The 9th Broadly Gemini Bus - the one with first birthdays!

[Lorelei353]

Ooh Inge to start a new thread. So if the last one was the one where they don't sleep, then they'll start to sleep now, yes?

I go back to work next Weds Kitty. DS started properly today. Full day today, tomorrow and Friday. I've just done a lovely yoga class and am using the next few days to have lunches, get hair cut etc. miss DS though.

pear definitely want to hear all TTC details! I'm beginning to accept that I will do it all again but not yet!

Haha, loving these dreams! Calf woke up briefly at 5am last night. I put him back to bed & promptly dreamt about my DBro splitting up with his wife because "she was so thick & didn't know anything". I agreed with him. She's not the brightest spark but not that bad! While bringing his stuff in, because he was staying with us, a friend drove past to remind me about a party at a swanky restaurant. I assured him I'd be there at 8. Except I was going to be late because I'd been shopping with some unknown person & got distracted trying on dresses. Literally just wandered off while the other person was talking to me. So I text my friend to let them know I wouldn't be able to go to Malawi with them after all because the swanky party was actually a planning meeting for a charity trip to Malawi & since I couldn't make it to the meeting that meant I couldn't go. I was very sad about this... While looking at the clock & realising it was only 10 to 8 so I could've made it but I hadn't washed my hair & didn't want to abandon my DBro who was still ranting about how stupid his wife was! I nearly text my friend when I woke up to find out how the meeting went!

Just had some horrible news - one of the mums at our toddler group was diagnosed with cancer just over a week ago & we've heard today that it's terminal & she's being taken to a hospice. She's got 3 young kids & is the second person our church knows well to have cancer & young children. The other one has been told several times that he only has weeks to live but keeps rallying. He's not doing so well now though & I think everyone's expecting bad news in the next couple of weeks. It sounds like her cancer is moving fast too. I just don't know how we're going to support our group through this - she's really popular & the reason many of them started coming. Everyone's going to be devastated & I can't handle my own emotions let alone anyone else's! To top it all, DH has gone to a meeting today & must not have signal trying not to assume he's crashed the car or something so I can't contact him to calm me down.

That's awful Agnu. I'm so sorry. A friend of mine lost a friend from her baby group a few months ago and she said the group had found it very hard but had rallied together and supported each other. I think the dad and the gran still bring the kids sometimes so all the mums lavish attention on the kids and are helping the family cope. So tough though.

Hope you're doing okay. It's very scary.

Oh Agnu, I'm sorry I hope you find a way to support each other through this time and give each other and your families lots of hugs x

Oh gosh angu that is really heartbreaking news. I'm so sorry for your group! It's scary when we get news like that because it hits so close to home. Sending thoughts of love and light to you and your friend.

Hope you can get ahold of your DH soon for some support.

Random question...

I've been wondering what Bpear will be doing/be like when he starts school at age 4. Does anyone else have a 4 year old to tell me what 4 year olds are like? Just intrigued! Do they talk a lot? Can they get dressed? Do they bake cookies? Can they skip?

Four is fun! Very cute, very energetic, very talkative, starting to assert opinions and testing limits. Lots of questions! Yes to getting dressed and skipping. Loves to climb and starting to use imaginative/dramatic play. Way better than 5 IMO. 5 year olds just suck.

Hahhah bring Now I need to know why 5 year olds suck IYO?

As do 3 year olds. It turns out 3yos can undress themselves and their sibling, nappies & all! Left them alone for all of 5 minutes & came back to find Calf just in his t-shirt & Runt completely starkers! Just glad I found them before any damp patches occurred! Calf has spent the rest of the day acting like a moody teenager! "Mammy! Get lunch now!" "No, I can't tidy up." "Go away, Mammy/Runt!"

I've heard (and so far found it to be true) that for some reason, the odd-aged years are the tough ones.

Good lord, DS1 just turned 6 but he has been a f'ing moody, whiney, complaining, self-obsessed teenager for the past year. Bossy, demanding, know-it-all who follows no rules but his own rules. He's a back-seat driver, he interrogates me with everything that I do, he demands to know what I'm doing at all times and why it's not involving him. Absolutely refuses to do anything that is expected of him. Reeeeeaaalllly hoping that 6 is better. It's an odd year so it must get better, right? RIGHT?

See!? I'm so tired and distressed from reflecting over the past year that I can't even figure out if it's an odd or even year.

Also, 3yos can climb & open every sort of childproof lock. This will result in the entire contents of every cupboard being thrown around the room. They also write on walls even when you think you've put all pens out of reach, see previous point about climbing. I thoroughly recommend magic erasers - they really do get permanent marker off walls!

Ahh I love all your wealth and knowledge Thanks for the eye opener!

I'm quite enjoying this age! Bpear went in his first puddle this week. His face just lit up. Those are the moments to treasure I'm also seeing a very cheeky boy appear!!

I'm with you pear. We spent a while crunching through autumn leaves on Tuesday. so fun.

Sorry I havnt been on in awhile, love reading back and catching up with you all although some not nice news for some, so sorry to hear of your friend Agnu, I hate the reality of life in these situations, makes our own mortality and loved ones seem far to perilous and precious.
We too have a teethy baby but like lor she has good and bad nights and if I have to settle she likes to be picked up for about 30 seconds for a hug then launches herself back to the cot to go back to sleep on her own, very strange child. Its made me wonder how I had all that do easy with tiger, we never had one teethy night! How is that possible?!
Pear how many dpo now?
Frus dh not improved so sorry to hear about dd1 too, how you deal with all this is amazing to me, you really must be super mum!

Kitty ~ I'm 13dpo now...still bfn. I've excepted that I'm out now but still a bit dissapointed that again I'm not one of those "ooo we fell pregnant first cycle" types

Back in teething hell. DH has reminded me that the air pressure on the plane is not going to help Thinking about giving a dose of Calpol before we go on.

Definitely think frus is supermum. I just about manage with one DS, with a pretty great DH helping me and no issues to speak of!

Pear I find the calbrofen I'm sure that's not how it's spelt a lot better then calpol. I think because it relieves swelling etc the calpol never touches kitten but the other seems to work a treat.
Do you think you could be the go on Holliday get preggers type

Oh, yes... Do get upduffed while abroad pear, that way you can call your DC after where you've been & be terribly trendy! I know someone who named their DD after the bottle of wine they drank the night she was conceived.

YY to baby ibuprofen too - infinitely better for teething than paracetamol based medicine. Any time ours are ill they get ibuprofen & we only use calpol as a top up if they need something before their next ibuprofen dose is due.

Frus ~ you're super mum

No chance of a holiday baby I'm afraid as AF is due

Chardonnay, Pinot, Sauvignon...I'm intrigued. Is it Chardonnay?