Graduates of the Due in Aug Thread

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thought we should start a post-natal thread before we drive the expectant moms over the edge talking about our gorgeous little babies!

and yes i know i'm technically July thanks to Caleb popping out 2 weeks early but you're stuck with me girls

Well, It's good to hear that everyone has had their little bundles of joy- well done, Dreamy and to anyone else who I have missed- as not got time to read all messages.

I love being a mummy and everytime I look at Katie my heart melts- but the poor thing is not settling into her feeding.Yesterday, she ended up with about 10 feeds ( we are bottle feeding) of small amounts.

She has been really unsettled the last few days.

She has thrush in the mouth at the mo and is on medication, seems quite colicky( according to my mum!!!) and we have just found out that I have Strep B and looking at the leaflet that was included, Katie seems to have a few of the symptoms- so we are waiting for NHS Direct to phone- probably me just over reacting.

Anyone know what can be done if she does have the strep b infection?

Today, we have not fed her as much- have managed to feed her every 3-4 hours,( and have resorted to the dummy!!!) but she is still not taking the full bottle.The HV recommended using the vari flow teats- but not sure whether she likes them of not?!

Gosh, as a first time mum- it really is a huge learning process. I have got myself quite upset and ending up in tears when she is crying and getting really worked up- to a shrill scream. I feel as though I am being a bad mum as I don't know what she is crying for. But as hubbie keeps saying- she is not upset- it's just her way of communicating with me.It's just so hard when you look at her and feel so much love for her.

Ronnie - don't have any experience of strep B but wanted to post to send lots of hugs your way. Being a mum for the first time IS scary and takes a lot of getting used to. Nothing I read or heard ever prepared me 3 years ago when ds arrived. Now, with dd (3 weeks ago) I still don't know everything but am more relaxed that I was with ds.

All I can say is it will get easier and one day, without you realising, you will get past all this and things will suddenly start to feel 'normal' again.

There are plenty of us mums here on mn so keep posting as you feel you need to. If you're not sure about something, one of us will have gone through a similar experience and can give you some support. You are not alone and yes, you will have periods where you want to cry your eyes out. THIS IS NORMAL. It takes a lot of adjustment when baby is here. You will find your feet and when you do, you will be enjoying your time with your baby. Make the most of it - they grow up VERY quickly!

Lots of hugs, love, well wishes being sent your way

What type of bottles are you using or are you breast feeding? If bottle, have you tried Dr Browns as ds had terrible colic and these were the only ones that helped the problem. Mind you, I still remember the nights I spent walking up and down trying to wind a very colicy baby - very tiring and frustrating. He eventually grew out of it after about 3/4 months, but then I had teething to contend with!

Aww thanks sarahlou but Luna had sent me a text last night asking if i wanted a strap of hers and i've replied to her. thank you for the offer though

Ellis has thrown up first thing today so thats a good start to the day!

Welcome back dreamy Well done!!!

As Bruce Forsyth says
"Didn't we all do well"

Good morning all.

Sarah Lou I have just been looking at the website you have ordered your teats from. I use the Dr Brown bottles and am going to order the Multi Flow wide neck teats - it says these are recommended from 3 months, will these be ok to use on the Dr Brown bottles too. They look like the dr brown teats. What are the latex ones used for? does anyone know?

BHM - Jackson sounds like a dream of a baby at night you are very lucky, Caitlin wakes between 3 and 4 for 2oz and then goes back down very quickly - I cant wait for her to go through the night though!!

good morning everyone. Ronniemummy I have group b strep which is why I was in hospital for 48 hours. I only came home last night. Sophie had 4 hourly observations to check to see if she had it too. they were looking for raised temperature heart rate or blood pressure and any signs of any rashes. If you are in any way concerned you MUST phone your midwife or gp as it is very serious and baby would need antibiotics

Hi girls
Sorry I couldn't reply on MSN dreamy. I had my mum and dad here and didn't change my status.
How are you and sophie doing?

hi sorry had visitors we will get to chat yellow lol sophie is such a little angel she just lies awake and doesnt cry feeds every 4 hours for a good half hour or more and sleeps for six hours at night. My milk is in already and life is just great Im sooo in love with her and kids have been really good with her too. DD has been great too not jealous and not over the top with wanting to touch either the older ones have fought more over whose turn it is to change her wind her etc lol

dreamy - sophie sounds like an angel!

my little angel is doing well. she is going to sleep about 9, and waking at around 2, then about 6 then sleeping till 10am so i cant complain. after 2 disastrous attempts at dh trying to give her my ebm at 2, i am going to go back to feeding her myself - it was more tiring hearing them both struggle and her not settling for 2hrs.

just grabbing a quick bite to eat - holly's wake up timing is usually impeccably timed to stop me from eating!!

awww its sounds wonderful dreamy , I got all emotional reading yuor post hun. Sorry missed u on mSN , I wasnt here , managed to get out for the 1st time since last weekend (oh except for lovely visit to GP NOT, see below for gory details !!!).

Oh and sorry Yellow too , hate hate to not say bye on MSN and just disapear, but I got all sidtracked and frazzled by my lack of expressing as it went pear shaped, I just had to fill a bottle for dh to do the night , Ive got to, got to get a few more hrs than 2 at a time tonight. I then ran really late for getting ready for the party , as milk just wasnt coming, not sure why normally dont have a problem , think Ive got way to stressed about stuff. Hope you had a better afternoon hun, it was nice to have company early in the morning , will have to do that again ,as Dd1 played lovely next to me , whilst I fed dd2 and chatted !!!!

Oh and thank you pink for the tip on downing a glass if all has dried up on the expressing front, I was getting sooo soo fed up and annoyed there & then it just started a flowing YEEEEEEEEH.

ronniemummy , what did NHS say , have you emergency GP at hospital ? We have that locally nd its really good for weekend problems that need immediate medication.

Didnt see you there Olivo , how you doing ? shame you cant sort MSN , would be good to chat.

hi! oh dreamy CONGRATULATIONS!!! Glad you finally had your little one!

Sorry I havent been around much. We've had to take msn off the computer as it was messing up and spazzing the whole computer out every time I tried to use it. I will try and sort it out and reinstall later on.

Also, just to fill you in, I am going through a little bout of PND. Very disapointed about that but there isnt much I can do about it right now. Sorry I am not around much I care about everyone and their babies so much but I just have no time to myself anymore and when I do it isnt enough to read what is going on with everyone which makes me sad.

Alex is doing a little better with his colic which is great news! I am head over heels in love with him but am struggling emotionally. I think I am still coping over the pregnancy, labour and then the whole colic thing, I just feel pretty low.

I hope you are all doing great though, I miss you and send my love!

melsy, glad it worked for you. did you have a good time at the party?

eeny, i'm sorry your feeiling blue babe, it can be so emotionally draining dealing with colic at the best of times and you never really had the chance to recover from the birth before it all went pear shaped, just remember it WILL get better i promise. hope sal is helping out. e-mail me if you need to talk, ok?

ronnie, did you get katie checked out yet? is she ok?

has anyone heard from arabica recently? i hope esjas ok

morning girls. one handed typing again lol!
this is 3rd time i've been up and i'm totally knackered. whats worse is that dh is sleeping at work tonight and isn't back while 3pm tomorrow! i've got all the stress of getting the dog out for a walk tonight, not too early because he'll want to go again and not too late so that dd is in bed and it isn't dark! on top of that dd has to be at school first thing tomorrow!
needless to say i'm feeling quite anxious.

melsy, don't worry about not saying bye. i understood. you had enough on! can i book you for the early shift tomorrow? i'll have to disappear about 9am for school but will be back. you could just keep me sane!

eeny, great to hear from you. i have been thinking about you. sorry your feeling low. everything can just get on top can't it? we're all here for you if you need to chat and get that msn back up and running!

right am off back to bed wether ellis likes it or not!

afternoon everyone

well my boy is going 3-4 hours inbetween feeds now and wakes up 3 times during the night, he seems to be awake during the day a lot more now, he is just over 3 weeks old! he is trying to pull his head up and actually looks at things now. Th night shifts are getting easier! As a first mum i can totally relate to the wanting to cry! sometimes it feels like i am the shittest mum in the world and very unexperienced! had my best friend over last night and he just cried and grumbled for 3 hours as he had got himself so tired he couldnt sleep! i wanted to hide with him so noone could hear him cry, just feel like everyone judges you as soon as your baby crys! only person who understands is my mum and she lives 4 hours away!

p.s

just bought some of those dr brown bottles ten quid for 4 on ebay new in packaging! thought that wasnt bad!!

hello all
welcome all new ladies!!!!!!
well im feeling fine but a bit jealous of chris with all his freedom and resenting the fact i cant have a bath or meal in peace

but i love the public adoration of my little girl strangers stopping me all day long old ladies rugby tackling me for a loolk lol in sainsburys

the manic visiting has stoppped now tho thank god

bf still and its gpoing well went to a support group other day was very nice and we got a certificate

i hope every one is well

Hi everyone,

Sorry i haven't been posting, the time is just flying by, were all doing well, we finally named baby, Maria, no second name for her as it was hard just picking one. Maria is now 1 week 2 days old and is feeding every 3-4 hours (bottle)

Dreamy well done, our little girls were very stubborn, but thank god there both safe and well.

eeny - sorry to hear you're not feeling good, hope you see someone about it. like the others say, we're here to talk as well.

didnt have a good night last night. dd took over an hour and a half to settle last night, finally went to sleep at 10 and then was awake at one and 5, when she still hadnt settled by half six, dh took her out for a 45 minute walk!!. i suppose i as least got breakfast, a shower and a sleep !! she ahs been good today though, just had to wake her now so she has some awake time before we put her to bed.

does everyone have a set time they put them down for the night or is it all hit and miss as it is here? all advice welcome!

hi everyone!

olivo I saw your thread about feeding and commented there, I wonder the same thing.

thanks everyone for your understanding. I am feeling much better at the weekends when Sal is home its the Tues-Fri that really gets me down. Wish I could put Alex down long enough to come on here and chat to you then!

He is so lovely though and so cuddly I miss him when I am not holding him!

Eeny - don't wish to sound like I'm bullying you, but have you thought about a sling like I suggested a while ago? Molly loves hers and I can get on and do other things as I have both hands free. I know what it's like when your other half isn't there. When I had Jack, it took me ages to get used to dh working shifts, even though he had worked them as long as we had been together! The night ones were the worst as during the day I could escape to my mums where there was always someone to have Jack for me. When dh was on nights, there was only me to cope with Jack and his colic and often, dh would come home to find me sat downstairs in tears while Jack was crying in his rocker. All I can say is it will pass and you will soon forget all about it - you'll have teething next to contend with and weening onto solids!!!!

Keep your chin up lass - we're all here for you

hi everyone thanks for all your well wishes. Cant believe we both finally made it to the other side micro and a great name my sister is called Maria. Im sorry to hear youre feeling low eeny I hope you get lots of help and support it can be a very lonely slippery slope and the faster you get help the quicker you can feel better again. Im still in the honeymoon period Sophie only wakes every four hours and is a very placid baby. She is only waking once in the night in fact if she has her last feed about 10 or later she often doesnt wake until 6 which is great she feeds loads when she is awake but isnt a crier at all. I completely Afterpains seem much better today have got through the whole day without pain killers and even enjoyed a glass of wine at lunch time. Ive decided Im not going to kill myself by overdoing things for a good few weeks and just enjoy my new little bundle.

Congrats dreamy and micro! Are we all here now? how many people did we lose along the way? Hope they're all enjoying their bundles!

DD is an angel, she's really good although dh doesn't think so! Last night, he gave her her bottle at 10.15 and she wouldn't settle - he then woke me up to clean up some sick (I was finally asleep in bed after going to bed at 9.30 with a migraine) and then he brought her to bed, she wouldn't settle and just cried until 12 with him picking her up and getting frustrated. He then told me I had to sort her out as he had no idea what was 'wrong with her' - I gave her a tiny burp and cuddle and she settled within seconds. It's part of a major ongoing debate - he hates me bfing, and wants her bottlefed. He claims he doesn't understand her or know what's wrong which is total piffle. I'm getting peed off now though as he seems to be sabotaging me bfing! Ds used to have his formula cold (that's another story lol) and I've told him I don't want dd having cold bottles as we got special bottles that seem more like nipples, so I'd rather the formula was breastmilk temperature (as it's meant to be) but NO everytime I see him giving her a bottle of water or milk it's straight out the fridge. He's insane. But like I was saying, she was settled and asleep by 12.30 so no idea what he's bitching about. He gave her more milk too and she slept till 6.30!

Anyways, enough of my rant. eeny, interesting that that person on the other thread said foremilk can lead to colic... have you just been doing the 10 minutes?

olivo - We aim to put dd down at 8pm, but tbh it depends on how much she's napped and stayed awake. If she's spent a good while awake during the day, we put her down at 8. If not she tends to be awake until after her 10.30 bottle.

Has anyone started any sort of sentimental gifts for their lo's, baby books aside? For example, I usually do scrapbooking but havne't since I fell pregnant (no energy) but I don't think I could cope with the mess atm.

luna, sorry dh is being a prick about the bf-ing. print off the list of benefits for you and baby, hand it to him and ask him 'do you really care so little about me and kiera that your willing to give up on all of this?'. and i'm sorry but cold bottles are no substitute for bf, straight from the fridge i'd imagine they'd give her a tummy ache, especially so young. if you do ff, make sure its done right. he's being extremely selfish about this

olivo, and all the other first timers, i used to get myself into such a state with dd trying to settle her in her cot and get her to bed at a paticular time. i was in tears every night for a year. with caleb i'm so much more relaxed because i simply don't care. he gets his bath and dressed for bed at the same time every night and when dd goes to bed at 7.30 he cluster feeds, sometimes for a few hours, til he drops off. he sleeps downstairs on the couch til i go to bed, when i bring him up and lay him in his crib. when he wakes up during the night i just pull him into bed with me. i get more sleep than i did with dd and i'm soooo much more relaxed. try not to get stressed about routines and timing everything at such an early stage

Well after speaking to two nurses and a Gp- they didn't seem too concerned about Katie having Strep B- so fingers crossed!

HAve got the Health Visitor coming today so will check with her and ask re colic. Although, I don't think her colic( if it is) is too severe!

Dreamy- did you know you had Strep B before going into hospital? I only found out two weeks after I had Katie, after having a swab the day before I gave birth?

Since Friday, we have tried to get her into more of a routine re. feeds and she seems much more settled- is feeding every 3-4hours now rather than bit feeds every couple of hours. Have decided to bath her every night around 6pm so she gets used to it for bedtime.

Today, is the first day I am "Home Alone" with Katie, as hubbie's paternity leave has ended and is now back at work. Am going to try to get up between 7-8am every morning so she gets used to it. We have been keeping a record of how much she has been feeding and she is slowly getting into some sort of routine- she tends to feed within an hour each day e.g. 5.45am; 5.30am; 5.15am; 4.30am.

To the experienced mums out there- do you think it's important to feed at exactly the same time every day or is this fine? I am just assuming that as she gets used to it she will fall into more of a routine.