May 2014: Newborn snuggles while we await our comrades from the Drop Zone!

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The Maybies are on the move to Postnatal! This is for graduated Maybies (and other baybies due in May but with other ideas; the almost-Maybies!) to discuss adventures in sleepless nights, nappies and lovely newborn snuggles. However you feed, however you nappy, however you give birth and however you like your tea - if your baby was born in May (or was supposed to be!), this is the post-natal club for you!

im rubbish with names but will try.

blanket my csec scar was a little moist and itchy I got some tea tree and put a couple or drops in a nice warm bath and it seems to have worked wonders. going to do again today (also soaked my very sore breasts!)

moomin I hope you are ok. you are being put through the ringer lately! sending hugs.

hope everyone else is ok. my baby was cluster feeding from around 7pm to 7 am :( I was so sore and exhausted and constantly sobbing and today I decided to go on formula. I felt terribly guilty at first but at least dh can help in the night and we can invest in a dummy if she carries on being so unsettled poor dd1 is 4 and has found me sobbing uncontrolably twice. and my blood was starting to run cold at the signs of poppy needing a feed. I had dreadful pnd with dd1 that I ignored for 18 months and ended up rock bottom. no way im going there again. dh had been fab and so supportive but hes back at work next week and I have to do school runs again and just couldnt see myself coping. hats off to anyone still bfing its so bloody painful and hard! I had a hard time cominf to the decision but now its made im feeling better.

Hello mummies! I don't know how you find the time to keep up with the thread with your LOs.

Today is our first day at home without DH Lucikly Sofia slept in her carrycot just long enough for me to eat some lunch but it's hard. I spent over an hour earlier desperate for the loo but knowing if I put her down she'd wake up and want feeding again, so I waited

moomin I remember a similar thing happening when I was at uni, I feel your pain! Whatever you do don't trust that PC again!

The crying is starting, my time is up x

dobe I hope mil is now gone and you have your baby back. It really drives me mental that some people feel they have rights to visit. My pil live abroad and fil hasn't spoken to either me or dh since we visited in February after a ridiculous huff for no good reason. He made our last holiday as a couple a misery and the stress was causing me to have palpitations. Then when Marnie was born announced he was coming to visit -and dh let him! Spent yesterday crying about it, thankfully they came late last night and I was asleep so dh took dd down to see them. Today had to go for lunch and be civil, it was very hard and I am so angry that I was forced into the situation. Dh just says we have to be the bigger people which I accept but surely less than a week after birth I should be allowed to only see people I actually want to see?!

jelly that sounds horrendous, sounds as though you have made the right decision. I am bf and we are doing ok one week in, learned this morning that dd is 10g off her birth weight so really chuffed with that and it has spurred me on. However, I think we have been really lucky with dd in that she had a pretty good latch straight away and she seems efficient, usually only feeds 10 or 20 mins. Worst cluster feed so far is an hour and a bit, usually is at least an hour between feeds. I have sore nipples but nothing worse so far. So I will persevere for now but can't take credit really. I think in your shoes I would do the same.

Hope she's gone by now dobe, why do people feel that their right to cuddles outweighs our rights to privacy? Drives me mad

wm that sounds awful too! There's a time and a place to be the bigger people; a week post-birth is not that time!!

jelly in my eyes you're a hero for lsting this long, Callie wouldnt latch and so I expressed and syringe fed her for two days until we realised it wasn't working and the midwives wouldnt let us leave hospital until we cracked feeding. I was tired and sore and dreading every feed so we went onto formula. I wish I could've cracked bf, but I have no regrets now about changing. OH being able to help with feeds has been an absolute lifesaver. I have so much respect for people who breastfeed for any amount of time!

Second year finished. No idea how! I had my Wonder Woman pants on today, think I was harnessing her powers... all gone now though, I'm crashed out on the sofa with Callie in her basket next to me

oooh dobe my bil hasnt spoke to me in a year its all rather complicated but I used to have his 4 girls stay over a lot and was very close to 3 of them (number 4 was very young and prob hasnt noticed I am missing). anyway I havent been "allowed" to see them but after my section last wed he told his mum to tell me that his new girlfriend would bring them to visit on the saturday (3 days post op) I was livid they all just assumed it would be ok! anyway they never came in the end hubby made up a nice excuse but I dont even know this flippin new gf why on earth would I want her in my house when bil has been a vile twat for a year and has been vile to dh too! I miss the girls so much but why anyone thought that would be appropriate is beyond me! I will be ever so emotional if I do get to see the girls again ive missed them so much I would never have coped with that emotion so soon after a birth

Hello lovely new mummies... Congratulations!

Moom, glad you've got things sorted and might actually be able to rest now... Well as much as you can with a newborn!

Jelly, sounds like you've had quite a rough time, I don't blame you for not wanting to see unwanted visitors . I put DH in charge of vetting who's been allowed in and for how long!

Mummytobe how's Olivia?

I'm having a hell of a time with Alfie. He wants to feed every two hours and I'm absolutely exhausted :( I have ME as well and it's really knocked me and I've been bed ridden for past three days. Don't know what I'm going to do when DH goes back to work on Tuesday :( he has been trying to arrange for different people to come every to help me. As well as that, I had a tear at birth which seems to have been healing ok but yesterday it became excruciating and I don't know what to do about it : (

Not good times at all in the cherry household !!

oh cherry sorry you feel so sore. there is mention of salt baths on the facebook page to help with stitches. I had a section and have been putting a couple drops of tea tree in the bath water and it really helps. maybe that would work.

try not to focus and worry too much about dh going back to work. one day at a time is all we can do in these early days. it must be difficult having ME with a newborn! its tiring enough. thinking of you x

Hello ladies!

moomin yay for managing to finish 2nd year!! Can't believe you managed to find the time to do all that work. You definitely must be superwoman! Lol

Sorry to everyone with their family issues! I agree about the visitors. Olivia is almost 3 weeks old now so think the novelty has slightly worn off but when she was first born, the thought of visitors made me want to burst into tears! I ended up agreeing to visit at their house so I could get up and leave whenever I wanted. Made me feel much better knowing I could leave when I was ready and not have to entertain everyone!

mummycherry Olivia is doing great although we still haven't cracked the sleeping. She goes one night in her cot and is great then the next night she grunts and gurns for hours so have to pick her up again. I'm just going with the flow she's only 2 weeks old, I'll be more concerned at 6/8 weeks if we still haven't mastered it lol sorry to hear you're having a rough time with Alfie! Having ME as we'll must be a nightmare. Just try rest up whenever you get the chance. I felt the same at the thought of my OH going back to work. This was his first week back and it wasn't as bad I as expected! Makes me appreciate him helping so much more when he comes home too.

samba I'm the same with putting Olivia down!! You don't want to disturb the peace and quiet when they're snoozing lol hope you're both well!

MummyCherry do you have other dc too?
I also have ME although before I got pregnant had improved so much. Now I have 3 I'm terrified of a relapse. My best piece of advice is to ignore the housework and washing piles, ignore everything you feel you 'should' be doing and concentrate on you and your baby. Make sure you get yourself fed properly and take some decent 'new mummy' vitamins. You'll be fine once dh goes back to work, take each day as it comes and showering/getting dressed is not as important as it seems xx

No cbeebies, this is my first baby. I found the pregnancy and even the labour ok which I was terrified about but the birth was awful and I'm really low now two weeks later.
The pain was so bad this morning I could barely stand so DH took me to emergency doctor. Stitches are all infected and have UTI as well, been crying all day. Can't believe this is happening to me and I'm in worse pain now than just after my surgery. Got a weeks worth of strong antibiotics to take which will no doubt make me feel even lower :( I'm so angry, I requested a C-Section because of ME and was told i would be fine. Then I got interfered with during labour leading to being torn at birth and now everything is infected, so I would have got over a C-Section quicker as I said I would have. Why does no one listen to me when I know My body best? MIL came this afternoon and patted my arm and told me it was all worth it. It took all the strength I had left not to tell her to fuck right off. It might be all worth it for her,she's not feeding every two hours and can't move :(

The 2 week mark is a difficult one hormonally anyway :( it's tough when the drs are telling you what's best for you, and think they know best

Make sure you look after yourself and watch out for signs of PND. In a few months time when you have regular smiles, when he says his first word and when he wants you for cuddles it will all be worth it, however right now it's tough. It's hard work and it's a long slog. But you can do it, and you will do an amazing job at being his mum regardless of illness xx

mummycherry so sorry to hear you're in so much pain. I can imagine your stitches getting infected making you feel very low indeed when all you want to do is make the most of these precious early weeks with your little Alfie. I hope the meds kick in quickly so you can start feeling like yourself again. Just remember that, however it happened, you have achieved something incredible And we are here to vent!

anyone else find they hit a wall at 3am? it's C's favourite time for a feed, but its so hard to stay awake at 3am! hoping she settles quickly after being burped...

I was just thinking the same thing Moomin, my eyes are closing and I'm wishing he would just hurry up. Not helped by the fact he's not 'due a feed' till 4am (2 hours after his last) and he's feeding like I've starved him for 3 days also hoping he settles quickly.

Me three moomin and cbeebies!!! I've been up every hour and a half feeding since 2am! I think the worst thing is when DH snores contentedly in bed throughout!
Feeling a bit better this morning thank you cbeebies and samba, sore but bareable. I've had a few salt baths and that with the antibiotics seems to be doing the trick. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and support.
Btw cbeebies, I read your blog in the night and loved it! You are so brave having 3 with your ME, I think you must be Wonder Woman in disguise!!

Hello. I'm finally getting around to joining this thread after the birth of babyflea a week ago.

For my own laziness' sake, I'm just copy and pasting my birth story from the antenatal thread.

Saturday night I was feeling some period like pains so we decided to ring PIL to babysit DD1&2. They live 2.5 hours away. By about 2am, contractions started properly and PIL were just arriving. We got to hopsital after 3am and when examined I was "2 fingers" dilated. I bounced on the ball for a while then had to have a sleep. The contractions eased off while I slept but as soon as I stood up again, they were one min apart. started to want to push so called the MW. They took me to the delivery room and I was 9cm. Babyflea started crying as soon as his head was out at 6am. I'd forgotten how sore the crowning is. 3 stitches which hurt more than the birthing. I was very happy with how it all went.

The little man and I are getting on great. I finally got one of those sleeping babies. The girls used to wake every 45 mins for feeds for months and months. This little guy sleeps sometimes for 4 hours. I know it is only early days but I am celebrating the little things here, however long they last.

Hi, just thought I woud join this thread, had my little girl by planned c-section on Thursday, out Friday, only painkillers they gave me were ibuprofen 40mg to alteratewiy paracetamol so i ave been in agony. Baby good as gold through day , breast feedi, but won't ettke at night, just want I feed all night, all in all since Thursday I have had 4 hrs sleep altogether, I really struggle to sleep in day, so dreading tonight! My milk has come in, so big sore boobs! Looking forward to feeling like I know what I am doing, even though I have two already , but they are 14 & 9 so been a long time xx

Welcome and congratulations surprise :)

Ugh I need to book my 6 week check for any time after this Thursday, but I can't shake this new fear of needles, and I know I need an iron check. It feels like my body has suddenly realised oops, I had a baby five weeks ago, better start recovering, so now I'm completely knackered and just want to lie in bed all day! I'm trying to make some RL mummy friends as I have none other than on MN so I'm thinking of signing up to the Welsh-language baby group in town :)

After waking every hour to hour and a half and taking a couple of ounces and then feeding normally today, my 6lb weeny baby has just had 3oz at 9pm and another 3oz at 10pm! What a little porker!

Moomin I've booked noah in for swimming lessons we start
On June 2! So hopefully it's a way to find nee baby mummy friends too! Other than that I need to look at local sure start for baby massage and stuff!!

I have my post natal in June I'll be more around 8 weeks than 6!

ohdear I really want to start swimming with baby we take dd1 regularly. I always thought they needed to have had all injections first? have I made that up? what age will noah be?

Not they don't need
Injection! He will be 7 weeks when we go! Can't believe he's 5 weeks today!!!

I am wondering what everyone does about nappy changes during the night. They keep leaking on me. Even when I change them during the night. The nappy no1s are a tad too small and the 2s fit a bit better but are a tad big.

It is frustrating to change all the bedding in the middle of the night. Every night. As well as nappy and clothes.

They don't leak during the day though. I'm baffled.

I think I'm going to sign Callie up to our local Puddleducks swimming group ohdear, they accept babies from birth - their youngest member started at a week old! Hopefully there'll be a new baby massage course run by the Welsh language from birth association; they're completely free but their current course is full.

Can't advise sorry MasterFlea, we've had no issues with leaking. We change her at every feed during the night. What brand are you using? We've tried a few but now alternate between Tesco Size 1 and Pampers size 1s.

Turned up two days early for our health visitor clinic. Baby brain strikes again!

I was going to ask the same thing masterflea, but if they don't leak in the day I'm not sure the brand will make any difference. Very strange!

My dilemma with nappy changes is when to do them. Sofia literally screams blue murder if I go near her nappy. If I change before a feed she's hungry & grumpy & most likely saving a poo for during the feed. If I change her after, she has usually nodded off (thank god! Her feeds are lasting 1-1.5hrs) and will wake up & probably throw up too. DH even keeps making excuses for why we should leave her in a dirty nappy, that's how badly she screams!

I changed her before this feed & she's definitely working on something...