The 9th Broadly Gemini Bus - the one with first birthdays!

[Lorelei353]

Ooh Inge to start a new thread. So if the last one was the one where they don't sleep, then they'll start to sleep now, yes?

I go back to work next Weds Kitty. DS started properly today. Full day today, tomorrow and Friday. I've just done a lovely yoga class and am using the next few days to have lunches, get hair cut etc. miss DS though.

pear definitely want to hear all TTC details! I'm beginning to accept that I will do it all again but not yet!

Frus ~ yes he wanted my company and to watch TV. It might have been because he's been sick recently and feels a bit unsure. It's extremely unusual for him to be up past 7pm. However, this afternoon he didn't even need a cuddle before going down for his nap so he was a completely different child. Fx he doesn't play up tonight as I've got a crafty project to tackle

Frus ~ I don't think it will be much longer for you. It took us 1-2weeks before bpear stopped waking. It does sound like you've done the right thing as you need sleep!! You having sleep right now is probably far more beneficial to both of you now that you reached this far with bf

I can understand that Frus. It's a massive emotional tie that is just something even I cannot put into words. No matter what bf journey you go through I think it's just really common to carry feelings for stopping or not stopping at whatever time.

I'm struggling to remember what it feels like to have something nearly constantly strapped to your boobs and how on earth do you cope with that and another DC?!?!?! oh well I guess I'll discover that soon enough

It is hard, frus. I remember it really well with both of my boys. You've been dealing with so much in your life, plus enough is enough when you just need some sleep! He's had such a wonderful bonding time with you for the past 18/19 months and that's an amazingly long time to be bf'ing! You are a rock-star mama for going strong! I know that the words I type here will not change any of the feelings that you're going through, but I hope you find solace in this big transition.

I was the one to push to wean #1 when he was 7 months old (blame it on PND, no support, newly married, living in the UK with no family around, a kid who bit all the time, lots of reasons). I still think about how differently things could have gone and perhaps DS1 wouldn't be dealing with food allergies, asthma and eczema had we kept bf'ing instead of putting him on formula where he definitely reacted to the dairy. It's something I am reminded of everyday. . DS2 self-weaned at 1 month shy of 2 and it was bittersweet. I am happy that M is still going, but then again, I'm looking forward to her being able to find other ways to be soothed. But then I'll be back to mosquito-sized boobies again so that's not very exciting. I've always wanted to tandem-feed but at this rate with M slowing down to 2x per day and the chances of babyville happening again anytime soon, I don't think it's gonna happen.

Pear you just make it happen. Lots of DVDs and a snack basket for #1 while you're feeding #2 for the first couple of weeks! The night time feeds are actually magical because there are no distractions and it's just you and baby to just cuddle and get all loved up.

You learn to feed while walking around pear

I'd forgotten that already kitty! I used to use a pashmina as a sling & learnt the knack of feeding Runt discreetly in it, leaving my hands free to grab Calf. I remember one time when I was doing the register & greeting everyone at toddler group & one mum arrived & started gushing over him & peering in before suddenly realising he was feeding! Didn't bother me in the slightest but she was rather

I can't imagine how you did that. I could barely feed DS without the feeding pillow for four months. I was massive and leaking though and needed two hands to get DS to latch on for quite a while.

Oh yeah! I totally fed in the baby carrier LOADS too, agnu. Forgot about those days....

We needed a feeding pillow for #2, b/c I remember him being super particular about only wanting to feed in cross-cradle on the left side and football on the right. He hated turning his head to the right (which I think is due to his syndrome and the pulling he must have felt. He was at the chiropractor a lot as a baby....). But I digress.... no shame in the feeding pillow Lor! I found that I leaked way less with each baby and feeding seemed to go more smoothly the second time as I was the pro and we were just working having a baby learn instead of both mum and baby learning at the same time!

Lor I'm with you sister!! I'm sitting here thinking how the hell would I have achieved feeding in a sling! Firstly, babypear hated slings... I brought 2 (the fantastic Caboo with a lovely man cradling his baby on the front of the box and a hippy mummy sling that promised me that I would be able to carry bpear with ease until he was 3...it tore when he got chubby at around 3-4 months) and I was also given the original babybjorn sling in navy which he was OK with on the odd occasion but feeding in it...no!?! That would have never happened. Plus my boobs were never that flexible! Oh man I do hope my boobs become flexible and I find the right sling for dc2!!

Btw I was being sarcastic about the Caboo Dx sling purchase. It was by far the worst baby purchase I made along with the Tommee Tippee nappy bin and the stupid baby wash bowl separator thing What were allyour top 3 worst buys?

Good job you didn't have to buy the swinging crib

I brought a Stokke daybed but didn't get to use it after discovering Bpear was a koala baby

Well my reflux baby absolutely hated it so I can't recommend it

Frus why do you think it would be good for reflux? It's flat.

We had the rocking crib got used for 6 wks with dd1 and 4 with dd2 before they were carted to the big cot own room I have missed out on the useless purchases though on the whole although love hearing about them! Anyone invest in heated baby wipers

The bouncer is really uncomfortable for them. A very bad invention. I really need to sell ours.

Yes, yes I did invest in a whopping $25 wipe warmer. But... in my defense- I used it for cloth wipes so I didn't have to get up and get a piece of cloth damp every time we had a nappy change. It was definitely worth it.

Useless purchases... hmmm... I second the baby bath, that was crap. Definitely the nappy bin we had with DS1. And I'd have to say the swing too. All 3 only fit in it for about 2 months and DS1 was the only one who actually liked it, the other two were really not having it.

We've mostly had toys that were bought and only used for a short time or not at all.

We love our nappy bin. Still use it (great if you live in a flat). We got a great six month out of our baby bath seat that sits in a normal bath. DS loved it so much. We didn't use our door bouncer too much. DS got tired in it quite quickly because he got totally overexcited in it.