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November 2012 - The exciting all new all singing all dancing fred

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StuntNun · 17/02/2014 15:08

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1983613-November-2012-What-is-going-on-with-these-babies

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ChasingDaisy · 20/02/2014 11:32

It's probably over. Well it is. I just need to face up to it. Don't really have the energy to say more than that about it. I need a cuddle. And Wine

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 11:36

The only problem with DP going to Belgium though is his dickhead of a brother lives in the same town and DP isn't going to tell him he's going or visit him while he's there. So he won't be pleased and will find out about it because they share a lot of the same friends. But he doesn't make any kind of an effort with us, never calls, has never been back to Iran to visit MIL and FIL despite being able to, that's a whole other issue that the ILs are very upset about. He keeps telling them he's going on X date and has booked his ticket, then the date comes and goes and he says he can't afford it blah blah blah. Except he can afford it and has more money than he lets on.

PurplePidjin · 20/02/2014 11:46

i'm not confident enough in my parenting to want a small age gap, 3ish years would be about right for me. it's very personal though! i just think i'd rather the older one had a bit of understanding of what was happening iyswim. plus i don't want one doing gcses while the other does a levels argh!

Lily311 · 20/02/2014 12:06

If Leo would be here, I'd have already given birth to nr2. I really want a second. Unfortunately I haven't even met a guy here. I need to get in the dating market at one point in 2014.

StormyIsles · 20/02/2014 12:09

Hmm Chasing

I need a new laptop. Mine died in a fit of pregnancy rage 2yrs ago and I've been sharing his since then. Obv he wants it back now. I have an iPad and a tablet (tablet is pretty rubbish and think Tilly will fall heir to it) but I still use the laptop for everything. So, do I buy a MacBook on 0% finance over a year, or just a cheapy other one?

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 12:18

Isles I'm getting a refurbished MacBook which comes with a year's warranty. It's costing about half the price of a new one which I think is a good compromise.

StormyIsles · 20/02/2014 12:19

Ohh where from apple ?

TheDetective · 20/02/2014 12:22

Cheapy one is fine Stormy. I've always had the cheapest I can get - because it does everything I need from it. :)

Chasing Fuck :( I'm online if you need a chat rant. Twatting men.

What do you mean about the pay VQ?!

Re: age gaps, I'm pretty extremely fertile, and I probably could get pregnant the month I need to. I can't go for a 3 year gap Pennie as I need to maximise my annual leave years at work to be able to take off as long as possible. I also want a spring baby. I would have gone for May, but April is the start of our AL year, so that's what we would try for.

YW luckily, the baby doesn't actually have to be born that month! I just have to have an EDD then...! Don't ask Hmm. I'm actually going to not have a dating scan so my dates can't be altered. Well, I am, but I'm going to have it done privately, and not give a copy to where I book.

Unless I go with one to one midwives this time. Which I am seriously considering. They would arrange the scans, and I'm 99% sure they would not change my dates if I declined to do so. :)

I will not let work screw me over. I will NOT!!

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 12:23

Ok don't laugh...it's from a shopping channel I found on tv. here's the link Don't know if it's the exact model you want but it will do me.

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 12:51

I always go for cheap laptops and they die on me after 2 years. Perhaps I'm just unlucky but it puts me off buying a cheap one again.

April babies are the best det Wink

A spring baby would be lovely. It means I wouldn't be stuck indoors with a dog, a toddler and a newborn. For my sanity I could do without another winter baby.

StormyIsles · 20/02/2014 13:05

Apple that is just perfect! And exactly the one I wanted too!! Thank you Grin

Passmethecrisps · 20/02/2014 13:24

Afternoon!!

Hugs chasing.

Today I am wearing a bright pink scarf as I cannot see how I can have a bad day whilst wearing a bright pink scarf.

And I got my bad parenting award this morning anyway. DH went in for p who was singing quietly. Turns out she had been proper sick in the night and either hadn't woken or woke quietly then went back to sleep. I was more tired last night than I have been in a long time and I hate to think I might have slept through her crying. I can't see that I would have because I can hear shuffles and squeaks which wake me so an "I've been sick and am all covered in it" cry would surely have woken me. I will be awfully paranoid tonight.

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 13:39

Can anyone help me with Gap sizing? I'm trying to buy a pair of jeans for DP's nephew online and am confused about sizes. Nephew turned 2 last month so what size do I need to order? 2 years or 3 years? I'm guessing 3 years is 2-3? Confused

PetiteRaleuse · 20/02/2014 14:35

Pass you are not a bad mummy. She will probably have sat up, vommed, and gone back to sleep. Babies don't see puking as much of a big deal as we do and she'd only have cried if it was uncomfortable ie went cold and woke her or if she was in pain from it. Give yourself a break, and enjoy your pink scarf.

PetiteRaleuse · 20/02/2014 14:37

apple if in doubt with any clothes I buy a size bigger. Partly because my tumble drier shrinks things and partly because they can grow into it if it isn't right immediately.

ditsygal · 20/02/2014 15:07

apple If they just have the one age in then its the older end of the scale - so 2 means 18-2. 3 means 2-3 etc.
pass I bet she didn't even care that she was sick - they often seem not to. I'm sure you would have heard her no matter how tired. One of the downsides joys of being a mother.
Chasing really sorry to hear that. Men, who needs them?!

flouncymcflouncerson · 20/02/2014 16:48

Hiya. Nice to see some old names back if only for a wee while!

det you seem to be over analysing and over planning things. Wrt to being super fertile I can't see how you could know that unless you've had millions of pregnancies. There are no guarantees when you'd fall pregnant and when you'd be due etc! Your pay is is another thing that u wouldn't be worrying about. If you cannot survive on basic mat pay them wait to have a other until you can afford it. For me it's that simple. You're also planning on being off sick already or even just going into work. I'm sorry but if you are truly suffering from hyperemesis then you can't 'just go in'. You wouldn't be able to keep your head outta the loo! I'm very confused with it all. Sick pay is a privilege as is mat pay and if you can't afford a baby using what you are entitled to then you should not be having one!

flouncymcflouncerson · 20/02/2014 16:49

OK I've read that back and it's awfully blunt det sorryBlush Blush

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StuntNun · 20/02/2014 16:59

I fell pregnant very easily with DS1 and DS2 but with J it took years of charting, temperature-taking, two week waits, suspected chemical pregnancies, and an MMC. I think it's great to have an ideal gap in mind Detective, just be aware that it may not work out in practice. Could you give yourself a window of three months to aim for rather than a specific month?

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PurplePidjin · 20/02/2014 17:00

apple r is 50th centile and already grown out of his 18-24 gap trousers. tbh i shan't bother with them again, i much prefer asda jl and boden stuff. h+m isn't always great quality and jojo is another with oddly proportioned stuff.

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 17:05

It does sound a bit blunt flouncy but I get what you're saying. Better to wait a few more months and get some more savings behind you rather than struggle by. That's why I don't want to get pregnant until May at the earliest to allow us time to save before mat leave. We just about managed last time and I don't want to have to worry about money so much next time round.

I'll bare that in mind thanks pidj. Don't want to buy him something that will be too small in a couple of months.

TheDetective · 20/02/2014 17:11

Ill just never have a baby then. Hmm

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 17:17

det If you can afford to take out a loan and make repayments then are you able to save some money before ttc instead? It might be a better option. I think flouncy has the best intentions but it came out a bit wrong!

applepieinthesky · 20/02/2014 17:21

At the end of the day it's up to you and if you don't want to wait any longer then go for it. Sometimes we are ruled by our hearts and don't always make the wisest of decisions but everything works itself out.

TheDetective · 20/02/2014 17:28

We can save the same amount as last time. But it will take longer. I'm not working extra shifts through all my annual leave again.

We need £2000 for the first 6 months. We will have that saved.

We need £4000 for the 3 months of stat mat. pay.

I really don't want to have to just take 6 months again.

We'd only be taking a loan out just before we had to at the very end.