May 2014: Newborn snuggles while we await our comrades from the Drop Zone!

[MoominAndMiniMoom]

The Maybies are on the move to Postnatal! This is for graduated Maybies (and other baybies due in May but with other ideas; the almost-Maybies!) to discuss adventures in sleepless nights, nappies and lovely newborn snuggles. However you feed, however you nappy, however you give birth and however you like your tea - if your baby was born in May (or was supposed to be!), this is the post-natal club for you!

Just finished Sarah! So much for a quick clean up before HV arrives! Will only just have time to down a cup of tea!

Cup of tea is far more important x

Mini me has spots all over his neck face and eyes so taking
Him to the doctor this afternoon!

Why is it when older people like my granny feed the baby they shake the bottle in the mouth and announce they won't take it 5mind After starting and then taking it out the mouth!!!

First post-birth neurology appt today and the first time going on my own :( if I can avoid an MRI or any other type of scan I'll be happy, but the headaches and vision problens are worse! Hmph. Think I'm in that mood where the world is against me.

I also have to book a blood test for coeliacs, which would be fine but after the horrendous experience of tryibng to get a cannula in, taking six tries and a blood clot, steroid jabs and local anaesthetic for the stitching,I may have a teeny tiny fear of needles now. I'm putting off getting more iron tablets because I know it'll mean a blood test. I've never been scared of needles before in my life! :(

Me against the orld today... the world has won and I require cake.

Oh moom, you're really having a rough time aren't you lovely. Try to keep your chin up. It sounds like cake is definitely needed and the chocolate variety :) best to get checked over and then they can work out how to help you.

Ohdear, that doesn't sound good. Let us know how you get on.

Sarah, tea was not managed so when the HV arrived she was thrust DS so I could make one and guzzle it down. I said to DH that this is his job while on paternity leave, to keep me fed and watered but he is too busy mucking about with his fish tank project :( he is driving me nuts!!!

You have a new born and he's fannying around with fish tank!!!! I couldn't get dh to leave mini me alone when he was on leave I couldn't wait to get him back to work haha

Tell me about it ohdear! He's driving me insane. When he's not mucking about with that, he's bouncing the baby around getting him all excited. I've told him if his fish tank isn't sorted by the time he goes back, I will be binning any parts cluttering up my lounge and kitchen because I'm struggling to get the pram through! Bloody men!!

I was v surprised how painful the initial latch pain was ours lasted 2-3 weeks and then just stopped. I think I kind of assumed that as I fed DD1 till 6 months ago that it wouldn't hurt nearly as much.

One more essay to finish tonight and hand in tomorrow, and then my maternity leave can 'officially' begin

Hello mummies!
I've been in such a baby bubble I didn't even realise there was a post-natal thread!
How's everyone getting on?

I'm tidying the flat, doing washing and baking cupcakes (and playing with Callie, of course ) to avoid doing this essay. I really really want to get this year finished but I can't get my head into student mode :(

Cabbage in my bra and am currently defrosting tomorrow's dinner on my boobs. Which are fucking humongous now! Ouch.

Little Jesse is feeding well though. However we are still working on the latch. I wish I could spray my nipples with anaesthetic to avoid that initial latch pain. It makes me want to crawl into my own arse and die.

People keep wanting to visit. It's really getting to me. I haven't slept, my spd is still quite bad, I have a constant headache and I'm still very dizzy when I do anything physically exerting like, oh, having a shower or making a sandwich. Can't they just wait a couple of weeks so I don't feel like a selfish prick by putting them off?!
Dh is great though. Don't know what I'd do without him. And ds1 is smitten with his new baby brother. We all are! He's such a lovely, chilled baby.
Even though I'm exhausted, I am aware how fortunate I am. I just can't believe he's still finally here!

My boobs are like rocks too, ouchy!!

How's everyone getting on with their hormones? DS is 10 days old now and I'm so up and down, especially in the evenings when I'm extra tired and wondering what kind of night and is ahead. DH is being great and doing loads around the house but I'm still quite tearful and scared about when he goes back to work and I'm on my own all day. I know its still early days and a massive life change so I'm just taking it one day at a time and hopefully it'll get better!

Mini me has lots of spots, he's on three type of treatments for them for different area! He isn't phased by them at all

ohdear - TinyTit is v v spotty too, but no treatments have been given or suggested, the docs and midwives have all said they're just normal newborn spots that'll ease off eventually, Erythema Toxicum. Looks awful tho!

dobe I love that description! "Crawl into my own arse and die" just about sums it up eh! My latch pain has improved massively in the last couple of days, and DS is 4wo today, fingers crossed yours gets better quicker than that.

Flixy I've been pretty lucky this time and seemed to skip over the baby blues bit (they hit me hard at day 5/6 after DS1), but the hormones are affecting me just as much physically as they did last time - terrible sweats and insta-BO however much I wash. I feel horrid, could happily live in the shower. Also got an unpleasantly dodgy bottom at the mo, also down to the hormonal ravaging.

Callie's really spotty, having looked at the websites it looks like baby acne. I just wash it once a day with water and mild baby soap, and then she has a bath daily because she loves it so much. Just trying to keep her pores open and clean as much as possible.

I could cry. In fact I have cried. Night before my final assignment is due in and my laptop has deleted it all, and replaced it all with 13 pages of the # symbol. No way of recovering it, I've checked. So that'll be hanging over my head all summer as I try to re-do it, and then my marks will be capped at 40, dragging my overall mark down really low. And they don't count computer issues as a reason for late submissions, apparently. My computer has nearly been thrown at a wall but motherhood has mellowed me somehow

I'm absolutely gutted. I'd done over 3000 words.

Oh my goodness Moomin, that'd make me weep! Huge sympathies.

The doc we saw today said not to use any soaps on the spots if possible, just plain water, but to be honest he's only had two baths ever anyway! Wipe downs with water seem to be doing the job fine, but I guess we'll start doing baths nightly once he's got more of a bedtime routine.

Moomin, could you not blame motherhood as a reason for late submission? Technically it is motherhood as I'm guessing if you didn't have callie you'd pull an all mightier and redo it. But having a baby makes that very difficult

They reckon mini me spots are seat rash on head as he has so much hair plus he is forever being cuddled when my family visit! Now decided it's time to stop he isn't a man handled child! It won't go down well but shit happens

Cbeebies I was pulling an all-nighter, managed to do another 2000 words from scratch, and my computer froze and corrupted it all again :( think I will have to put in a request for an extension and say it's because of motherhood :(

Thanks x

ohdear I can sympathise! I've gotten sick of playing pass the parcel with Callie... not going to go down well with the ILs who pass her around constantly but hey!

Morning all, lovely to see you again on post natal, can hardly believe we've made it - doesn't that first maybies thread seem so long ago?!

Sorry to hear some are struggling, we have been really lucky so far as Marnie feeds a lot and will usually sleep in between. Sometimes only get an hour mind you, but have managed a couple of three hour stretches now which make such a difference as I can then actually sleep 2 hours in a row... Dh is being a star, bringing me food and drinks and will do all nappies. Can also be prevailed upon in middle of night to re- settle her if I am struggling. He has an amazing ability not to really hear when she wakes which means he is getting reasonable sleep and although he feels guilty about that it's good as I feel ok with having him do everything during the day. Bf ok so far, shame it has to be all mummy's job but hey ho. Latch is uaully ok but despite that nipples are sore - I guess it's not always perfect and even if it was the sheer volume of usage is a bit much for my poor sensitive nipples!

I had the shakes a couple if nights ago, anyone else had this? Is it just a hormonal thing do you think?

Big hugs to everyone, moomin you are amazing as always. Even with a relatively easy baby (so far) it is taking all my time to get a shower and eat three meals a day.

Mini me has gone out with my mum for the afternoon, he's been gone ten mins and I'm lost already

I'm so fucking fucked off. I've spent the day crying my eyes out. Breastfeeding is so painful, and I think ds has lip and tongue tie. I'm a fucking mess and MIL is coming round. I don't want to see anyone! I've told dh I don't want anyone here. Not when I'm at the end of my rope. But she wants her fucking cuddles before she goes on holiday for two weeks.

I've told him I'm not seeing anyone. She can see ds downstairs and dh can bring him up to me to be fed. It fucking sucks that I have to compromise by being separated from my baby. It's selfish. I'd never impose on a new mum. What is wrong with people?! Why can't they wait a couple of weeks until things are easier? I mean it's in the baby's best interests too that his mum isn't such a complete mess. But fuck what's actually best for baby or me, as long as they get their bloody cuddles. And it fucks me off that she wears such strong perfume. It makes ds stink

Bad day

Awww Dobe! Sorry it's a bit shit for u! You have made your position clear! Why don't u use this time to have a lovely bath and relax and give your breast a good massage in preparation for your next feed?

oooh I didn't realise there was a pn thread. hello all im off to read how you are all doing xx