November 2012 - All our babies are 18 months, where has the time gone?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2079383-November-2012-Roll-on-summer-we-want-paddling-pools

I too am sorry about the fruit. Have kept some of it which will be used but I have 20kg of beef coming to my freezer on Tuesday and I had to make some tough choices. If I'd been given more notice I would have cleared much earlier. The cock was never going to be used though I think.

Yesterday afternoon a farmer who I had called and left a msg on her answerphone last JULY phoned me out of the blue.

The conversation went something like this:

• Madame Raleuse?
• Yes
• your beef order will be ready for collection next Tuesday.
• sorry?
• you ordered a 20kg pack of beef and it is ready
• erm, who are you?
• x from y farm
• ohhhh.
• the latest cow was slaughtered and will be butchered over the weekend
• but I called you almost a year ago and you never called me back
• we have a long waiting list
• evidently.
• do you want it or not? If not you go to the back of the queue.
• and wait another year?
• possibly more, possibly less
• I want it.
• good. You will have to pick it up next Tuesday between 5 and 6
• er. Is there any other time available?
• no. For the last time, do you want the beef.
• yes but...
• see you Tuesday then. Cash or cheque only.

And that was it, she hung up.

Hence the immediate need to empty the freezer. Fortunately it is a long sunny weekend of bbqs and I will be able to use up a lot of meat and veg that's in there. Now usually I would tell someone to fuck right off. But it is very special organic beef from very happy cows and there is a waiting list for a reason as when you buy in bulk like that you get it v cheap. Am glad that I hadn't recently placed an order at the pig or sheep farms as I sometimes do as if it all arrived at once I'd be screwed.

pidj there really is no need for being so, how can I put it nicely, rude when people are offering you advice based on knowledge and experience out of genuine concern for your little boy who is obviously in a great deal of discomfort.

I was unlucky enough to suffer from horrendous bed sores when I was bedridden for several weeks a few years ago and the pain is excruciating when pee/poo gets near them.

I really think you need to accept that if you describe nappy rash which is describes by your GP as ulcers on a thread you are going to get heartfelt advice from concerned people.

And despite people taking the time to comment you manage to turn round and be fucking rude back.

I find that very distasteful. And the passive aggressive childish with it.

pidj I know you have a lot going on, however it’s not very nice to be so dismissive of other posters offering advice. Of course it’s down to you to decide how best to proceed but there is no need for rudeness. As PR says, the suggestions have been made out of genuine concern based on what you have told us.

PR the beef conversation made me laugh

kyz we have found a good nursery local to us and C is going next Tuesday for a trial session. I really liked the atmosphere of the place, the staff seemed lovely and the children were all busy and happy. We were there nearly an hour in total looking around and they patiently answered my 101 questions. They are very security conscious which is important to me. My dad will be the one picking C up and they have asked to meet him beforehand so they know who he is. I’m sure C will love it there, he came with us and wandered around talking to the other children. He didn’t bat an eyelid when we went to look in the next room and left him playing where he was. So yes it was all very positive.

lily well done on your exam. I’m sure you will ace it.

I found it quite rude and very upsetting being told that the nappy choices I'd made had caused R's problem - which is neither weeping nor bleeding, nor is it causing him discomfort - and that it's basically All My Fault. So yes it's a bit to me because I'm following my very kind and sensible GP's advice. She's the kind of GP who is constantly running late because she takes the time to listen to each of her patients at the cost of her own coffee and lunch breaks so I very much trust her to make decisions in R's best interests. If she'd insisted on disposables then obviously I would have found a way to do that give up my down to fortnightly wine and chocolate but she hasn't. I'm finding this potty training malarkey quite emotional actually, I honestly thought there would be more time before my little tiny baby did something so huge and grown up

I don't want an argument. I need a bit of hand-holding and back rubbing and general you're-not-the-shittiest-mum-everness and i thought I'd asked for that earlier. i guess I am just a bit shit though, so will try harder not to be in future.

No-one said the reuseables were causing the problem just that they may not be helping them. And no-one even insinuated it was your fault.

I do believe that nappy rash is less of a problem now than in the days we all wore terry nappies and this is why I said disposables are a godsend to our generation.

I hope you are not wilfully misinterpreting what I said but it feels as if you are.

PP read the comments again. Nothing that you have accused us of is true. Absolutely nothing.

Perse the nursery sounds lovely. So pleased for you x

I'm walking away. I'm too vulnerable for all this right now. I'm not flouncing and will be back, probably in a couple of days or so, but just reading the thread is making me cry because I feel totally alone with all this and I can't handle it.

See y'all on the flip side

I have been comping in my masses of spare time recently and just went out to pick up my post and I have actually won something! It's worth about 3€ - just a little teddy and a baby product. Some kind of soothing water spray to help settle newborns.

Am hoping it's an omen for tonight's lottery.

Pidj I am sorry you feel like that Hopefully some time to clear your head will help. Fwiw, your last post re: the gp was the first time we had heard a lot of that info, so people were offering their advice based on parts of it, and it is a situation that to an outsider, seems to be becoming an ever bigger source of angst. FC things improve. And we are all here for hand holding if you will let us be.

So first nap today was at 10.30, bingo! We have just sat having lunch...

Me: did you poo?
F: no.

Liar.

or a sign of a new arrival PR

It had better bloody not be :o

I think I may not have helped by defending cloth nappies so if so, apologies all round.

piggy :o LO lies about having done a poo too. She will stop what she's doing, say caca caca caca caca while she's squeezing it out and then continue playing or whatever.

• Done a caca LO?
• Non

pidj I don't think anyone was trying to say it's your fault or that you could be doing more, they were merely offering suggestions and if you don't feel that's the best course of action then that's fine. It was just your response and the way you said it came across a little bit harsh. Perhaps it came out wrong, I don't know. Sorry you are feeling so down

I think there's been a bit of a head-to-head between VQ and Pidj and others are getting drawn into it. Remarks on both sides have been unwelcome by the other party. That may inevitable in a forum such as this where we clearly have a wide variety of attitudes and opinions on parenting but I really do hope that with all we've been through collectively as a quiche, that this can be resolved without it getting any more out of hand.

Meals not at all. I am an avid fan of cloth too. No need for apologies at all.

Stunt I don't think your comment was necessary or fair. I think we are all big enough to see what is happening without you interpreting it for us. It is not a head to head with me and Pidj with others getting drawn into it. Others have opinions and are free to express them. I make no apologies for what I have said at any point and do not appreciate having my wrist slapped for it either.

Thanks vq.

So my day goes some thing like this....

I asked Nanny if she could have the boys while I went to the DRs but she couldn't because she was going to the DNephews Sports day. tears from me ( not In front of her, in my car and behind my sunnies). I hit Tesco because it was the only thing to do to stop O climbing on the table.

Obviously, or maybe not obviously, because of sports day, parking by the Drs was a nightmare, already upset because I am dragging the boys with me because of sports day I now can't fucking park because of sports day. tears from me In The waiting room beacuse of sports day and waiting. I really didn't even have it in me to read anything. The kindly receptionist I hear you all shout < A KINDLY RECEPTIONIST?>

YES, A FUCKING KINDLY RECEPTIONIST, MIRICALES DO HAPPEN

brought the boys a digestive biscuit and a drink of water while we were waiting, obviously I looked like shite.

However I think having the boys with me did help my case and the DR also said that my infection had probably been exacerbated by the stress of the last few weeks. So freely prescribed drugs, drugs and more drugs which I ran next door and picked up straightaway. Only to realise my perscription was free. Is that everywhere now or just an NI thing.

I dropped a note to DH adding cuddles and curry onto the script. but unfortunately postponing short dresses and blowjobs

wanda I hope your GP appointment went ok and they have given you something to soothe the pain. Tonsillitis, if that is what it is, is horrible. When I had it as a child the GP came out to me and prescribed ice cream and a week off school. Am sure she prescribed other things too but I think she spoke with my mum about that :)

Ha cross post :) sounds like it went as well as it could

DH has come home from work

I have just come back from the shops with half each of 2 new recipes I wanted to try. I must have got mixed up halfway through writing my list I was wondering for ages why I had a tin of mixed bean salad for my curry.
I bought a new 'fakeaway' recipe book from slimming world yesterday and am trying a lamb dhansak (sp?) tomorrow night. Best get back out again.

pr I just laughed out loud when I read 'caca' I am very immature clearly

wanda I'm glad you have drugs, make sure you rest up. Must just be a NI thing about the freebies, they've gone up again her to 8 pound something.

Oh Wanda that nearly had me in tears you poor thing. Prescriptions are free in Haggisland but not England AFAIK. Tis a wonderful thing. I hope the drugs work and DH can ease your burden.

Having a horrid day at work. Had to send one of my boys to hospital and am really really worried about him. At least I know I have done a good job and he is in the right place. I kicked ass I can tell you.