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JULY 2014 - WE HAVE BABIES

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justhayley · 12/06/2014 22:20

Well it's only mid June but I hear we have our first July 2014 baby - congratulations MrsC, also hear there is one going to be joining us very very soon so thought it was time to start a postnatal thread! Wow can you believe it's that time already!!!

I hope to be joining you on this thread in the next few weeks - have no desire to get to 40 /42 weeks in this heat thank you.

For now congratulations new mummies ThanksWine xxx

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icklekid · 19/08/2014 00:40

coco ds is the same only feeds for 10-15mins but at the end my breast feels very soft and empty. He's happy - haven't had him weighed for a couple of weeks as he was doing so well, will do so today but suspect all is fine- grown out of bewborn clothes etc. I think hes just got more efficient! I try to wake him if asleep and started offering the other boob but never that bothered! Plenty of nappies as everyone said!

mupperoon so pleased health visitor can empathise and being supportive- know how much that can make a difference and help!

zing don't worry about it and go from here would be my advice! How are you doing?

Plateofcrumbs · 19/08/2014 03:13

Things I haven't got hang of yet: when feeding DS whilst not wearing bra, forgetting to put a muslin under the other boob, leaving DS soaked with leaky milk.

lentilpot · 19/08/2014 06:37

Hi all, I've been reading along during baby's marathon feeding sessions but haven't had the wherewithal to post!

Feeding mainly going well after some initial bumps- the cranial osteopath really helped as prior to that DS was screaming every time he latched. She said the ventouse birth had left him really tight through his jaw. I was very skeptical but the change was instant, like having a newer, happier baby!

Do any of the experienced mums have any tips for dealing with baby acne?

MrsNutella · 19/08/2014 10:24

Hello, can I join? DD was due 30.7 and finally arrived 11.8
She is dc2 and we are bf again... Even though DS is only 19 months I'd forgotten how hard this first bit is!!

lentil DS had terrible acne/milk rash. If you're bf a bit of your milk is supposed to help otherwise just leave it alone and it will go on it's own in a couple of weeks. It's perfectly normal although not pretty, poor DS

AuntieMaggie · 19/08/2014 10:43

welcome nutella

lentil - ds had awful heat rash/eczema for a few weeks but its gone now except the odd spot - advice was to leave alone and just wash with water

ds slept ok til about 4am but only the odd 20 mins since then and is still feeding loads but I have noticed he's less windy but is a bit sick after feeds a couple times a day in the last week... could this be reflux? (he smiles at me just before he's sick)

ismarah · 19/08/2014 11:01

Zing don't worry about catching up, your wisdom is universal and always helpful whether you've read the whole thread or not.

Welcome Nutella and congratulations.

Have any of the other June babies had their 8w vaccinations yet? Did it affect them a lot? Did they / you cope? Bean's vax are due next week and I've stocked up on Calpol etc...anything else I should know about?

AuntieMaggie · 19/08/2014 11:12

lentil - we have second cranial osteopath appointment today so hoping that it really helps ds. its hard to tell if its made a difference so far as he changes so quickly atm anyway

I have borrowed a babasling but still trying to get the hang of it and a bit nervous about not supporting ds with my hand... not sure he likes it either

BlueC2 · 19/08/2014 13:09

Welcome nutella DD has baby acne too :(

ismarah from memory DS coped ok with vax though I did give him calpol afterwards-it was so hot I couldn't tell whether he was hot due to weather or jabs.

Will be back DD just done yet another massive poo- 3rd of the day

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BlueC2 · 19/08/2014 16:22

Ah moresnow that is horrid! I think worth assuming it could be mastitis just in case so drink loads of fluids take ibuprofen and rest as much as possible. Really hope you feel better v soon!! Well done with the expressing though- hardcore!

I made it to toddler world soft play on my own with both DC this morning - put DD in the sling so I could keep a closer eye on DS. It worked quite well apart from DD pooing just as I put her in the sling-cue awkward nappy change in the car. Then she did another huge poo when I was feeding her in Costa afterwards so had to change her balanced on a chair as couldn't leave DS to go into the loo! New challenges! On the plus side I bumped into an NCT friend from when DS born which was lovely.

Plateofcrumbs · 19/08/2014 17:07

DS has terrible baby acne - big pus-filled spots on his face and it is all over his back and chest too. I think a bit of breastmilk wiped over his face is helping and the individual spots do heal very quickly.

Just been to the baby clinic for a weigh-in and he's doing well this week after a poor gain the previous week. Feeling a bit more confident that BFing is working.

On the down side DS cried the whole time he was in his pram but instantly stopped when I picked him up. Oh limpet baby, what are we going to do with you?

moresnow hope you're feeling better soon.

ismarah · 19/08/2014 18:02

Am idly wondering if by the time I won't have perpetual baby spit on my shoulder will be the point where I finally remember to check for it and change before I leave the house...

DH decided to go to London on a whim today and so it's been just me, bean and dog today. We've coped as well as I hoped, which probably means it'll all go wrong now...

just as I wrote this bean started doing a poo, 5 mins after I changed her...

AuntieMaggie · 19/08/2014 18:17

Well this limpet baby barely let me make some toast and shower this morning but when I put him on the osteopaths bed he was all charm and smiles and cried when she gave him back to me... I'm sure he just likes to make me look silly!

ismarah vaccinations on Tuesday here... friend has given me calpol and thermometer!

BlueC2 · 19/08/2014 18:40

Do wish DD would stop fighting sleep all afternoon getting herself into an overtired mess by this time making bathtime for DS v difficult :( and even though DS slept for 2.5hours this afternoon he's still horribly overtired too tonight. Just so thankful DH here to help this evening but he's had a killer combination of late shift finishing at 10pm last night and early shift starting at 8am this morning so expecting him to crash anytime soon!!

elliejjtiny · 19/08/2014 18:54

Zing the only reason I'm caught up on this thread is because the computer chair is the best chair in my house to breastfeed in.

re vaccinations DS is 9 weeks but not heard anything yet.

We survived the hospital stay although I'd rather go through labour than go through that again. I got about 2 hours sleep I think. So glad to be home and DS4 is a lot better now he's out of the hospital.

AuntieMaggie · 19/08/2014 23:00

ellie is it worth chasing the vacs?

Emilybunny · 19/08/2014 23:46

Really need some help/advice. Arthur bf really well for the first 9 days, but I have mastitis and a blocked milk duct so due to being in extreme agony I have express pumped 1 bottle a day on days 7,8,9 last night he suddenly refused to bf so I have pumped exclusively for the past 24 hours just to keep milk going. Has he got nipple confusion? I managed to get him to bf twice today after a bottle. Have I ruined my chances of bf? Will he ever go back on the breast? Actually shocked at how traumatic I have found breastfeeding - both the intense pain and how emotional I feel when it isn't working, but I feel heartbroken giving him a bottle of my breast milk,,, I feel like I'm not his mother and he doesn't love me because all he does is cry for me :(

Emilybunny · 19/08/2014 23:47

Ps I'm taking antibiotics for mastitis so not sure if that affects bf

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Plateofcrumbs · 20/08/2014 02:32

emily I've been on antibiotics for mastitis too and they haven't had an impact. I think it'd be worth contacting the BF helpline or local support group about his refusal to latch. Have you tried squeezing out a few drops of milk onto his mouth whilst trying to get him on? Also would suggest holing up in bed and getting lots of skin-to-skin time and try to relax, hard though it is.

It is so emotionally fraught though isn't it? I thought I was quite pragmatic about feeding and it's caught mr by surprise how much it has affected me. I managed to get through entire pregnancy (with its fair share of stresses) without ever losing it in front of HCPs, but with BFing I'm in tears every time.

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ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 20/08/2014 07:17

Ugh hate insomnia! Sympathies moresnow.

Up at 5am to feed. Feed finished at 6. Expressed until 6.40. Washed up. Baby awake and wanted a feed at 7. Right now expressing doesn't seem like it's going to give me freedom, more like the opposite. I think I'm going to have to pump again after this feed too because I only got 2.5 oz from the last one.

Plus DH is very reluctant to do any night feeds because of having to work, which I sympathize with, but I also feel like I'm getting the shitty end of the deal. He doesn't seem to get that him doing an evening feed isn't so much of a break for me unless I go to bed at 7pm! So I feel a bit like the last 2 days' expressing was for nothing as he didn't do any feeds yesterday evening either - I think we can keep the milk for one more day but I need to check the fridge temp. If only we had a freezer!

He was very sympathetic just now before leaving for work but I'm really fed up :(

icklekid · 20/08/2014 08:45

more I was also awake following 1am feed with insomnia was horrid then 5am feed was wake up time although now in sling asleep. must perfect putting down asleep from sling- only managed it into car seat so far. Anyway baby group catch up this morning and dvd/nap time this afternoon is my plan.

its do you have an 11/12pm feed he could do? then you may only have 1 night time feed which might help? I am going to bed at 9pm at the latest at the moment Sad

So my right breast doesn't seem t be filling up post mammoth feed yesterday eve- do I just keep trying to get ds to latch?

MrsNutella · 20/08/2014 08:46

Emily I just read your posts and wanted to let you know you're doing a great job! Breastfeeding is hard!!! Have you looked for a lactation consultant near you? Or a la leche league group that might meet nearby. Advice and support is essential and an understanding ear too.
My MW has given me rubbish advice about feeding DD which I've found really hard to ignore. I trusted what she told me but DD was not happy. Confused So I'm feeding her like I fed DS - always both boobies. Mostly she is much more content.

Which makes me feel a bit daft for not ignoring her in the first place. Never mind. Smile

DD fed constantly yesterday evening and then screamed on and off for almost an hour after a half hour nap. She seemed in a lot of pain and we tried everything! I worried about feeding her and causing more digestion pain Confused so poor mite had to wait it out. Why is this first bit so hard?

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 20/08/2014 09:25

Occasionally we get a 11-12 feed, but usually last feed is at 9-10, then next at 1.30-2am, 4-5. He's now been feeding on and off since 7am! DH gets up at 6.

We've just been having a phone/email conversation about him possibly taking the 9-10 feed during the week, then taking another night feed during weekends. Also thinking about mixed/combination feeding every once in a while so I can have a break but I'm wary to go down that path when we have managed to establish bf ok.(which makes me feel guilty for complaining about the relentless ness of bf when there are others on here struggling with bf. Sorry for the moan! emily I hope you can get it sorted.)

ickle I felt a bit like that a couple of weeks ago with the left one - think prob best to just keep offering and hopefully it'll come right - sure I read something online somewhere about this but can't remember where!