December 2011 - me do it mine self

[TheOnlySeven]

Offers round and

[Figster]

Well that was one of the worst experiences of my life, peril of pet ownership DS stayed at cm til We could get back he's not asked where she is yet thankfully but am sure he will in morning when her bed gone. Definitely right thing though

[BobaFetaCheese]

So sorry Figgy. x

DH is at work, DS1 is asleep, just about to put DS2 down and then I can wash the prune out of my hair which DS1 wiped there at breakfast time....

[NorthernChinchilla]

Oh no figgy, what timing . Poor little skunky, we've all enjoyed her pictures and exploits. It was the right thing to do though- is there anything that can take your mind off it- chocolate/gin/TV? Good luck for your DH too.

Glad you're not at risk of hacking off your fingertips any more aethel! We're excited as the range arrives Tuesday and will be connected the following morning- we'll be able to COOOOOOK!!
Plumber/gas bod will also look at installing the dishwasher, but I get the feeling we'll have to get a kitchen person to remodel one of the end cabinets first, so not a simple job, buggerit.

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

So sorry about skunky.

[mopsytop]

Sorry to hear that figgy

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

I'm dying! I've got a hideous cold and awful sinus pain. Am drugged up to my eyeballs and staring at a screen of pressing emails unable to sort my brain out enough to do anything about them.

BLURGH!!

[Figster]

Christ alive I swear the sky is falling the conservatory is being battered in working from home and it's a hell of a distraction ......as if I needed one today. Dh dug a hole in her fave spot this morning in gale force winds bless him so she's been buried in her blankets. DS still oblivious which is good, she's not been very active since Xmas do he's not seen her much but he did love her when he could follow her and stroke her

Thanks ladies for support dh doesn't want us announcing it to people just for it to come up as we go do not told anyone. PIL offered to cook is dinner Friday night and take DS so we could go out with friends do that's a nice distraction. Am sure within a couple of days it'll be the new norm

[Figster]

Oh and hop I can feel a cold coming on AND dh now been told the office manager wants him hes phoned the recruitment agency from his holidays to say the original job has gone to internal candidate so he needs til next week to sort something else. So still looking positive but dependent on him swinging something and another wait. Hey ho

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

Fingers crossed Figster

Our dishwasher died on Monday. New one delivered this morning. It's the one bit of kitchen equipment I just can't live without.

[CaffeinatedKitten]

I'd love a dishywashy. I'm saving to get a shower installed first though. The perils of manky old council houses:(

Just shoved cowboy casserole on the hob. Forgot to put it in the sow cooker this morning. Hope the spawns don't revolt at the slightly less cookedness of it all:o

[hinkyhonk]

Been lurking for ages but been feeling rather down so not felt like posting.

Having some bad working mum guilt as ds1 has started school and most of the other mums do pick up and drop off which I only manage for two days of the week. Plus ds1 is learning to read which I'm finding stressful (ridiculous I know).

We're thinking about having another dc which if we are going to do has to happen in the next 6 months. And I just can't decide if it's a good idea or not or if I'll cope. But when I think or our future its got three children in it.

Argh!

[NorthernChinchilla]

Ours still isn't plumbed in and is being used as storage for DP's beers in the mini-conservatory/smoking room. We'll see how big a job it is when the bloke comes to install the cooker next Wednesday.

Really hope that your DH swings it figster, and has a shiny new job by the end of next week. You deserve it, given what's happened. Hope a night out takes your mind of it.

Weather's exciting here too, a lump of edging/roof came off the local Aldi as I walked home, and fell about three feet in front of me. Was the 'edging', so a strip of metal about six-nine inches high, and eight feet long- thought it was the drain pipe at first. Went it to report it and the manager fished it out of the shrubbery!

We're going to unpack the last of the boxes tonight, so that all that's left boxed up is the books- the recycling people round here take everything, so if we leave all the boxes, packing and unwanted clothes, linen, shoes, etc, out Thursday night it all gets swooped up

[NorthernChinchilla]

x-post hinky

Sorry you've got the guilt... Not much that can be done, other than telling yourself the guilt is coming from you, not from DS, so you can work on it. Your DS1 will be oblivious, and seeing as he loves his Mum and you're a good parent, there's nothing more you can do.

And if your future's got 3 sprogs in, then go for it- the only considerations in this sort of decision (given that you're in decent health) are: does DH want another; can we afford it?

[OiMissus]

Hmmm mum-guilt...
Are your kids thriving?
As Healthy as they can be?
Happy?
Do you love them more than anything else ever ever?

= what's the guilt for then?!!
Help yourself to a haddock in the way to the bedroom. (But leave it outside, that could ruin the ambience for creating no. 3!)

[mopsytop]

I'm in the same situation hinky... do dropoff/pickup maybe twice a week. 3 if lucky. Usually twice. I don't feel overly guilty as her dad does it the rest of the time which is just as good. And I am SO much happier working. Being a stay-at-home-mum was really hard and I struggled so much not to slide into being low all the time. I have huge respect for mothers who do it, but I found it very hard. And I adore Minimopsy. So I think I'm a much happier and better adjusted mother when I work outside the home, which means I have to choose to ignore the guilt. I still get stabs of it occasionally but Minimopsy loves nursery so I try not to over think it! But I sympathise!

I am the dishwasher in the mopsy household. I'd LOVE a dishwasher but no room in our teeny weeny house. Need to pull the finger out and get this baby on the market!

[Figster]

I am the worst mum in the work in that case hinky as I don't do any of the drop offs dh does them all but our current circumstances allow that once he's at school not sure what we will do.

Off to London today gads!! Have my walking boots and brolly think just going to walk the 40 minutes to office rather than faff with buses unless see a nice taxi

[Figster]

In the world rather

The report i spent 2 hours on last night and was going to finish on train is fucking corrupted a
D crashing my laptop every time I try to open it fuck biscuits!!

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

Oh no figgy! What are you going to do.

Just made a to do list today, but I just...urgh, where is my motivation today? Feeling much better after a decent night's sleep and sinus pain is gone. Been invited out for dinner tonight, but don't know if I should go. Had a gossipy catch up with some other managers yesterday, which was nice. I'm so out of the loop now I'm part-time!

Oh, and mummy-guilt can fuck right off to the far side of fuck. I do drop offs, husband does pick ups. I feel zero guilt whatsoever. I've had a few friends say things like 'oh but it must be so hard leaving him in nursery three full days?!' and... nope. Mummy guilt is useless. It was awful when he was having to re-settle into a different room, but I didn't feel guilty about it. In the same way I don't feel guilty about making him do other stuff (take medicine, brush his teeth) that he just has to do. All families are different, we all do a different amount of paid work/childcare/drop offs/other stuff etc. And as long as we are getting the balance right for each of our family's, then all is good. Ask yourself what the other grass really looks like. What would you have to achieve to do drop off/pick up all week? Is it worth it to you and is it worth it to your kids?

[Figster]

Gah had to do all the work again left my bloody boots at the office but am on the 4.45 home for a glass of wine and a boy smoosh

Weekend here I come

[CaffeinatedKitten]

This week I am mostly aiming for Saturday and a lie in. I plan to bribe the spawns with a picnic of junk to allow me an extra hour in bed:)

[OiMissus]

I dunno, Mopsy. First you talk about no mum- guilt, and in the next sentence you talk about having to sell "this baby"...
I paid £30k for a dishwasher in the last house. One would not fit in my tiny kitchen, so I built an extension. Lovely!
Worth every penny.
Had a really shitty meeting today. My bosses were wankers. It was one of those conference calls to discuss one thing, and another "agenda" took over. Idiots, they don't have a clue. Tis my job, with the extra work they have requested from me, to prove to them that they don't have a f*cking clue. I shall make a concerted effort to prove that they are, in fact, talking out of their ar$es! It won't be too difficult.

[mopsytop]

Haha as I typed it oi I thought hmmm I mean the house but is that clwar? ! !

[mopsytop]

And I'm sure you will make their idioticness clear to them so charmingly that they'll thank you!

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

DS is eating lunch and watching beebies, I an drinking hot lemon with ginger. Stood up because I've moped myself into a corner in the kitchen. We managed half anhour in the garden between rain showers and both got covered in sand. Had to strip DS off and dust him down with talc in the kitchen to avoid spreading it through my freshly hoovered house. I've done everything in the wrong order today!

[TheOnlySeven]

figgy sorry to read about skunky, hope you have a lovely weekend and have better news next week :)

The DCs new puddle suits arrived yesterday so we've been to the park this morning, didn't realise how muddy the dirt track behind our house would be though.

DH had an email from Muscular Dystrophy Campaign yesterday, he's their highest fundraiser for the marathon so far so he's really pleased. You all know why he's doing it, I certainly don't expect anyone to sponsor him but a couple of you lovely lot did last year , so here's a linky in case anyone wants it.