April 2006 (new thread) - Pick up the pace!!

[NattyandThomas]

hey guys, brand new clean thread.. thought it might inspire you guys to WRITE something once in a while! lmao

Madscientist, hope your DD is better today. It's just so awful when they're ill at this age. My DD is due to start nursery next week, I'm bracing myself for all the bugs that she's bound to catch...

On the subject of sex... well I had a third degree tear and the area still feels kind of "unelastic" and at the same time over-sensitive. We're using condoms atm as I'm still bfing and don't want to go back on the pill, which means dh is rather under-sensitive - not a good combination and pretty frustrating for both of us! Still, the consultant said things would get significantly better once I started ovulating, so I'm hoping he's right...

DD is still having about 6 feeds a day (or rather, 3 in the day and 3 at night... yawn...). We're still struggling with solids, but things are slowly getting better. I had her weighed yesterday and she's put on a pound since the last weigh-in five weeks ago, yay!!!

Can I just ask, as I'm forever worrying that DD might be autistic like her brother, are your babies showing any signs of imitating you? And are they holding up their arms to be picked up?

Sorry, if tmi but i've started having my first proper period last month even though I'm bf. My mom told me that people don't have periods, i.e. ovulate when they are bf. Clearly not the case for me.

What's everyone else's experience?

Hi,

I am not going to comment on DD3 today (in the hope that yesterday evenings events were jinxed by yesterdays post ).

Homsa sex did get better when I stopped BFing (therefore started ovulating). I think you pruduce more natural lubrication.

Mellow - BF hormones do inhibit ovulation & therefore periods. You need to be feeding regularly though for the hormones to properly inhibit. It is this reason why many women get periods back around 6 months as BFs reduce as weaning gets established.

homsa my baby doesn't put her arms up asking to be lifted and i don't think she immitates me tho she likes it when i immitate the loud noises she makes.

Mine doesn't put her hands out either to be picked up. She will sit forward if she is on DPs lap & I walk by but not actually put arms out. She doesn't really imitate either. We have taught her to do things like 'indian noises though (see further down the thread) - but that wasnt about imitating us.

dd3 sleeps through now WOOHOO

she eats most foods and is happy to muck about with finger foods. She is a tough old bird despite being on the 2nd centile for weight, she can almost sit on her own and somehow moves about when she is on her tummy, she goes round 360 degrees and backwards but hasn't mastered going forward yet (thank god). she doesnt put her arms up but arches her back when she is laying on her back to signal that she wants to be picked up. She shouts and babbles a lot. She gives me 'kisses' which is a big snuggle into my neck with her mouth open.

she is fab fab fabby

Got mt Af back on the 1st sept, then 5 weeks later, now 6 weeks since my last, will prob do a pg test next week just incase, but not over worried as still bf and it can happen like that.

Ds is now sleepingt 7-10.30, then after a feed until about 6am, still bf ever 2 hours or so in the dayu but the feeds are getting shorter.

Had 3rd degree, uncomfortable, and sometimes scar itches but i would not say its painfull.

On the sex thing, we have just been taking it slow, lots of forplay, (started having sex again when ds was about 2 months old)

Enid,

DD is on 9 percentile but my GP has been giving me a hard time about her weight gain. She sent me to see a paed. Luckily the HVs are more understanding.

I don't think the weight is a issue as long as they follow one of the lines (doesn't matter which one) and don't dip or raise off them too significantly. i.e. if they were on the 2nd at birth and are on the 2nd now - not too much of a prob. If they were on the 50th at birth and 2nd now - something to be worried about. Trust me DTDs weighed 2lb at birth - so I was always worried about their weight until this was explained properly.

now i am worried, ds keeps getting onto all fours, and looks very pleased with himself.

Time to start baby-proofing!!!!

OK I have a dilema for you - would you take a baby with diarrhoea to clinic if it was your only chance to see a HV for 3 weeks? She is still not feeding more than 12-15oz milk a day (no solids) and I want to talk to a HV - not an answerphone. Would you do it?

will gp or hv not do a home visit?

I can take her to GP - thats not really what I want. Waiting on Stool samples and they can't do much until they come back at the end of the week.

I want to talk to HV and get her weighed as she is feeding so little at the moment. Left a message with HV answer phone last week and still not heard back. Going to clinic I fear is my only way.

I am not actually worried about taking her out to clinic, she is back to her old self character wise - just can't shift the diarrhoea or get her intake up. I am worried about infecting all the other babies (or being accused of at least).

what time is clinic? you could keep phoneing, see is they can fit you in before or after clinic.

Good idea. Could stop by at clinic on way back from school run - which will be at the very end. Will see if I can get hold of anyone tomorrow

We only have 'emergency HV' cover here as we have lost 3 1/2 HVs in he last months either permanently/temporarily. We have HVs from 15 miles away trying to cover.

what a pain in the bum how sre her milk feeds going? would not worry about solids (dont let hv get you in a panic)

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Poor little one. That has been a long one. I think that's a good idea going at the end. I'd have a word with someone as soon as you get there to explain the situation and see what they say (if they don't answer the phone before that). We had a bout early on with our first DS and they said to give extra water and to watch for signs of dehydration.

Having a bad time with DS2 at the moment. He has just learnt to pull up/ cruise and it's soooo early I am worried sick. With DS1 (who did it much, much later so was somehow a lot more sturdy as a baby) I could hover around him all day but with DS2 , I've got DS1 to look after plus all the cooking etc. and it's so hard to keep up with him. I've lost track of the amount of accidents today. He has pulled DS2s plastic kitchen over onto himself twice today and hit his chin on our hard table going down another time. He pulled up on a dining room chair and then just let go and sailed backwards onto our wooden floor. He keeps trying to pull up on DS1's plastic car, which then rolls away and he bangs his head. I've prevented so many accidents by being there but there are so many I'm missing getting there in time for. I don't really know what to do with him. He screams when strapped into anything, can escape from his bumbo in a flash. I don't think he'd take kindly to a play pen if we bought one. Any ideas, anyone?

Yes it has been a long one. We are on day 12 I think. She is much much better now - just can't shake the diarrhoea.

She is going for Prevenar this morning (I got sternly told off cos I didn't take her last week with the support of the GP when she was really poorly) but that is not at the baby clinic or run by HV so she is less likely to pass anything on.

I am not worried about solids or anything. GP actually wants her on clear fluids but that is a no go area. She is currently on milk at 2/3 strength (won't take anything weaker). She is not looking too dehydrated any more unlike last week when she was 48hrs away from being admitted for IV fluids. We just have to wait for a stool sample to come back to see if they want to treat with antibiotics.

My only concern about taking her to clinic is the risk of making other babies ill (I wouldn't wish this one on anybody). Will go at the end I think. I had HVs on my doorstep every fortnight for 9 months with DTDs - chance this time round would be a fine thing.

Little Piggie - will e-mail you today/tomorrow so you have my address, got to go for jabs now & working this afternoon (I get a bit sensitive about 'publishing' my address publicly).

madscientist,

does ur dd have a virus?

you can use the contact-another-talker function to contact a MN mum rather than writing out your email publicly. It's £5 annually.

Ponka, I'm having the same problem with DS2, just can't be there all the time to catch him, he's not crawling but rolling about and just throwing himself from sitting in the vague direction of what he wants. Also DS1 has got very rough with him, not malicious but somehow quite aggressive. He tipped him out of the playnest, threw it over him and leapt on top this morning, before I could travel the 10 feet to prevent him. The only thing he likes to be in where I consider him safe is in the baby walker, it#s one of the big ones - or have you tried a door bouncer?

Ponka - I have been giving your problem some thought overnight and despite the fact that I MUST have suffered something similar when DTDs were that age - I just cannot remember either a) how we coped or b) them sustaining any major accidents.

I think we just thoroughly babyproofed the house. to remove as many dangers as we could (not easy when you have got toddlers that need their toys around).

What I did have for DTDs though was a door bouncer on the kitchen door and a walker similar to that described by pepperabbit in the kitchen so they would both stay out of mischeif whilst I was cooking. I don't want to do this for DD3 though because of her positional talipes - so I don't know how I will cope when hte time comes.

Pepperrabbit - PMSL with your playnest incident - although I obviously hope DS2 wasn't hurt.

How old are your DS1's?

On the subject of DD3s bum - I have rang and left a message on teh HVs answer phone yesterday asking her to call me back or I will be taking a baby with Diarrhoea to clinic today. Still havn't heard back and clinic starts in an hour. SHe is much much much better again today though. Stools are firming up & she has already had 14oz milk today - so I am not as worried about taking her to clinic. Will still go at the end. At the risk of being attacked by the jinx fairies I am feeling . And I should be able to go to work tomorrow!!!!

Lpiggie I have just tried mailing you - but my mail bounced back. I sent you a really sweet piccie too.

MAJOR RANT WARNING

Just been to clinic. DD3 has lost 1lb in a month, going from teh 9th percentil nearly to the 0.4th (bottom line on chart). Was not expecting her to gain much, if anything, because of hte last to weeks, but I wasn't expecting her to have lost much. My conversation with the HV went something like this:

HV - have you seen GP
Me - err yes of course
HV - how much milk is she having
Me - 15oz/day at most
HV - Thats not much
Me - And its half strengh
HV - who told you to do that
Me - GP
HV - which one
Me - Dr X
HV - (Checks soft spot) Did you know she is dehydrated
Me - Yes. Was much much worse than this last week. GP was aware
HV - did she not need extra fluids
Me - GP didn't think so at the time. He said she wasn't too hydrated
HV - ummmmm
HV - Is she having solids?
Me - No thought we would get calories in the form of milk
HV - oh at least thats something (sarcastically)
HV - Can you make an appointment to see me Tues?

C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C$% C*$%

Why can't the health service agree on something - just for once?

RANT OVER

Serious appologies I have just realiised that the last 3 (Sorry 4 now) posts on this thread have been me.