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Jan 2014 - And lo' there appeared a star: Our babies start arriving!

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AnotherStitchInTime · 30/12/2013 22:02

Hello ladies,

Thought I would start you off. We can just keep this a stats thread until we all deliver and then move across if you like.

AnotherStitchInTime Dc3 Mason Oliver born 23rd December at 9.57am, 34+5 weeks, 2.976kg.

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flyawayblue · 29/03/2014 09:00

mrsv so sorry to read that, no advice but here if you want to vent/rant/cry.

humpty Alice doesn't do that but does other things when I'm trying to leave the house / make some food. Think they somehow know.

Sorry to all those having trouble with hv's. I haven't seen mine in ages and keep worrying that they are going to chase me down....

Been away for a few days and sorry if I've missed anyone.

MrsVDB · 29/03/2014 09:02

Good luck felix men are arses aren't they

humpty that sounds so tough. I had my first experience of full on screaming yesterday and I don't know how you cope with that every day. It was awful. Your doing a great job. I agree about speaking to hv

After an awful day yesterday Henry slept 10.30-5 which was amazing and the longest run we've had to date (must be to do with the 8oz before bed which he chucked back up as normally only wants 3 or 4

MrsVDB · 29/03/2014 09:05

pumpkin is there a reason your waiting until 12 weeks? I'm starting a massage course on Thursday when h will be 8 weeks

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 29/03/2014 09:41

pumpkin we're starting baby massage on tues! Hopefully it will help both of us.

toby and mrsV I will talk to the HV, DH and I were pretty sure I'd get a touch of PND given how emotional and hormonal I was throughout pregnancy. I think it could be a mild case of that.
I do try to check off food, nappy, more/fewer laters, winding then go out regardless. I get so sorked up though, with her lying in the pram howling, and me trying to get shoes on, make up a bottle to take out, find keys etc. I end up being less efficient cos I'm stressed.

mrsV go Henry! Great sleeping!

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 29/03/2014 09:47

Also, may I be deputy Head at the tobylerone Academy for the correction of wanker husbandry? I too get v cross on your behalfs. I could take modules on 'How to check if the laundry needs doing, floor needs hoovering, washing up needs putting away: learning to use your eyes'
And
'You are the baby's father: how to take the odd night shift and acknowledge that getting up in the night is bloody hard work, without making a massive drama out of your contribution'.

There would be coursework...Grin

TobyLerone · 29/03/2014 10:46

And I'll be in charge of the following modules:

Man up -- you are not the baby in this scenario.

Your child wants to see your face, not the back of your phone.

Lads' nights out -- not a God-given right.

Nappy changing 101.

and most importantly

Buy your partner a fucking Mothers' Day card, you useless dick.

FelixFelix · 29/03/2014 13:20

Thanks all! I was still very angry this morning and he's been really apologetic and I am still pissed off but can't be arsed arguing. I don't have the energy for it. Failed my stupid theory test on the hazard perception part as I think I kept clicking too early. So annoyed as it cost me 30 quid to book. NCT reunion was good though, and a couple of the ladies have offered to collect me when they next meet up so I don't keep missing out Smile

BandontheFun · 29/03/2014 13:28

MrsV so sorry to hear that, no advice here, but I'm sure you and Henry will come out the other side stronger. My parents never split up before my dad died but I sometimes wish they did my mum deserved so much better and shouldn't have had to put herself second by doing him happy. Iykwim. Just put your and Henry's happiness first.

Woohoo for long lies.

Humpty that sounds awful, totally understand about being fearful that your doing something wrong. H's crying has got much louder and more distressing in the last couple of weeks. I know it's bad but if I have to get her ready to go out I just put on headphones and do what I have to do, she seems to settle once she's out.

Hope your test went ok felix

BandontheFun · 29/03/2014 13:30

Sorry Felix crossed posted. Bummer, least you know what to expect now

AMillionNameChangesLater · 29/03/2014 15:07

felix a lot of people struggle with that part. I'm sorry.

humpty that sounds rough. Maybe speak with your hv, she might have some tips.

felix definitely an arse.

curlywurlyllass · 29/03/2014 15:42

Mrs V thinking of you

Humpty, you too- hope your health visitor is sympathetic and can offer support.

We have our last baby massage class on Tuesday, it's been very good at relaxing James (and the tummy massages deffo help with constipation OMG!) He gets very dry skin so I use the oil often and it helps. I will miss the group when it ends as I still know no one in this area. Might get a grip of my shyness and go to a baby group, but get petrified at the thought.

Grr@ all the cuntpuffin men. Hope they start to man up asap.
My man dunted his car the other day and I've now added to the repair costs by kerbing it- whoops! I am banished back to my own 3door car now we have a new car seat base :( and he is sulking still stressed about the repair costs. His car is his pride and joyextension of his penis

On the up side for all you still sleep deprived and jealous of babies who sleep through the night I have hope for you..... James is almost 15weeks and has 'slept' from 10pm to 6/7am the last 3nights! By sleep I mean stayed in the bedroom and not needed milk. He has woken numerous times for his dummy or needed a cuddle but after always hearing about other babies(at massage class) sleeping through from 6-8weeks I finally can see a light at the end of the tunnel. Hope it's not long till everyone gets a decent sleep and you don't have to wait till almost 4 months for it

Hope everyone has a lovely mother's day tomorrow. I thought I would never get to be a mummy so will cherish the day

HumptyDumptyBumpty · 29/03/2014 23:42

felix bah. That was the hardest part of the theory test by a mile. I hated it. Stupid hazard perception.

curly you totally should go to some groups! There will almost certainly be at least one other shy mum there, and if not, just talk to James!

Such a lovely day today, A was super chilled (after all my whinging), we went to Greenwich park and had lunch at Byron burger, then came home and managed some bonking! First proper shag since the forceps of doom, and it was painless. Phew! TMI, but then we're well past that point...

Pidgy · 30/03/2014 05:32

Glad you had a nice day humpty. I've found motherhood this time really up and down. As toby said though, I think it's worth discussing with your hv as they can offer some suggestions and there are some groups (in my old area at least) for mums with the louder or more 'challenging babies'. They might want to keep an eye on you if you feel really down?

Sorry you failed the test felix. They didn't have that part when I did it luckily.
I'm really intrigued about primers now, from the other thread!! I have quite oily skin. Would they help me?! Wouldn't I just be adding more 'stuff' to my face?

Don't forget the clocks! I just thought Lara had done really well between feeds until I glanced at a different clock. Phone automatically updates!

FelixFelix · 30/03/2014 06:07

Humpy glad you had a good day! They are opening a Byron burger in Leeds soon. Is it good?

Pidgy I have odd skin where it's really dry and flakey sometimes then other times I'm a grease bucket. The primer creates a smooth base for your makeup and I've found it makes it last so much longer. I use that lanacane gel stuff as it's the exact same consistency as really expensive primers I've used! Wish id found it years ago as it would have saved me a fortune. It's 6 quid for a massive tube so it's worth a try. I use an oil free moisturiser, then wait 15/20 mins, use the primer (a little goes a long long way), wait again then do my makeup. I've used it with both mineral and liquid foundation so it's really versatile. My best beauty find ever Grin

Well I just got dead excited that Sylvie slept from 12ish until 5.45 this morning but then read here that the clocks have gone forward Hmm still not too bad though! She usually wakes up at 3.30/4 for a feed so she's managed another 45 minutes Grin

Also my arms are absolutely killing from holding her at the NCT reunion yesterday. I'll have massive guns by the time she can walk!

Naturegirl82 · 30/03/2014 08:37

Happy Mothers day everyone. Hope you all get suitably spoilt Smile

MrsVDB · 30/03/2014 09:01

Happy Mother's Day everyone :)

felix I agree. Lugging gigantor around has to have some benefits! although I think my back is now broken!

FelixFelix · 30/03/2014 09:08

Happy Mother's Day!! She went back to sleep from 6.15 until 9 Shock she must know what day it is Grin

TobyLerone · 30/03/2014 10:55

Ha! We also managed some duvet time yesterday, for the first time. Not for lack of willingness for the last couple of months, just for lack of opportunity!

Glad you had a nice day yesterday, humpty :)

We're going to the seaside today. And clever Meredith managed to choose me a lovely necklace for Mothers' Day Wink

Happy Mothers' Day, all!

AMillionNameChangesLater · 30/03/2014 11:01

Happy Mother's Day!

I'm currently at church so will catch up properly later

AMillionNameChangesLater · 30/03/2014 11:02

Jealous of the duvet time. I'm still bleeding, Fucking implant

enormouse · 30/03/2014 11:39

Happy mothers day! Managed a lie in but came downstairs to a complete and utter tip. The toddlers tipped everything out onto the floor.

felix sorry to hear that but now you know what to do next time. And your DP was a knob.

Will update more later as toddlers tantrumming whilst DP keeps an eye on him fucks around on his kindle

pumpkinsweetie · 30/03/2014 13:22

Happy Mother's day everyoneThanks

Like you enormouse I also came down to a trashed house. Dh allowed me a lay in, but with all the pandemonium I was up at 9:15. Bloody F1 on mothersday morning tooAngry but dh finally did get round to making me a breakfast and he did to washing up so not a bad morning. This afternoon back to normal duties as dh is asleep pending his night work.
So the housework has commenced, couldn't look at the tornado much longer.

Of all days mother's day should be on Saturday as on Sundays I quite simply have too much to do, uniforms included!

Baby pumpkin is lazing in her carrycot and I am now having a cuppaBrew

TarkaTheOtter · 30/03/2014 13:47

I got some lovely Mother's Day presents induced by dh's guilt at working abroad and a lie in so feeling very spoilt.

Alex has been in a grump for about a week now and his sleep is shit. He's back to mostly only settling on me in the night again. He does sleep in his Moses basket in the evening but rather than sleeping a 4hr stretch he wakes every 1/1.5hrs. Hope it's just a growth spurt!

Pidgy · 30/03/2014 14:35

Happy Mother's Day!

I've had 2 cards (1 handmade and 1 with lots of photos of the two of them on) and some flowers. :-)

Been for a walk around a local lake too. We have guests this weekend so I've put the slow cooker on with chilli. Smells delicious if I may say so myself!

Oh, and whoever recommended pulled pork in the slow cooker? That was a great hit and so easy.

BookTart · 30/03/2014 14:52

It sounds like you've all had lovely days :) Predictably Mother's Day hasn't even been mentioned here. I should have known better than to hope for anything, I'm such a twat.

Tried to get Persephonetosleep in a sidecar crib last night. She didn't. I'm so tired now that I'm seeing things and dropping stuff. DH was in with us last night and needed a two hours nap before he could even have coffee this morning! Percy's feeding is getting worse, she tries hourly but then just screams and doesn't take anything. I'll get her weighed tomorrow asim worried she will have lost weight. Bugger. I'd convinced myself that the crib would sort her sleep, which would help her feeding. Back to the drawing board!

Sorry for being such a misery. As you were :)