

to assist your recovery Coffee

Spotty how'd it go?

I am very very VERY chuffed today. I got a TV unit from the tip, and tonight I managed to remove the doors and sand it down - it's going to be a play kitchen. And i sorted the tax credits in one 30 minute phone call. And and and and I'M HAVING THE NIGHT OFF ON SATURDAY!!!!! A wonderful friend is having R as a trial run for a work trip I've been invited on :o :o :o :o :o

[SpottyTeacakes]

pidj. I was on hold to hmrc for thirty minutes when I got cut off because they closed!

It went well thanks. Dad's class size is only 16 and 4 of them after yr1 children as it's a mixed class. The head is really nice, we had a chat about dd starting and she said they would refuse but they really like them to do half days etc etc and we left it that I will discuss it with the teacher at the home visit Thursday and most likely outcome is she goes full time on the days that I work.

The school cardigan is £13.50 and they need to order in specially for dd as the sizes they stock drown her.

[MrsNutella]

Hello everyone. I am knackered still, and it's been not the last couple of days and nights. Today it has rained almost all day, which is not much nicer but... Well it's cooler and I'm grateful for that!

WL I think it could be a squirrel if you can hear it scampering around lots... Rats are often a bit quiet... Although not always... I'd definitely think about traps or something.

coffee it sounds like you're recovering well! Hope it continues and DS doesn't run you ragged.

pidj yay, that sounds like a great plan for a toy kitchen. I wish I was focused enough to make something like that for DS. I really want to get him a kitchen.

Can I ask what's normal for this age? DS must have just got through his 18 month Brain burp. He likes to kick a ball in the garden and can chase it and kick it along. There are a few other things but, well, honestly I've just been really impressed with (and proud of) my little man

[SpottyTeacakes]

Ds was kicking a ball earlier but it was more that he kicked it as he ran not purposefully. He can bounce on the trampoline just about. He's a bit slower than others on here though he can also slide down the stairs backward on his tummy there's so much going on at this age I think it's hard to list the norm.

[MrsNutella]

Thanks Spotty I'll try and get a vid of it when it stops raining it's really cute. I love the way he runs

[WLmum]

Cheeky bloody mil - sent me a text this morning asking if she could come and borrow my seeing machine - I replied yes when DH back from school run (I was at work) and to tell him it was in the wardrobe. She took that to mean let yourself in and get it from my bedroom before DH got back! She's a lovely woman but BOUNDARIES!

spotty glad you should be able to get what you need for dd starting school.
nutella try not to think about what ds should or shouldn't be doing at any age. I was very aware of stuff that dd1 couldn't do or could do better at any time and it all evens out in the end. With dd2&3 I didn't see much of others with exactly the same age dc so we just knew what was normal for her.
T has started calling herself 'baba' today - I guess as in babitha it's very cute. At dinner she moved her plate and cutlery right over to me before coming to sit on my lap to finish off.

[WLmum]

Sorry I don't think I explained myself very well there. I mean, I know its hard not to compare but ime it can just lead to unnecessary anxiety. As long as dc are in the roughly 'normal' range and are developing and progressing themselves then all is well. Celebrate their achievements be patient for what us to come - it will come!

[MrsNutella]

WL I really don't (I hope) get anxious about what "should" happen when. Just a proud mummy moment If I'm honest it's more a breakthrough for me than for DS. After months of feeling fairly useless and like I'm just scraping by doing nothing special as a mummy... Being able to feel proud of DS has just sort of crept up on me, it feels really really good. I don't know if that makes sense, probably not.
My therapist should be pleased with me though . Just feeling good and happy.

Jeeez it's really hard to explain without sounding like a loon/boasting. It is awesome watching him grow and change and it is even better that I can now enjoy that change and development and feel so proud of what my gorgeous little man can do. It feels like the pieces are starting to click together.

[MrsNutella]

And yes. Your MIL needs some boundaries... Or you should go shopping for some "marital aids" to hide in your wardrobe. For comedy awkwardness value

[utopian99]

Nutella definitely a good feeling and one you deserve to have! I'm sure you're a fantastic mummy anyway, but even better that you can appreciate yourself as such and enjoy what a wonderful little person ds is.

[MrsNutella]

Morning! This baby is feeling very low I'm 37 weeks today. Anyone felt a bit, umm odd with second DC? I've been telling myself that baby will be late but... I'm not having any contractions. Just feeling a bit sort of ready... Does that make sense to anyone?

[PurplePidjin]

I think this is exactly the right place to sound like a boastful loon! We all (I think? I do!) feel the same way about our own babies, but I don't like to say it too much in RL because it feels a bit smug. I would hope you all understand that if I waffle on about how amazing R is, it's because you share that feeling about your own babies and will take it in that spirit! Don't forget R turned up in mid November and is over a month older than most here. So if I go on about his acheivements, it's more a "this is what you might get in the next few weeks" than a "ooh look how advanced my baby is" type of thing.

On that note, after a few minor pant-dampenings over the last few days (not so much accidents, more leaks) I gave him the choice of nappy or pants this morning. He chose nappy, and has been dry but I've put the potty training on hold till he's ready to ask for the toilet again. i figure if he can understand and follow instructions like "Give the birthday present to X" and "Does dolly want to ride in the toy car with you?" and "ask X's Mummy if you can have one of their rice cakes*" then he will go back to the toilet when he's ready.

The kitchen is actually a series of short jobs. Last night was removing the doors I didn't want and sanding the areas I'm going to paint. Another day I'll paint it in undercoat. Then the next time I get a minute I'll sand that. Then another evening I can do the top coat. Etc. So it's not one big job which would feel unmanageable and overwhelming iyswim?

Nutella congratulations, you're at Official Full Term! Fingers crossed your "ready" feeling is a sign that Baby is too :o

*I have a couple of friends where we just share the snacks between the babies, whatever we've got with us. R is a several months older than the others, so I encourage him to wait while I ask the other Mum for something. Last week, he went straight to another Mum, took her to her dc and pointed at the rice cake, then lead the Mum to her nappy bag - asking for a rice cake.

Wow, bit of an epic there, sorry

[halestone]

Nutella yay to DS kicking the ball Also i hope you feeling ready is a sign the baby is coming soon. I can't wait to find out if you have a boy or a girl.

Pidj, i agree i think our babies seem to understand so much more than we think they do. Also i agree that potty training is a long term thing and children do it at their own pace.

I have had a lovely day today, me and my dad took the girls raspberry and gooseberry picking. More went in their mouths than the baskets. Then we popped in Asda where my dad brought both girls a new outfit and set of PJ's. Then we went to a pub with a huge childrens Pirate ship park so the girls had lots of fun playing.

[Barbeasty]

Hales that sounds like a really good day.

Nutella boast away! Hope you're getting ready and it all goes smoothly.

I'm sitting at my desk, watching the train times as my train gets later and later. Given that it should just he leaving Reading and is still at Paddington I think I'll be rather late home! Just called DH to do the nursery run (he works over an hour away, so lucky l could give enough notice!!)

[SpottyTeacakes]

There's been an awful accident in the town near dd's nursery. The road has been closed for five hours now. My usual forty minute round trip has taken me two hours. They said they road will likely be closed until seven pm.

[WLmum]

nutella pride - yes absolutely!

[Barbeasty]

Hope you got to nursery on time Spotty

I'm on the train, just waiting to leave. I bumped into our neighbour, on the way home from Italy, so I'm giving her a lift back from the station.

[PurplePidjin]

That sounds a wonderful day hales :)

Eek Beasty Spotty hope you get home ok and that nobody is seriously hurt

R chose nappy this morning and was dry, then pants for the afternoon and had a big accident at my mum's. I think one big one is much healthier than several small leaks, and he was very very tired by that point so I'm just going to keep offering him the choice and try to remember to ask him more regularly.

[utopian99]

Nutella I'm dying to find out about yours too. I didn't realise I was in labour with O till they told me, then he came quite fast - thus time they're saying to me don't wait till 3 minute contractions, go at 10 minutes or you might end up with a home birth. (At midwife today - O flirted like a champ.) I know it's silly but I'd really rather be in hospital - can't remember who of us did home birth in the end; any reassuring?

[SpottyTeacakes]

Pidj an elderly lady died. She got dragged fifty yards by a lorry. The poor driver didn't see her and didn't even realise until police pulled him over ten miles away. I got home ok but everyone, including lorries, we're having to use the back roads. Obviously no one was moaning but it was horrible. The school had to walk all the pupils through the woods around the high street to avoid them seeing the crime scene. It's all so sad.

[PurplePidjin]

[MrsNutella]

spotty that is terrible news. So sad for all involved.

WL

utopian it's a long story but after two days at the hospital with them trying to induce (it did nothing except make me tired because of all the hanging around and stressing) me I discharged myself for the evening (for the second time) because I wanted to go home and sleep in my own bed. I got as far as the lift when my waters broke. From then to arriving took DS 10 hours so not bad in the scheme of first births... I'm thinking this one will be faster. My midwife said anticipate twice as fast but also that I'll probably go over again like I did with DS....

pidj I do feel really ready for this baby to arrive and after feeling "odd" today I went to the hospital for a check up. I'm about 1.5cm dilated but baby isn't yet fully engaged... I'm keeping my fingers crossed that baby is ready. It is certainly well skilled in aerobics/Zumba/kickboxing [ouch]

[WLmum]

spotty that's awful.
beasty what a funny coincidence.
nutella maybe it's time then! I bet its a girl! Don't listen to me though, I bet blue for all of mine!