Poor little J :( you know they can perk up as quickly as they flop but it is horrible during the floppy parts :(
Ouch soph I hope the car isn't too expensive.
piggy how is your puppy, you rarely mention him and there have not been enough photos on the FB page. Ditto to yw I am not sure I have seen any pictures of B...?
isles as hard as it is to go through right now it is a good thing that your XP is showing you what a cunt he can be. If you think he would harm the dog then keep an eye out on his well being from a distance and get him rehomed if you think he is harming him. As for laying claim to various furniture and electronic goods then the best you can do is try and hold on to what is yours but remember, at the end of the day, it's only stuff. When I left one of my exes I came back to the flat one day to find I had been left with a beanbag, a pan, plate, knife and fork,my books and clothes, soap and one towel. Everything else was gone right down to the fridge and cooker. It was upsetting as everything we owned had been bought jointly. He also closed down our joint account without warning and without checking all the cheques had been cleared, which led to my bank card suddenly being swallowed one day and endless faff persuading the bank to give me another one. I was really angry at the time (understatement) but in the long term he is still a miserable git with a chip on his shoulder (by all accounts) and I eventually found happiness and balance. This will come back to bite him on the bum one day, I promise you. In the meantime you have just got to get your head round the fact that you have had a lucky escape and are showing Tilly that no woman deserves to be treated like shit - a lesson many of us wish we had learned as a child.