May 2014: Newborn snuggles while we await our comrades from the Drop Zone!

[MoominAndMiniMoom]

The Maybies are on the move to Postnatal! This is for graduated Maybies (and other baybies due in May but with other ideas; the almost-Maybies!) to discuss adventures in sleepless nights, nappies and lovely newborn snuggles. However you feed, however you nappy, however you give birth and however you like your tea - if your baby was born in May (or was supposed to be!), this is the post-natal club for you!

Ditto Cbeebies, had no idea this one had started

TinyTit is 3wo and very very spotty!

Ditto cbeebs and ltt I also missed this thread in the furore if having an actual baby!!

congrats to all of us out the other side. Alice was born at 10.50 am on Wednesday, she was 9lbs7.5 and it was a quick (5 hr)labour with just G&A and we came home on,the same day.

Things going well: she appears to have found a little routine all by herself of feeding all morning, sleeping from around 12/1 for about four hours and after that is content to feed /sleep /feed/sleep. If she fed all evening then slept in this pattern all night, we'd have it nailed! At least I'm getting a break.

not so great,we have latch issues, my nipples are incredibly sore and bleeding hoping mw can fix me tomorrow as i so want to keep going but it is SO painful. And Ds, he's 3 and is er, challenging right now. Great with his sister, but really playing up. My temper is short with tiredness and i am not great at being his mum at the mo, hating self and hoping it will get easier.

Am going to have a read through now and come back , but for those of us struggling, this bit is HARD first timer or not but it changes really quickly, it will pass sooner than you think x

Ah Sarah, sympathies on the 3yo front (and all others too obv!), DS1 just turned 3 and we are really struggling with him too. DH is worn down by him at the mo, so I've had a weekend of grumpy husband and toddler - what fun . I finally lost my patience with them both this evening, there's only so much I can take!
He'd been promising me all week that he'd take DS1 out for the day today to give me a break and time to concentrate on feeding with DS2, but was too tired in the end, and didn't even take him out when he went food shopping - poor kid was stuck indoors with me all day again, no wonder he was fractious. Preschool tomorrow thank goodness, he'll have a fab morning there at least.

On an entirely unrelated matter - I'm a bit worried I might have a prolapsed something-or-other...
Three and a half weeks postpartum now, and still have a feeling of pressure when I stand like I'm passing a golfball, uncomfortable to sit in certain positions, and just feel like somethings trying to escape still! Plus, sorry, TMI, things don't look right...
Any opinion on whether I should contact my GP now, or wait til my 6wk check and see if it'll resolve itself? 3wks PP is still early-ish days really isn't it?

LTT' I have no idea what that is but I would certainly be talking to gp asap! I agree that things need to settle but not sure about the golf ball thing!

You could always call and talk to midwife to ask for advice?

Do you mind me asking in what ways your DS is challenging? I'm finding mine is like a different child at times, he's so very tiny still and i have to remind myself he was my baby until Wednesday, how on earth must he be feeling? Especially when i shout at him....I keep bloody crying when i think about it.

His behaviour is general not listening at all, flying about the house in a rough way, bashing about, shrieking and having no attention span at all, tiny boy on crack...

we were the same today, cooped up because if the rain, I'm dreading DREADING dp going back to work

Good point about asking the midwife - I'll call someone tomorrow, then they can decide if I should wait it out or not!

Re DS - well, he's just attention seeking really, lots of shrieking, shouting, hitting us, then when on the naughty step for hitting he bangs the stairgate on the wall and shouts at us that we're naughty - just challenging every little thing.
He's a pro at ignoring us and refusing to eat, but tbf that was a problem before DS2 arrived. He's also talking about violent things which worries me, he's said some horrid things like he wants to "squash baby brothers head" "want to break you/daddy" - not sure what to do about it all apart from watch him like a hawk! :(
We're having lots of hugs and praise in between trips to the naughty step, and letting the more minor stuff slide but tbh the serious stuff is fairly constant at the moment (hitting/rudeness/deliberate spills etc).
He misses the limelight, and is v frustrated that I can't come to him straight away when he wants me. I keep trying to explain that DS2 isn't having a cuddle, just a feed, but he's not convinced.
I suspect this will go on for months, not weeks...

One good thing tho - at preschool pickup the other day, I left DS2 with a friend at the gate while I went in to collect DS1, and when he came out he was really really insistent that I should hold DS2 not my friend. He was only happy once I got DS2 into the sling - seems to be getting a bit protective of him!

I think me and mini me need to hibernate away from the world for a bit after a busy weekend!!

I had that feeling of pressure down below after giving birth last time around, LTT. I had it checked, but was told everything was healing fine and it was all normal. I can't remember whether you tore at all and needed stitches?

Took until around 6 weeks before it started to fade, IIRC, but it did disappear entirely and eventually everything returned to normal working order - albeit a bit less symmetrical and pristine as before.

Not much to report here, still pregnant with no indication of that ending any time soon! But if it's like last time, I won't be getting a whole load of warning. Only 37+3 though, so plenty of time yet. If I make it to next Saturday however, I'll be more pregnant than I've ever been before!

Thanks Spirael! I called my midwife this morning, she said it could well be a prolapse but might still self-resolve so not to be too worried. I'm to call my GP and discuss it over the phone, if I can ever get thru!
I did tear, 2deg, and my stitches aren't all gone yet, but both sitting and standing/walking are still uncomfortable, which is why it's bugging me. Still bleeding too, tho I bled for 4wks last time so not too bothered about that yet.
Aaargh - best go find my hand mirror and check out the stitches situation again before I get my call-back from the Doc, they'll prob want to know exactly what's what. Eeeyeuch....

Hi Longtailed, Sarah and cbeebies! Congratulations to you all and spireal here's hoping your wait isn't too long.
I know the feeling ohdear... My weekend was like that. Back to square one with DS and the sleeping, last night was the worst yet, he was up every two hours! I thought my head was going to explode this morning!!
How's Olivia doing mummytobe and how was the car journey moom?

I feel like a rubbish mum :( Callie has only pit on 4 lbs in 10 days, the HV says she should definitely have put more on. she's down from 50th centile to about 35th :( I've got to take her to GP and back to HV :(

Don't panic Moomin, you're definitely not a rubbish Mum! Callie is gaining and not losing for a start, even if she's not gaining an ideal amount for their charts.

They'll just be being cautious, hence the extra appointments. In the meantime just keep offering milk regularly - maybe a bit before she usually gives you the signals for feeling hungry to try and encourage her to feed more frequently?

Remember as well that weights can be a bit fuzzy at this stage, as if she was weighed just after filling her nappy and emptying her bladder but before taking a feed then she'll be several pounds lighter than if she'd just taken food and not yet expelled any!

Oops, I mean several ounces lighter. Several pounds would be one hell of a nappy/feed at this point!

Oh moom :( you did say she was struggling with allergies so it must be a result of that. Not your fault at all my lovely, these things can't be helped. Xxx

Moomin your not a crap mum! Weights are for guidance only, extra appts are for support.

Does callie wake for her feeds? Have you noticed her increase in ounces? When Noah was being fussy we offered little and often, so at one stage he was taking 2oz every two hours unt he realised he needed To make effort too!

Keep your chin up chick xx

Ah bless you Moomin, the weight thing is a bugger, it's the thing that you 'think' says baby is thriving and that you're doing ok. Age with the others, try not to worry, she's gaining and that's good, hopefully this will help you get the allergies fixed .

LTT I hear that yeuuuch, had to get my stitches checked today too, also a second degree, it's all fine but that, "lay on your side and part your bum cheeks" job just is not a sent pence you want to hear eh? What's wrong with us, we've just given birth, why so coy??!!

A has lost 5% of birth weight which I thought was loads, but they only query anything over 10 in the first few days apparently. She has an oozy, possibly infected cord and a sticky eye! She's still bloody scrumptious though.

Sarah I could have written your description of DS, mine is the same. Today is our first solo day and so far, we are surviving, aided by MiL dropping in at lunchtime swiftly followed by the health visitor! He's been very good independently building/playing train track. Just 4 hours or so to go...

moom if she is gaining try not to worry too much, easier said than done I know.

MiL coming back later to take me to the GP as I think my cs scar is infected. As if things weren't crap enough already with mobility and pain.

Evening ladies!
Re the prolapse thing, I spoke to my GP today and she confirmed that it's really early days still and too soon to consider it a problem. She advised lots and lots of pelvic floor exercises, and is seeing me in two weeks so will have a look then.
Fingers v firmly crossed that it's going to fix itself!
Just FYI, to do your PFE you're meant to be able to stop your wee mid-flow - I can't, but I can slow it down a bit, so that's a start apparently...

Moomin How're you doing today? Hope you're feeling better - you couldn't be further from a rubbish mum, you really aren't. Either Callie is just establishing her natural weight centile (some are born heavier than their 'natural' weight and drop down to it before they start to gain steadily), or she's just having some issues that you'll help her get sorted - either way you're there for her.

Got to go - DH is sleeping on the sofabed for now and says it's time for bed so I'm being evicted from the living room! :)

LTT good that you spoke to the gp, i realised earlier that I've totally forgotten pelvic floors cant stop a wee mid flow here either
Blanket its so hard eh? Can't imagine how much harder with reduced mobility either, hope your scar improves soon.

Baby A os feeding two hourly tonight, it is killing me.

Mini me normally
Takes 5oz and sleeps around 4hours he's just messed around and took 3oz, any point in going to sleep ?

Oh good lord, back again. I've broken her by saying how good she is!

bleugh.

We're also back!! Knew that would happen after 3oz

Worse, she's wide awake! Generally goes back to bed. It's goings be a loooong day....

Ohdear and Sarah, I'm in exactly the same situation here with DS!! Got health visitor coming at 9.30 so I guess Id have to get up soon anyway... But that could have been an extra half hour! Wide awake here too now so playmat here we come.

Never knew that about PF excercises- thank you! I had a 3rd degree tear and apparently I have to go to physio. I'm a little disturbed as to what this may entail. Anyone got any ideas?x

Yay my first qualified post in here as a postnatal person and not pregnant!

How's it going? I'm sleep deprived. (no shit sherlock). I managed about two to three hours since 8pm last night though, so feeling slightly better than the night before. Feeding was a bitch last night though. We can't get the latch right and every time he started feeding, I wanted to turn inside out it was so sore. I'm gonna have to get some serious help from the midwife when she comes.

I mean, I bf ds for almost 3 years. I should be able to do this with my eyes shut, and I know the theory! Just practically, it's not working out like it should. My poor nipples. Hope it gets sorted soon.

One other wee (ha! Pardon the pun) issue I have. Since having ds, I haven't needed to pee. My pelvic floor is rock solid, I'm very lucky, I didn't tear or graze or bruise or anything. But it was about 15 hours after having the baby that I peed for the first time, and only cos the midwife nagged me to sit on the loo. I honestly had no urge. Since then, I've only peed when going to change a pad, I haven't actually felt the need to go. I didn't have a catheter or epidural or anything so it's not like that caused nerve damage.

Anyone else experienced this? I have to keep reminding myself to go to the loo every hour or so. I'm afraid my bladder will burst or something if it's very full and I'm not aware! God knows how my pelvic floor is keeping it all together. I really don't know.

Sorry for the rambling post. I don't mean to moan! I really am very happy. Totally smitten with ds2! He's just so perfect (for a baby that seems to hate nipples and wants them to die )

That nipple pain is like nothing else on earth. You could slice them off with a razor and it wouldn't hurt any more? A week in and we're just out the other end. I bf DS too but just couldn't get it right with A, mw said its her not me, she's a lazy latcher and needed training!! Getting better daily.

ohdear and cherry still feeding what is going on???