jan 2013- No, I will not have a new nappy

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Ta daaaaa new home feel at home already.

We are currently mid-tantrum . Dan is currently face down on the living room floor, bum in the air shouting "like some pasta ME!" over and over. He can have some in half an hour. In the meantime, I'm ignoring him and drinking coffee. The occasional train has been thrown.

He's a bit under the weather this morning, viral rash, snotty nose, temp etc but not enough to warrant any concern, just avoiding playgroup which is a bummer because he I could do with the human contact. I'm buggering about on here to pass the time til lunch is ready.

We have repetition in the extreme too. For example, DS spots a bin lorry (which btw is his favourite thing in the whole world and the zenith of our week :-))

"A bin lorry! A BIN LORRY!!! Bin lorry. A bin lorry. Green one. A bin lorry. Bin lorry. A bin lorry! Bin lorry, bin lorry..."

Repeated ad infinitum until the next interesting vehicle passes then it's:

"A 'ment mixer! 'Ment mixer! Grey one. A 'ment mixer. 'Ment mixer. Bin lorry. Bin lorry..."

Animals are old school now and don't excite him at all. Only things with four wheels. And I really need to start watching my language around him!

This morning he scrunched his face up to do a poo then said very clearly and fluently:

"Oh. My. God. It's a big one!"

Oh dear juniper.

Ivy is a talker too. She gets stuck though 'get get get get get get me bubba' or 'dadadadadadadad go bed now'. A little amusing but dp is a bit worried she has a stammer

Agree deciding to have more is hard. It is lovely that they have siblings though. I do know people who waited until dc1 was at school before having dc2 which seems quite sensible. I did at one point have 3 under 5 which was utter madness!!

Stupid wind has completly blown down the fence at the end of our garden so its currently totally open to anyone walking past

Just taken the sides off dd's cot... Wish me luck!

Brave! Good luck!

How did it go Snozz?

She went to sleep OK once we had removed the cat but fell out twice in the night . It's a very low bed and we'd put cushions on the floor so she didn't hurt herself but still woke up and therefore woke us up to come and rescue her.

Did you use a bed guard?

Not sure what a bed guard is but last night I put a rolled up yoga mat under the bottom sheet and she stayed put

Thats pretty much what I meant. We used swimming noodles under the sheet for the same effect with ds1. It doesn't take them long to work out how not to roll normally.

I'm not ready yet but I suspect Dan is . Maybe in a month or so?

I only did it because lifting dd in and out of the cot was really straining my back. She seems fine with it though and keeps climbing in and saying. 'big girl bed'

Snozz how is bedtime going? We have a bedguard on DS' bed and he's been fine. He's now worked out how to open the baby gate on his door, though, so keeping him contained is a total nightmare.

Pretty rubbish day here. I've been trying to come off my anti-depressants as GP said it wouldn't be good to TTC whilst on them, but I just can't seem to do it. Two days off the tablets and this morning I've been the mother from hell, shouting and screaming and no patience at all. Poor DS hasn't known what to do with himself. I can't see any way through this now, looks like DS is doomed to be an only. Always swore I wouldn't parent like my mother did but here am I letting history repeate itself. Feel like a total failure today.

Cupcakes that sounds really hard.

Firstly, don't beat yourself up about your parenting skills; we all have our bad days and toddlers do really wind you up sometimes. The fact that you are reflective about your parenting probably means that you are a better parent than many.

Re the antidepressants, are the withdrawal symptoms likely to be temporary? If so can you arrange for dp to have a few days off work so you can take it easy while you come off them? Have you been offered any kind of counselling?

and to you.

The move to the bed is going well, dd hasn't fallen out of bed since we put the bumper in. This morning I heard her talking so I went in and asked if she wanted to get up , and she pulled the duvet over her head and shouted 'no, go way mummy'. I think she is turning into a teenager already!

snoz DH is self employed and we are very short of money so no chance of time off. He's useless at home anyway - had 4 days off over Easter and I still had to get up at 4am with DS. He just doesn't bother. No mention of therapy but have tried before and it's not been very helpful.

Really I just need some sleep and a partner who pulls his weight. Not likely to get either of those sadly!

How lovely your DD likes her bed! Could you get her to have a word with DS please?

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We appear to be having a tantrum storm this afternoon. Nothing is right. Nothing is acceptable. Not helped by his big brother interfering and nicking toys when he's not looking. I feel completely beaten down. I have had enough.

Cupcakes I know absolutely nothing about antidepressants. Could you maybe ask your gp to change them to something that is acceptable in pregnancy? There are a couple I think.

Glad the bed is going well Snozz. I don't feel brave enough to yet. Maybe I'll just start by ditching the sleeping bag for duvet first.

So nice to hear about tantrums from others too. Had 2 nightmare days, tired and a bit fed up, could do with a glass of wine but am 5 months pregnant so might just have to do a chocolate run when dd is asleep. Not in a bed yet, lots of admiration for those that are

Hi hopeful sorry if I'm being dim - are you new to the thread or a name changer? If new - welcome! Hope you could have some chocolate instead of wine.

We had our 2 1/4 year review on Friday - it went really well, they're very pleased with DS. We discussed the Men B jab, as DH and I have decided to pay to have it privately. HV was very supportive and is going to send us details on clinics. Anybody else considering going down this route.

DS has spots. They look like CP but only half a dozen of them .

Cupcakes re your earlier posts. As others said, surely you can TTC on some anti depressants? Though that wouldn't sort out the lack of support.

DH had some health screening through work last week and turns out to have an underactive thyroid which may explain the depression and the tiredness among other things. Hoping as it's treatable he'll feel much better soon.

She implied I needed to get off them. Maybe I should go back? I'm taking them again now and feeling much better. Just ignoring the baby thing for now.

Great news for your DP!

Cupcakes, I thought there were antidepressants which are safe for pregnancy so maybe worth going back to your gp? I haven't heard about the meningitis vaccine.

Glorious that sounds good re. Your dp.

7 weeks pg here and feeling tired and nauseous. I have my first midwife appointment tomorrow

Yes I'd go back cupcakes and say you're not able to come off the ads but you do want to TTC and what's the best ad.

Exciting to have the midwife appointment snozz, makes it all v real.

Thanks guys you're right, wasn't thinking straight before I don't think. I'll make another appointment.

Snozz how did the midwife appt go?

DS has decided it's fun to ride his balance motorbike thingy down the garden steps. Might be time to get him a helmet...

Parents evening tonight. Eek!

The midwife appointment was great actually, I saw the same midwife as last time and it was great that she remembered a lot about me. She said I'm not automatically high risk for this pregnancy although I think I do have to see a consultant at some point. She was enthusiastic when I tentatively said that I'd like a homebirth this time too.

How's everyone's weekend? I am shattered from taking dd shoe shopping; we had to try a million pairs before we found a pair which fit her square little feet, and they cost £37 . That's more than I spend on shoes and she'll probably need another pair in a few months.

Cupcakes hope you've managed to arrange another appointment

Snoz, DDs shoes cost me £42 a few weeks ago and now she is refusing to wear them

We get married in less than 5 weeks and guess what, the church have cancelled on us, we're currently waiting on the arch diocese to approve a special license to marry us in another church outside our parish

Oh no Lolli! Why have they done that? If it helps DH called off our wedding with three weeks to go, then 3 days later changed his mind again so we had to rebook EVERYTHING - we had to find a new venue for the reception and new caterers. it was all OK in the end (except for the cake. Don't even get me STARTED on the cake).

Not managed to get back to the Dr yet - DH has had another wobble about TTC

We had parents evening on thursday. Nursery are happy with him, his speech in particular is very good. However his key worker then went on to say that there are a few boisterous children in the group so the staff try to keep them seperate. I asked if DS was one of the boisterous ones and there was an awkward silence before she admitted he was . We all laughed and then carried on but it's been playing on my mind and now I'm worried she thinks I'm not taking it seriously. Wish I'd asked for more detail now. I'll see if she can chat when I pick him up later.

Great news from the midwife appointment Snozz - your midwife sounds lovely!