The 9th Broadly Gemini Bus - the one with first birthdays!

[Lorelei353]

Ooh Inge to start a new thread. So if the last one was the one where they don't sleep, then they'll start to sleep now, yes?

I go back to work next Weds Kitty. DS started properly today. Full day today, tomorrow and Friday. I've just done a lovely yoga class and am using the next few days to have lunches, get hair cut etc. miss DS though.

pear definitely want to hear all TTC details! I'm beginning to accept that I will do it all again but not yet!

The wine was called something similar to an uncommon unisex name, albeit with a different spelling I think. They do tell everyone the reason for her name though. If I felt compelled to call my child after alcohol I'd never admit it!

I'm really not in a good place right now. DH has been tricked into working away so I'll be home alone with the DC one night a week for the foreseeable future. He was originally told he'd need to go for one day just to pick up some work. That evolved into one day a week for the duration of the project, but could he go for 2 days for the first week to get started. He arrived there yesterday to be told he was expected there 2 days every week. It's an 8 hour round trip, given the traffic, so it'd be really difficult for him to come home in between the days. His normal office did know he was expected there 2 days a week but hadn't told him. From what he's said, it sounds like they were quite desperate to get this particular contract & I'm not entirely convinced they didn't deliberately not tell him until he'd started so he couldn't back out.
I slept for 2 hours at 7am this morning. That means I'd been awake for over 24 hours. I just can't sleep when he's not here. I know that sounds pathetic but it just doesn't happen. I wasn't even worried about anything, just couldn't sleep.
Calf's behaviour is getting worse. He's started clawing himself in the face whenever he gets frustrated or cross. Both Sunday & yesterday I just managed to catch him as he sprinted out of a building headed straight for the road. No warning, standing perfectly nicely one moment & the next he's just gone while laughing manically. It's terrifying. He walks really nicely next to me when we're on the pavement, he's just taken a sudden interest in bolting from buildings!
DH has recently started working an extra hour 4 days a week so he gets one afternoon off. It's been working so well for us & his work are aware of why we needed the change. I'm not sure the person in charge of allocating work knows the full story so may not understand why it's so difficult for him to be away overnight.
I wish I could go stay with my parents when DH is away but we can't afford the petrol/toll costs & even if we could, Calf really struggles when we go away. It's even worse if DH isn't with us. He just goes a bit mad & is a nightmare to get to sleep. It's not fair on him to keep dragging him over there like that & it's not fair on my parents or my grandmother with Parkinson's who lives with them. I also tend to get migraines either while I'm there or once I get home. Their house has to be kept at a stifling temperature to keep DGM comfortable but it makes me feel like I'm suffocating.
It feels like we're left with no solution other than him going over there as they've planned & me just not sleeping. I'm really scared for my mental health. I can see something like this being the last straw for my depression. I genuinely don't know if I can always guarantee my own safety if it gets bad again.
DH is already disliking the work itself & has only just started. Tbh, from the way he was talking last time I spoke to him I wouldn't be entirely surprised if he quits his job. Could be interesting money-wise if he did... Although we did just have a flyer through the door saying the Royal Mail are looking for Christmas staff...! That'll pay £30k, right?!

Oh, & I've just read a book about Asperger's in women & am even more convinced I have it. Fun times in the Gnu barn!

Not yet Frus. I'm thinking of pursuing a diagnosis for Calf first which would add weight to my argument to have myself assessed. Given that their diagnostic criteria are based on symptoms in young boys I figure it should be simpler to convince them that he should get a referral!

Poor FrusBoy! Hope he's not too sore tomorrow! Runt collided with the edge of a door earlier. No idea if it was self inflicted or if he was pushed but I put arnica on his forehead only to later discover he's got a vertical bruise down his cheek too! It was the first thing DH noticed when he got home!

As if today hadn't been bad enough, DBIL also suspected ASD has lost his beloved phone & called DH in a panic. Usually he'd have called DPIL but they're away at the moment. DH isn't used to dealing with him in this state. He's completely frantic, isn't staying on the phone long at all & doesn't make much sense when he does! He's kinda scaring us! If this had happened yesterday DH would've been a lot closer & could've gone round. Not that DBIL would've let him in - he's got hoarding problems but is in denial.

We had a door-collision yesterday too. Big line all down his forehead. Just wasn't looking where he was going and turned around just in time to smack his face into the corner of the door. Ouch.

Agnu You poor thing. Sounds like you're having a really tough time. My DSis struggles to sleep when her DH is away too - she's always been like this - so I understand how hard you find it. Sounds like his work really pulled a number on him.

So much on your plate right now agnu. Big changes like that are so hard on the whole family. What do you think about giving it a trial month and see if settling into the routine will help to improve the insomnia when he's gone? Also the kids will start to recognize the routine of when he's home and when he's gone for a couple of days. Maybe just have dinner be breakfast foods the nights he's gone so it's easier on everyone and make a movie and popcorn night. Try making the nights that you're on your own different and special just for the three of you. We are in this boat often as well where DH will have to work late one night and get up early the next so we don't see him for a while. There are nights that it's hellish and nights where we just try to make it as chilled as possible and realize that it's different on my own and that I need to just not get upset about the things that aren't going as well without DH there. You are a strong mama! You can do this! We are all here for your support.

Yikes Frus. Sounds just like M. Are the 3rd kids just like this because they've already seen what works from the elders? M does a proper throw-theyself-onto-the-pavement tantrum with absolutely no regard whether she will bang her head or not. She's also really good at throwing her arms into the air so she slips out of my grip too.

Little stinkers!

That's just like kitten frus, if I'm cuddling tiger she instantly has to come over to get in on it too or try to push tiger out the way do she can force herself into the spot she wants! Little stinker

Oh god we have 'no' down to a fine art in our house. 'No, no no!'.

I was reading a book the other day where it ended with people hiding and I put my hand over my face and said 'no, no, no'. Now he keeps grabbing my hand, putting it on my face and cuddling into my neck saying it. So cute.

Not so cute when he's saying 'no' to everything else though.

Oh yes, M absolutely cannot stand if I'm cuddling someone else. Even if it's DH. She is very possessive of her "milkies"!

So I'm not normally superstitious, but she wore the same PJs last night that she did the other night that she slept through.... and she slept through last night as well! I think those are going to be the official PJs in hope that I'll finally get to catch up on some extremely over-due sleep.

Found out today that it's unlikely that my friend will make it through the weekend. She's deteriorated really quickly. It's less than a month since she had the scan that revealed the cancer. Life sucks sometimes. DH is so wrapped up in work stress that he has no time for how I'm feeling.

I'm sorry Agnu, that's really horrible, cancer seams to be so fast acting! I've known people seen fine, really fit go in with a tummy ache and die whitin a month, it's shocking. Did you watch the stand up 2 cancer last night? I could only watch abit
Bring, I'm sure it's fine for her to wear them every night

Hi ladies! Hope everyone is well? So sorry to hear your news Agnu I'm scoffing down ice cream, chocolate and Rose tonight as its cycle day 37 and AF arrived 2 days early. I'll start using my cbfm in the morning. Typed in my potential next due date and it would be 31st July which is a bit pants as you know I'm not keen on an August baby. I'll probably wait until December now

DFriend died last night. I found out while celebrating Calf's birthday with all my family. At least I wasn't home alone with the DC. That would've been harder.

My AF used to be every 28.5 days. Nearly to the minute! It's being a bit more unpredictable at the moment & only waited 26 days this time. I have been rather stressed recently though in case I haven't mentioned it! so maybe that's messing things up a bit. I'd prefer to have my regular days than not be sure when it's going to happen. Would obviously prefer not to have it at all!

Oh Agnu that is so so sad

Oh I'm so so sorry for you and your friend's family Agnu That's so quickly, no time to really prepare for something like that. I wish that words could make things better, but please know that you're in my thoughts as you are working through this. I'd give you a giant hug and piping mug of tea if I could.

Yep, it's the PJs! She wore a different pair last night (as the lucky ones were in the wash) and she woke up at 1 and 4. There will be no other pair of PJs worn by that girl.

That's quite odd that it's so late Frus. Did boy Frus pick up another feed somewhere?

Oh dear, what's wrong with an August baby pear?

Bring ~ Stupidly long I kind of assumed that my cycles are so long because I'm still bf 7am and 7pm?! No other feeds added. Thought maybe it was just bad luck Oh and I worry about dc2 being the youngest in the school year and I don't like the idea that I'll have to wave bye bye to them at exactly 4 years I think I might have early fly the nest issues!!