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The 9th Broadly Gemini Bus - the one with first birthdays!

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Lorelei353 · 14/05/2014 13:53

Ooh Inge to start a new thread. So if the last one was the one where they don't sleep, then they'll start to sleep now, yes?

I go back to work next Weds Kitty. DS started properly today. Full day today, tomorrow and Friday. I've just done a lovely yoga class and am using the next few days to have lunches, get hair cut etc. miss DS though. Sad

pear definitely want to hear all TTC details! I'm beginning to accept that I will do it all again but not yet!

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AGnu · 30/11/2014 21:43

Yes! Wearing it now! Grin Not sure if I can be bothered with stitching "Happy Birthday Jesus" on it anywhere though. I think maybe simple is the way to go!

peardrop2 · 30/11/2014 22:29

Simple is good Wink

peardrop2 · 30/11/2014 22:53

Simple is good Wink

bringonthetrumpets · 01/12/2014 04:54

Oh lordy. M and I have got a horrible something-or-another. I don't think it's flu because it could definitely be worse, but we're both battling 100+F fevers, sore bodies, cough, and sore throat. This has not been a very fun weekend. Sad

I like the jumper idea agnu! Sounds lovely. Also fantastic news about your little niece or nephew! The crazy midwife in me would be extremely fascinated with the placenta after the birth to see if there is evidence where the bleed happened.

How is the house-hunting going Frus?

How about the potential baby-making convos with your DH Lor?

And of course, our TTC'er, pear.... any exciting news?

peardrop2 · 01/12/2014 09:24

Bring ~ poor you Hmm and M Hmm That sounds miserable. I can't moan about Bpears cold or my crooked neck really Wink I've got 3 days lefts to decide whether we go for it now or in January...that's about as exciting as it gets around here!

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Lorelei353 · 01/12/2014 12:01

Good work Agnu as is your impressive advent calendar!

DH found a lovely, felt, reusable one in John Lewis and bought it as a surprise and amazingly found chocolate coins that were nut warning free to put in it! I was very surprised and delighted.

bring that sounds horrendous! You poor things. Get well soon.

No baby-making convos as yet. Will chat about it over Christmas when everything's a bit quieter and we have a bit of time to hang out together. Won't ttc until the new year anyway if we do.

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kittykatsforever · 01/12/2014 12:46

Bring have you checked fb to see any other pregnancy announcements???

AGnu · 01/12/2014 14:44

YY, Facebook has been very exciting for the last 24 hours! Grin

pear do it, do it, do it, do it, do it....

There was a teeny tiny baby at toddler group this morning. I was very Envy. & yesterday I was sitting next to a friend with her hungry 4mo & I really missed breastfeeding! I finally went to the GP about that prolapse issue I was having nothing to worry about allegedly but she was confused that there didn't seem to be a particular cause & I promised her I wouldn't get pregnant for at least another couple of years. Sad

Babies, babies everywhere, nor any bump for me!

peardrop2 · 01/12/2014 15:32

Kitty are you pregnant? Grin

peardrop2 · 01/12/2014 18:15

Urrrr suspense is Blush me

kittykatsforever · 01/12/2014 19:01

No pear not me, not wanting to steal her thunder but an old member of the thread might be.......

peardrop2 · 01/12/2014 19:36

Ahhh I get the clue Wink How lovely for her ??

peardrop2 · 01/12/2014 20:10

Oooo it was not a clue. Would not have been a very subtle clue Wink

Is anyone else being dragged to DH's work do this year? I've escaped many but I've just had very short notice that I am going next week. Nothing to wear, no budget allowed for this, no idea what fashion is anymore and I feel like putting up a protest but I have to go. Boo hoo! Oh well, Cindy should be grateful to get out the house, right? Grin

AGnu · 01/12/2014 20:17

It wasn't a clue! Thunder still has a fairly young baby!

AGnu · 01/12/2014 20:19

DH isn't even going to his work do this year! He'll go to his departmental one but that's a lunchtime thing in January! I'm a bit annoyed he's chosen not to go to his whole-company one - it's at the local science museum place! We'd get to play with all the stuff for a while before having dinner! How cool would that be?! I've asked if I can go in his place but he thought it would be a bit odd for me to turn up without him!

peardrop2 · 01/12/2014 20:26

Thunder has had a baby? How did I miss that? Is it possible to have permanent baby brain because I seriously think I've got it Hmm

peardrop2 · 01/12/2014 20:26

Agnu that does sound cool although I despise all networking opportunities Wink

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Lorelei353 · 01/12/2014 22:20

DH runs his own business with a friend from Uni, who had a baby 10 days after us so we're having a Christmas lunch do with the toddlers I tow, and a few of their freelance contractors coming too. Should be fun.

My work do doesn't include partners. Just a team dinner this Thursday

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peardrop2 · 02/12/2014 07:31

Bring ~ How are you and M feeling? Any better? Hope so Thanks

Lor ~ sounds like fun! My DH's party is more of a networking opportunity hence why I have to attend. I still haven't been told the dress code but I don't think mummy clothes will pass Grin

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Lorelei353 · 02/12/2014 11:59

So, to move away from TTC and BFPs for a minute, I need to tap into the collective wisdom of those who have raised toddlers before.

DS has recently tipped into proper tantrum mode. If he wants something and can't have it he'll wail and scream and kick and nothing will distract him. He'll just keep going to get the thing he wants or go into into that room. If you close the door he'll just stand there reaching for the handle and screaming. How do you handle this? Holding him close and cuddling him will eventually soothe him but I don't want to reward tantrums. What's the best approach?

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AGnu · 02/12/2014 12:37

I mostly just stand nearby & wait for them to calm down, occasionally telling them I know it's frustrating but reminding them that they're not getting whatever it was I've said no to. Eventually they stop & then we have a cuddle before finding something else to do. I don't want to reward the tantrums but don't want to completely ignore them! Sometimes they're just being ridiculous though & then I don't stand for the tantrums. We definitely have 2 distinct types of tantrums here!

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Lorelei353 · 02/12/2014 13:45

This is usually a I'm tired and want that thing and don't understand why I can't have it' type. It's more upset than angry. I do explain but obviously he only understands so much.

Will try your technique

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Librarina · 02/12/2014 15:02

Hello!!

Is it ok if I come back?

So, what have you been up to, just give me a quick précis of the last year or so!!

N is a noisy, busy, determined little 17mo. She likes shoes, keys, shouting, saying 'bye bye', dogs, rabbits and pasta.
She does not like her carseat, having her nappy changed, people leaving and arriving at new places.
She has lots of words and signs and likes to use them with increasing emphasis to get her own way.

I'm back at work now, doing 4 days which suits me lovely. I work Tues, Weds, Fri and Sat, but tend to take the Fridays off as leave. N is with my Mum when I'm at work, and her Daddy on Saturdays. We've moved house to be round the corner from my parents which is awesome.

Erm, what else? Oh yes. I'm pregnant!
Stopped Night BFing at the end of October. Had a period. Appear to be expecting a new baby. DH is delighted but rather surprised, he had thought it would take longer as it was 18months TTC last time!

Thing I'm most excited about being preggo again? More baby-wearing, more slings, more breastfeeding, introducing N to new baby and seeing how they are together.

Thing I'm not looking forward to.... doing labour again. I remember it from last time. It hurts.

Also, those crazy first few weeks when you have to change their nappy in the night... all got so much easier once that stopped and you could just stick a boob in and go back to sleep.

Oh, and I'm officially a hippy now. We co-sleep and go to Kindy-in-the-woods and everything!

AGnu · 02/12/2014 15:52

Not sure we can let you back in just like that Lib... You need to complete the re-initiation process first. Start by running up & down the stairs a few times & then poke your boobs until they're sore... WinkGrin

Welcome back! I'm so jealous about your BFP! DH doesn't want another one. It's got to the point where we just don't talk about it because we can't agree! I'm ok about not having another small person to watch just at the moment but I'm really hoping that DH will change his mind in a couple of years. The daft thing is, I always swore I'd not have the same age gaps my parents did - 2.5y between eldest 2 & nearly 6 between the youngest. I think it'd be different for us though. We've got 2 boys already & I'm hoping any new baby would be a girl. The issue in my family was that the eldest was a boy & the 2 youngest were "the girls" & treated fairly similarly despite being 6 years apart! I'm clinging to the tiny hope given by DH putting all our baby stuff in the loft, not the charity shop!

I've got a friend who did similar to you - they got their first BFP at their first IVF appointment when they did a test just to make sure before they started her on hormones! After waiting so long for that BFP they assumed the next one would take a while too so weren't as careful as they should've been - they now have 2 boys 15 months apart! Seems crazy now to think that I was 34 weeks pregnant when Calf was the age Runt is now! Confused

We're going to need daily symptom updates... Have you started feeling queasy yet? What was your last pregnancy like?