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November 2012 - Any words yet?

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StuntNun · 05/01/2014 22:38

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1948944-November-2012-What-are-your-New-Years-resolutions-for-your-baby

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StormyIsles · 07/01/2014 15:46

More has come to light since. Apparently their last dog was taken off them by the dog warden and they are "trying to find out where it went so they can get it back" ?!?? Confused

I am going to email her an outline of my concerns tonight and if I don't get a satisfactory response m is not going tomorrow. She has a week off after that anyway as dp is at home.

sebsmummy1 · 07/01/2014 15:49

Only just seen this thread. He talks in pigeon, we have cooing and trilling and sucking saliva back through his teeth whilst throwing his head back and squeezing his eyes shut.

ditsygal · 07/01/2014 15:56

Isles I think the leaving the dog alone with babies, not telling you etc would make me consider finding a new CM if thats an option. I don't think husband being home is an issue tbh, but also the dog warden thing is a bit weird and worrying...But only you know how comfortable you feel with the child minder herself and how much you trust her. I guess if I used a CM I wouldn't necessarily need to know all the details of the day etc but I would need to feel I trusted the CM to make her own judgement calls on everything and that they wouldn't be far away from my own judgement if that makes sense.
pass I think it was Daisy who mentioned home schooling not me. I def plan for F to go to a school when the time comes Smile

StormyIsles · 07/01/2014 15:59

ditsy I just feel like my trust has been broken as she has gone back on a few things and blatantly disregarded others. I know I am probably over reacting and will give her a chance to rectify it, but I am so upset by it all. I think I will look into alternative childcare as a precaution.

It is just so much to deal with right now, I feel guilty leaving m in the first place, my exams are stressing me out and my landlord is being a prick. Woe is me Hmm

ditsygal · 07/01/2014 16:04

bless you isles I can understand why its stressing you. hugs

Jims · 07/01/2014 16:54

isles I'd be unhappy about a dog alone with a child. Not least because of the risk of biting but because she might get scared by it too. I hope you manage to sort it out. I'm glad your boss is being sympathetic.

Fred mostly says 'Dat' = That. I think anyway. It's usually accompanied by pointing. and "Dis". and Uh for up in my northern accent. Very occasionally we've had mama and dada. I also think he might be trying to say 'row row' (your boat) and 'duddle' for cuddle.

Have been liking all the christmas pics on facebook but not really had a chance to join in. All a bit eventful in our household. Christmas day was nice up at my parents. Boxing day I woke up with a dramatic case of the shivers. Plus I threw up when bf F. When my DH brushed my boob and it was unbelievably painful I suddenly realised it might be mastitis. Off to the OOH Dr who gave me some fab antibiotics.

So then we were due to go to the ILs for their family gathering. Only they had no power due to the storms, it had been off since the 23rd for them. So All the ILs came here. We were 7 adults, 2 x three year olds, 1 x 22 month old and 2 x 13 month olds in a small 3 bedroomed semi. We had no food in as we were expecting to be away. The first day was fine as my PIL had brought stews they'd ready prepared although trying to defrost a huge ice block of stew at 5pm with grumpy toddlers was interesting.

The second day was when I had a bit of a moment when trying to think of something to cook with the other food the ILs had brought: 1 slightly mouldy cauliflower, 4 x potatoes, 1 x head of celery, 4 x courgettes, 4 x peppers, 1 x pot of yoghurt, some cheese, a million eggs plus one nearly cooked chicken. It was all a bit Ready Steady Cook Extreme. I made a sort of veg gratin with yoghurt/cheese/egg mix instead of cheese sauce which went down ok with the adults and a few of the children.

Anyhow, now back to work. Save that I fell off my bike yesterday on my commute and it looks like I've got a small crack in my elbow. And a swollen but not broken knee. So I've mostly been on the sofa today. Fortunately no cast required and it only really hurts when I do certain movements, I'm guessing the fracture clinic will just tell me to be careful when I see them on Friday. But I can't really pick F up which is a bit of a nightmare. All a tad ridiculous, especially as it was my own stupid fault - I lost one of my trouser clips just before Christmas and my waterproof trousers got caught on my bike. When I stopped at a red light (on a cycle path) I did a ridiculous sideways topple. I learned yesterday they call it a FOOSH - fall onto an outstretched hand.

So after that extreme 'me' post, I'd like to say Happy New Year to everyone. Even if I don't post much, it's nice to catch up occasionally and see what trouble your little ones are getting up to. I do love it when they think they're being naughty and running away giggling.

applepieinthesky · 07/01/2014 16:54

I don't think you are overreacting at all Isles. I would be very upset about it too ((hugs)) If she can't give you the assurances you need then I don't see how she can continue to look after m.

I've been notified by MNHQ that I've won a competition for £100 worth of Boots vouchers. I don't remember entering it so that was a pleasant surprise

I also had a phone call last week about another competition I entered and have won a free studio portrait session to have some photos taken of C. They say these things come in threes right? Perhaps I should go out and get a lottery ticket Wink

Jims · 07/01/2014 16:56

forgot to say - the day after boxing day my period came back. Does anyone think the mastitis could have been linked to that? I'm down to one feed a day in the morning as I dropped the evening one a week or so after the whole mastitis incident. I think, although I'm finding it hard to let go of my baby!, that I'm going to try stopping very soon...

TitsalinaBumSquash · 07/01/2014 17:02

Here you all are! Grin Seems an age since I last posted on quiche Fred!

J is a real chatter box with an erm interesting array of words...

He says,

Ta
Hello
Hi ya
Bye Bye
Mum
Dad
Nan
Jack (DS1)
No (said Noooooooooooo!)
Yeah

And most amusingly he says BAD BOY! Its my fault from saying it to DP (in a "oh bad boy daddy for blowing raspberries on the baby!) but J has picked up on it and yells it up the stairs or at his brothers Blush

He's still poorly, since the week before Christmas he's had an ear infection, tonsillitis and a bad cold/cough. He's still on penicillin and yesterday broke out in another bad viral rash and nasty hives Sad

Still waiting for him to be better for his MMR.

Oh, and he's still biting me at every opportunity. Hmm

TitsalinaBumSquash · 07/01/2014 17:06

I forgot 'mine, and 'you' We also get a lot of 'broom broom and beep beep at cars.

He's very good at putting 2-3 words together. Smile

Zamboni · 07/01/2014 18:25

Hi tits!

PurplePidjin · 07/01/2014 18:28

Welcome sebsmummy Thanks

Isles I'd be fuming - you need to see a risk assessment for both dog and unchecked adult, plus appropriate insurance certificates, otherwise you'll consider her to be in breech of contract and T will be removed from her care effective immediately with £x owing to you if you pay in advance

Erm...

GTbaby · 07/01/2014 19:10

Experience of mixed feeders please. Will a ff as a dream feed help for longer sleep?

Ashvyn has occasional ff. ATM only when we go out. He no longer goes colicky after ff so It doesn't bother me.
But now I cant cope with lack sleep. And think maybe a ff as a dream feed might me the way to go ?
FH n I are arguing alot more because we are both sleep deprived. He is becoming less helpful because of it.

Bf at night and morning are by far the easiest thing to do for me so don't want to stop bf.

if i try one regular ff a night for a week and then change my mind how badly will it effect my supply?

BigPigLittlePig · 07/01/2014 19:21

Gt you will rapidly be able to re-establish your supply if you then change your mind after. No guarantees thst ff will make him sleep better or for longer though, although it obviously means that someone else can feed him so you get a break, or early night. The sleep deprivation is a bitch sweetheart.

Isles. Tough situation. Today is day 2? I would be inclined to say, discuss your concerns - most seem to stem from poor communication from what you've said. If however, your gut instinct is screaming no, then listen to it. Our cm, aka the bitch, did us a favour really as F ismnow in a fab nursery that I would nevet have looked at, were it nit for the sudden change of plans.

No holidays for us this year, although dh did say he would like to hire a villa somewhere with my parents. Which would be fab.

PurplePidjin · 07/01/2014 19:53

GT i think kellymom has good stuff if you have a chance to read up. Formula won't guarantee better sleep, but worth a try for a few days now your supply is established. Are you impressed with yourself yet? Wink

No holidays here but might stretch to a couple of car shows to catch up with mates, especially if Travel Lodge/Premier Inn are doing deals or it's warm enough for camping. Plus overnighters at MILs.

Quiche fx please, I've got an extra baby tomorrow morning (cm ket my mate down) and a local youth club is hiring so i applied. They advertised before Christmas and i asked for a form but ran out of time to fill it in and thought I'd missed the deadline. They emailed yesterday to say they haven't interviewed yet and was i still interested. It starts at 6 (10 minute drive) but my mum's up for weekly childcare, possibly twice a week Shock and possibly overnight Shock

Passmethecrisps · 07/01/2014 20:09

Sounds perfect pp! Fingers well crossed for you.

We are back to Nice this year. It would be silly to go anywhere else. Fil did call the other day though and pointed out a special offer on a nice hotel near to them - offer falls on our anniversary weekend! Having p over Christmas can't have put them off too much

YellowWellies · 07/01/2014 20:19

Isles you've got so much on your plate right now I'm so sorry chick you just don't need this Thanks . I'd go and chat in person and see the lay of the land as if this is getting relayed thru P you're not able to see for yourself? She is new to this lark isn't she? I guess on the one hand its a case of learning together to get the routine right but you don't want to be a guinea pig either. Go with your gut. It could all be teething troubles but she should have minimum standards and leaving a kid alone with a pup is just daft. Has she got any other mindees yet?

Jims Thanks to you too! What a run of luck x

We are incapable of driving past Tebay services. It's that awesome. Smile I can spend hours in the farm shop / butchery.

Today has been productive. The house is dechristmased, washing is in the machine, unpacking is done, rack of lamb with port and rosemary sauce for tea, and we're nearly back to normal. J is going to be so sad when DH goes back to work on Thursday. So am I. He's been with us full time for the fortnight since he returned from the Falkland's and I just love spending time with him - he's the most thoughtful company and my best pal.

YellowWellies · 07/01/2014 20:21

Pidj sorry missed that! Fingers and toes crossed for you! Sounds perfect.

ValiumQueen · 07/01/2014 20:41

Welcome Sebsmum Brew

Welcome back Tits Thanks

Ouch Jims Wine

Isles, have you actually heard this first hand from the CM or via DP? I would be concerned if you only heard it through DP as it could be a ploy to make you feel you need to give up work, thus being more dependent on him. If you have definite proof of this then that is very wrong about the puppy. The husband is allowed in his own home, but if he were in sole charge of M then it would be an issue if he was not a part of the care package.

Lily deffo Canada. Toronto, Niagra, just wonderful Smile

ValiumQueen · 07/01/2014 20:44

Yes, sounds good PP so fingers crossed x

ValiumQueen · 07/01/2014 20:46

Camping here. Hopefully just down the road so I can come home if J doesn't sleep. Also camping near MIL in lovely Lancashire.

Good news about MIL. She saw the oncologist today and she can have chemo as the tumour seems to have stopped growing and her levels have dropped sufficiently Grin She should have a few more good years in her yet thank fuck.

TitsalinaBumSquash · 07/01/2014 20:47

Featherdown farm here! The older 2 are so excited it's like I told them we were off to Disney or something. Grin

ValiumQueen · 07/01/2014 20:47

Tebay Services. Also a fan. Very near MIL though, so we tend to stop elsewhere, also it is very easy to spend money there.

ChasingDaisy · 07/01/2014 20:48

Have we heard from Sophia today? Hope you're okay misses and haven't been swept away.

Isles - wot VQ said. If M has genuinely been left alone with the puppy, then that is very wrong indeed.

Have just booked my theory test. Gulp.

Second night of self settling training went well. Had to pick him up once due to wind but he self settled after that within minutes. I pop him down sleepy and calm but awake and am going to work on putting him down more and more awake. Self settling for naps is a definite no go though, but I can live with that for now.

ChasingDaisy · 07/01/2014 20:49

Excellent news VQ!

No holidays for me and O this year.

Am feeling that I need to visit this service station at some point though....quiche meet? Grin