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JULY 2014 - WE HAVE BABIES

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justhayley · 12/06/2014 22:20

Well it's only mid June but I hear we have our first July 2014 baby - congratulations MrsC, also hear there is one going to be joining us very very soon so thought it was time to start a postnatal thread! Wow can you believe it's that time already!!!

I hope to be joining you on this thread in the next few weeks - have no desire to get to 40 /42 weeks in this heat thank you.

For now congratulations new mummies ThanksWine xxx

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AuntieMaggie · 20/08/2014 10:52

I sobbed when I was in hospital and they told me I couldn't breastfeed ds for 24 hours because of the radiation from the scan I was having and I never thought I would be that emotional about it.

its if I managed to express (which I don't cos I can't put ds down) that would be my schedule too! I really need to get the hang of it though or I'll never get a break.

DS is downstairs with dp while I've come up to catch up on sleep but he's screaming... at what point do I go help? He's tired so just needs help settling but whatever dp is doing isn't helping!

Plateofcrumbs · 20/08/2014 12:44

Just been reading some stuff about 'high needs' babies (ie limpet-style) that go on to be demanding toddlers and children. No no no! Please don't tell me this is going to go on for years! Confused

Need to get out of house to go to shop, but am still wearing clothes I put on yesterday morning (slept in them) and haven't showered since Monday Blush . But know any attempt to put DS down long enough to wash + change will set back progress on getting out of the house dramatically as he'll scream relentlessly and need soothing back to calm. Sigh!

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 13:01

crumbs oh crumbs. Wink I'm sorry I couldn't help myself. DS was rather a limpet baby. I remember him screaming solidly for about 45 minutes. I was going crazy. Nothing worked. I gave up. Got dressed. Packed him in the buggy and walked out the door. I'm not kidding, he fell asleep before the front door shut. I rang DH in tears I was so upset by his crying, so relieved that it had stopped and so annoyed that e now looked like the perfect calm baby he never was indoors.
This might not be helpful but know that you are not alone.

He is now a fearless toddler who loves to wave at buses and run off to do his own thing again not useful because he never stays anywhere near me so I end up chasing him all the time sorry

DD is starting to look more normal and less yellow today. Hurrah! Smile

BlueC2 · 20/08/2014 14:22

For all those with limpet babies you may need to buy some earplugs and bravely leave them to cry it out for a bit. Not easy and you will need your DP/DH support to do it but if they can learn to self settle a bit more that will really help in the long run. Also getting out in car or pushchair is often a natural soother- DD often screams when we put her in the car seat but within 1-2mins of the car starting she's nodding off! Obviously if she's hungry or wants a nappy change this doesn't work. Really worth the hard work of leaving them to cry for a bit so you can get out as will do you good. Thinking of you all!

ismarah · 20/08/2014 14:40

IABOH I believe expressed milk can be kept for about 5 days or so when properly stored and refrigerated...so anything you expressed yesterday or the day before could still be used. Our BF session at NCT suggested it was like anything else, you go by smell as much as the date. Might be worth looking into?

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AuntieMaggie · 20/08/2014 16:19

plate I've read similar about limpet babies but also read that they end up being better behaved and well adjusted and secure so I guess everyone has a different opinion. If you put DS down just after a feed when he's content will you be able to have a quick shower? I've been ignoring my HVs advice to leave DS crying so he gets used to it but have taken my friends advice of putting him down and letting him cry while I get the bare essentials done and as long as he doesn't do his really distressed cry where he ends up choking I'm not happy about it but can cope. Alternatively is there someone who can come and sit with DS while you do these things?

blue DS cries for about 20-25 mins in the car (which I know from occasions I've had to go somewhere/been stuck in traffic) and gets louder and louder. Not ideal when you're driving. I've never been able to leave him that long at home to know what happens.

My reluctance to let him cry and cry is a) I don't believe its good for him to be distressed all the time (which if I put him down all the time he would be) and b) when I was in hospital there was a night where he cried for hours and ended up with a really sore throat.

AuntieMaggie · 20/08/2014 16:26

I did want another DC fairly close as I'm already 36 and if we decide to have more than 2 I need to get on with it, but I'm starting to wonder how the hell I'm going to cope - am I mad for thinking like that?

Plateofcrumbs · 20/08/2014 17:17

auntie I'm 37 and thinking the same thing!

I managed to get showered and changed but haven't made it out of the house yet, but that can be blamed as much on me watching House of Cards on Netflix as it can on DS Grin

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 20:14

Hello, I have a quick question... WRT to time between feeds, is it 1.5/2 hours from starting one feed to starting the next feed or from the end of one feed until the start of the next.
I'm trying to avoid DD having too much belly pain later tonight.
Also, sorry a poo question. Poo that is very "seedy" instead of more paste like; is it milk that has not been well digested?

Sorry this has probably been asked up thread, my mind has gone blank and DD gave us a really rough night last night Confused I'm trying to avoid too much of the same performance tonight.

AuntieMaggie · 20/08/2014 20:31

plate I got dressed at about 5 pm and that was only because we were going out to get food!

I watched the first episode of house of cards on Netflix today but wasn't impressed - does it get better? I also tried the shield... I need to find something else to watch!

Nutella no idea about time between feeds but you can't overfeed a breastfed baby on theory and the poo is normal for breastfeeding.

My mumsnet looks weird...

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 20:38

If she kept feeding constantly That would be easier. Tonight she seems to be doing 10 minutes each side then refusing to latch back on either side then she has a little nap and an hourish later we start again Hmm

I thought it takes about 2 hours for Bmilk to be digested and if more milk is added before then they have trouble digesting it. Hence belly pain and screaming. Last night it was shorter gaps and lots of unhappiness all round. Sad

Hmmmmmmmm

AuntieMaggie · 20/08/2014 20:45

If she's only doing 10 mins each side she may only be getting the first type of milk and not the second type which is more filling and fattier - can you feed her longer on one side? Otherwise may be growth spurt l.

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 20:50

She is pulling off and going to sleep... Hmmm she is 9 days today. I'm hoping growth spurt. I've tried tickling feet etc to keep her awake and it's just not happening Confused

AuntieMaggie · 20/08/2014 20:53

If you're feeding for 10 mins on each side could it be that she's not getting enough hind milk?

DS often feeds again in less than 2 hours and I've not had a problem and that's the first I've heard about it being harder to digest.

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 20:54

And even it sounds slightly mad, I can't believe ten minutes each side is enough Confused she must need more. She has slept a lot today.
But I swear she is changing and growing in front of my eyes today....

AuntieMaggie · 20/08/2014 20:55

Sorry I'm having issues with this new layout on my phone! [Angry]

GrouchyKiwi · 20/08/2014 20:56

If she's feeding for a short time on each side just put her back on the same breast instead of switching. That might help make sure she gets both kinds of milk. You should be able to tell if she's emptying the breast first time.

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 20:57

I don't know if it's true - I'm no expert! My MW is concerned that she hasn't yet gained weight and a part of me is getting really stressed about that.

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 20:58

She won't go back on she just shakes her head at the breast and refuses to latch Confused

GrouchyKiwi · 20/08/2014 21:00

Knows her own mind! You could try expressing a bit so there's milk on the nipple to entice her?

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 21:01

She does a good job of emptying the breast. She feeds completely differently to DS and I cannot figure it out!

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 21:03

Grouchy oh no! Not another strong willed child Confused

Thank you all so much for your advice! I do appreciate it, just DD refuses to play ball.

GrouchyKiwi · 20/08/2014 21:07

Then she might just be an efficient feeder with a fast metabolism? Or having a good growth spurt. Hope you work it out.

NancyinCali · 20/08/2014 21:16

nutella I believe it's 2 hours from the start of the feed but I can't remember! The last growth spurt at 10 days resulted in feeding a lot more often than that though. And poo sounds normal from your description.