December 08 ers still going strong.

[Vagolajahooli]

Hello ladies, can you believe we will be entering into a 6th year of this thread this year?

I can't stop thinking about the house so I am going to view it on Friday.

It is a lovely house.

Kayz, for 45mins, I would definitely move if that's what you and DH think would give you a better quality of life. It's really not far and it is your life, not your mum's.
I suspect you might not move, but do what's best for you and the kids, not your Mum.
I have a throbbing hwadache. ow.

I am hoping it will either be just as lovely in real life or actually really horrible.

Kayz Why is it a lot cheaper? I have no idea about the east coast but some seaside towns on the west coast are quite run down economically. Few jobs, not much industry, high unemployment. Also being geographically isolated can be difficult as you have to travel for work as high petrol costs means a wage high enough to make it work etc. Sorry, I don't want to sound like the voice of doom! Like Indith said you have to factor in your future plans, whether you want to stay being a sahm, go to college or whatever. I certainly wouldn't rule it out due to moving schools though.

I also lost touch with uni friends! How odd there are so many of us are on here. I always feel a bit odd about it.

Hons, I am planning on being a SAHM for the foreseeable future and DH's job isn't location dependent, he just needs to get to an airport and we'd be round the corner from the station.

If I did want to go back to college then we would be closer after we moved than we are now.

We have both said though that if we could afford to buy a house here then we wouldn't dream of moving.

I thought about selling and renting but then we have to save for a deposit again.

There is def a lot to consider, 45 mins though is sod all and changing school at this age shouldn't be a bother either. People move all the time for all manner of reasons. The big question is of course what are the schools like near the house and can you get the children in.

Def go view it, have a walk around and see what you think. I wouldn't dismiss it out of hand just because your mum wants to keep you close. Goodness my mother would be over the moon to have us just 45 mins away!

Still counting down the shifts! So close to end of year and holiday!

Glad you had a good chat with your friend beans.

Hmmm just seen you last post. What is wrong with the house you have now? How much too small is it? If you love the area you are in and have no other reason to move then can you make do with what you have?

Long term, thinking about your dh's employment and possible pay rises etc how long until you can afford to either extend or buy a bigger house where you are? Can you live with that? Or would it never happen?

What is more important to you, house size or location?

Def don't sell and rent now. The chances are that interest rates are going to rise in the not too distant future and with recovery will come house price rises too (ok so up here and where you are we lag behind with the house price rises thankfully!). Plus mortgages interest rates will rise so you could end up paying a fair bit more should you drop out of the housing market for a while.

Mmm it is tricky kayz if the main attraction is the house and not necessarily the area. Is there any way you can extend your current house if you want to stay in the area? Like Indith says go and have a look, have a walk around the area and see what you think.

It is too small DD is in with us and it will probably be about 5 years before we can move. When DH changed jobs we got into some arrears because it was 6 weeks between pay days so we prioritised the mortgage and loan. So he hasn't got a good credit rating but we can transfer the mortgage.

We can't extend this house anymore than it has been already.

DH is doing his college course now by distance learning to become a first mate. That will be £50,000 per year then. I think that will take about 18 months from now.

I hate having DD in with us, there is no intimacy at all anymore. Really fed up of it.

That's tough. I take it just 2 bed then. No chance of splitting rooms or anything? We made our extra bedroom by throwing up a cheap dividing wall so we have ds1 and ds2 sharing and dd on her own.

As a couple you need the room to breathe too, especially with him working away you have to be able to spend quality time together when he is there. Worth considering the move. I know it is scary if you have been in the same area for so long but it sounds as though the lifestyle could suit you as a family.

No way of splitting them up, we have looked into it.

I will have been here 10 years this year, but feel like I have 'grown up' here. 2 weddings, 1 divorce and 3 kids. Plus several drunken nights.

But I absolutely love Filey.

This is the house we are looking at.

Another reason for moving is letting the boys have their own rooms. DS1 is still awake but can't read or anything as it keeps DS2 awake.

Also if we move we can have another baby. If we don't then we have to stop at 3.

So Kayz the only question is? Why have you not put a link up, I want to see this place.

I definitely think that as you are not location dependant you should go for it. There are so many places I would love to live both in the UK & back home, but as we need to be near a major city we are stuck.

Looks lovely. Filey is nice.

We are a it on the squished side here but I love our village too much to move. It is perfection. Housing wise though you have houses like ours or very expensive new builds up the road. So we are staying!

My mum has finally seen sense and realised how gentle her recovery form the op is going to be and has asked us to find alternative arrangements for the children. We told her we had actually already asked MIL and were just waiting for her to come to her senses . I'll go see her on my own or just with ds2 at some point during my study leave and then we'll all go for a weekend.

I just did Vag

Thanks for listening to all my rambling nonsense. I really appreciate it.

All good advice on here Kayz. I also think though that if you prefer your current area, it might be worth holding out. Have you had the current house valued? Apologies if I've missed half the convo and you've covered it, as I've skimmed (sorry) but also on the flip side if it's a better move all round for your little family then 45 mins or any parents / in laws shouldn't sway you. I should be ignored though. Housing stress galore here.

Beans dd3 is so ridiculously cute!

Thanks Rubes. She is hilarious at the moment. Never stops blowing raspberries and is desperate to sit up. I balance her and she looks at me with glee for about 2 seconds, before face planting into a cushion. Loving it. Am very biased, but she is cute as a button. Wonder if she'll go blond.

Can you believe she's 21 weeks this week. I mean, geez, that's nearly 5 months!!

Am I burbling and gushing. Yes I think so. Hurrah.

Oops I just popped back on and you'd had already posted it. It looks good. Just something I noticed the little awning over the door is broken, it might mean other areas of the house are run down. Not necessarily a bad thing. You might be able to get them to knock off a bit more money if it is obvious that a little work is needed. I like it, it looks very airy and open. It already has a loft conversion which is good.

Beans how's your head?

Indith glad your mum will take the time after the surgery to properly recover. It is so important. Tell her she must also do whatever the physio says to do. As well as the doctors and nurses of course.

Oh Beans, squishy growing bubby, yum.

Rightly so beans. She's just lovely and smiley.
Jammy can't wait till ds3 is upright too! More Pics please!

Indith. Quick recovery wishes for your mum x

Aww Beans I love to hear a bit of baby gushing. She is a stunner. Did your other two start with so much dark hair for so long?

DS slept through the night for the first time ever. 7pm-6.05am without a peep. No training he just decided to do it. And he's taken to doing a proper lunchtime nap in his actual cot rather than needing the buggy to be in constant motion. Amazing progress. And if I can be permitted to join in the gush fest he is just so smiley and giggly and fun. If he hears anyone laugh he joins in like he gets the joke with this gravelly little giggle and whenever he sees his sisters he goes crazy with joy and claps and whoops. He will be nine months on Friday.

That house is spacious Kayz. And so cheap compared to down here! I say bite the bullet. Ignore your mum saying its cruel, I've never heard of a seven year old who couldn't settle long term after a move. Your mum is probably just going to miss you and is looking for reasons to keep you close (which is sweet of her really).

Hearty that's brilliant news! Well done DS.

Beans I think she is looking a little blonder in your FB pics. Such a gorgeous happy girl.

DS3 is so fab he too is now smiling and does a funny chewbacca noise when he smiles.

Quick BF question. DS3 is producing lots of lovely yellow poos except the last few days in the evening the have turned greenish. Now I know this means not enough hind milk but he still feeds for the same amount if time as during the day. So I can't figure out what would be causing it. Any ideas?

Oh Hearty, yay! DD3 not close to sleeping through at the mo. she's got an evil cough and a bit of a temperature. Could be a busy night. I'm so ready for DH to come home. Exhausted. I might even skip the late feed tonight and just go to bed. Struggling. 12 days too long. Kayz, all tips gratefully received.

DD1 crying. Gaaaah!

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