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StuntNun · 15/01/2014 21:39

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1958191-November-2012-Any-words-yet

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PetiteRaleuse · 23/01/2014 22:31

I went to a grammar school and hated every second. Got the straight As throughout but was miserable. One of our reasons for considering a move to the uk is to get away from the French system which is very strict.

Pikz · 23/01/2014 22:32

Lily am super chuffed for you and to isles too .

Hoping all sick babies get well.

Chicken pox outbreak at nursery and also Ls best bud has it. Can't see us escaping. Joy.

applepieinthesky · 23/01/2014 22:33

I'm a great believer that if a child is intelligent and wants to get on then it doesn't make a lot of difference what school they go to. I know several people who went to one of the worst schools in the area that was threatened with closure and passed their exams with flying colours, went on to university and are now in very high earning jobs.

PetiteRaleuse · 23/01/2014 22:36

I desperately wanted to go to the local comp like all my friends. :(

Passmethecrisps · 23/01/2014 22:39

We should open a quiche school.

Interesting thoughts about temp spikes.

She has a funny red looking belly button actually. Weird.

If she is not 100% next Tuesday (that will be a fortnight after jags) I will maybe call doc for a chat

MsJJones · 23/01/2014 22:40

There are some vair good schools round here but have no idea if we'll be here when L is older so not looking at results much.

L will get very absorbed in an activity or come and climb on me for a story so at those times he sits still but he also tears around esp in polite company, baby groups or waiting rooms etc! It is good to hear Eliza's experience of her two different daughters as I get sick of hearing 'oh it's because he's a boy' about any liveliness L shows.

We've had more waking and screaming so I've given Calpol but wondering if it could be a bad dream? It went on a long time though and I wouldn't say he seemed frightened, just extraordinarily upset. Like the kind of protesting he does when he's overtired but can't quite drop off, but really magnified and inconsolable, even when held, rocked, soothed, all the usual stuff. Weird. As with last night I thought it could be tooth related (we have 3 now and a 4th imminent) so the sweet sticky stuff seemed worth a try in case he is in any discomfort. He's dropped off again now.

PetiteRaleuse · 23/01/2014 22:41

Ugh. DD1 has been playing with the ipad. Apologies in advance for random messages.

PetiteRaleuse · 23/01/2014 22:45

I think she just got zamboni though.

TheDetective · 23/01/2014 22:55

Pikz The other child who I've seen to be very like O (6 months older than him) is a girl. She was at the baby groups we go to, and her mum had the same harassed look as me... Hmm.

GTbaby · 23/01/2014 23:50

Just scrolled through
Yay lily
Yay ilse
Yay yay det Wink
Yay pp

H is not much of a sitter. Unless he is reading or watching washing machine.
Although today when I was feeding A he came over and patted the sofa nxt to me , his sign to say help me up, and sat sucking his thumb. Was very cute... Lasted about 15seconds and then he was off again.

Yay quiche ! off to read first thread.

Must really start going to sleep when A does! When will I learn.

flouncymcflouncerson · 24/01/2014 01:52

Omg! I just read that first thread. I often forget what I went through with J's pregnancy :( I was so lucky he was such a wee fighter!

Lily311 · 24/01/2014 04:50

I didn't even get my bfp till the second thread. izzy I was smiling throughout as we know that J is indeed here.

I had a visitor in my bed at midnight. Yep, a little girl. She is wide awake right now demanding stories. I need sleep.

StuntNun · 24/01/2014 06:06

J is still asleep! At six o'clock! Unheard of. Clearly taking him to the park to rampage through puddles and mud has paid off. GrinGrinGrin

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Pikz · 24/01/2014 07:03

Stunt we do puddles daily if not at nursery. Seems to be the key to sleep here! X

PurplePidjin · 24/01/2014 07:52

I didn't have my lmp for another month! Happy birthday quiche Thanks

Sophiathestormfairy · 24/01/2014 08:00

Morning peeps.

Remember my dad keeps telling me and I do listen to him really but don't tell him schools change and the greatest performing secondary school could get a new shit head by the time the quichettes go to high school and the worst performers vice versa. He does know what he is talking about as he worked in secondary eduction from the age of the Dino's and latterly went into failing secondary schools to help turn them round. Even though he is retired he now goes and does stuff (not sure what) in schools as a freelance thingimy person.

So when it comes to high school I will get dad over to go and look at all the contenders with and decide --though secretly I took a sneaky look at the NI league tables and noticed that the grammar DS 1 would go to were he to get in is 100% 5 GCSEs, so rightly or wrongly I was quite impressed.

My mum was a primary head teacher then and Ofsted Inspector.

There we are I have come out of the closet. All I ever heard growing up was the politics of education!!!

Ok, back to cleaning up shit.

PetiteRaleuse · 24/01/2014 08:10

My planned day of films and shags is off. The first day DH and I were going to spend just the two of is and LO had an awful night, woke up with a high temperature and am taking her to the paed's later this morning. I suspect an ear flare up but she is very off colour. She was fine yesterday. Poor little thing I normally wait a few days before taking her in but she is weird for her.

Sophiathestormfairy · 24/01/2014 08:14

I am gutted for you pr really gutted. Sad

Zamboni · 24/01/2014 08:30

stunt big hi-5 for J sleeping! Amazing.

In ground breaking news, S slept until 5.50am. Granted, he was up several times in the night and slept with me for the majority of the night, but this was so close to 6am as to be an utter luxury, after months and months of 4am starts. Obviously this is a massive one off, but I take hope in the fact it can be done!

lily congratulations, wonderful news. Flowers I think I joined in thread 2 as well Smile

Have been scrolling through the first antenatal thread and so nice to see names that are now so familiar. Det's epic posting made me lol a lot, and evil's reference to her as "the lady who already knows exactly what she wants for the birth".

GT H coming to sit by you sounds so cute. Sounds like feeding A is still going really well, you must be so pleased as you were so keen for it to work!

MsJJones I get that a lot about S. "Oh, typical boy, likes to bash stuff". Um, don't all toddlers like to engage in a spot of bashing from time to time?

pass if we open a quiche school you'd be the only teacher I think... and imagine all the difficult parents you'd have to deal with?! Wink Although I am sure that YW will be a model parent of course!

apple, I really think that too. Every year I watch colleagues engage in all sorts of antics which seem to be to be ridiculous, just to try and get into what is perceived to be "the best". I really get wanting to do the best for one's DC. But I agree that clever and/or motivated children will do well wherever they are. I also believe that what goes on at home is at least as important as what is happening in the classroom. The sorts of lunacy that I see people routinely engaged in suggests that this is not a common view though. One colleague spent the best part of £30k moving accross the road to be definitely in a catchment area. She thinks it was worth it, but seriously? Other routine tactics seem to be feigning religious fervour, or suddenly volunteering to be a community govenor. I'm not doing it. There are three primary schools in walking distance of our house. None are "the best" school in the city, all rated good, all perfectly pleasant. DD will go to school in September 2015. At some stage before we apply, we will go and look at them. I am sure we will have a mild preference for one over the others. But we will fill in our form, and take our allocated place, DD will go, and we will encourage and motivate her at home and support the school. watch the insane back track in, oooh, October this year when I turn into one of the lunatics

I have very fond memories of school. Basically what eliza said she hopes for her girls. Primary school was fun, just as it should be, but as a summer born child, I was always somewhat on the back foot compared to peers. I blossomed in secondary school, where that was no longer a factor. I went to an all girls grammar school, mixed 6th form. My bestest friends now are chums from school. My two closest friends are the two I met and befriended on day 1, aged 11. I look back and think how lucky I was, to rock up every day, spend the entire day with my friends, play sports, get a decent enough education. Certainly more than enough to open doors at the next stage. I would wish the same for everyone, to have the sort of school experience which leaves you nostalgic. I would trade quite a lot to go back for one day and relive it.

Interesting what you say about escaping the strictness of the French system PR. My cousins are French, educated in France, both now English teachers of secondary school age. I agree that their system is strict, but my understanding of their system, and my encounters with it, and my mum's view (French teacher in UK schools) is that the average quality of education received is much better than the average quality over here. Significantly less disruption / discipline issues on average. The focus on languages, not narrowing subjects so early and to the same extent, the general standards attained. But, I don't think the average French school has the same emphasis on pastoral care, community, sports, clubs etc. Which for me, and based on how much I enjoyed those aspects of school, But in terms of preparing school leavers for the market place, I've often had the impression that the average French or German school leaver is better equipped than their average British counterpart. Just my view, and not based on very much knowledge at all, so happy to be corrected.

pikz FX L doesnt get it, but if he does, then for all of the hideousness, at least it will be out of the way. Have you and DH had it? Flowers

isles congrats on the exam passes! Wine So good that you are happy and enjoying your career. It's such a big part of life when you work, makes it infinitely more pleasant to enjoy it. The house stuff will work itself out, but along with wiser members of the quiche, my view is that waiting a while but so you can do what you want totally independently is probably for the best.

Pic of the bookshelf please BP - I enjoy a good nose of room decor.

VQ hope J is better today and you manage to get some rest.

ValiumQueen · 24/01/2014 09:16

I am sorry LO is poorly again PR. Likely is the ear as that seems to be her weakness. Deffo best to jump on it ASAP.

I had a quick look at the first thread in the small hours with my still-very-hot boy. I recognise Flouncy, but are there any other regulars who name-changed since then? There are lots of names I have not seen for a long time, and it was sad to see Little9 knowing what happened later Hmm

J is asleep in my bed so I am going to curl up next to him as the girls are already deposited. DD2 looks S if she is coming down with something sadly.

PetiteRaleuse · 24/01/2014 09:16

zamboni yes the French system does have its good points. Very rigourous and disciplined. But there is a big emphasis on being defined by your academic success or failure. It's a harsh system even though it does produce top engineers, scientists, doctors etc. But I can see even at DD1's age she is being moulded, formatted to fit in. Primary age doesn't concern me, but secondary education is tough. I'd like a happy medium. They produce bright clones and if you're not bright you end up being left behind.

I think my girls are bright. But I didn't thrive in a tough environment although as I said yesterday I did very well at school. But I was unhappy.

Lily311 · 24/01/2014 09:57

pr will your girls go to school at 6 in France? O supposed to although she would be nearly 7 as she is a nov baby. Different system here. I'm debating to move back to uk when she is 4.5 so she could do reception and year 1 there than move back here to do rest. Haven't thought much of it though, just an option.

YellowWellies · 24/01/2014 10:02

Just rereading the first thread smiling at the bear sleeping on my chest. Awwww Smile

PetiteRaleuse · 24/01/2014 10:07

Lily DD1 will start this September and LO will start September 2015 at 2.10 or possibly the following January. They won't do reading or writing til 5 or 6 though. The first couple of years are about moulding them into The System, getting classroom discipline sorted, getting them all ready to start learning proper through play and imagination in a class room setting. It's also when they are checked for special needs. DD1's group at nursery has started that. They have a class style session for about an hour a day where they are sat at desks. It's very different to nursery in the UK. I like it.

PetiteRaleuse · 24/01/2014 11:34

I sometimes hate being right. Ear infrction, another ten days of Anoxycillin ahead...