December 2011 - the one where we do the Twist and Shout

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

New thread.

these babies are nearly two and a half

It was not hot here.
Still, I didn't have the strength to take on the spare room this evening, so I did battle with the bedding.
I couldn't reason with Boi either. He just cried and cited and could not be distracted... Until I said we could read bedtime books in my bed. He's still here. Snoring soundly.
What's that about not moving boundaries? Ah, that's for stronger folk than me today!
AF + lack of sleep = foul mood at work. I just avoided folk. 'Twas for the best.

I think a bit of bed sharing while you all adjust is fine.

I managed to remain calm and peaceful during bedtime, and even gently encouraged DS to go to sleep on his own while I pottered around upstairs and left his door open! Win!

Win! (Hop)
Dropped BOi off at the Gp's this morning. Mum was up, dad still in bed. She wanted to give me the talk about her hoping that the split is only temporary, 4 years is not long, judgey-judgey-judgey. (She is being an idiot. I don't want to challenge her about he choices she made in life, but she knows, if she could have, she would have kicked dad out when we were kids - he wouldn't go! That's the reason they're still together!). I didn't say this to her. Instead I said that "these things take time. Whatever happens, it aint going to happen overnight, so let's not have this conversation every time we meet."
DH is picking BOi up later, and BOI will spend his first night at Dh's. I have got him very excited about his racing car bed. (Mum and dad will probably cook dinner for DH and favour him as the injured party. that's OK with me.)
Dh hasn't told his family yet. His BIL is very sick. he's had numerous brain tumours and operations for the last 20 years, he was told 5 years ago that he wouldn't make it until Xmas. The tumours have spread to his spine, and in the last two weeks he's gone downhill rapidly and barely stand. They're going to decide today whether they will operate again. There's a huge risk that he won't wake up.
BIL's wife, DH's sister, is DH's closest family member. DH doesn't want to lay this on her now - understandably. Plus, DH''s sister is fuming with their other sister, because she didn't invite her to her hen party (or me either), so insists that she's not going to the wedding. (But that would be difficult now because of BIL, anyway.)
DH is also a bit worried that if he doesn't tell her soon, she will get upset with him for not telling her. Rock. hard. place.
...The wedding is on 2nd Aug.
I have no idea if I'm going to go to the wedding. If the news is out by then, I suppose its better that I don't.
I'm out with my mummy friends this evening (inc Hop and BennyBenBear). BBB is driving. I am having cocktails. I will try and not get too messy.

Well done on the win hop!

Tricky oi: could you perhaps encourage DH to drip-feed so at least he's not lying, but can get family used o the change in stages? So say "things have been a but rocky, we're having a trial seperation for a few months" rather than make it sound done and dusted? That way, you have the option for your mum to see the "possibility" (might keep her quiet so you guys can all try this out without her repeatedly trying it on) and your BIL/SIL can be aware things are not ideal but you and DH are evolving.... (And if SH is worried about upsetting them it's less likely to happen if he goes down the "trial" route.) that sounds less dramatic than an "out-of-blue" split announcement, can havethe same eventual outcome, and means he won't have the holding-back-news guilt, maybe?

dS did really well last night and made it all night in his own bed. Oh the bliss of a full 7 hours uninterrupted sleep!!

(octo or kitten - if you're lurking, I am truly in awe of your child-weangling skillz)

And today it is officially Too Hot. Am having a housework-and-veg-away-from -Eeevil-sun day. Stay chilly girls!

Good idea, aethel.
I have no idea about hotness.
It looks glorious outside through the small window in my office... It doesn't let any light in. And the view (if I stand up) is off a scrap yard. It's grim ooop North.

of
not off!

Hey, I've done North! Used to live in Yorkshire many moons ago. It's lovely there. Boo for tiny windows though.
(Can you tell I'm avoiding housework? Well, can ya?)

It is v nice having the occ lower key day. Been to the park before it got too toasty, Got the waching out, We've been playing with the Thomas Trains with DS, and now we're having a snack while watching some "ninions"....

Yorkshire is a swear word where I come from.

Sounds like is lovely weather all over!

I'm finally getting some work done (mumsnet lunch break!) after two days of really horrible bump pain. Just moderately sore today. Big relief as could barely stand straight the last two days and bump was so tender and sore to touch. Still a bit tender but much improved. I rang my midwife yesterday and she reassured me. No other symptoms such as leaking, blood loss, temperature or anything so prob just bad round ligament pain but bloody hell, it really was SO painful. Minimopsy happy out playing with her granny. Nearly back to normal phew!

Enjoy the cocktails Oi. Well jealous! Enjoy the sun eacapage aethel!! Waves to everyone

It's scorching here! Thankfully there is a bit of a breeze so I'm not melting too much. Will def need a shower before going out tonight though!

(Just don't forget your skirt! I don't care how hot it is! )

You're always grigging me with gin aethel! Would love 3or 4 gin and tonics!

Oooh thanks for the tip!

Hi all, I fell off again.

oi sorry to hear you're getting pressure from your mum, i think when I was last here you'd just made the decision to seperate, I've been thinking of you and the BOi.

mopsy sorry to hear you're in pain, how far gone are you now?

Things not brilliant here, we're still in steroid-related hell. Plus I'm now 31 weeks(!!) and it's sooo hot and making me miserable. Plus we had much fun yesterday, DS managed to spend £245 on fucking in-app purchases, it would have been £384 had they all authorised but he wiped out my bank account. Thankfully apple were lovely and are refunding me but it was truly sickening thinking I'd lost the money. I didn't know he knew my password, needless to say all settings have now been changed.

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Hi seven, good to see you!
< slides another tonic water across the bar>
Yowch for the in-app purchases! I point blank refuse to download games with those in (which one was it?)

seven!! So sorry DS (and by proxy the rest of you) is still suffering with the steroids. Is it likely to settle down at any point?

And ditto Oi, them white-rose types

Oddly all my holidays are in Yorkshire, Whitby and York mainly!

I'm off for an actual G&T in our massively hot garden, yay

In app purchases... Sh1t!!!
My phone unlock code is the same as my credit card pin,
...Boi knows my phone code.
...Boi has my genes.
...I wonder when selfridges will be delivering!!?!?! Yikes!

Hi, all. WE're flying today, so I am procrastinating, as there's always such a shitload of things to do before going, and I'm tired. Clothes still in heaps on the floor (I've been doing laundry till the 11th hour, as usual), and there are heaps of Tech, too, as that's a packing category whenever we go away! I've left some proof-reading to "do later", but have to order a bathroom towel rail before we catch our taxi at 10:30. Luckily, it's rubbish day, so everything can go out the door, and hopefully there will be no maggots on our return (the food scraps bin is DISGUSTING in this weather! Even being collected every week, it can still end up aswarm with maggots and maggot flies by Friday).

Welcome back, Seven! So sorry to hear about the steroid hell. The weather can't be making that easy...

How's the "holiday" with the DC, aethel? You sound as though you're taking the right approach (enjoying weather, avoiding housework...)

Good news about the sleep, Hop! Maybe the weather is working in your favour? DD has been conking out, too. Let's hope it creates new habits!

OiMissus, that phrase, that "these things take time. Whatever happens, it aint going to happen overnight, so let's not have this conversation every time we meet." is brilliant. Ditto the drip-feeding to the ILs but refusing to dicuss in depth. The last thing you want is lots of proxy-attacks! My aunt (DM's sister) was rather a one for that, when my parents divorced, and I wish I'd had your phrase, or similar, to tell her to butt out!

Where is this heatwave it's overcast and windy here!! Had a conference at work last night up in Cheltenham dinner on hotel terrace afterwards weather was quite nice then.

Can't decide what to do today I'm feeling an urge to splurge but shopping with DS is just useless. Threw out two pairs of work shoes yesterday as they were scuffed and one had a hole in them right through the soul.

How do we make the transition from DS being out of nappies in the house to being able to go out? I'm going to buy him some pants this weekend but the problem is he can literally we on the potty every few minutes seemingly for the praise how would I ever be able to leave the house with him like that?

Oh and Plu have a great holiday and Oi hope your night out was fun

Pul have a fab holiday xx

Oi, Hop hope you all had a fab night out xx

Seven glad you are getting the money back xx
Also I feel for all the pg mamas in this heat, keep in the shade, lots of cool drinks and take it easy xx

Figgy we had a travel potty and a back pack with potty, frog bags (it goes with travel potty its a patch with frogs on the kids wee on and it aborbs the wee), wipes (flushable andrex ones), spare cloths (soild cloths went in frog bags), hand disinfectant gel, bottle of water.

Also plan before you go, find out which shops have toilets, cafes are good too. On car journes plan stops every hour and pullins are your friends. In this weather give water a lot more and just plan more time to do things so lpts of potty brakes and no rushing/panicing. Car seat protectors are a must on long journes, I have twoor more is good idea.

Ooh hope you've a fab hol Plu!

Oi,Hop, hope your heads aren't top sore this morning!

Massive thunderstorm here early this morning. Now overcast and fairly cool but also muggy. Weird.