November 2012 - Any words yet?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1948944-November-2012-What-are-your-New-Years-resolutions-for-your-baby

VQ Yes P wasn't keen on a CM was he didn't he want to quit his job and look after M? He has form for being err 'fanciful' in the past?... it just sounds a bit mad her rambling on about losing a dog and demonstrating a lack of care skills for small creatures when you'd be desperate to show a new client you were caring and responsible? Judge it for yourself not on his words and if he's lying or exaggerating and by so doing - making your heartbreak about M's care then .

Good work chasing. Naps are bound to take longer but I think you have done amazingly well. sophia has been on Facebook so I presume she is ok or on a dinghy

Has sebsmummy not been here before? I am sure I recognise the name. If not, welcome! If so, welcome back!

Feeling a gazillion times better tonight. Still have sore cheek bones but very much better. Thank goodness.

I'm loving my 'huge' Christmas-tree-less lounge! Ahhhhh tis good to be home. Time for a

I think you should come and holiday up here Chasing :D I've got a very comfy sofa, a travel cot, or a premier inn literally just up the road from me!

Isles given things said in the past, I also echo YW in what she says. It is worth considering, as horrible as that sounds. I admit to thinking that when I read your post initially.

Hopefully it will all get resolved quickly and is just a hiccup.

I'm a total drama queen when it comes to who looks after my baby and how. Total PSBitis here!

Fruit O has never babbled in that way before! I was quite impressed with it! It turns out that if I let him see himself in the camera, this is the result! Wee sod eh?! I keep doing it to encourage the babbles!

Usually it is just monotone sounds with intermittent screaming/screeching/yelling!

I hear your concerns about DP but she also told me the dog story during an initial meeting. Not that the dog warden stole it or they wanted it back, just that they had a dog and it went missing and eventually got rehomed. And that she didn't want another. I didn't tell DP at the time so there's no way he has made that bit up.

As for her husband being there, I did think it odd his car was there this morning when it hasn't been in the past. So can also believe that he could be there.

He wouldn't make up the dog being there. It would be too hard for him to cover that lie.

And after a month of being, full-time SAHD, he has realised how hard it is and is "going to work tonight for a rest". He also appreciates how much better things are since I went back to work.

So, whilst I appreciate you all mean well, I really do resent that you all think I would be stupid enough to base all my upset and anger over just hearsay. but then I am a little emotionally charged right now

Categorically isles no one could think you were stupid. You are quite clearly a long way from stupid.

Isles, tis only coz the quiche luffs you that we worry. And hearsay is only such once you have found out the truth - you can only make your mind up once you have heard fact, and thats best done by chatting things over with the cm. There may be reasons behind the events of today of which dp was unaware. My dh is a bugger for jumping to the wrong conclusions based on a dodgy impression and misinterpreted throwaway comments. Anyway. Hope things get sorted.

Isles Are you cross about the dog being there or P's report that they were left on their own together? You're well within your rights to be cross about both but I would check the latter out if it's not something you've seen with your own eyes. Just in case.

Apple good winning skills!

VQ that's great news about MIL. My aunt has just had a port fitted to her jugular for the chemo - it starts on the 9th (every fortnight for six months). I'm so nervous for her but she's being awe inspiringly brave. This sounds so shallow but I do hope she keeps her hair . She's a real GHD stuntwoman.

Oh hecks yes - I am very pleased to hear about MIL vq

Isles we do not think you are stupid. But we do know, from what you have said, what DP has been up to in the past and feel protective towards you.

I am fucking furious that she thought it would be okay to get a dog without consulting us. For all she knew, M could have allergies or anything. The fact she may/may not have left her unattended compounds the issue.

VQ awesome :) well, under the circumstances

lily i meant to say - i was in Latvia the summer before last 24 lairy teenagers in a sleepy rural town and 6 months pregnant the Baltic coast has amazing beaches and the whole country was just incredible. I would thoroughly recommend it, and it sounds a good place to create new memories for just you two. I also loved Krakow but not sure how baby friendly it would be? Bear in mind i took teenagers so we went to a water park, Auschwitz etc many many many bars

Yep. I know this is Europe but we have been to Estonia, Lithuania and Slovenia. Slovenia and Estonia struck me as particularly child friendly

Evening quiche

Today went ok, funeral went as funerals go, it was a lovely service and I'm glad we were there for dp's nan and mum.

My mum took e to get weighed earlier and he's lost a bit. 1oz in 3 weeks. He has never lost before, and has been eating so terribly recently and running around like a loony too so I do see how he's lost and I keep repeating that it's okay, he's fine etc but a bit of quiche reassurance does me the world of good usually

Some kind of alarm on the tablet isles
Re sleeping, e sleeps on his face with his hands tucked under his belly and his knees up and bum in the air. If not he Is flat and diagonal but almost always face down. He likes to wedge his head in a corner of his cot too for some reason.

To answer you lily we are going camping but I can't remember where and possibly Ireland, so that's of no help!

Sorry to hear you're in a bad patch gt hope things are better with fh soon though it's good to hear you've made some progress with your mil

I wish I were such a weight yw well done :)

Sounds like I really need to be watching Sherlock! Am in bed already with three to tango on. Funny film, love it

I'm reeeeeeeally broody apple

Hi sebsmummy :)

Woo for winning stuff apple!

Eek jims what rotten luck :(

Hey tits!!

No advice re df gt but I think it's worth giving it a go perhaps unless experienced bfers say otherwise?

Fingers well and truly crossed pp

yw I always smile when I read your posts about your dh :) you sound like you have such a fab relationship, and if I may say so, are very lucky to have such a wonderful friend and partner in your dh.

vq that is brilliant news!!!!!! Yay!!! I'm so pleased to hear it, hope it continues to be positive from now on

When is it for chasing? You don't have to tell me us just wondered if it is soon or in a few weeks? Good luck either way, you'll be grand I'm sure

Glad you're feeling a lot better pass :)

isles you are certainly not stupid and I don't think the quiche were trying to say you were, I think people just worry about you. I appreciate dp is being much better recently and that's really fab. If you're upset about the dog in general and not just that they were alone together I think you need to say something but I've no idea how best to go about it. I'd probably either contact her and say 'dp happened to mention the dog .... Etc etc ect' or when you go to drop m off and see said dog say 'oh, I wasn't aware you were getting a dog, am not comfortable etc' and go from there? Unless that would be too tricky cos then you've got m and no care for her for tomorrow? In all honesty I don't know how best to handle it but you don't sound happy at all and I think it best you raise your concerns with her somehow because you'll feel uneasy with her having m until you've talked to her

Hope you're ok sophia

Kyz a turd weighs more than an oz as does a pee. He is fine. They level out or lose weight around now anyway. J has shrunk as has Flouncys J. They were both fat boys though

That's great news VQ.

Kyz I have been wondering how you are.

Kyz glad to hear today went 'well' if that's the right word? And thanks for your kind words about DH he really is worth all of the shits I went out with before him! Don't worry about E he's a strapping lad who's burning off a lot of energy. J goes off his food when teething - after two good weeks he's off his food again, chomping fingers and red bottomed so I think he's got two more coming....

And he's wee and can't afford to lose weight - so let's try to be calm and cool about this together Kyz xx

Isles please don't think any of us think you're stupid - you're a v intelligent lady and it's horrible to see you so tortured xxx

Glad today went ok kyz. And as mother vq said, 1oz is neither here nor there. The hv and gp would only worry if he had sustained weight loss and was falling behind in other ways. He is happy and healthy, that is the main thing.

VQ it is good to hear MIL has reached a point where hey can offer her some treatment. It makes dealing with such a diagnosis a little easier to bear, if there can be some hope in the form of active treatment.

Fingers are firmly crossed for you pidj. And for yws aunties hair. Have never possessed ghd superpowers. Or the kind of hair that stays put when styled.

Have finished sorting dsds room. Much better. Am hoping that with less stuff, she will find it easier to keep tidy, and fewer things will get lost/broken. She and dh are such hoarders, unluckily for them, I am not.

Kyz - 1oz is nothing to worry about. I haven't taken F to be weighed in months. I worry unnecessarily and find it's easier that way! And i'm still in awe of your posts.

Vq - good news re your MIL. Hope the treatment goes well. Same to your aunt too YW

Glad you're feeling better pass. I suspect i'll be having another sofa day. Good thing my kindle is stocked up from the new year sales! Need to consider having my laptop couriered to me from work as it turns out i can still type

Haha jims! I found my typing ability unhindered also!

As our vet said about aging pussy kyz an oz is really a big pee or a medium poo. Nothing to be concerned about. And aging pussy weighs only 2kg ! I hope you don't think u am making light. I know you will be worried.

Try not to worry kyz I know it's hard. I didn't have m formally weighed between June and December and got a row from the hv for marking in my own weights for her in her red book. (Of which there were several...)

vq delighted to hear mil is making progress. You must all be so pleased.

Cm issue resolved for now. I still feel really shaky and upset over it all. I think deep down this is more over my own issues of not letting go.

Our ll issues have also been temporarily dealt with for now. Dp got a shitty phone call from him at 1130pm (he phoned the house first which annoyed me but I ignored it) and dp dealt a few home truths that have been building for some time. Ll's closing statements were supposedly "pay me what you can, when you can and I will keep away and sort new appliances" threat of the tax man what done it Whilst I don't agree entirely with shouting at him and getting angry (although I probably would have done/said worse had I answered the phone at that time of night) I am glad it is seemingly resolved for now.

I need to go back to yoga ASAP

(I will also be anonymously notifying the tax man anyway)